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Weird situation here.
Or is it a situation at all?
I'm 13, and a girl, and this year I started at a new school. Our grade is reallly small, and there are 2 kind of...defined groups of girls. One is the preps, who get a lot more attention. The other group, which I'm pretty much in, can't really have a name, or label, because we're all really different.
Ok so at lunch today, it was so annoying, they don't talk. And it's not like they're just not talking to me, I know they're not mad, they invite me to their houses a lot- they just don't talk to eachother. No one is mad or anything, it's almost like they have nothing to say. They're not into fashion, or music, celebrity stuff, school, any other girl stuff, or any other HUMAN stuff. It's like they never watch the news, either. There is a never ending list of things to talk about in this world! They just don't say a word. When I start a conversation about ANYTHING, all I get is a "uh huh" or "mmhm".
I don't really think these are my friends...I mean we never do anything friends do. We've had like 5 sleepovers, and they were all really boring...to me at least...like I've never been mean to any of them. I'm not really sure if they like me. I am, what you could call "acquaintances" with the other group of girls, but not real friends. And I can't be friends with them because I'm just not preppy and I would never fit in with them. Even though I hear them talking about stuff and doing stuff I would always do.
I'm really confused because I've always had a best friend at school...and now I don't. And I really hate it, and I don't know what to do. If you read all this or you can help thank you so much...

Aww, that sucks, I always have a best friend in every grade, but maybe you should break out of those two sterotyped groups,
and try to make friends with other people,
not neccasarily the 'popular' or 'geeks' (i hate labels..) but just take the time to get to know people in your classes at your tables, or that sit next to you you know?
Join clubs, or after school activitys, you'll meet new people :)

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Hi everyone, I'd like to hear your perspective(this question is especially for girls but guys are welcome to answer too). My problem is that I feel disgustingly and frighteningly ugly. My own reflection upsets me when I look in the mirror, and I find the idea of sex really scary. I've tried it a couple of times, but the guys I've been with have been really greedy and impatient and made me feel even uglier. They kept on going on about how pretty other girls were, and I think they just wanted me because I'm so insecure. Has anyone else been through this , and come out all right the other end(e.g. in a happy relationship, or just happier with themselves). Some days I don't even want to leave the house, I feel I look so bad.
Thanks in advance(22/f BTW).

Aw, I think you should learn to love yourself, and wait until you find the guy who will always be telling you your beautiful, and will make you happy to wake up each day!

I dont really know what to say to you,
but I just want to let you know you are beautiful!
I dont even need to see a picture, because looks dont matter, and I really think that your sweet and most likely sincere and genuine, and thats why boys try to take advantage of you.

Its normal for you to find sex freaky, and scary, because its not like its ment to be, but it wont be when you find the right person :)


I hope I helped.


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Ren, Howl, and I had been best friends since third grade, which is more like forever (But now I've moved to other school, we're kinda far apart) Howl had been crushing on me since fourth grade and Ren since sixth grade. And the problem is, I can't decide which one of them I should go out with. (I kinda liked Howl in fifth grade and Ren in sixth grade)Ren is this popular one with all ladies by his side, and Howl is the quite one, never wants to talk to anyone except for me, and Ren (but Ren is always busy)Ren always comes to me when he has problems, and Howl always waits for me to come and talk to him when he's sad (they're so different. Ren is confident and Howl is so shy) And I can never hurt one of them, I mean, we're like best friends forever! I think I care about Howl more, but Ren is now asking me out. I don't know what to say or what to do. And Howl is still waiting for me too. I really can't think of anything else! What can I do? Which one do you think I should go out with?

You cant choose to date a guy on what his obvoius traits are, and how he acts around you and other people. You need to get to know another person, and have common interests, and a good connection with them. It doesnt matter how long they have liked you, but if you also like them back..
So I cant really help you with who you should choose, but I hope what I said will make you think a little bit.


take care.

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Life sucks! Serioulsy sucks! There is not one good thing in my life right now! I have lost two of my best friends these past two weeks and it's all because they are extreme liars and and loosing another best friend right now..it's in motion! :'(
Then all of my friends are fighting with eachother and I am torn in the middle! I don't know what to do!!
Then my family are like omg!! I hate to be at home! My sister just moved in with her boyfriend and so them and my parents are always talking about "couple-stuff" and Couple trips and couple couple couple!! AHH! I can't take it anymore! I'm the fith wheel!!They are always like, "Oh yeah, you are coming to..But can't you stay home with the dog. This is more of a couple/grown up thing. (IT WAS THE CINEMA FOR CRYING OUT LOUD!)
I'm teeling you, I don't like being at home, I'm like fighting with all of my friends! And those I'm not fighting with are like having so many problems right now they don't have time to hang out =/
I'm the fith wheel, I don't like being at home, I'm loosing my best friends, my other friends don't have time for me, I'm failing in school! I don't know where to go or do!! I am totaly lost!!

Is there No hope in the world?!?!?

:'(
thanks for taking your time to read this...

Aww I am so sorry things arent going well with you..
Okay, first of all, I can point out some good things in life for you! Well Your living! Be happy that your alive and healthy, God loves you. But yeah, I'm sorry your friends are fighting and that you are in the middle, that sucks, I think you should explain to them that ou dont want to get involved in it, tell them it would be the best thing you can do. About your sister and her boyfriend, yeah it can be really annoying to hear her and your parents constantly talking about couple stuff, it feels like they are leaving you out right? thats horrible.
I really think you should tell your parents how you are feeling, and how you think that they arent including you in things anymore, and tell them exactly how you are feeling inside.

Your friends will eventually sort their differences out, or maybe in the end they will end up being no longer friends, but it all will calm down soon.

Okay and their is hope sweetie.
Pray for Hope, pray for faith.
Just pray. (if you are religoius)
but you need to have hope that things will get better, and faith that you know they will get better, even though you dont really know whats going to happen. If you dont have hope that things will get better, it will make you feel miserable, so always try to have a postive attitude that things are going to get better.

Anymore questions, send me another message.

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Let me start by saying that I am a huge music fan, I like most types of music and I think you can express yourself through music. I am in a situation where I need songs that are about missing someone that you love but is far away from you. Does anyone have any suggestions?

Far Away - Nickelback

Its an amazing song.

here are the lyrics:
"Far Away"

This time, This place
Misused, Mistakes
Too long, Too late
Who was I to make you wait
Just one chance
Just one breath
Just in case there's just one left
'Cause you know,
you know, you know

[CHORUS]
That I love you
I have loved you all along
And I miss you
Been far away for far too long
I keep dreaming you'll be with me
and you'll never go
Stop breathing if
I don't see you anymore

On my knees, I'll ask
Last chance for one last dance
'Cause with you, I'd withstand
All of hell to hold your hand
I'd give it all
I'd give for us
Give anything but I won't give up
'Cause you know,
you know, you know

[CHORUS]

So far away
Been far away for far too long
So far away
Been far away for far too long
But you know, you know, you know

I wanted
I wanted you to stay
'Cause I needed
I need to hear you say
That I love you
I have loved you all along
And I forgive you
For being away for far too long
So keep breathing
'Cause I'm not leaving you anymore
Believe it
Hold on to me and, never let me go
Keep breathing
'Cause I'm not leaving you anymore
Believe it
Hold on to me and, never let me go
Keep breathing
Hold on to me and, never let me go
Keep breathing
Hold on to me and, never let me go



And another song is..
Here By Me - 3 doors down
lyrics:

I hope you’re doing fine out there without me
‘Cause I’m not doing so good without you
The things I thought you’d never know about me
Were the things I guess you always understood

So how could I have been so blind for all these years?
Guess I only see the truth through all this fear,
And living without you…

And everything I have in this world
And all that I’ll ever be
It could all fall down around me.
Just as long as I have you,
Right here by me.

I can’t take another day without you
‘Cause baby, I could never make it on my own
I’ve been waiting so long, just to hold you
And to be back in your arms where I belong

Sorry I can’t always find the words to say
But everything I’ve ever known gets swept away
Inside of your love…

And everything I have in this world
And all that I’ll ever be
It could all fall down around me.
Just as long as I have you,
Right here by me.

As the days grow long I see
That time is standing still for me
When you’re not here

Sorry I can’t always find the words to say
Everything I’ve ever known gets swept away
Inside of your love

And everything I have in this world
And all that I’ll ever be
It could all fall down around me.
Just as long as I have you,
Right here by me.

And everything I have in this world
And all that I’ll ever be
It could all fall down around me.
Just as long as I have you,
Right here by me.

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Is making out with another guy cheating?????????

Yes. You wouldnt want your boyfriend makingout with some other girl would you?

When your dating someone, kissing, is something you do with your bf/gf.

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I just got back to dating this girl a couple of weeks ago but she does not give me her attention, even when i believe she likes me. she never looks out for me in school, and when i ask her to come adn hang with me at my regular hang out she says she is busy or says she will come later but doesnt come. She also hardly gives me room to hang with her as she is always with her friends. I cut off with her once, when she did this same thing for some time, until I later asked her if she is still down with me and she says she is. i dont want to have to leave her again for the same reason.

Well if she doesnt have time for you, it is because shes focused more on her friends, and not ready for a relationship..
thats her way of obviously saying that her friends are more important, and since she doesnt seem to be that interested in you, I think you should just break up again, and leave it be.

you know?

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well I had A best friend she wsa like a sistre to me, we did everything together we told each other everything. We were friends since I was in 2nd grade and she was in 3rd. well now we are in high school and we got suspended from school because we both got in trouble for something, well I confessed to what I did but she tryed to blame her part on me. WE havent talked since (its been a couple of months) because she betrayed me. should I give in and talk to her and try to be her friend again, after all she was the best friend i ever had or so I thought so should I try to talk to her or just forget about her??? srry its so long but please help me.

You know, best friends, dont blame things on each other.
What she did was wrong, and I think that you should just not talk to her, dont apologize, she needs to realize that what she did was wrong.

But if shes stubborn and what admit to what she did, I suggest that you talk to her then,
if its worth being friends with her, and if you think you can forgive her for doing what she did.

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I'm 20yrs old and my boyfriend is 21 our relationship is good the only problem is his mother. She calls him everyday whenever we go out she comes and finds us When i visit him at his house she comes over and tells me she will have me physically removed. How do I get him to stand up to her and be a man? She hates me but i think she would hate any girl. He's in college and his parents pay for it so they say that whatever he does is their business even our relationship. He's cowed by his parents. We left for 2 days to get away from them and his mom called private investiagtors to find us. I love him a lot and i want to stay with him i just don't know what to do and why they hate me.

Okay, wow.. private investigators?
Goodness, this is out of hand, his mother really is too attatched to her son.
He is 21, and he doesnt have to be under authority to her, but it does give her leavage that she pays for his college..

But you need to talk to your boyfriend about the situation, ask him what hes going to do about his mom, because you cant go on with this any longer. Tell him he really needs to do something, or your relationship will cease to exist, now i know you realize that you love him a lot and dont intend on breaking up with him, but he needs to know that if he cant stand up to his mom, then things between you guys wont probably be easy..

Hope I helped.

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Just few weeks ago I suddenly remembered something important! About three years ago, my best friend since childhood, George, confessed his love to me and I promised him that someday I would tell him how I feel about him. Sadly, I forgot my promise. It's been three years, and he still remembers it!! How could I forget it myself I don't know... But one thing I know that I still like him until now. But since we are not going at the same school again, I have to wait until summer to meet him. What should I do when I meet him?? I feel so ashamed of myself that he still remembers my promise and I forgot it, and I was the one promising it!! >.< Help me!
--I rate no less than 5

Well tell him that you like him too then!
Call him on the phone, and if you do see him, give him a hug, and a peck on the cheek, he will like that and apologize for forgetting your promise! I think things will work out

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my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and I still sleep with my mom could that be becouse my dad died when I was 12 becouse ever since i've been sleeping with her and I want to know some ways I can stop sleeping with her.
please help!

Awww. Well I'm so sorry your father died,
and that probably is because your dad died.

Its a process, just you need to start going to bed in your own bed, you may feel restless, or like you cant sleep, but sooner or later you will get used to it.

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I really need advice. I'm so low in self esteem its crazy. I'm dating my bestfriend and im completely depressed. I love him SO much and he seems to be happy and he loves me too. But, I'm not happy. I get so jealous all the time, because he hangs out sometimes with his ex-girlfriend. Then i feel like i'll never compare to her, and i push away from him and put up this emotional wall. I'm not always unhappy, but im afraid of loosing him and thats when i get upset. Is there anything i can do, to stop getting jealous and start being more self confident? I also hang out with my ex too, and i know its not fair that i get mad when he does. Oh someone please help me!
I rate 5's

Well I would go get help if you think you are depressed, or talk to your boyfriend, tell him how you feel, and how you get jealous. He will understand, and if you need some reassuring that your the one for him, talk to him about it.
Just remember that his ex girlfriend, is his EX beacuse she is not you, and the thing that matters is that you have the guy. Everyone fears losing something they have always wanted and finally got. Its completely normal to be jealous, but you cant let it get to you, like you said you hang out with your ex too, as long asyour relatoinship with your guy is healthy and you start to become happy, everything should be alright

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This whole thing is probably going to sound really werid and its going to be long but here goes:

It's my last year in this school I've been at for 3 years, but it feels like forever. It has so many memories, from the good like meeting my best friend to the bad like dealing with her boyfriend's near death experience. (literally) Well, this year has been going by so fast and its been so much fun. You know when it feels like you and your friends rule the school (hopefully you dont act like it)and you can walk around like you don't care. Your friends are crazy and its just perfect. I don't want to leave.

Well, I have a feeling things are going to change in high school. All my friends are so different that there is no way we are all going to see each other all the time like we do now. For example, in school I take all honors and my best friend doesn't take any. After school, I'm busy with track and horseback riding and she has swim practice. Also, I'm afraid of having to make new friends.

So I guess my two questions are how do I stay friends with my current friends and how do I make new friends in my classes?

Aww! Highschool is no big deal at all.
I was so nervous about it at first, but you meet so many new and different people, its wonderful.
I love it.

You may not see your friends you have now a lot in highschool, because in highschool your relationships with people will change.. a lot. People will start finding out who they really are and what they really like doing. The good part of that is you will meet new people, make new friends, its incredible and so exciting.

Making new friends is easy for me, but hard for some, just be friendly to everyone, and talk to people in classes, you;'ll make some new friends esaily!

Well if you really want to stay friends with the friends you have now, just make sure you talk to each other a lot and dont let your relatoinships drift apart, and to make new friends in classes, like i said earlier, the best thing to do is be friendly, and smile, and have a good attitude!

everything will be fun,
enjoy highschool!

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Okay, so like I'm 13/f and my name is JJ There is this boy at school who I think likes me, Like he smiles when I smile at him(not in a polite way) and when we joke around(Oh, whoever is wearing Blue is gay or whoever is sitting is gay or who ever is working is gay you get the point) he never says stuff about me only everybody else.( yes I know this is mean but I still do it I can be a BIG bratt or should I say asshole at times I know I shouldn't be cussing)but when we are mean to lesser people well you know less popular people, he teams up on my side. and he looks please when I laugh at or with him(if it is funny) and when I bring up my ex(the last one until I'm 16, maybe) he looks jealous, he remebers stuff about me I even forget about, and we laugh about it or talk and stuff and he sticks up for me all the time do you think he likes me? And yes I know I shouldn't get emotionaly involved with him so please don't give me that line of crap I've heard it WAY to many times before

Well I dont think the "gay game" joke you play is that nice, but thats besides the point.
Its also cruel to be mean to what you consider "lesser people" thats so mean.
He could like you, sounds like he does, but you'll never know unless you ask him.
I'm not going to give you that you shouldnt get 'emotionally involved with him' but if your YOUNG you shouldnt.
But the only way you'll find out if he likes you, is if you ASK him.

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okay so i have this shirt and i am having ppl sign it for the end of the year well my ex b/f keeps wanting to sign it so i finally let him and he said "ass" so i changed it to "ask" well after my last period at school he was waiting outside my door for me and he asked me how i liked what he wrote i said i liked it but i changed it to "ask" then he was like well let me wright something nice on it so i let him it said "fuck u" and he was laughing well then i changed it to "have fun u" and now he wants to change it again he is even trying to get inside my pockets to get the marker is this a sign that he likes me still (he was the one that dumped me)

No, its probably that he just wants to be mean,
and if he dumped you and he does like you again,
I would steer clear of him.
He sounds like bad news..
* well I gave you my personal opinion.

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I get angry a lot now...for many reasons...I scream at my dad. Like today, just now, I woke up late, which puts me off schedule, which made me mad, so I started screaming, then I cut myself on my wooden drawer, and I slammed my foot down so hard, that I now have a bruise on my heel. I am afraid I'll go off like this on my friends, and they'll all leave me. What I need is someone to love me unconditionally, and someone to help me stop getting angry; At least that's what I think. Please help! I feel embarrassed about this, and am afraid I embarrass my dad and maybe will embarrass my friends...

I get angry too! Especially when I wake up late or stuff like that! I know exactly how that feels.
Sounds like you had a bad day today, I'm sorry hun!

When you say you need someone to love you unconditionally .. do you mean like a boyfriend/girlfriend? Well when you feel that you need someone like that, thats not healthy, beacuse it can cause you to get clingy to the guy/girl, and can cause some major emotional damage, if you know what I mean.

First you need to find the "why" you are angry, what makes you angry? Look for the main cause. Then you need to make the choice of to not get angry over little things, like being late, no one likes change, and thats why we get angry, but if you dont want to embarss your dad or friends, make the choice in your head that you will try to control your feelings.

If you cant, try anger management classes, or talking to a school counsular, I recomend that a lot (talking to a school counsular) because it worked so great for me! Its really releiving to be able to tell someone your problems and for them to listen and talk to you.

hope things get better.

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do i have to worry if my teen is emo--he quit swim team --does not like coach --"different"--don't "know him anymore"---artistic --freshman in large public high school--decent student --oldest child in family of 3 children, mom and dad

In my opinion emo is a fad and sterotype these days. Kids just being sad for no reasons, and making big issues out of nothing.

Just because the teen quit a team, doesnt mean he's 'emo' it is probably because he doesnt like the coach.

If he's "different" thats normal, no one wants to be the same as everyone else.

Emo is a fad in itself, everyones trying to be different, but we werent the same to begin with, so its all so silly.

Emo is a term describing music.

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Hey guys,
ok I've hit a real low-point in life.
I've already tried killing myself, and that's not it..it's over the stupidest thing ever; looks. I hate myself so much. I'd do anything to be pretty, I've seriously begged my mom for plastic surgery 20 times a day for this whole year. I need to change. It's not that I care what others think cause they seem to think I'm pretty, it's myself, my inner-critic. I won't be happy until I change completely, but my mom made it clear plastic surgery is not an option, so what do I do? I don't remember the last time I was happy, seriously, every time I finally wake up happy, I look in the mirror..and all I see is: bulging stomach, big nose, hairy + manly face, disgusting face, short legs, unproportionate upper-body, tiny feet, weird ears, ugly + uneven skincolour, everything is just humiliating!! I hate myself sooo much, I just don't want to be me anymore, and please don't tell me to seek help or just accept who I am, I don't want to. I want to change. How though? What are some major things I can do to just completely change without plastic surgery?

Wow, hun, I feel so bad that you feel so low about yourself.
I can say I think you are beautiful, and I dont even know you. I dont believe that there are ugly people, everyone is pretty in their own unique way.
This may sound strange, but theres a rare disease that people want plastic surgury and they become addicted to it, have you talked to a guidence counsular or a doctor? Becuase it sounds serious - the wanting to kill yourself, and have plastic surgury.
You shouldnt be so critical of yourself, the key to being emotionally healthy is to lvoe yourself, you can fix your stomache by exercising and eating healthy, I'm sure your face is just fine, natural is so much better than plastic surgury

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my computer only downloads AIM Triton and I HATE it. I tried to download the regular AIM & it won't work. It says it's installing, but when it finishes, it doesn't appear anywhere. How can I download regular AIM?

I'm pretty sure you cant download the old aim anymore. They upgraded it, so most people will have the new aim, with new features, that you can only use to talk to people with the new one.

You know?
sorry if that didnt help much,
I didnt like the new aim that much either at first, but its actually quite fun, once you get used to it :}

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there is this guy that i really like and we've been friends for almost 3 years. but i made the stupid mistake of telling him that i liked him and he said he just didnt like me like that. but i asked one of my other guy friends if he thought the kid liked me and he said the kid was undecided, like stuck between me and another girl. But i still like him, i cant help it.
Also on top of that my grandfather is really really sick, so i'm worried about him.
And lately my mom and i hav been fighting like dogs.
And everyday this week atleast one of my freinds hav been mad at me for something.

plez help!!!
i rate well :)
steph~~

Aw hun.
I am so so sorry that your guy friend doesnt like you like that, rejection always hurts.
I hope the relationship isnt weird between you two now. Atleast you tried though, dont worry though, you'll find someone.

I'm also sorry about your grandfather, prayer is the best solution, (if your religious) God is always there to listen, and take some of the guilt and pain away.

You probably are aruging more with your mom, because of all the stress thats happening in your life at the moment, just take a deep breath, and try to relax.. I know thats hard to do, but what I have found that works the best is to go talk to a school counsular, or a therapist.
I go to see a counsular every week.
It helps me alot, takes stress off my shoulders.

I'm so very sorry that everyday one of your friends has been mad at you, thats so horrible, I would be lost without my friends, but you seem to just be having a bad week, I'll pray for you steph, and I hope all gets better.
Let me know if you need anymore help..

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