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Oh, Man, This Is Terrible. :(
I wasn't really sure where to put this, so I picked friendship, since it has to do with a friend.
Okay, so it's indirectly about my best friend. Her name is Lisa. But it's also about her boyfriend. His name is Tyler.
So, recently, Tyler told me that he's wanted to ask me out since he first came to our school in the middle of this year. (I'm a girl, in case you people didn't already figure that out.) I've always liked him, but I never let on. But now, he knows.
So, today, I stayed after school, because I didn't want to go home and clean my room. (It's a MESS.) Well, Tyler ALWAYS stays after school. For reasons unbeknownst to me. (I hope I spelled that right.)
Well, at first, we were just sitting at the picknick table, talking. About nothing, really. Then we got onto the subject of us liking eachother. Which quickly turned into flirting.
I had a metal... Thing, I have no idea what it was... in my hand. Well, Tyler took it. I tried to get it back, wich turned into us holding hands. Which turned into a kiss... Which turned into a make-out session...
Now, Lisa is my very best friend in the whole wide world, and I'd rather do ANYTHING than hurt her... But I think I just did.
We both knew it was wrong. And it was. Now I'm wondering what I should do. Please help me. :(
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There are 2 options here. Either you could explain what happened, explain that it was an accident and maybe risk losing a friend (she WILL feel hurt by it). Or you could keep quiet and pray she never hears about it (if she hears about it through someone other than you you run a serious risk of losing a friend). Personally i'm not sure which one i'd go for. It might be a better idea to keep things quiet in this case, after all, what your friend dosen't know can't hurt her.
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That was wrong but at least you know it was wrong. I think you should tell your friend and just be honest. If Lisa is more important to you than Tyler then maybe you should just stop hanging around him. BUt you also have to think for Lisa, if your boyfriend is shallow enough to make out with your best friend then what kind of boyfriend is he really? This also applies to you. Just be honest, she'll be happier that you told her instead of keeping it from her and lying.
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Your right this is a terrible and with your BFF's BF? WOW. but this is SOOOO romantic! talking to flirting to holding hands to a kiss to making out?
Anyways back to the question.
Well I think that you should REALLY tell your BFF and tell quick before someone tells her first. Before you tell her though you need to talk with tyler to know what is going to happen. Like if Lisa breaks up with him where is it going to put you and him. And like was it nothing or was it something,(it sounds to me its WAY more that just something.) If it is more than just something you and tyler need to know you how you can avoid this again.
With your friend Lisa.... You already hurt her and it happened and there is no going back.
So I think you need to be COMPLETELY honest with Lisa and tell her that you and tyler talked and tell her everything that you to said to eachother.
This is a total mess and I wish I could help you more than just sitting here typing words.
Just remember these things happen for a reason and they happen and you can't stop them sometimes. Remember this quote "You'll regret what you may do now, but you'll regret what you don't do so much more"
I REALLY REALLY hoped I helped
sncerely
advice~gurl
kat
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First of all, I would just like to say that boys are for temporary periods of time and friendships are forever (until you stop keeping in touch, faraway moves, or anything else, etc.). I was unclear on the fact if whether or not Lisa knows about the make-out session or not. Well, best of luck to you and Tyler. At least the feeling's mutual, and if Lisa doesn't know, I guess you could always go out with him when they break up?
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HELLO!
First off all things happen for a reason, and no matter what happens this to will pass. I feel that u and him should keep that to yourself because it will only be letting you and him off the hook and clearing your conscience when you two are the guilty ones.
However as a friend your stuck between a rock in a hard place because now your best friend has a man that will potentially cheat on her and not only that but with her best friend, he is not the man for either of you because he is coming between two friends. I feel that if you and her are really good friends no man should come between that.
So you need to leave him alone and so does your friend. Who wants a man that will come between two best friends. Thats almost like sleeping with your sister and I know you wouldnt want a man that wld try and get with ur sister
anyways just go with your heart and you will never go astray
No worries mon :)
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I think you should tell your friend Lisa because, hiding something this big from her could ruin your friendship because, honesty and being able to understand each other is really what a friendship is based on . You need to hear tell her because, hiding this will only make matters worse . It may bring up some trust issues and it may be a possibility of your friendship crushing , but atleast she heard it from you not someone else. She should understand , but don't be supprised if she doesn't speak to you and you can't get mad at her because, YOU MADE OUT WITH HER BOYFRIEND . NOT ALL OF IT IS YOUR FAULT, BUT YOU NEED TO TELL THAT BOYFRIEND OF HER'S THAT -THAT NO LONGER CAN HAPPEN WHILE HE IS INVOLVED WITH YOUR FRIEND . Later, she will come to respect your decision . I hope you consider the possibility .
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