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(Right category?) Suicidal boyfriend...
so my (first) boyfriend of about 2 months is suicidal... he tells me that he's really scared that he'll lose me--i dont even no why because-- and he loves me so much. he tells me that im like air-if he doesnt have me, he'll die. i really love him, and i would never want to lose him. I don't know whats gotten to him. please help, im desperate.
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I dated a guy exactly like that when I was a teen. It drained me. I was always on edge and felt guilty because I thought I was making him feel this way. But that was not the case.
I suggest that if you feel he really is suicidal, you tell an adult that he trusts so that he can get help. Suicide is serious business.
I'm sorry, but he may just be playing a game to try and control you. You've only been going out 2 months. Please be careful. If he wants to control you he may be a violent person.
Hope it works out.
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You've been together two months and he says he can't live without you? With the greatest of respect he clearly was doing an ok job of living without you up until two months ago! This obsessive and extreme behaviour from your boyfriend is NOT healthy - fact!
Without wanting to upset you - this is your first boyfriend. We all think we're madly in love and will stay for ever with our first boy/girl friend but in almost every case of course this dose not happen!
It sounds to me like your boyfriend is trying to creating a situation where you feel you don't have a choice but to be with him out of fear of what he would do if you did end the relationship. You cannot allow yourself to be in that position.
This behaviour from your boyfriend needs to stop. He needs to understand you cannot stay in this relationship unless this worrying and abnormal behaviour stops. Let him know your there for him and he can talk through his concerns and problems but ultimately if this situation does not improve soon my advice is get out fast!
And if it does come to the point where you have to end it, I am sure he will live!
MM
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Hello, well in this situation communication is key, since he cares for you so much he will more than likely trust you and tell you atleast something involving his reason for wanting to kill himself. He must have a serious issue to even contemplate taking his own life, this is serious.Sit down and have a hear to heart conversation with him to try to get to the bottom of this,once you know why it will make this situation that much easier, no one just wants to kill them self for no apparent reason especially if he has someone he cares about and that cares about him equally. Continue to express your care for him and be there for him, the last thing he needs is to feel alone. If you dont mind and you are still confused you can ask me any question you would like involving your situation on here or privatley. I however cannot be of too much help without first knowing what his suicidal thoughts are, if the situation becomes to extreme he should seek the help of a professional.I am looking forward to hearing from you in regards to your situation, stay positive and I am always here if you need to talk, through column or email do not hesitate to contact me..I hope this helped the best of luck to you!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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This sounds like obsessive behavior which is not normal for a relationship. It sounds like your boyfriend needs to seek some therapy. He's become 100% dependant on you and you two have only been together for a few months. That's just not right. First of all, I know you love him but you cannot have your boyfriend relying on you for everything in life. He needs to have his own independency. You need to realize that he is basically threatning you. 'If you leave me, I'll kill myself' sorta thing. This is not healthy and will lead to something horrible. I would sit down with him and have a serious conversation with him - and if he doesn't listen and becomes more obsessive I would contact his parents. Good Luck!
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Have you told him he has nothing to worry about? I would definitely suggest sitting him down, just the two of you, and talking to him about it. Let him know that you feel the same way and that you never want to lose him, either. Maybe even make a list of all the things you love about him, just so that it gives him even more reassurance.
Other than that, I would tell his parents or a school counselor. This could become a bigger issue than you think, and it's not something you should try and tackle alone.
-Laura (16-f)
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get him to talk to a counsellor or sit him down with a few of his close friends and family and give him an intervention talk to him about everything and hows its affecting you trust me everything will work out.
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