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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.

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Here is my Recommended Columnist of the Decade for the 2020s:
Laura!

--Jack

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oakyy so i liked this guy in october but i didnt really talk to him then i couldnt ever work up the courage to talk to him so i just thought i should move on and i dated a couple people but i know now that dating those people was just a cover up because i still like him now and were both in grade nine and going to different schools last year and there are only like 10 school days left , i only like this guy a little bit so i thuoght i would jusdt try to ignore it untill summer so i would never see him again but my friend and his girl friend ( who is also my friend)wanted me to sit by him at supper after grad so they got a table of 4 and it was my friend and her bf then me and my crush and we all talked a little then after we went out side to take pictures and my crush doesnt think i still like him and neither do my freind and her bf. but there still trying to set us up just for fun so first there was a picture with us four and another girl and he was directed to stand by me and put his arm around me which he did after some ... perswasion,, so then the other girl left and it looked llike 2 couples but he didnt have him hand around me and my friend forced him tooo and then we left. but i like him alot and tere are only 10 mare school days left so what do i do!! do i try to ignore it or do i tell him??? and member we dont talk like annyy .. sometimes a little

If you don't talk at all, that's probably the best place to start.

You really shouldn't have a relationship with someone until you have good communication with them; so not talking "like annyy" isn't good.

If after you've started having meaningful conversations with him, then maybe you should try dating.

--Jack
(17/m)

i need everyones opinion. i have seen commercials about proactive, clean&clear, and skin Id.

if anyone has tried any of these, can you please tell me which one works best? just opinionated answers will suffice. if you actually know which ones work better, but havent tried them, thats fine too.

thanks so much!

Proactiv sucks. It made me break out with a lot of small acne around my chin.

It wasn't worth the money, at all.

Your best bet is to see your doctor or a dermatologist and get a prescription for acne medication.

--Jack
(17/m)

15/F

I dont have bad acne just REALLY bad blackheads on my chin and nose ; Im using differin and its making these bumbs like all over my chin . And its making my skin peel. If anyone has used this product can you tell me what I should do ; should I continue using it ? Or find another product ? And if it works how long does it take till me blackheads are gone ?

And also ; I read about this blackhead treatment ProNexin if anyone has used this let me know what kind of results you got from this productt.

Thanksss.

If it's making you break out more, and it's irritating your skin, stop using it.

Here's some general acne/blackhead advice from me:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=507367

--Jack
(17/m)

is it true that if you can tie a cherry stem in your mouth your a good kisser? or is that just a myth? can you still be a good kisser if you cant tie one? how can i be able to tie them? please help thankyou!

It's a myth.

It just means you're able to tie a knot with your tongue. It doesn't mean you're a good kisser. XD

--Jack
(17/m)

I am 13 and want to have sex with my girlfriend. She said that she is ready. Should I do it. And it is legal i searched it, the legal age is 13. Should Ii avoid the vagina because of STD's. Please Help!!!!!!!

No, you should to it.
It is NOT legal in the U.S.

Yes, you should avoid sex because of STDs.

--Jack
(17/m)

are nutri-grain bars and granola bars a healthly breakfast/ lunch

They are PART of a healthy breakfast/lunch.

Try having a piece of fruit at breakfast, and whole grain cereal with low-fat milk. Orange juice is good, too.

For lunch, have a sandwich, some juice, fruits and veggies, and maybe some trail mix?

--Jack
(17/m)

I keep reading about how raisins are so healthy and raisins help you lose water weight and blah blah blah but what about grapes. I never hear about grapes other than there healthy...duh there a fruit. Are grapes not good diet foods? Cause I really dont like raisins but I love grapes.

I know, random fact, that grapes cause bloating. XD

But other than that, they're both pretty healthy for you. And what Kerry said below is true, too.

If in doubt, eat both! =]

--Jack
(17/m)

I was viewing my unofficial transcript online for my dual enrollment courses, and below my acadmeic standing it said "Merit List"

Before it just said "Good Standing", but now it has both. What does "Merit List" mean?

Merit List probably means you have an excellent GPA.

Anything with "Merit" in it is most likely a good thing. =]

--Jack
(17/m)

if chicken come from a egg.. then that mean if i have egg allgery that mean i am allergic chicken meat?

Not necessarily, but it's probably worth getting checked out by a doctor.

--Jack
(17/m)

13/m
ok im going out with this girl who is really just.. awesome and great to be with but in class today this annoying stuck up rich kid was flirting with her alot he doesnt know were going out cause i dont really want him to know cause then he'll get all awww those 2 are goin out and it'll get really annoying cause he's done it once to me before and he wouldn't shut up about it and yea... i was getting really jealous from it cause she was laughing and it looked like she was enjoying it so how can i flirt with her, like make her laugh and stuff so i dont feel as jealous
thanks alot

Here's some tips:

1. Smile- at all times.
2. Touch her- but not sexually. Like touch her shoulders or her hands.
3. Look into her eyes.
4. Compliment her.
5. Listen when she talks to you.
6. Just.. be flirty.

She IS your girlfriend, after all. =]

--Jack
(17/m)

Is it bad to do stuff with family members...brothers, cousins, etc.

Is this serious?

Yes, it is bad.

--Jack
(17/m)

okay so we broke up like a little over a month ago and i've been talking to his sister and she says that he has no social life since we broke up, and he's been being mean to his friends and stuff and he was doing better with me (he had a social life with my friends-guys&girls too but now they kinda don't like him cuz he dumped me). the last month while we were dating he would lie to me and tell me "his mom wouldn't let him go out" or "he had homework" and he never used to do this for like the first 6 months we were together. she says hes lazy but he still likes me. i guess what i'm saying is that i miss who he used to be...we were planning on hanging out when school is over, so my question is, do you think i can get him back the way he used to be during the first 6 months? how? things were perfect last summer and i want them to be this summer too. and please don't tell me to just move on, if worst comes to worst i know that i can. i just want to give this a shot because i do miss who he was. thanks so much. 17/f hes 17.

I agree that you should talk to him.

If he's willing to change, he'll change. But, there's not much you can do, unfortunately.

You could try hanging out with him, and maybe he'll be less uptight if you're not dating. Try new things you never tried while dating [like bowling or bike riding?].

--Jack
(17/m)

I'm 20 and my mother passed away 5 years ago from breast cancer so breast cancer definitely runs in the family (I heard it was genetic).

I have a few lumps on one breast that don't feel right and I'm afraid that it is cancerous tumors inside my breast tissue. I don't have money to go to billions of doctors just for breast cancer screenings. I heard there are places that you can go that will freely test you for breast cancer. Does anyone know where they are or what the organizations who do free breast cancer screenings are called?

http://findahealthcenter.hrsa.gov/

Maybe a Health Clinic can do this? I'm not quite sure, but it's worth a shot.

--Jack
(17/m)

13/m
OK so last Thursday i went to the movies with my girlfriend and another one of her friends and i asked her if she wanted to do something again this weekend but im not sure if she wants to go to the movies again so what are some things we could do. we live in a small city but not anything with huge skyscrapers and like 10 giant shopping centers just one small one which sucks cause theres hardly anything to do.
so im looking for just any help at all thanks alot

Go to the park.
Go get ice cream.
Go swimming.
Ride your bikes around town.
Watch a movie at home.

Sometimes the best things in life really ARE free! =]

--Jack
(17/m)

What are your top 5 favorite songs? I'm looking for new music to try :)

My top five songs are:

1. So Much Love- The Rocket Summer
2. Who I Am Hates Who I've Been- Relient K
3. Dance Dance- Fall Out Boy
4. You Found Me- The Fray
5. Dark Blue- Jack's Mannequin

Though I strongly suggest all of Relient K's and The Rocket Summer's songs. They are amazing.

--Jack
(17/m)

*P.S.* Rate my friend, Laura [LOL_x0x]

=]

I am a 52-year-old woman married to a 54-year-old man. Last year we "semi-retired" from well-paying corporate jobs to become long-haul truck drivers. The intent was to see the country, spend time together, and sock a lot of $$ into our retirement fund. Over the course of the past year my husband has stopped bathing, dental care, etc. He is attractive, witty and the love of my life, however, I am finding it revolting to be near him and he thinks it's my problem. Am I missing something here???

Hmm. Maybe he let himself go without realizing it.

Talk to him- he IS your husband, after all, so you two should be able to have good communication.

Ask him to at least be courteous and to put on deodorant and to brush his teeth- it's common courtesy.

--Jack
(17/m)

its starting to get hot and I wanna start working out again but I dont have time to be outside at night or morning to work out when its cooler and I dont have money for the gym whats some good working out type of things I can do indoors?

If your dad has weights, you could do weight training. You could do sit-ups, curl-ups, push-ups, etc. indoors just as easily.

If you wanted to run this summer, try waiting for cool days to run. Keep yourself up-to-date on the weather/temperature, and try to find days where it's in the mid-60s.

--Jack
(17/m)

so i want to be a sex therapist when i grow up, so what would i have to major in to do so?

Psychology is probably your best bet, though I'm not a college counselor.

Talk to your high school counselor or your college counselor, depending on how old you are at the moment.

--Jack
(17/m)

I haven't had a boyfriend for 2 years since my last big break up. A few hook ups here and there, but nothing serious with anyone I really liked. Well, things are progressing with a crush I've had for years. We were cuddling on the couch last night, and my problem is that I haven't stopped thinking about him all day. I promised myself I wouldn't, but I texted him this afternoon and asked him to hang out again tonight. I don't want to rush things and ruin everything. How do I keep myself from overwhelming him too quickly?

I certainly don't think you're rushing into anything. Hanging out is OK! It's perfectly fine.

If you're worried about taking things too fast, just limit yourself to how often you hang out, and to what you do when you hang out.

But hanging out and cuddling definitely isn't rushing anything.

--Jack
(17/m)

this guy, A, and my mother recently reconnected from high school together. (theyre in their 40s now.)
hes always here, hes become close with our entire family to sleep over here on our couch, but almost every day when i come home from school, his truck is in our driveway. him and my mother used to date when they were in high school. she said he was her first love. she only does things she normally doesnt do when he's around, like, go to the beach, order in pizza, or ride his fcking motorcycle. hes a nice guy, im not denying it, but its just that this connection bothers me because my dad is supposed to be the only guy in my moms life (.. in my point of view.) hes not the jealous type, and he knows theyre friends, but it just bothers me. i dont want to end up with the parents with the cheating mother and the depressed father. i love my dad and i dont want him to be third wheel all the time wiht my mother and A.
what do you think of this..? am i overreacting, are they just friends, ?

I would say that your worries are with good intentions, but I wouldn't get too worried just yet. She hasn't given you any reason to believe she's cheating on your father, so there's nothing wrong as of now.

However, if you have GOOD reason to believe she is getting involved with him, talk to your dad and let him know your reasons, so maybe he can look out for himself.

--Jack
(17/m)

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