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I get angry and scream and hurt myself, and it's hard to con
I get angry a lot now...for many reasons...I scream at my dad. Like today, just now, I woke up late, which puts me off schedule, which made me mad, so I started screaming, then I cut myself on my wooden drawer, and I slammed my foot down so hard, that I now have a bruise on my heel. I am afraid I'll go off like this on my friends, and they'll all leave me. What I need is someone to love me unconditionally, and someone to help me stop getting angry; At least that's what I think. Please help! I feel embarrassed about this, and am afraid I embarrass my dad and maybe will embarrass my friends...
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I admire you! I can never scream at people! When evr I'm mad, I mean really mad, sad, angry, dissapopinted or whatever I keep it inside and put o a fake smile! Every one says I am amazing for awlays smiling and being happy but the truth is that I am only darkness inside. I want to be more like you! Serioulsy, it's not a bad thing! I ssat it's for the good to scream and let you emotions out!
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I get angry too! Especially when I wake up late or stuff like that! I know exactly how that feels.
Sounds like you had a bad day today, I'm sorry hun!
When you say you need someone to love you unconditionally .. do you mean like a boyfriend/girlfriend? Well when you feel that you need someone like that, thats not healthy, beacuse it can cause you to get clingy to the guy/girl, and can cause some major emotional damage, if you know what I mean.
First you need to find the "why" you are angry, what makes you angry? Look for the main cause. Then you need to make the choice of to not get angry over little things, like being late, no one likes change, and thats why we get angry, but if you dont want to embarss your dad or friends, make the choice in your head that you will try to control your feelings.
If you cant, try anger management classes, or talking to a school counsular, I recomend that a lot (talking to a school counsular) because it worked so great for me! Its really releiving to be able to tell someone your problems and for them to listen and talk to you.
hope things get better.
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From what I read it is not clear if you are injuring yourself on purpose, or if it is an accidentally injury as a result of your anger. If you are self-injury on purpose, I would highly recommend talking it over with your parents, school counselor, or family doctor.
You are experiencing some difficulty with controlling your emotions. You did not state your age, but I am guessing somewhere between 13 and 16? Around this age you are going through massive hormonal and other physical / psychological changes. It is not at all uncommon for people going through this difficult time to experience issues just like you are describing. A few methods in anger control may help you get through this time in the short term. A very good link for this is: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
On the web page listed above you will find several metods of dealing with anger. I am going to copy and paste some of it here, but I would recommend going to the page and read it in its entirety:
*“Most of the anger management techniques are designed to achieve one or more of the above four types of control. Here are some of the commonly known anger-control techniques:
· Relaxation - Breathing exercise, muscle relaxation, imagery, etc.
· Cognitive reframing - Changing the way we think about the situation
· Humor - Seeing the humorous side of a bad situation
· Talking to someone - Talking about your problem and feelings
· Redirecting your anger - Hitting a pillow or throwing darts
· Changing your situation - Changing your job or moving to a different place
· Assertive training - Learning to assert yourself and communicate your feelings
· Problem-solving - Trying to resolve the problem that makes you angry “
* Quoted from Paul T. P. Wong, Ph.D. in his artice on the above web site.
I would like for you to remember that this internal turmoil is not permanent, and probably not particularly long term. Don’t let it wreck your life with anxiety and fear of “what if” type scenarios.
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You have anger issues. First of all, you should try your hardest to stop hurting yourself. It's very dangerous. Also, you should maybe look into Anger Management, which I think is probably the best way to go. Hope this helps!
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ok, I'm really sorry to say this, but plain and simple- you have anger issues. At least they are cureable. Don't hurt yourself, that only works for people that can control themselves with something sharp. You said you get angry for many reasons, well try getting rid of those reasons. You wouldn't have to worry about waking up late if you didnt have a schedule. Get a stress ball. If you feel embarassed to buy one infront of your friends or family, you can make a home made one by filling a balloon with flour and tying it. When you get mad, literally count down in your head from 10 to 1 and take deep breaths. Also meditate once a day for a few minutes, even right when your lying in bed going to sleep. If a thought comes to your head, think about it for a quick second then push it away. Count your breaths and breath slow.
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-brittany
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Remember, anger is a choice. Being late is annoying, but not a reason to become really mad!Parents typically love their children unconditionally, but other people usually won't. After all, if someone were angry at you all the time would you put up with it? Uncontrolled frequent anger is sure to drive people away. What I think is great though, is that you realize you have a problem and are willing to fix it. That's very positive in my opinion.
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Hello,
Perhaps, you should try to redirect your anger into something more productive. When you feel upset try to do something you like. If that doesn't work you should try to talk to your parents about this. They are the people who would be able to help you the most- and is like to be the people who would love you unconditionally.
Also, try not to be embarrased. You have to know that every goes through their own little tantrums. For the anger you feel, I'd also suggest meditation, writing down your thoughts and feelings, and try talking it out. You may not beleive it but it works. I'm sure that your parents would be willing to listen and help you.
Akiko-san
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