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idk...friends.
Weird situation here.
Or is it a situation at all?
I'm 13, and a girl, and this year I started at a new school. Our grade is reallly small, and there are 2 kind of...defined groups of girls. One is the preps, who get a lot more attention. The other group, which I'm pretty much in, can't really have a name, or label, because we're all really different.
Ok so at lunch today, it was so annoying, they don't talk. And it's not like they're just not talking to me, I know they're not mad, they invite me to their houses a lot- they just don't talk to eachother. No one is mad or anything, it's almost like they have nothing to say. They're not into fashion, or music, celebrity stuff, school, any other girl stuff, or any other HUMAN stuff. It's like they never watch the news, either. There is a never ending list of things to talk about in this world! They just don't say a word. When I start a conversation about ANYTHING, all I get is a "uh huh" or "mmhm".
I don't really think these are my friends...I mean we never do anything friends do. We've had like 5 sleepovers, and they were all really boring...to me at least...like I've never been mean to any of them. I'm not really sure if they like me. I am, what you could call "acquaintances" with the other group of girls, but not real friends. And I can't be friends with them because I'm just not preppy and I would never fit in with them. Even though I hear them talking about stuff and doing stuff I would always do.
I'm really confused because I've always had a best friend at school...and now I don't. And I really hate it, and I don't know what to do. If you read all this or you can help thank you so much...
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Making friends (and at a new school) is always kind of hard. It takes guts to put yourself out there for the first time and make your presence known to people. What I would do is talk to these "preppy" girls a little more, maybe in classes or inbetween classes. If they talk about and do things that you like to do, then you probably will fit in with them. Clothes, hair, and makeup isn't what it's ALL about. If they're any kind of girls who you would want to be friends with, then they'll see how much you have in common and ask you to join them for a get-together or sleepover or something. Just get a little more open with them about who you are every time you talk to them. Be yourself! Maybe if you even mention how you're having trouble making close friends (but don't lay on some sob story) they'll invite you out -- people actually LIKE being nice to the new girl sometimes.
Best of luck!
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ok what you do is find a friend that has something i common with you.. its okay if u dont have anything in common because she can turn out to be a really kool friend. and just make conversation with people... and like try to adapt to different type of people... well good luck on having a bestfriend..
well just because you dont have any friends in your grade that doesnt mean you still cant have friends.. try to be friends with someone in a higher grade than you make friends everywhere you go it dont matter how you look it matters if you are looking lonely its okay just make friends everywhere
so theres no one to meet outside your school?
we'll how about you get into some activities and meeet other young girls like you you can be in volleyball, academics, and other things good friends aren't just going to be in your school im the same age as you i met people outside my school also.. so try doing that it will come back to you.
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Sit with the preppy girls sometimes...talk to them...you dont have to dress like them or "be" like them...just be your interesting, informed self and i bet you will find that you "fit in" with them in no time.
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Aww, that sucks, I always have a best friend in every grade, but maybe you should break out of those two sterotyped groups,
and try to make friends with other people,
not neccasarily the 'popular' or 'geeks' (i hate labels..) but just take the time to get to know people in your classes at your tables, or that sit next to you you know?
Join clubs, or after school activitys, you'll meet new people :)
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