Erinn_the_bamf's advice column | Page 45

home view feedback ask questions add as friend advicenators

Gender:

Female

Location:

USA

Occupation:

Student

Member Since:

November 20, 2004

Answers:

1791

Last Update:

March 13, 2015

Visitors:

117765

Favorite Columnists

solidadvice4teens

The_MoUsY_spell_checker

Main Categories:

Fashion and Styles

about

God help you if you trusted the advice I gave at 13.

trisspoke (7:31:17 PM): make me your forum link!

advice

does anyone know how to remove a henna tattoo? like is there anything you can use at home to remove it? i got one today and it smudged i just want to clean it up a bit.. any suggestions? thanks

I got one today too.

Anyway, if the outer covering is still on pick it off. If it's fallen off already don't apply any olive oil to it. Olive oil causes it to last longer. Scrubbing it with soap and water is really the only way to get it off. It won't come off in one day, but directly scrubbing it causes it to be removed faster.

allright well my boyfriend really wants to go to second base. and im not sure if i do and like he has asked me before and i told him i would rather wait. and stuff but i can tell that he really wants to and lately he has begged me and stuff and i dont want him to like get mad at me for not doing it. and i just dont know what to do.

If there's any doubt that you're not ready, then you aren't. And if he really loves you he won't be mad. If he is mad, break up with him. If you're worth it he'll wait.

I was wondering, if your pregnant, can you still have sex?

Technically, you can. BUT YOU SHOULD NOT AT ALL!!! It can damge your baby. I'm not sure how, but it's a terrible idea.

alright. im 13 .. maybe youll sya im too young for dating. but us teenagers think love is all me live for. but anyways. i have a boyfriend and i dated him maybe 10-11 times CRAZY I KNOW. but im dating him now and theres this other boy who likes me and want to go out with me. i said ill have to choose between them. the boy that likes me dumped me before because we never hung out anywhere else but around my neighboorhood. and im very confused onn what i should doo.

to help you with you advise ill tell you that the boy that likes me if cuter then my boyfriend but if i ever got in a argue ment or fight with the boy that likes me hell totally just say its over. (at least i think so) the boyfriend i have now if i get in a argument or fight i still get a hug at the end of the school day.

i cant stop thinking about the boy that likes me and the fun times we had around the neighboorhood.
please help me.. PLEASEEEE

First off, though looks are always nice, and come on let's be honest, they do matter, don't choose a guy only based on looks.

Based on the information you gave me, I'd say to stick with your boyfriend. If at the end of they day he still loves you no matter what he's the right one.

Nevertheless, I can't choose for you. If you really like the other boy better go for him. But if he's just going to end things after a silly little fight then being with your boyfriend would be better.

Ok here is my questions:
1. What color shoes should I wear with a brown dress for a bat mitzvah tomorrow?
2. What color sweater to wear over it?
3. I really never wear makeup except for plays and dance recitals so should I wear it to this bat mitzvah? I'm in 7th grade and I just turned 13. If I should, what kind of makeup and what colors should I use if I have pale-ish skin, light brown hair, and blue eyes?
4. Most of all.. should I get my hair done? The service is at 10:30 am and then the party is until 6:00 pm, and the party is like 7 hours. Pleasse tell me how I should do my hair? This isn't the most formal thing like black tie, but it's not casual either. My friend said to get your hair done with half up and half down. How should I ask for the lady to do it?

Whatever shoes or sweater over it you wear, they should match. Turquoise shoes and sweater. Pink shoes and pink sweater. Since brown is a neutral you can wear any color with it. Since your eyes are blue i suggest blue to bring them out.

As for make-up stick with neutral tones. Start with a basic foundation. A pale brown or pale pink. Golds would look nice too. Black or brown mascara and brown eyeliner to finish off the eyes. A pale pink gloss for the lips and you're done.

what is one of the best workouts so that when i wear jeans my fat doesnt stick out ? lol i know that sounds kinda weird. but thanks!

You cannot direct weight loss to one area. However, the best way to burn calories and fat is by jogging. It's very affective. Dancing is also great too or playing a sport you like.

14/f/tx
My best friend likes my boyfriend. They went out before I hooked up with him. We've been going out for two months now. The other day my best friend admitted she still likes him and is going to try to get him back. My boyfriend gets really jealous when I'm around other guys. My best friend knows that and also knows that I really can't not flirt when I'm with a cute quy, even if I'm not interested. Another one of my friends told me my best friend was going to use that against me to cause me and my bf to break up so she can go back out with him. What do I do? I love them to death but this isn't right. Please help!!!

Let's be honest with ourselves. This girl should not be your friend. She's a backstabber. You may be "best-friends", but it's obvious she cares about a boy more than you. No real friend would do that.

The best way to stop her is to tell your boyfriend what she's going to do. He will be on your side and won't fall for her plan.

Well, my friend told me that nail polish if you drank enough would kill you. Please don't lecture me or anything....but, recently I have been just really sad and mad at the world and I feel like my world is crashing down. I drank about a third of the bottle about 30 minutes ago. Nothing has happened so far. I don't know what to do. I was talking to my bf at the moment I made the decision and he kept telling me please, no, don't do it. But I didn't listen and I did it. He was mad at me when I told him I did, and he's never been this mad at me before. He won't talk to me now. If I live, what should I do now? I still feel like theres nothing to live for, and what is worth living for, him, everyone keeps me away from him. Or will I even live? And I'm dead serious on this question. This is not a joke, so please give me serious answers, and no lectures, I've heard it all before.

How old are you? I'm going to assume you are between 14 and 16. OK first off, call the paramedics immediatley. Even if it wasn't much you need to get checked out. Then tell your parents or guardians.

About your life if you do live? Start going to conculing. You attempted suicide, there is probably some sort of depression going on. About your boyfriend? It will take him a while to trust you again. Just explain you are sorry and you love him because that really is all you can do. Give him time he will most likely come around.

There's this girl I'm interested in annd I plan on taking her out on a date buut I dont know where to go! I want to take her to dinner and go do something that is interactive, which allows us to talk and get to know eachother (unlike a movie where you just sit there...).

I want to make our first date incredible and I really want to impress her. I met this girl in first grade and when we graduated into Jr. High our paths went seperate directions. we've seen eachother a few times randomly over the years but it wasnt untill this year that she transfered to my highschool that we've truly reconnected. I dont know why I care so much about impressing her, its weird because Im normally not that way.

Any and all ideas/suggestiosn would be greatly abpprecitaed!

Bowling. I mean, seriously, who doesn't love bowling? Roller skating or ice skating is cool too. If you have the moeny, try going to a concert.

Heya, its my birthday next week and ive been planning a huge party at my house. Im 14/15 and have already informed about 40 people about my party and Ive asked my parents if they will stay out for the night (from about 6pm to 11pm, not ALL night)and my brother is coming down from university to supervise it. People i know are bringing booze and i know someone who is bringing a drum kit round and my brother has 2 guitars that we're all going to jam on, and im going to supply food and soft drinks..but i keep thinking ive forgotten loads of things.. I want to know:

1. How to convince my parents to the idea of leaving me for 4 hours with a bunch of 40 teens
2. How to persuade them to let a lot of them sleep over
3. Any tips on throwing partys to remember!
4. Whether to supply back-up DVDS incase it gets boring
5. How much to spend on food and what foods go down well..for bout 40 people
6. How to break it to them if I cant have that party.. :-(
7. What to do about the neighbours
8. How to control trouble if it happens

I have loads more i cant remember but any hints n tips wud be very helpful ty

Rae x

First off, underage drinking is a bad idea. The cops will probably find out and if that happens your parents or brother will most likely be thrown in jail. So forget the booze.

The best way to convince your parents to convince your parents you'll be OK is by telling them there will be no booze. Tell them your brother will be responsible for you and won't let you get into trouble.

DVDs in case it gets boring is a great idea. Try a varity of movies. Texas Chain Saw Massacre, Eurotrip, and The Village would be some good ones.

Food? Pizza, of course! Haha you can never go wrong with pizza. Try ordering 8-10 large pies. For drinks get coke, diet coke, sprite, orange soda, ect.

It would be good to warn your neighbors that you're having a party. That way they won't be too annoyed. Remember no booze because if the neighbors do call the cops and they find boioze all hell will break loose. Well, that's about all you need to know. Have fun =].

so one of my fashion icons is nicole ritchie, and i love the fact that she is "waif" or "herion chic" (aka way to skinny).
i admit that she is a bit unhealthy in the whole weight area, so im not trying to be that skinny. but i was wondering, is it possible to lose fat in your face if you werent that heavy to begin with? because, i mean nicole ritchie was average sized before, but now her face just seems so structured. do you lose weight in your face when you lose weight in the rest of your body?

Yes. When you lose weight you lose it all over your body because you cannot direct weight loss, with the acception of liposuction.

I believe I am starting to go anerexic. I've lost 10 pounds in one week. I can't eat and everytime I do I get sick. I'm trying so hard to eat. I'm never hungry or craving anything. What should I do? Please, I haven't told anyone and I'm scared.

Because your eating it is technically not concidered anorexia, however, if you contiune losing weight it will be classified as anorexia. You need to notify a doctor immediatley because you may be suffering from some illness.

Since UN day is coming up soon, or International Day, at least at my school, I've been asked to make a slide show about poverty. I was wondering if anyone has any ideas on what song I could play while the slide show is rolling? I am obviously not looking for suggestions like 'PROMISCUOUZ GIRL!', ok?

Also, if anyone has any ideas on interesting things/figures/facts I could include. I'm going to go for defining poverty, where it exists most, what changes/plans are being made to prevent it and why people should care. If you guys have any additional suggestions, it would be muchly appreciated.

Thanks.

Some great songs to use would be "Let it Be" by The Beatles, "Imagine" by John Lenon, "Where is the Love" by the Black Eyed Peas (not sure how much you want to use this), and "Dear Mr. President" by Pink.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Poverty
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_Nations

For any more information you could try searching google

how can you get eyeliner (on the BOTTOM lid) to stay on all day? it basically dissapears halfway through the day,

Waterproof eyeliner is your best bet. Works very well and last longer. Harder to get off though.

ok im 13 and im in middle school and there is this kid who is ubsesed with me and he has told me i want to have "IT" whith u!
im not redy for that im 13 yo soo what should i do? im scard he will bad mouth about me if i dont and if i do he will tell everyone and then ill be called a slut so what should i do? :(

You're scared. Therefore, you are not ready. And not only because you are scared. You are also way too young and he is trying to force you into it. Don't do it.

15/f. sorry i dont know what to put this under. i have never really gotten drunk, only like a little bit or just a buzz a few times. also i have only made out once, and i was not really sure what i was doing. and im not really sure how to. i am thinking that maybe getting a little more tipsy will help me loosen up and not be so shy, and then i am hoping i will make out with someone while im drunk, atleast so i can ask them about it and like have an excuse to ask if i am a good kisser, even being a little bit drunk. sorry if this doesn't make sense, but i could really use your opinion on if this is an ok idea or if i should find another way to deal with it..thanks!

To be honest don't make out with someone when your drunk. Sure, you may losen up, but you may end up going futher than you want to. Aside from that, you could end up hooking up with someone you wouldn't want to. It's just a bad idea and if you're with someone that truly loves you, you won't have to be drunk to make them happy.

My life is seriously messed up so if your gunna help please be serious about it.

First off, i am 15/f. Ok, so im currently seeing this guy. He is 18. We have been together for a year and a half now. Things between us have been very bad and we took some time apart to re-evaluate our feelings. We decided to give it another try with some changes.

Before, i was quite dependent on him and we saw eachother everyday, and if we didnt see eachother he would call. This obviously isnt that healthy in a long term relationship so it was a thing that was changed. Now, we dont see eachother hardly at all. I had noticed from the time we did spend together that it wasnt the same. I was beginning to get the impression he didnt love me. I wasnt feeling it, if you get what i mean.

So i talked to him about it. He said he had closed off his feelings for me a long time ago, when we were having problems because it hurt him too much. He said it would take time for him to love me again.

All through this, I have been talking to one of my ex's a lot. We have become quite close and he wants us to get back together. He's been interested quite a lot during the time ive been with my boyfriend, but nothing has ever happened. I miss him a lot and i think im interested. He thinks im single because... well. i was angry at my boyfriend and he was treating me badly at the time.

Now, im left with a boyfriend who doesnt love me, an ex who wants to be with me... all this is on top of other problems that dont come under this catagory.

Basically at the moment, i feel life is pointless. I have no reason to get up in the morning, no motivation. You guys have to help please xoxoxox

To be honest, we cannot decide for you. You are the only one who can sense what you truly feel.

Which one do you love more? If it's your boyfriend stay with him. If not go with your ex. There really isn't anything any of us can tell you. I'm sure you know who you want so just follow your feelings.

There is this guy that I like and he likes me back, the emotional and physical attraction is really strong. theres a problem though, im 13 about 5'3 and hes a year younger but 4'10 or 4'11. while standing up even if i lean down i couldnt kiss him comfortably, is there a way i could kiss him without it being awkward? thanks

Sit down. It's much more comfortable anyway.

well when even i pull my pants down(like to go to the bathroom)there is this white gooey stuff in my underware and it kinda smells and i dont think it id yeast infection because they say yeast infection kinda looks like cottage cheese
pleae help me

It's discharge. This is perfectly normal. It you don't want it in your underwear wear a pantyliner.

hey i really love emo mucic i just dont know any good bands and if you have any id love any bands. thanks.. ill rate 5's

Panic! at the Disco
Fall Out Boy
The Used
Dashboard Confessional
Motion City Soundtrack
Death Cab For Cutie
Ted Leo and the Pharmacists (kinda more indie though)
Hawthorne Heights
Jack's Mannequin
My Chemical Romance

<<< Previous Advice Column

Next Advice Column >>>