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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

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heya guyz :-)
sorta quick question ...
me & my boyfriend have been together a couple of weeks now & we have been friendz 4 a long time be4 that. i`m 17. he is 18. i have never given a bj & i know he has received one from someone else be4. i don`t want to be bad at it so doees anyone have any tips plz. like what do i even do ha ha thanx :-)

Unfortunately for you, we can't give you that type of advice on this website.

only search advicenators.com


Try that search in Google.

--Jack
(17/m)

Happy Easter!

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17/m
im currently doing AS philosophy (in the UK), and i have two exams coming up in a month. In lessons, we dont write much, the teacher just talks and we discuss things. So, i havnt written many notes, everything i need to know is in a collection of textbooks.
The thing is though, i just cant read them all, it wont sink in. it doesnt go past my eyes, so what are some other ways for me to study? ive tried reading and highlighting...then making notes about the key points, but theres sooo much material to get through, it seems impossible, and i have four other subjects to be studying aswell. any help?

Try to get a study group together with people from your class. I'd say.. no more than 5 people other than yourself.

And just talk about the material and the textbooks, maybe like.. once a week until the exam?

Or, you could meet with your professor and ask him what some good studying tips are for his exams.

Good luck!

--Jack
(17/m)

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I'm going to the gyno for the first time next week. I'm hoping to get birth control thanks to my insane periods.

When they ask if I'm sexually active- I don't know what to say. I've participated in mutual masturbation and oral. Does that count? Do I specify and say "Yes, I've done oral." Or simply say "Yes," and leave it at that?

Any advice on going for the first time or what to expect? Thanks guys, er well girls I guess lol!

I really know nothing about the gynecologist, but, what I have learned from this website is that you should be as honest and as clear as possible. I think when they ask that question, though, it's most concerning vaginal sex. But, just to be on the safe side, be specific.

--Jack
(17/m)

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2 years ago there was this video about the risks of myspace. the first scene is this kid taking pictures of himself in the bathroom in his boxers. then it goes to this guy whos talking to this girl online and when they meet her shes really scary. then this guy breaks into this kids apartment and has a dear head.
sounds really weird but its hilarious and i have NO idea how to find it! all the help is appreciated

Yeah, it was Myspace: The Movie.


Here it is on the guy's website:

http://www.davidlehre.com/myspace/play.htm

Enjoy!

--Jack

P.S. Today is my 3 year anniversary on Advicenators!

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My boyfriend and I are completely sexually active and have been for awhile. I can always completely please him but he has never given me an orgasm. I've gotten close before when he's fingered me but then the feeling just stopped. The stuff he does feels really good so I can't understand why I don't orgasm. Are there any suggestions to help me? My boyfriend and I were both really unexperienced when we started going out so maybe there's something that he needs to be doing and we just don't know about it. Any suggestions would be appreciated!

Most girls can't. Even most married women can't.

Don't take it too hard.

There's not really anything you can do.

--Jack
(17/m)

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ive known my new friend for 3 months and we get along and everything, but the thing is we seem to have an awkwardness when we talk, most of the time, like we never know what to talk about kinda feeling is this normal or no?

Yeah, it's totally normal.

I sometimes still have that awkwardness with friends I've had for several years.

Eventually it fades as you become better friends.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I had surgery and the gave me vicaden (or however you spell it)
I know its for pain relief but why is it such a popular drug everyone wants even if they have no pain?

It's really addicting, I guess.

And it makes you not feel your pain- so that's always good, right? ;]

Haha, no.

--Jack
(17/m)

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do you get pregnant if your condom breaks but you didnt cum alot.

Let me make this VERY clear.

Any, and I mean ANY, time you have sex, no matter the circumstance, you can get pregnant. Especially if the condom breaks.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Okay, I'm on the pill but lets just say that i'm not so good about taking them at the same time everyday, i always take it between 7-10am though. So, i got done with this last pack and when it was time for my period... nothing... next day.... nothing. What does that mean? Could i be pregnant? my pack only has four pills for the days when your supposed to have your period so if it never starts do i just start my next pack? If i am pregnant couldn't that be really bad for a baby? Bottom line is I really don't want to be pregnant.

Bottom line:

If you have sex, you can get pregnant.

I don't care what contraceptive you're using, you can get pregnant.

If you have never had sperm near you, then you can't be pregnant.

Therefore, abstinence is the only 100% effective contraceptive.

--Jack
(17/m)

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is it "dependent upon" or "dependent on"?

Dependent upon is wordy, generally.

Dependent on is better.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I am trying to combine two words together: human and vampire and I can't seem to come up with the right word that makes it sound like it is crused. If you can think of anything that would be really great, if not that's cool too.

Manpire
Vampman
Humpire
Vaman
Humapire


There's a lot more, but I can't think of it.

I know Stephenie Meyer's Twilight series had a name for half-human and half-vampire. I can't remember what it was.

--Jack
(17/m)

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18/f
i am very confused whether this guy likes me or just "wants some" and is attracted to me. now he's only had one girlfriend, and lost his virginity to her meaning he's only had sex with one girl

liking me signs:
1. whenever i see him he always asks about ME. he asks how i'm doing, whats new, hows school and my new job, etc.
2. he opens up to me, he shares almost everything with me!
3. he always notices if i dye my hair or cut it, or if something is different
4. he can ALWAYS tell if something is wrong with me
5. he gets upset when he finds out something about me, and i didnt tell him. he says "you never tell me anything anymore" :(
6. he always wants shotgun when we're in my car and we're with others
7. we'll have those moments where i'll be talking to him and after i'm done he'll just be looking at me and we'll both start smiling
8. we've known each other for 4 or 5 years now
9. we've cuddled when we're alone many times and fell asleep together
10. when it's cold and i don't have a jacket he'll give me his to wear
11. some people think that we're already dating because of how we act with each other, but i dont know if it just because we're so close or what

signs he just "wants some"
1. usually when i see him he'll whisper in my ear.. "wanna fuck" and have a little smirk on his face
2. he flirts with me ALOT, sometimes in a "sexual" kinda way
3. he recently broke things off with his ex of almost 3 years, rebound?
4. when we hang out alone, he tries to get down my pants 95% of the time
5. when we're texting, usually something dirty will come up

it's just hard for me because i've never been in a real relationship before.

I'd like to say that not all guys "want some". In fact, I know that most guys DON'T just want that. And most don't even want that now. Yeah, sorry, just wanted to clear that up, because the first person seems to think she knows guys.

I like to think of myself as pretty mature, but I have many immature moments, much like this guy.

I'd say that since there are twice as many signs that he likes you as signs that he just "wants some", he probably just likes you. If he seriously wanted to have sex with you and that was it- you would know it. And since it's up for debate, then I'd say that that's not what he wants. Sure, he may do some of those things, but the only one that is kind of irksome is the 4th one.

Just try to observe and see where it goes. That's probably the best advice anyone could give you.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I am a 16 female. Just went through my first break up as of a few hours ago. We were going out for 7 months. He and I both decided to end it and stay friends. Although right now he is pretty pissed off. I am feeling 60% sad, 10% mad, 20% confused and the other 10% is lost somewhere in my brain. I've never experienced a break up before, so all I am asking is for some helpful advice or stories to help me feel better and move on.
Please and thank you!!!

You have a few options:

1. Be upset for a really long time and consume yourself in sorrow.

2. Get over it now and move on.

3. Be upset for ONLY the rest of today, and then try to move on.

4. Don't even think about it at all.


The best way to go about it is a combination of the last two; being upset about a break up for too long can really start to hurt you in other areas of your life like school and your family. So, try not to be upset for much longer. Also, try not to be too mad for much longer. The best way to get over a break up is to keep yourself busy with other things. Instead of spending time thinking about him, read a book, go outside, run, exercise, or do something to get your mind off of him and the break up. Soon you'll realize that you really don't need him as much as you thought. You'll start to see you can have fun without him.

I would tell you boring stories about my past relationships, but I pretty much summed up how I got over them from everything I've said.

Have a nice day! =]

--Jack
(17/m)

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i had sex with my bestie he did not put his dick all the way in and per-cum came in but my cherry did not pop can i have a baby

The first person is wrong.

ANY time his thing goes in your thing, you risk getting pregnant.

And yes, that applies to EVERY situation you could ever think of.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Hi all, I want to first say thankyou so much for reading this, and I'd just like to hear your opinions, personal experiences, etc. I know this may be a little awkward, so sorry! I'm usually not this open about my personal life but I need advice and words of other people.

Okay, I'm 16/f and my boyfriend is 15/m. We are in the same grade and have been happily dating for 7 months.

Well, recently my boyfriend has been getting a little frisky when we're together. However, I have yet to expose myself to him because of some feeling I've been having:

A.) I feel like that when I do expose myself to him (removing my bra, etc..), I'll have lost a part of my innocence. I know that when he starts getting frisky, I tell him to wait, and he really respects that and says okay (we're both "goodie goodies", if you will lol) and I am so beyond thankful for that. But obviously I know that he won't wait forever, but I know that feeling of my losing innocence will still linger. I don't know why I feel this way, I mean, I care for him beyond belief, I'd risk my life to save his. I'm not ashamed of my body, I guess maybe it's because I'm afraid of what he'll think? I'm not sure, have any girls ever had this feeling before?

B.) I'm not IN love with him, or I don't believe I am, but I do love him as a person and a boyfriend and I know he likes me so much (I asked him how much he liked me and he responded "to the moon and back" so I took that as a very good sign), however, we still haven't told each other that we have love for one another. I really want him to say it, because I can't just fully unclothe myself to someone who doesn't feel the way I feel about them. I'm a pretty moral person, and that'd be 100% going againt what I believe. So what should I do to try and provoke him to say it? Should I ask him? I don't want him to say it if he doesn't mean it, but I just want to know before I do anything with him. He's a really really good kid, as am I, but this is our first real relationship and I just would like the aspects of other people.

Thank you soooo much in advance! This truly means a lot to me, so thank you for taking the time to read it :)

THANK YOU SO MUCH!

You actually are trying to not be the stereotypical teenage girl in a relationship. It's very refreshing. =]

Anyway. Don't do anything sexual with him if you're not comfortable. And since you don't sound comfortable doing it, then you probably shouldn't. Yes, it will take away from your innocence, and what if you decide to do things that you'll later regret because you're not dating him anymore? This is why sex and sexual things are for married people. ;]

I'm glad that you realize you're not IN love with him- you just love him as a person. So many girls and guys claim they love their boyfriend/girlfriend that they forget how complicated love really is. Don't force him to say it, because then how will you know it's what he feels? Don't try to get him to say it either. If he means it, he'll say it eventually. And besides, that stuff is really unnerving for a guy; just be patient. Maybe he isn't IN love with you, he just really likes you and is having a good time with you. You don't have to be madly in love to keep a relationship going at this age. Remember that. ;]

--Jack
(17/m)

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hey i was wondering can a girl get pregnant if you have sex during her period (like the week that its going on)?
i know thats kind of gross but im just wondering. =-) thats about it.

As a general rule:

WHENEVER that thing enters your thing, there is a chance.

Period.

I don't care if you're on your period, he's on his, you're on the pill, he's wearing a condom, or anything else. Sex equals pregnancy.

The ONLY way to prevent pregnancy is abstinence.

--Jack
(17/m)

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hey there, so i understand if you cant directly answer this question for content, but i have a question about giving my boyfriend a handjob. i've never done it before, and i wanted to know some things like if you reach under their pants and their boxers or what? or like do they get hard on your own or if you have to do it? im really confused haha and id really appreciate it if someone can help me out or give me a website. thank you!! :)

I have absolutely no idea why you're asking me of all people. I mean, I have the sexual experience of a book in a library. Seriously.

Here's the only advice I can give you. Google this exact phrase I'm about to tell you. It's really important, so don't forget, okay?

"How to give a handjob".

Bam. There's your answer. I'm sure there's more than one million websites JUST about that. You're sure to find one that can help you.

And silly you, you thought you needed ME to figure that out! ;]

--Jack
(17/m)

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It has come to my attention that every class i've ever had related to health or mental health has covered, in detail, both bulemia and anorexia. But none of the classes has ever even mentioned self injury. These are all self destructive behaviors, and I think that if people had more information on them, they wouldnt be so quick to judge because they would know more about it. Have any of you ever talked about this in class before? Even in my psychology class as a freshmen in college it never came up.

I'm only in high school, but I've noticed the same thing.

Maybe the schools just don't want to expose kids to something as serious as that. Sure, bulimia and anorexia are serious matters, but I don't know.

--Jack
(17/m)

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The sims 3 was suposeed to come out today (Feb 20th)
But the people at the store said "yes thats right. but theyre postponed the release"
Does anyone know when its going to come out now?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Sims_3

June 2, 2009.

--Jack
(17/m)

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ive been dating my bf of 6 months and i know we're in love...the thing is he blew me off 2 days in a row this week saying we're gonna hang out and that hes coming at a certain time...he was a no-show both days...i didn't even get a call from him saying that he couldn't come, so i stayed up all night waiting for him until ijust couldnt take it and crashed...i cried myself to sleep because i felt like i wasnt even worth a phone call...do i have a right to be mad at him?

I'm sure there's an explanation. Wait for the explanation to be made at him.

Sure, you can be upset, just try to keep your cool until you know why he didn't show up.

--Jack
(17/m)

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