about

My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.


ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

advice

15/f. I don't have a problem talking to guys. But I never seem to get asked out. Idk if it's a problem with how I act, or something. Any help?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=541093


From there:

First of all, I'm going to say the best way to impress somebody is to be yourself. I know that's it's so cliche, but it's honestly, the best tip I or anybody can give.

I mean, you don't want somebody to start liking you for the way you think THEY want you to act or talk or dress. Why would you want somebody to like you when you're not even being yourself?


Secondly, don't be shy! Just go up and talk to that boy/girl. Confidence is key. Strike up a conversation! Start it with something like, "I see you're wearing a Hit The Lights [or whatever band/sport's team, etc] shirt, are they your favorite?" Or, something like, "So I know we've never talked before, but you seem like a really cool person..."


So be yourself, and show that you're comfortable being just that. Be comfortable in your own skin, and chances are, you'll impress everybody.


Really, don't worry about it. You'll find an awesome guy one day.


-Laura (16-f)

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so my (first) boyfriend of about 2 months is suicidal... he tells me that he's really scared that he'll lose me--i dont even no why because-- and he loves me so much. he tells me that im like air-if he doesnt have me, he'll die. i really love him, and i would never want to lose him. I don't know whats gotten to him. please help, im desperate.

Have you told him he has nothing to worry about? I would definitely suggest sitting him down, just the two of you, and talking to him about it. Let him know that you feel the same way and that you never want to lose him, either. Maybe even make a list of all the things you love about him, just so that it gives him even more reassurance.


Other than that, I would tell his parents or a school counselor. This could become a bigger issue than you think, and it's not something you should try and tackle alone.


-Laura (16-f)

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im having my room re-done in purple.
so if you know of any purple room accessories such as a comforter, curtains, wall decor, stickers, bathroom stuff, etc, etc
please give me some links, i appreciate your help.
i dont have much luck googling for stuff like this.
i like anything sparkly, shiney, metallic, or royalish.

thanks :D

Here are some websites for you to check out:


http://www.pbteen.com/

http://www.bedbathandbeyond.com/nodePage.asp?order_num=-1&RN=14

http://www.target.com/Bed-Bath/b/ref=nav_t_spc_7_0/189-7929703-1780155?ie=UTF8&node=1041482

http://www.jcpenney.com/jcp/X3.aspx?DeptID=59474&CatID=59488&cm_mmc=Google-_-G_Bedding-_-G_Bedding_Teen-_-teen%20bedding


Good luck :)


-Laura (16-f)

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okayy so i really like this guy but im really really scared to talk to him so what are some tip on how to go up and talk to him with confidence and what do i talk about so it doesnt get awkard... thanks

loveboys

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=548311


From there:


1. Compliment them.
- If they're wearing a nice pair of shoes, or some cute jeans, tell them. Let them know you like their shoes, and then ask where they got them. After that, ask if they're comfortable or something. Don't be annoying about it, but take interest in the person you're talking to, and hopefully, chances are they'll show interest back.


2. Find something you have in common.
- If they're wearing a band shirt, and it's a band you like, tell them! For example, say they are wearing a Rocket Summer shirt, say to them, "I see you have on a Rocket Summer shirt, do you like his music?" Then, after they answer, tell them your opinion on the band/artist.


3. Talk about your surroundings/where you are.
- Say it's after class and the person next to you is getting up to leave. Walk out next to him/her and comment on the class. Say something like, "That was kind of an interesting lesson." or "Was it just me, or was that lecture kind of boring?" or, if you're sitting outside on a bench, and somebody is sitting next to you, make a comment about the weather or where you are.


4. Make a joke!
- There's no better way to make friends with somebody than to make them smile/laugh. BUT don't make a joke about another person, it will make you look bad AND potentially hurt another person's feelings.


-Laura (16-f)

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this is kind of a weird question and maybe it isnt even possible, i wouldnt know. but is there any natural ways to make my boobs bigger. i know thats a really awkward thing to ask but i feel like mine have gotten smaller or something..i dont even know. thanks for your help

I don't know where the other columnist's got their boob knowledge from, but there is no natural way to make your boobs bigger.


You're probably still young, and probably still have some growing left to do, so relax and don't worry about it :)


-Laura (16-f)

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I just got an iPod, and I'm realizing how much it costs to buy songs. It's so expensive, so I'm wondering, does everyone buy there songs like this and pay full price for each song? Everyone has so many songs but I don't see how because they're so expensive. I'm not looking for a way around this, I just want to know if the majority of people actually do it this way.

Usually, I send songs to my friends via AIM and have them send me some of their songs.


Or I buy some good songs and then have another friend buy some other songs we both want, burn them onto a CD and have my friend do the same, then swap.


-Laura (16-f)

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I love bands like Boys Like Girls, Angels and Airwaves, The Academy Is, 30 Seconds to Mars. I'm not sure if they're indie or alternative. Anyways, I'm looking for some other great bands like them. Any recommendations or a website that could help me out?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=532581


-Laura (16-f)

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So, I met my current girlfriend at work. After she got moved to another store, we decided to date, and I soon after quit working for the company all together. At her new store, she works overnight shifts which require her to be by herself with one other clerk employee from 12:30am until 8am. She has befriended one of the overnight clerks that she works with (there are only two) and this clerk is the only person she has made friends with at this new store.

My girlfriend and I have been together six months, and there is quite an age difference between us. The clerk is closer to my girfriend's age than I am, so that makes me insecure. She assures me all the time that she doesn't like this clerk in "that way" at all, but I still get nervous. The clerk is gay (as am I, and obviously, my girlfriend) so it does broaden the chances of something happening between the two of them.

My girlfriend has told me before that she has gone out to breakfast with Angela (the clerk), but at first she told me that she just went to breakfast then randomly told me a week or so later that it was with Angela. Angela has also come over to my girlfriend's place for breakfast and spent 3 hours there, after working by themselves for eight hours.

My girlfriend informed me the other day that Angela broke up with her girlfriend, so my girlfriend is going to take Angela to one of the local gay bars to "meet someone new".

My girlfriend has said before that she'd been worried about "gravitating towards someone else" because distance has been an issue between the two of us, and I have told her my discomfort with Angela and she said if it bothered me then she wouldn't hang out with her outside of work. (Sorry if this seems scattered, just trying to hit all the details.)

So, am I out of line in wanting to tell her that I don't want her going out to the bar with Angela? Am I out of line in being uncomfortable with the two of them being together outside of work, and even inside of work since they spend so long together by themselves (aside from the stray customers)? Help please.

First off, I think it's totally ok for you to be jealous/insecure in this situation. It's good that you've talked to your girlfriend about, and it's nice that she even offered to stop seeing Angela outside of work.


However, I don't think you should force her to do that. I think you should let her spend time with other people, especially since Angela needs somebody to comfort her and help her through her break up right now. And you mentioned that Angela if your girlfriend's only friend at the store, would you expect them to NOT become friends? I mean, how awkward and uncomfortable would it be if they spent the night at the store NOT talking or making any contact with one another?

Why not go WITH Angela and your girlfriend to the bar? I think that is a simple solution to an unnecessary problem :)


Other than that, why don't you start hanging out with them? Like I said above, you should let your girlfriend spend time with her, but why don't you ask if you can tag along every once in a while? This way, you're spending time with your girlfriend and she still gets to see Angela.


Another idea, is to maybe ask her to spend less time with Angela, but NOT cut off ties altogether? That's really all I have...


This is really something you and your girlfriend need to talk about, and solve yourselves, as I'm not in the relationship with you.


Good luck!


-Laura (16-f)

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my boyfriend just went to jail and is gonna be gone for 2 years..what are some sad songs that are about missing someone but also staying strong about it..country or r&b or anything is fine. thanks in advance

A Beautiful Mess: Jason Mraz.
All Again For You: We The Kings.
Amazing Because it is: The Almost.
Beauty In A Car Crash: Flight 409.
Before You Go: Flight 409.
*Between You and I: Every Avenue.
The Boy Who Blocked His Own Shot: Brand New.
Cute Without The "E": Taking Back Sunday.
Dare You To Move: Switchfoot.
Dead Leaves And The Dirty Ground: The White Stripes.
Dreaming With A Broken Heart: John Mayer.
Driving Away: Holiday Parade.
Emergency: Paramore.
*Giving Up: Ingrid Michaelson.
*The Golden State: Flight 409.
Gone So Young: Amber Pacific.
Hometown Glory: Adele.
Inevitable: Anberlin.
Iris: The Goo Goo Dolls.
Just Say You're Not Into It: Mayday Parade.
The Last Something That Meant Anything: Mayday Parade.
A Lesson in Charades: Asteria.
A Lonely September: Plain White T's.
*Miserable at Best: Mayday Parade.
Music Box: Thrice.
Northern Downpour: Panic at the Disco.
Nothing Left To Lose: Mat Kearney.
One-Man Drinking Games: Mayday Parade.
Pressure: Paramore.
*Remembering Sunday: All Time Low.
Rooftops: Lostprophets.
Say the Word: The Classic Crime.
*Slow Dancing In A Burning Room: John Mayer.
So Contagious: Acceptance.
Teardrops on My Guitar: Taylor Swift.
There Was No Thief: Relient k.
Three Cheers For Five Years: Mayday Parade.
Tired and Uninspired: My American Heart.
Until You're Over Me: Maroon 5.
*Up Against The Wall: Boys Like Girls.
You're Making It Come Alive: My Favorite Highway.
*You're Not Sorry: Taylor Swift.


-Laura (16-f)

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i have been asked to sing at a wedding!
i am only a young teen and have no idea what to sing.

They was like heyy do you wanna sing at my wedding;
you pick a song!
and i just do not know what to sing ?

any advice?
what song was at your wedding (if your married)
what songs do you want at your wedding ?

you get the jist ?
thankss ! xx

I'm only 16, but I want the song "You Be the Anchor..." by Mayday Parade played at my wedding. It's such a nice song and I love it.


Some other suggestions:
- The Way I Am: Ingrid Michaelson.
- If I Ain't Got You: Alicia Keys.
- Amazing: Josh Kelley.
- The Best Thing: Relient k.
- That's So You: The Rocket Summer.
- Bubbly: Colbie Calliat.
- Love Story: Taylor Swift.
- Shiver: Coldplay.
- You Found Me: The Fray.
- She Will be Loved: Maroon 5.
- Can't Help Falling in Love: Ingrid Michaelson.
- Somewhere Only we Know: Keane.


Good luck!


-Laura (16-f)

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whats some really great music thats like hip-hop, techno, dance, house,... maybe rock or something like that that has a good beat to dance to and gets you all pumped up and keeps you moving?
thanks :)

Let it Rock: Kevin Rudolf.
Just Dance: Lady Gaga.
A Wolf in Sheep's Clothing: This Providence.
Don't Be So Hard: The Audition.
Love Lockdown: Kanye West.
Control: Metro Station.
Jamie All Over: Mayday Parade.
Discotech: Young Love.
Hot n Cold: Katy Perry.
Take it Home: The White Tie Affair.
Lust Be a Lady: A Kidnap in Color.
Closer: Ne-Yo.
Wish We Were Older: Metro Station.
Guilty Pleasure: Cobra Starship.
Where Were You?: Every Avenue.
Dear Maria, Count Me In: All Time Low.
Black Cat: Mayday Parade.
So What: Pink.


If you need more, let me know :)


-Laura (16-f)

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I'm thirteen years old. My cousin is a vegitarian and I really want to be one. How would I tell my parents I want to be one?
Also what are some foods and things i do to stay healthy?


Also what exacly is peta?



thanks in advance

First off, it's great that you're interested in becoming a vegetarian. I myself have been a vegetarian on and off for almost a year now (off because I'm dangerously close to becoming anemic and my doctor has advised me to eat meat in order to avoid this but that's a whole nother story itself...)


As far as telling your parents, I think just sitting down with them and telling them about your decision is your best bet. Hopefully, they'll be supportive of your decision and will help you choose vegetarian foods.


Here are a few really good websites I found as far as what to eat to make up for the lack of meat in your diet:
http://www.llu.edu/llu/nutrition/vegguide.html
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/vegetarian-diet/HQ01596
http://www.brown.edu/Student_Services/Health_Services/Health_Education/nutrition/veg.htm


Anywho, PETA is an animal rights group (People for Ethical Treatment of Animals). Speaking of PETA, their website is amazing and has a lot of facts and awesome information:


http://www.peta2.com/



Congrats again on your interest in vegetarianism! Let me know if you need anything else :)


-Laura (16-f)

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I'm looking for some great music to listen too. I love alternative, techno, pop, rock, that sort of thing.
Example of bands i like are, 3OH!3, The Maine, Sum 41, The Cab, The Medic Droid, Metro Station, Boys Like Girls, All Time Low, stuff like that. Im just looking for some new good songs. thanks

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=532581


From there:


If You Like:
That Popish/Punk Sound,
kind of like ALL TIME LOW or PLAIN WHITE T'S,
try the following:

- A Change of Pace.
- The Almost.
- The Audition.
- Asteria.
- Cartel.
- Cobra Starship.
- Every Avenue. *
- The Higher.
- Hit The Lights.
- Houston Calls.
- A Kidnap in Color. *
- Lights Out Dancing.
- The Maine.
- Mayday Parade. *
- My Favorite Highway.
- The Prize Fight.
- Relient k. *
- The Rocket Summer. *
- Say Anything.
- Sing It Loud.
- The Spotlight.
- This Providence.
- We The Kings.


If You like that harder Alternative/Rock,
kind of like THE USED,
give these a listen:

- Amber Pacific.
- The Academy Is...
- Bayside.
- Escape The Fate.
- Flight 409. *
- Four Year Strong.
- The Frantic.
- From First To Last.
- Halifax.
- Ivoryline.
- My American Heart.
- Pierce The Veil.
- Rise Against.
- Schoolyard Heroes.
- Taking Back Sunday.
- Thrice.


If you need more, let me know :)


-Laura (16-f)

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i want to make a valentine's day video for my girlfriend..i was just wondering what is a good/romantic song i could sing to her for the video? thanks!

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=545691


From there:


Alive with the Glory of Love: Say Anything.
All We Are: Onerepublic.
*Amazing: Josh Kelley.
*At Least We Made It This Far: Relient k.
Baby, It's Fact: Hellogoodbye.
Best of Me: The Starting Line.
Bleeding Love: Leona Lewis.
The Best Thing: Relient k.
California: Metro Station.
*Can't Stop: Maroon 5.
Check Yes Juliet: We The Kings.
Cue The Sun: Daphne Loves Derby.
*Die Alone: Ingrid Michaelson.
*Fearless: Taylor Swift.
Forever: Chris Brown.
Getting Into You: Relient k.
Hands Down: Dashboard Confessional.
Hanging by a Moment: Lifehouse.
Headspin: Jamestown Story.
Her Eyes: Pat Monahan.
Here in Your Arms: Hellogoodbye.
Hero/Heroine: Boys Like Girls.
*I'm Yours: Jason Mraz.
I Caught Fire: The Used.
I Must be Dreaming: The Maine.
I Will Follow You Into the Dark: Death Cab for Cutie.
In My Heart: My Favorite Highway.
Island: The Starting Line.
It Had to be You: Motion City Soundtrack.
Leave the Light on: A Kidnap in Color.
Little of Your Time: Maroon 5.
*My Beautiful Rescue: This Providence.
No Air: Jordin Sparks and Chris Brown.
No One Can Touch Us: Sing It Loud.
On Top of the World: Boys Like Girls.
Only One: Yellowcard.
Realize: Colbie Calliat.
Red Balloon: Backseat Goodbye.
Say it Again: Marie Digby.
Skyway Avenue: We The Kings.
So Much Love: The Rocket Summer.
*So, In This Hour...: The Rocket Summer.
Stolen: Dashboard Confessional.
Tangled up in Me: Skye Sweetman.
That's So You: The Rocket Summer.
Thunder: Boys Like Girls.
Undeniable: Mat Kearney.
*Up and Up: Relient k.
*The Way I Am: Ingrid Michaelson.
*Think of You Later: Every Avenue.
We're Going to be Friends: The White Stripes.
With You: Chris Brown.
Who Needs Air: the Classic Crime.
Why Can't I?: Liz Phair.
You Be The Anchor...: Mayday Parade.
*You Belong With Me: Taylor Swift.
Your Guardian Angel: The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus.
Young Love: Gavin Degraw.


My personal suggestions from that list:
- Amazing: Josh Kelley.
- The Best Thing: Relient k.
- Check Yes Juliet: We The Kings.
- I Caught Fire: The Used.
- Stolen: Dashboard Confessional.
- You Be The Anchor...: Mayday Parade.


Good luck :)


-Laura (16-f)

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hi im looking for a song when ur feeling pretty down n depressed
sorry if summink like this has been asked before, ( i am currently seraching to ssee if it has)
thanks
vikki

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=545691


From there:

A Beautiful Mess: Jason Mraz.
All Again For You: We The Kings.
Amazing Because it is: The Almost.
Beauty In A Car Crash: Flight 409.
Before You Go: Flight 409.
*Between You and I: Every Avenue.
The Boy Who Blocked His Own Shot: Brand New.
Cute Without The "E": Taking Back Sunday.
Dare You To Move: Switchfoot.
Dead Leaves And The Dirty Ground: The White Stripes.
Dreaming With A Broken Heart: John Mayer.
Driving Away: Holiday Parade.
Emergency: Paramore.
*Giving Up: Ingrid Michaelson.
*The Golden State: Flight 409.
Gone So Young: Amber Pacific.
Hometown Glory: Adele.
Inevitable: Anberlin.
Iris: The Goo Goo Dolls.
Just Say You're Not Into It: Mayday Parade.
The Last Something That Meant Anything: Mayday Parade.
A Lesson in Charades: Asteria.
A Lonely September: Plain White T's.
*Miserable at Best: Mayday Parade.
Music Box: Thrice.
Northern Downpour: Panic at the Disco.
Nothing Left To Lose: Mat Kearney.
One-Man Drinking Games: Mayday Parade.
Pressure: Paramore.
*Remembering Sunday: All Time Low.
Rooftops: Lostprophets.
Say the Word: The Classic Crime.
*Slow Dancing In A Burning Room: John Mayer.
So Contagious: Acceptance.
Teardrops on My Guitar: Taylor Swift.
There Was No Thief: Relient k.
Three Cheers For Five Years: Mayday Parade.
Tired and Uninspired: My American Heart.
Until You're Over Me: Maroon 5.
*Up Against The Wall: Boys Like Girls.
You're Making It Come Alive: My Favorite Highway.
*You're Not Sorry: Taylor Swift.


-Laura (16-f)

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How exacly do you kiss someone?

There's no "right" or "wrong" way to kiss someone. You just have to go with it and do what feels right. Don't worry; you'll be fine :)


-Laura (16-f)

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http://media.photobucket.com/image/another%20cinderella%20story%20selena/stacy55_bucket/Another%20Cinderella%20Story/normal_selenafan05.jpg?o=29

hey i LOVE the shirt shes wearing and i was wondering where i could get it...thanks=]

Try Target, Kohl's, or Forever 21.


-Laura (16-f)

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Okay this is probably weird.
But I typed every line that I heard.
I just cant figure out the name of the movie.
Im pretty sure it has natalie portman in it.
Anyway what movie is this from? Anyone know?


if you really love me
then lets make a vow
right here
together
right now
okay?

man-okay

alright
repeat after me
im gonna be free

man-im gonna be free

im gonna be brave

man-im gonna be brave

good
and the next one is
im gonna live each day as if it were my last

man-oh thats good

you like that?

man-yeah

(whisper: say it)

man-im gonna live each day as if it were my last

fantastically!

man-fantastically!

courageously!

man-courageously!

with grace

man-with grace

and in the dark of the night

man-it does get dark

when i call a name

man-when i call a name

itll be your name

whats your name

man-nevermind

lets go (whisper: say it)

man-lets go

everywhere

man-everywhere

even though

man-even though

we're scared

man-we're scared

cause it's life

man-it's life

and it's happening
it's really really happening
right now

alright

now let's kiss to me it real okay

man-okay

I typed a few lines into Google, and repeatedly saw the movie "Me And You And Everyone We Know" come up. So try that.


-Laura (16-f)

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so i listen a lot of classic like alice in chains Guns n' roses and pantera and i also listen to the new music like avenged sevenfold,audioslave,bullet for my valentine, atryeu, bush and frankly i'm getting tired of of the music on my ipod any new ideas of music i would like?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=532581


From there:

If you like that rockish type of alternative,
like BRAND NEW, try these:

- Alkaline Trio.
- Armor For Sleep.
- Forever The Sickest Kids.
- Just Surrender.
- Madeavail.
- Mae.
- Saosin.
- Search The City.
- Senses Fail.
- Something Corporate.
- Story Of the Year.
- Sugarcult.
- The Get Up Kids.
- Thursday.
- Unwritten Law.



If You like that harder Alternative/Rock,
kind of like THE USED,
give these a listen:

- Amber Pacific.
- The Academy Is...
- Bayside.
- Escape The Fate.
- Flight 409. *
- Four Year Strong.
- The Frantic.
- From First To Last.
- Halifax.
- Ivoryline.
- My American Heart.
- Pierce The Veil.
- Rise Against.
- Schoolyard Heroes.
- Taking Back Sunday.
- Thrice.


If you're into Screamo stuff,
similar to DANCE GAVIN DANCE or ATREYU,
try these;
- Alesana.
- All That Remains.
- As I Lay Dying.
- August Burns Red.
- Bullet for my Valentine.
- Drop dead Gorgeous.
- Haste the Day.
- Inept.
- Lovehatehero.
- Scary Kids Scaring Kids.
- The Devil Wears Prada.
- Underoath.


-Laura (16-f)

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i am tring to see how do i make my pics go side by side without them moving..i tried the code that you said but it doesnt work..what else can i do??

Thanks for inboxing.


You can try copying both of the pictures onto Paint, and saving them as one picture. This way, they'll be next to each other because that's how you saved them.


Hope this makes sense/helps!


-Laura (16-f)

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