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Not so...good looking
This might sound a little conceited but I'm really not.
I've always gotten complements from guys, girls, family, and friends about my looks and them telling me that I'm pretty/hot/gorgeous/cute/etc.
And well, it seems like most guys just want to go out with me because of my looks. I'm going on a date with this guy I like this Friday and today I was talking to him when he said "I'm really excited about this weekend you're so hot and I finally have a chance with you"
That just kind of got me upset because what if my past dates/boyfriends only dated me because of looks?
Is it weird that sometimes I wish that I didn't look the way I do?
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(this really do sound concieted) but anyway you cant think about the past you can think about the future. so dont worry about it just worry about looking damn good on your date (lol)
jazzy**
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It's definately okay to wish you looked differently. Be happy, your pretty. I understand you want more than that too, which is good. It shows you care about more than just a pretty face. When you go out with guys, just make sure your personality shines through, and if you see them using you as just an object to show off, like some sort of model, they're not worth your time. Hope this helps.
-cindy <3
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It's not weird at all! There are pros and cons about every situation that we deal with in life -- we just have to decide how we are going to deal with it. Pretty people can date almost anyone they want...but they can't always tell the intentions of the pursuer. Homely people may not get hit on very often, but they do know when a relationship is for real. You could also make a contrast between rich and poor, young and old, brunette and blonde...it's just a different situation for everyone.
This guy seems to be saying things that might not go along with what you are looking for in a guy, though. If I were you I would probably go out on this date with him Friday, then afterwards let him down slowly and easily, telling him you don't have the same feelings for him.
And by the way, I think you are very mature for being concerned about this. Looks aren't everything, and I'm glad you realize that.
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Let's be honest, you're always attracted to someone for the way they look before anything else.
But it's the mental part that matters most in a relationship. For a first date, maybe it's the looks that brought him in. But if he's serious about it, then he's serious about you too.
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Alright, I know how you feel. First of all, you should remember that you are lucky to be attractive, and you are lucky that you can pick out a guy at will.
I learned from some of my guy friends that they are first attracted by looks (I know that sounds a littttllee trashy but hey, they're guys). Then when they really meet the girl, they are glad that they did and they think she's really cool and down to earth.
Outside features could have been a factor to why guys have dated you but they wouldn't have truely enjoyed going out with you if they didn't know your some of your personality. But it really depends on what kind of guy it is.
If you want to know if he's only dating you for looks, have a friend casually bring it up and ask him why he likes you. If he only says you're hot, chances are he's not in for a deep relationship. Make sure he mentions a few things about the way you act or laugh, not just your hair or nails.
Have fun =)
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Well I know your not conceited and i know this is hard for you, and some probably did date you for your looks, but it doesnt mean that EVERYONE did it because of that. Beauty gets the attention, and personality gets the heart. If you are a great person and had gotten along well with some of the guys than they could have very much liked you for you. Sometime when your alone with your current boyfriend, look at him, be serious, and tell him how you feel. Tell him that you like him for more than how he looks and that you hope he likes you for more than your looks, ask him seriously and ask him what he likes about you. Other than being hot or whatever. Maybe he should know that you would rather be beautiful than hott and that at the end of your conversation you make sure he knows how much you care about your relationship and that you just wanna make it last.
hope i helped
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