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Boyfriends controlling mother
I'm 20yrs old and my boyfriend is 21 our relationship is good the only problem is his mother. She calls him everyday whenever we go out she comes and finds us When i visit him at his house she comes over and tells me she will have me physically removed. How do I get him to stand up to her and be a man? She hates me but i think she would hate any girl. He's in college and his parents pay for it so they say that whatever he does is their business even our relationship. He's cowed by his parents. We left for 2 days to get away from them and his mom called private investiagtors to find us. I love him a lot and i want to stay with him i just don't know what to do and why they hate me.
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I feel like I can give you good, productive advice on this one, because I've been through it with my husband (although my mother-in-law never hired a P.I. to find us).
Nothing will change until your boyfriend stands up for himself. Dealing with his mother, is like dealing with a child. Your boyfriend allows her to be like this. Trust me, she will continue to do so until there are consequences to her actions.
My husband finally told his mother that until she started to respect the fact that he is a grown man with his own family, and can make his own decisions, he would have nothing to do with her.
In our case that was enough to make her sit back and realize what she was doing. It did stop for the most part...she still gets her two cents in at times, but things have improved immensely.
It really is up to your boyfriend to make this stop. If he is not willing to stand up and say STOP, then you may want to consider the fact that you will live like this for as long as you two are together.
Good luck, and let your boyfriend know that you will support him through a possible conflict with his mother.
Brenda
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hey, jeeze shes harsh. have a tlak wiht the both of them if its possible. if not then have a talk wiht your guy and tell him that you cant stand this. also that you love him, but you dont know if you can go through with this. cait♥
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Okay, wow.. private investigators?
Goodness, this is out of hand, his mother really is too attatched to her son.
He is 21, and he doesnt have to be under authority to her, but it does give her leavage that she pays for his college..
But you need to talk to your boyfriend about the situation, ask him what hes going to do about his mom, because you cant go on with this any longer. Tell him he really needs to do something, or your relationship will cease to exist, now i know you realize that you love him a lot and dont intend on breaking up with him, but he needs to know that if he cant stand up to his mom, then things between you guys wont probably be easy..
Hope I helped.
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WOW!!!!!!!!your boyfriend is a mamas boy..and if he is the only child...his parents will never let him go until he become a man or when is parents die...no hard feelings...but your boyfriend need to grow up..he need to stand up to his parents..because his parents won't live forever..and the reason why they hate you is probably you takeing they son away from them and they mad..don't mind them...okay..tell me what happen...HOLLA
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