about

My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza

advice

So, i was the rebound girl for this boy, and he left me for a girl and now he has a girlfriend...and i still like him. How do i get him to know i still like him and that things can be different between us

If he left you for someone else it probablly means that he doesn't want to be with you. I'm not saying that to be rude but it's not worth it. You shouldn't try to change things between him and his girlfriend. That's just selfish and stupid. Honestly, you should just move on. You can find a guy that will actually be there for you instead of playing you & like you.

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What do you do when your 30-day trial to Paintshop Pro expires?

I had it once but i deleted it because i didnt knwo who to use it, i dont get all the "brushes" and stuff =/

but everyone seems to make such cute pictures with it. i feel so stupid, because people always go to me for computer stuff!

When your trial expires, delete it. You can't use it anymore. Also, if you had it before, you can't download it again & have another trial.


You don't need brushes to make your pictures cute. You just have to download cute fonts that have images. It's difficult to explain how to use it thought but like I said, just play around with it.

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Hey, Teza! ♥ I was wondering, what Photoshop program you have and if you have any websites [or anything really] on how to work the darn thing. I can't seem to figure ANYTHING out.

I actually don't use Photoshop. I use a program similar to that, [ Paintshop Pro ] I actually like it better & it's easier for me. I don't have any websites that you can learn how to use. I actually learn it on my own. Just play around with it and try things out. You can't really mess anything up. If you need to know something else about it, let me know.

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f/14
okay i have a bf, and we've been going out for like 3 months and we like each other, not love nothing serious. and i started to not like him anymore as much cause hes at another school and a year apart (though we live close) and we never see each other and he never calls me or stuff, we basically talk online only like once a day. so i told him a super big secrect of mine that i had sex before, and like ive told my 3 best friends and him. and the guy i did it with was like the love of my life and i went through alot with him, and if he told me nevre to tell anyone (basically in a nut shell i was like used, broken hearted, used again, and again). so i told my bf now and i want to break up with him, were still going to be friends we promised, but i dont want him knowing. we havent talked about it alot but i feel like i should just say i was lieing aand trying to look experianced. i know i will make a ass out of myself but i feel thats the only way. i really donkt know what to do?

Who exactly don't you want to know? If you can trust your [ boyfriend ] as a friend, don't lie to him and tell him otherwise. It will make you look bad but he might think that you lied to him about other things. Ask if he would just keep his mouth shut and hopefully he won't spread the word around. Telling him a big thing like that only after dating 3 months wasn't the smartest thing, but you can't take it back. Just wait and see what happens but I'm not going to try and stop you from doing what you want. If you think that telling him you lied is the best thing for you, then do so. Good luck.

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what is the box that i put the text (thats in the box)??
im veryy lost.
usually good with html stuff.
lol. please help?

What are you talking about? Be more specific & then I'll try to help you.

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okay,here is the scenario

i met this gal on the net,so what happens is that it is a chatroom,right,and we chat and soon find that we share the same interest and all that.we did not have cyber sex and it was just pure talk,later she sent me her photo and her msn.we soon had a great chat,but she has never seen me before.she then confessed her feelings to me on one night so here's my question:

1)does it count as love when a gal says she loves you when she has never seen you before,but loves your personality,chatting with you and everything else.

don't ask why i did not sent her my pic yet,i'm working on it,but i just wanna ask if it counts as love or not till this point where she doesn't know how i look like but likes my personality and other stuff.

It's not love. This girl is so caught up in excitment that she is saying that she loves you. She loves your personality and everything else, but it's not real love.

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on facebook what does it mean to "poke someone?"

When you poke someone they can see your profile for about a month. You might not have them added as a friend so it just works that way.

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16/f

okay well me and my bf have been going out for 8 months and day before yesterday i spent the night with my friend but he thought i was going to cheat on him or lie to him about something well, later on that nite i told my bf that i was gonna get ymy phone charger from him then go back to her house well instead me and my friends went to a party. my bf found out this was around 2 in the morning well my bf found out but played it off like he had no idea but there was a couple guys there that knew him and called him but after the party i went over to his house and spent the nite over there and talked well we're still together but he is still a little wierd around and i understand he cant trust me anymore but someone help how should i get things to the way they were before.. i rate high!!

Getting his trust back won't be that easy. It's going to take some time but it's not like you did anything really bad to hurt him. If he really liked you he would understand and just get through it, and over it. You need to talk to him. Explain to him why you did it and everything that happened. I know that it might not be a big deal, but he deserves to know. If he's still a little mad about the situation just give it some time. He'll get over it eventually but just don't do anything like that again to hurt him even if it wasn't your intention.

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When did ya'll start having sex? What's the average age that people become sexually active?
Thankss

The average afte that people become sexually active is during the teenage years. A lot of my friends, 14-up have done things like that so I'd say 14-16. Not all girls go on the pill. Some can't get it but if you don't, you always need to wear protection. A lot of girls also use the pill for their periods & it clears up acne. I know a friend that uses the pill and it worked for her.

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So there is this guy I like... a lot. He maks me happy, laugh, feel good about myself and i can be 100% myself when i am with him. But the thing is.. he is a couple years older than me and he thinks i am inmature and too young for him... (were only 2 years apart) and i like him a lot.. and he used to like me... untill he realized i was young.... but age is nothing but a number... what can i do to show him i am mature and i am not too young and that i like him a lot and want to be with him??

any advise will help..

i cant keep my eyes off him him and i cant get him out of my head.

It seems like he already has his mind made up. You can't change the fact that you're younger and you shouldn't do anything to prove that you're not immature. If he really liked you, he would of taken the time to actually get to know you. It's hard to understand that because you really like him, but guys like that turn out to be jerks. Guys like him are embarassed about what their friends might think and he's not worth it.

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Hey,
What does it feel like when your drunk?
I know that's kind of a wierd question, but I'm just curious.

Thank you!

Wow.. well people can feel a lot of things when they're drunk. Personally, I feel nothing. I don't feel anything when I fall or anything & it's just one of those feelings I can't explain unless you've been there. I'm not saying that you should get drunk and expiriance it but you won't feel so good the next day.

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Iam a girl, and i am 12 years old. Ok, so there is a certain girl, my ex-friend. Lets just call her girl 1. Then there is my best friend. Lets call her girl 2. Me and girl 2 have been friends for 8 years, and now girl 1 is in the picture. I was friends with girl 1 at first, but then I found out the things she said about me behind my back. Here's the problem , though. Girl 2 is still one of girl 1's best friends!!! What can I do to change that, and still maintain my moral fiber?

You shouldn't do anything to change that. Your best friend can be friends with anyone she wants to and just because you & girl 1 aren't friends anymore, doesn't mean your best friend shouldn't eather. If you would do that, then you're just being selfish. This whole "She said/he said" drama is so over rated. Do you for a fact know that she was saying stuff about you? It's unecesary drama that you guys are dealing with. Get over it and start over fresh. You guys don't have to become the best of friends but put the stupid arguments aside.

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if a boy draws a pcture of a heart with wings and it says will you be my valentine would he do that to a girlfriend or he likes somebody else help

A picture with a heart & wings doesn't really mean anything. It's sweet but he could do it to anyone. If he specificly gave it to you & asked you to be his valentine, he probablly likes you & he means it.

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Hi all. I'm soon to be interviewed regarding the link between drinking a lot, and taking sexual risks. This might mean going further than you wanted/planned, not using protection, etc - but only while you've been drinking.

My interview is going to be specifically about teenagers, so I thought I would ask the younger people on here for their input. Do you think there is a link? How strong do you think it is?

Thanks for any help you can give.

Personally, I do think that there is a link between alchol & sexual behavior. Most teenagers can't control themselves when they are drinking and they do end up doing sexual things. I also don't think that alchol should be an excuse why people still end up doing such things.

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ok, the other day i was speaking to my cousins mate online (him and my cousin are 13 im 14) and my cousin's mate (alex) he gave me some boys email address and said that he was in his class at school so i added him and he came online and said who is this blah blah blah...
anyway we got to talking and i said who i was nd that nd he said i think i know you send me a pic of you so we swapped pics etc. and i thought he was cute, but then i thought and i remembered he's like a year younger than me but i keep lookin at his pic and i just keep thinking "he is sooo cute" and it was right after he had seen my picture he was acting really nice.
But, he's a year younger than me, i dont really "know" him and im never guna meet him (he lives like half an hour away) but i think he's like really nice but all we'll ever do is talk on msn!!!
so, do i just keep on talking to him blah blah blah...or should i not talk 2 him as much bcoz i think that he more i talk 2 him, the more i might like him :S...i really dont know!!!

thanks for ANY answers
xxxx

I know that it's hard talking to someone that you'll never meet, but don't just give up. You never know, you might actually get to meet him once. Just because you guys won't hang out anytime soon, doesn't mean you should just stop talking to him. It wouldn't be fair. You have to keep telling yourself that you guys can only be friends and maybe that would motivate you not to fall for him. It worked for me. You just have to accept it & understand.

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Do guys get pleasure from dry sex?
Because it's not really direct contact with the vagina [inside] or using a hand [handjob]

Most guys would perfer the "real" thing but if they can't get it, they like it. It doesn't necceserally give them pleasure, but they enjoy it.

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Seriously is it. I always have trouble uploading a picture that isnt EVEN BIG! So once i found out i cant even show everyone wat i look like..I tried to write an about me section. And i wrote not alot..almost a paragraph and it only shows like 4 sentences?? WAT THE HECK IS UP WITH THAT. And dont say change the styles because trust me i already have. What do i do i really like answering peoples questions but my column stinks. Why does this site have to make everything so hard.

This site doesn't make anything hard. You're making it harded than it has to be. For your picture, it doesn't always let you upload it and you're not the only one with that problem. Go to tinypic.com or photobucket.com and upload it there. Copy & paste the code, & there ya go. When you want to type your "About me" section, make sure you don't have any codes or < 3 that in it. Also, it could be your computer because it always lets me & it works perfectly on mine.

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My friend is really nice but sometimes.. what she does .. it makes me mad.

We would make plans and then she would say she could pick me up. So i get ready and I'm all happy, I wait for a couple of hours and she never comes. Then I talk to her sister to see what's up and she's unaware of these plans.

She keeps doing this to me. Making plans and never following through.
What do I do?

That's really pathetic and rude. Why do you just let her walk all over you & let her do this to you? Tell her. Don't put up with it anymore because if you don't tell her she's going to keep doing this to you. Talk to her & explain how you feel. Next time, you make the plans & if she ditches you again, don't even plan to hang out with her. She might get mad at you, but who cares. She shouldn't treat you like that and you shouldn't put up with it.

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There are these really mean girls in my first people. I just started a new school last Wednesday and they were spitting stuff at me and calling me ugly and stuff. [btw i know i'm not ugly]. Anyways, they were being super nasty to me and I just kind of ignored it.
Another girl came in the next day, but she wasn't new, she was just absent the day before. I made friends with her and she told me they were being like that because I was sitting by a girl they hated, Tori. So, the next day I sit away from Tori and they are okay with me.
But now, it seems like they are planning something, or something like that. I was passing notes with the new friend [who's friends with them], and they asked her "is she scared of us?" and stuff and my new friend said "no, she just doesnt want yall treating her badly."
now, they wrote a note to me saying OHH YOU ARE SO AWESOME stuff like that.
so now i'm really scared, because my new "friend" wants me to hang out with her, but i'm afraid they are gonig to do something because they seem SOO fake.

so, two questions.
1. if they keep being mean to me, how do i handle it?
2. does it seem like they are doing something? or are trying to be nice?

please help, cuz i'm kinda scared.
thanks :\

Girls can be such bitches and it's hard to understand what we're all thinking. You know well enough not to trust those girls and be friends with them. Your new friend seems nice and just hang out with her. The reason that they hated you in the first place is really pathetic & so immature. If they keep being mean to you, ignore it like you have been. They know you're not scared of them and you have nothing to be scared about in the first place. I can't tell if they're actually planning something or not, but from the information that you gave us, it doesn't really seem like they would actually physically hurt you for a stupid reason like that. Just keep your eyes open and don't trust them.

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theres this guy l like...i really like him
but i dont know how to get close with him!
hes very cute and kinda popular...
we ride the same school bus and live in the same apartment so i thought itd be easy to close with him..
we talk to on myspace but we barely talk in reallife..
when i textmessage him he text me back but writes it really really....short..
i dont think hes interested in girls..
cuz he only hangs out with guys..
i know i should try to talk to him more but im too shy to do it..

so how can i get close with him??
thanks

You can't get close with him if you don't talk. If he doesn't talk to you first, you should start a conversation with him in person, not just over myspace. When he sends you short text messages, don't take it personally. He could be busy or he might not know what to say because you guys don't really talk. Ask him to hang out with your friends and his friends,.. together. Maybe then you guys could get to know each other better. Just be yourself and be flirty. Just make sure that you're not clingy because guys don't like that. Take it slow & see what happens.

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