I am 16 and have been sweating excessively this last year, I am not that healthy of and eater anymore and I do drink lots of soda. I have a gained weight, not too much, but I do need to lose weight, which I plan to do. I get very embarassed at school and I wear my coat or a sweater to try to hide it. But it is spring. I have a drysol (prescription) deoderant. It didn't work.
Please help if you have or know someone who has had this problem. Would it help if I lost weight and ate healthier?
My daughter is about your age and has the same problem. Losing weight may help, but I don't think the sodas have anything to do with it. My daughter rarely drinks soda and drinks almost a gallon of water a day (no joke).
It's just a condition, just like ache or asthma. You have to keep trying different deoderants until you find the right one for you. Your ph balance is different than someone elses, so different things will work for you than they do for others.
If you can, go back to the doctor and try another Rx. One of the clinical strength over the counter ones helped my daughter. And she carries it with her and reapplies it whenever she feels shes starting to sweat. Use yours as many times a day as you need to.
I hope this helps.
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I just ended a 6 and a half month relationship with my girlfriend. I am 18 years old and a freshman is college, she is 21 years old who is not currently in school and has faternal twins the age of two. Obviously there is a good reason why i broke up with her. It has only been a week since we broke up and it is so hard. I love her and she loves me. What do i do? do i listen to society, my family and friends, the brothers of my fraternity? or my heart. do i look at my future or what. My heart is torn between choosing to date a girl i really love or what society tells me to do. She is a package deal which im not too excited for because no 18 year old freshman in college wants 2 kids. Also, she is still married to the other man but very close to getting a divorce. I really need some advice. Do i listen to my heart or society?
Sometimes we can't help who we fall in love with. If you love her and want to be with her, then it's possible. But if the fact that she has two kids really bothers you and you don't HONESTLY think you can get past it, in love with her or not, you need to let her go. You don't want to start a life with someone and end up resenting the kids down the line. That will only hurt the kids and cause MAJOR problems between the two of you. Your hearts may ache for each other for a while, but you will both move on eventually. Otherwise, the heartache caused by not accepting her children could last for years, if not a life time.
I'm sure you have heard this from a thousand people, but, you are 18. You are so young. She's only 3 years older than you but she has experienced about 10 extra years of life. I had two babies when I was 21 and I know that matured me beyond 21. I think you are a mature 18 year old. I say that because you are asking for help and advice. Most 18 year guys think they have it all figured out when they really don't. So I just want you to think about this long and hard. This is your life. Your LIFE. You need to ask yourself what you really want out of your life before you make your decision.
I don't know if you have a faith or religion, but I highly recommend prayer. If you choose to, be specific and ask for help in making the right decision. I'll say a prayer for you too.
I hope all goes well.
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Sometimes at night weather Im sleeping or not (mostly when im sleeping) my hips will hurt really bad. Usually the pain occurs when I have to pee really bad and when its really cold, and usually after I pee the pain goes away. Is this something to see the doctor about? I just wanted to ask because none of my friends or family have this problem.
-thanks, xoxo
It could be a number of things. No matter what, you should see your doctor. You don't want to take any chances. Please go right away.
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me and my bf just went on a break. he said he just needed some time away from the whole relationship love thing. i didnt really understand but i said ok. not like i could really make him change his mind. at 1st he said he still wanted to talk. just not hang out. so i was like ok then. then wen i told him how upset i was about the break he sed he couldnt deal with all the compliments and i love yous and i care u dont? so i guess maybe i was being too clingy? i dont know becuase he said all that stuff to me too and he seemed fine with it all until one day out of the blue he said he needed a break. but now we are not even talking at all because we were texting and he said well ill talk to you later. so i said ok? and he said yep bye. so i dont know but he seems mad and doesnt want to talk to me now. i am really upset becuase i love him alot and dont know where all this came from. could there be another girl? or is he afraid of commitment? should i talk to him or give him space? should i make him jealous? what should I do? i have so many unanswered questions and i just want to do the right thing because i really want him back because i love him so much and he told me he loved me too
I'm sorry to be so brutally honest with you but, he's not coming back. The only reason guys want a "break" is so they can see other girls but still have you to come back to later just in case they want to.
He may have had those feelings for you but then the commitment may have scared him off.
I suggest you don't call or text him, but if you know you may run into him one day or even just pass him on the street, make sure you look AWESOME. Hair, make up, dressed fine and keep your head held high and make him believe you do not miss him. And he will notice you. If he tries to talk to you, you talk to him like he's just some guy you know, no one special. This will get to him! Then walk away and DO NOT look back.
After that if he tries to call or text, do not answer or respond for at least 3 days. Then, when you do answer (no texting), only talk for a couple minutes and then tell him you have plans and have to go. Guys want what they can't have.
If you decide to take him back, you will have the upper hand, so don't take any crap. If he starts acting at all like he may want out, YOU break up with him. If out of the blue, with no warning, he wants another "break," then you tell him, "I was thinking the same thing. See ya."
If you are hurt or need to cry, do that with your friends. DO NOT let him see it.
Hang in there.
Hope this helps.
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Okay so im 17/f and my boyfriend is 18, we got into like a big fight almost two weeks ago and things have been kind of strained since then. We've been going out for almost 6 months and I really like him, only when he fels like it does he talk now and thats only been once or twice. I don't know what to do or what to talk about, i know that he likes bmx racing and video games but there's only so much i can say about that stuff until he gets annoyed. What should we talk about?
Comunication is so important in a relationship. In any relationship. I would suggest you ask him if there's something he can't get over, or if he just needs time to get over your fight. If he's willing to talk, then talk it out. If he refuses to talk, I would suggest you give him some space. Try not to worry, spend time with your friends, do whatever to keep your mind off it. Then let him come to you when he's over.
Hopefully he's not the type to hold a grudge. If so, that's shows immaturity and you may want to consider if you want to be with someone that will do that everytime you fight.
Some guys just don't want to talk when they are upset about something and they need time. (That is SO my husband.)
I know it's hard if you have to wait, but if he's worth it, then do your best.
Hope this helps.
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Actually I don't know if overbearing is the right word to describe my mum. The thing is, my mum is so hot headed, so sensitive that every time I do one little wrong thing, she always explodes. She gets mad unreasonably. I used to keep quiet every time she got mad, I would just keep quiet because if I spoke, she would get even more mad. I try my best to be a good daughter and to be less of a burden. I sacrificed so much so as not to be one of her problems. I even tried to kill myself because no matter what I do, she didn't appreciate and feel any sacrifice I've done which is why I'm good as dead. My theory is the reason why she's so hard on me is because she's doing her best to be a good mother and she's sacrificing too and all those things good mums try to do but I think this kind of gives her an idea that I have no right to feel resentful when she hurts me. I have no right to complain, to get angry and I only have the right to be grateful. I think this is unfair. I appreciate her being a good mother but it doesn't give her the reason to be hard on me. How do I confront a person like this, who, no matter what you tell her, she will let her pride prevail and always try to prove you wrong? Or is there really nothing I can do and just try to live with the kind of person she is? I really hope not because I'm really tired. My pride is dead, my chest is swollen, my friends are starting to hate me coz I never hang out with them, my life is practically ruined. Please help! :(( :(( and I really appreciate those who took the time to read this.
I'm so sorry you having to go through this. It's not easy living with someone like that.
It sounds like your mother has been through some hard times in her life. She may have been treated the same exact way she is treating you and may not know any other way to act. Or, she may DEEPLY hurt in some way that has made her angry and hard. Either way, that does not make it right for her to treat you that way. You deserve to be treated with love, respect, and kindness. And if you do something wrong, even then her discipline should be firm, not harsh, and with love.
I always feel that communication is the way to go because it's not healthy to suffer or keep things in. But in your case, I think if you want to talk to her about it, take along with you an another adult that you trust, and if possible, someone your mother knows and respects. Hopefully she will listen if another adult tells her how what she does makes you feel.
Otherwise, I think you should talk to someone regularly that you can unload all of your feelings on. (i.e. school counselor, therapist)It's not good for you to keep going through this alone. That's obvious since you are thinking of not living anymore.
Please do your best not to let what your mother does bring you so far down and take you away from your friends and happiness. I know it's hard, I went through something very similiar. It takes a lot of effort on your part to tell yourself that they way your mother is is NOT your fault and that you DO NOT deserve it. Because you love her it will make it harder for you to do that, but you MUST do it if you want to survive this.
Also, I don't know if you have a faith/religion, but pray is very powerful. If you choose to, be specific in your prayer and ask that you mother gets help for whatever is making her this way AND that you get help for having to suffer so much for all she does.
I hope it goes well for you.
And PLEASE, if you even think of killing yourself again, call 1-800-SUICIDE. You can talk to someone 24 hours a day if you need to. You can also go to the website hopeline.com They have advice on depression and other things.
Take care.
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Okay so basically two weeks ago, I met these two Russian guys in the computer lab in the basement of my dorm at college. We just started talking and stuff for an hour or so and eventually they asked me if I wanted to go clubbing with them downtown and I was like "okay" and one of them gave me his name (A) and then told me to add him on Facebook. So I added him on Facebook. I ran into the other guy (V) and he was like we'll keep in touch about activities. Then on Friday A leaves me a message on Facebook and asks me if I am ready to join them tonight and I say that I can't because I was going to see a movie with my friends that day so that was that. Then, I messaged A again and he said he would let me know about his activities. We eventually chatted on Facebook on Friday and agreed to meet at this restaurant/bar near my college. He was bringing his friends, and I said I'd bring my friends. So my friends and I went to the restuarant/bar and apparently they were doing full ID checks so you had to be over 21 that night to get in. I told him that, and he was like, "how could you guys not know that you need IDS to get into the bar?" and that was not the case at all! I know that you need ID to get into a bar, I'm not stupid, but since I had been there before I didn't think it would be a problem--plus, it's a restaurant too! He told me that maybe he could get me in but not my friends so I was like "okay" but then I was upset because I didn't want to ditch my friends. So we were all like whatever and went to a party at the student center that was fun. You'd think I'd be okay by now but I feel so awful. Should I have called him and let him know that I wasn't coming? Did I mess up/overreact? I left him a message on his Facebook apologizing for not showing up and he hasn't responded yet---then again, I sent it yesterday so I guess it's not a big deal that he hasn't responded yet. But is it crazy that I still want to hang with him? I can't tell if he was wrong or if I was wrong and it's driving me crazy! And do you think he likes me or just wanted to hang with me? I really don't know! :(
Well, communication is always the answer. It would have been the right thing to do to let him know that you weren't going to be able to go. And it does sound like he was a bit rude or gruff, but you might want to take his culture into consideration. Not to stereotype but some cultures are just more blunt than others. He probably wasn't trying to be rude.
But if he will forgive you for not showing up, it sounds like he likes you. And it sounds like you like him too.
If he doesn't, well, that's life. You can't make him talk to you. Try not to beat yourself up over it.
Hope it works out.
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alrighty so i like this guuy and hes soo cute (:
he came new a few weeks ago and ever since he noticed me i think... i mean everytime he walks by me he looks at me. thing is im really shy :S
so like today we actually smiled at eachother (:
like we looked at eachother for a long time and then he smiled. did he smile because it would be 'mean' just to look away or becaue he likes me?
I'm really really pessimistic.
so me and my class have dancelessons together and hes there too. i always say hi when we dance together ( we cant choose who to dance with, the girls always move one up and the guys stay where they are)
and he smiles but he ALWAYS smiles so .. :S
i really dont know lOl. i wanna talk to him more but im really shy. and like as i said im soo pessimistic so no matter what ill always think theres an excuse for him looking at me??!!
heelp :(
The next time you dance with him, why not ask him a simple question? Like, do you like it here? Or, Are you adjusting? Do you need any help unpacking? (That's the one I really recommend ;-) When he answers you, just keep the conversation going.
I know it's hard, but just try. It sounds like he does like you. Maybe he's shy too.
Hope it goes well.
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ive been hung up on the same guy for about 10-11 months. we dated twice, broke up, and now we're together again. i love him so much.
but lately, we've been spending almost every day together. and sometimes he gets hyper and obnoxious. and during those times, i cant wait to get away from him. but then i feel bad and get depressed. but THEN when im away from him too long, i get even more depressed because i miss him so much. and then i get happy when i see him, and then he gets hyper again,...and its just a big cycle of love bipolar.
what should i do?? i dont want to talk to him about it because i dont want to hurt his feelings, and i think the only problem here is that im either too picky or serious, and i want to just have a normal relationship with him. what can i do to fix myself?
I know you don't want to hurt his feelings, but you have to communicate. A relationship cannot survive if you don't. And everyone's feelings get hurt in relationship at one point or another. That's just the way it is.
Just sit him down and nicely tell him that maybe you should skip a day or two between seeing each other. And if you get sad or depressed in between times you see him, you can write him a love letter to give to him when you do see him. Or, shop for a present for him. Just one small thing a day to help you not to concentrate on the fact he's not with you. And tell him to do the same if you think he gets sad as well.
You don't have to "fix" yourself. You are too hard on yourself. Just work on a couple things you want to change at a time. We all, everybody, has to do this. You will be fine.
Hope this helps.
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15/F
This guy really likes me and has for a few years, but we're just now starting to click. But he's kind of a player and is friends on MySpace with websites of girls in thongs and bikinis and stuff :/
He wants to be my first kiss and all that.
He isn't too attractive; he's sort of starting to grow a beard, he's breaking out, but he's considered cool. He hangs out with that crowd.
I can't tell if I'm attracted to him. I told him that I'm not ready for a kiss or anything but we hold hands and cuddle and stuff. Haaha he's so weird.
But I don't know if he actually wants to GO OUT with me. He hasn't asked or anything yet, but I've sorta been dropping hints about it.
Any advice?
Do you really even like this guy? You sort of don't sound sure if you do or not. Just because you're "clicking" doesn't mean you really like him. And the fact that he has all that stuff on Myspace shows he either has no respect for women, or he's out to have a lot of sex. No matter what he may say, that's not the way a guy acts when he really likes a girl. Why would he have a need for it if he really cared about the girl he's with.
If you want to give it a shot with him, communicate. Let him know that you don't like his Myspace stuff and would like for him to remove it all and anything else he's up to.
It's good you have not given in to letting him be your first kiss. You will remember you first kiss for the rest of your life. Do you want to remember it being with this guy that had this perv Myspace? Just think about it.
Hope it goes well.
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ceremony. a ceremony after someone passes away.
Sometimes people with enormous houses will rent out their gardens. If the weather is right, having the ceremony in a nice garden is comfortalbe and comforting.
Also, where was the persons favorite place to hang out or meet with friends? Even if it's a restaurant it can be really nice, especially if you include the people there that knew this person.
Hope this helps.
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Basically, cutting a long story extremely short and leaving out a lot of details, a guy over last September-November pretended to like me so we could sleep together. It didn't start like that exactly, it started as something completely casual and no-strings, but eventually I started wanted more and he pretended he did too, and then he panicked and backed out.
I live with him (at university) and we are in the same friendship group. I have to see him every single day, I look out of the window and see his window, I cannot escape thinking about him, and next year we will be living together with just me him and 3 other people. I can't get out of this without losing my friends. I still like him a little bit but the main thing is I AM SO ANGRY AT HIM, and my friends say I have to be nice to him for the sake of the group. I am finding this so hard and I just want to feel nothing for him anymore. I've already kissed a few other people and I slept with someone else (another ex who kind of treated me badly a bit, but I think he's changed) and my ex kind of wants to casually keep seeing me, which is sort of helping, but how else can I deal with this?? Thanks. x
With guys like that, if you show on the outside that you still like him or are sad over what happened, it only feeds their ego. So you need to make sure you look HOT every single day. I don't care if it's a midnight study session. Let him see what's missing!!
And make sure you keep your head held up. Be confident. Look at him in the face when he talks and talk to him as if you are complete strangers. As if he means absolutely nothing to you. And when he's done talking, just look away and quickly begin talking to someone else or doing something (even if you have to pretend). This will make him believe you have no time for him, not even time to think about him.
And PLEASE do not go off sleeping with other guys because you are hurting. This will only leave you feeling empty. Just give it time. You will heal from this. Then you find someone that you can have a meaningful relationship with.
I hope it goes well. Hope this helps.
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A few months ago, something happened and I turned the school against me. I'm embarrassed even writing from this because I'm afraid someone from my school will read it and think of me.
I can't walk down the hallway without thinking that everyone there is thinking bad thoughts about me. I feel like everyone judges my every thought, word, or action. I know they don't, but I can't stop the little voice in my head that says they are.
What do I do?
Its making me feel like I'm going crazy.
I'm so concerned with what everyone thinks about me all the time now, its taking over my life.
It very hard to get past something that happened, especially if you caused it. But all you can do is go forward. If you did something bad, then it's probably your conscience bothering you. And it's good to have a guilty conscience. But then you have to get to the point where you have to forgive yourself, whether those kids do or not, and hold your head up high when you walk down the halls of school and not care what they think anymore. You don't want to live the rest of your school days worried about what everyone thinks. And besides, after a while someone else will do something and they will be staring at that kid.
Please, please don't let this get you down anymore. Tell yourself good and positive things about yourself (in the mirror so you can see yourself) and then believe it, no matter what the past is. And just talk to people like it didn't even happened. If someone brings it up have a reply ready to cut them off and change the subject.
I hope it goes well. Hope this helps.
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i just wanted to know, whether because of excercise or sex, if it hurts when your "cherry pops" should i be worried about it while exersizing or something??
The first time is different for every woman. I've had friends say that it barely hurt at all, and others say that they couldn't hardly sit down for a week afterwards.
I think a lot has to do with whether hers has been popped and the size of the guy. But either way, the first time can be awesome and romantic whether you feel pain or not because you will feel pleasure either way.
If it pops during excercise or heavy lifting or tampons or a gyn exam, whatever, you don't feel it. It doesn't hurt that way.
Hope this helps.
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i'm 15, female, and sexually active. i've had 15 partners so far and get tested for stds every three months. so far its all been negative.
i am very tiny my current boyfriend however is about nine inches and thick as a can of silly string just about...when we first started it would always hurt at first but only when we first put it in but not too long ago he tried going in really deep and it hurt like i was losing my virginity all over again...the next day i went to pee and it stung and there was blood spots so i got a mirror and theres a tear right below my vagina...the skin around it is very irritated and ive been getting frequent yeast infections [which i am alergic to yeast so yay for me] like once a week...it burns and itches and ive been tested recently and its all negative, i got some ointment for external use from my gyn but it only helps for the first hour or so after wards
what do i do??
You need to stop having sex. I know that sounds harsh, but it's the only way you are going to heal and for the yeast infections to stop.
I'm sure you've heard this already, but it is the way it is. You are too young to be having sex. Your body is not ready for this and is finally rebelling. The friction that is caused by sex is messing with the ph balance in your vagina. With ph balance out of balance, you get yeast infections.
So, no sex, and keep using the cream your obgyn gave you.
Hope this helps.
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14/F Sorry this might be a little long.
So there's this girl who's been at our school for awhile now maybe a month or two let's call her L... there's been two new girls after her, so she's not really the new girl anymore... So my friend, let's call her E, has been friends with her for awhile (L was at a school with a bunch of people from our school, so it's not like she doesn't know ANYONE), so she hangs out with us.
I kind of liked L at first, but now she's getting on my and my other friends nerves. She's sort of clingy to us, and she kind of doesn't shut up. She talks about weird things, like how she talks to ghosts and how much she loves her little brother and how much she loves bologna...etc.
Now, I'm not a mean person at all. I'm always really nice to her and I talk to her and stuff, but she seems to ignore me a lot, and she doesn't even know my name still. And no, I'm not exaggerating that, she really doesn't know my name, or any of my other friend's names (except for E). She's also really mean to my some of my guy friends, and two of my girl friends in particular. With my guy friends, she doesn't let them sit at our lunch table and yells at them and calls them creeps. With my 2 girls friends, she picks at their interests/disinterests and is always yelling at them and being a bitch to them
So yes, I know there's really nothing I can do about it. And yes, I also know I might sound like I'm being judgmental, but I'm trying really hard not to be. I always give people chances and I'm really nice to people, but she seems to be passing up every chance I give her, and she's mean to me, so that's not fair.
What I'm asking is, how am I supposed to tell E that no one is really warming up to her? I know E is allowed to be friends with whomever she wants, but I can never, EVER be around E alone or talk to her privately without L crowding around us. E is totally oblivious to her behavior. So I need help on what to do! Thank you so much!
You sound like a very nice person. Now, enough is enough. You can't be so nice that you allow that kind of treatment for yourself or your friends. Whether your friend sees it or not, you see it.
You can pick one or a few or your friends that do see the way she is, and that will be nice, and sit and talk to her. Tell her the things that are getting on your nerves or creeps you out. Just say it in a nice way. Then ask her if she can try and not do them anymore. I know it may be hard, but communication is the key.
If she doesn't respond well, then I would advise avoiding her. You can only take so much.
It really sounds like this girl needs some mental help. I'm not trying to sound funny, but it sounds like she has some major issues. You may tell one of your teachers how she behaves and ask if she has an illness. That's not a rude question. You just may want to know so you'll know how to handle or deal with the things she does.
I hope it goes well.
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Sorry, this may be a bit long but I would REALLY appreciate someone's help. Preferrably a girl who has/had the same problem and found an effective way to deal with it, or a guy who is like my boyfriend.
Alright, so my boyfriend, let's call him Larry.
Well, me and larry have been together for about 8 months and he is seriously my first love. I haven't had very many boyfriends and if I have, they never lasted long at ALL. The most was like, 2 and a half months.
Me and Larry started out as best friends and it kinda naturally escalated into something more. So I figured it was fate? But now, I don't know. I love him with ALL of my heart. He's the only boy I ever want to be with, honestly. I'm 17, he's 18.
I lost my virginity to him about 6 months ago and ever since then, it seems like he changed. I don't think it's necessarily that "that's all he wanted from me" because I know most guys are like that, but honestly, I don't think that's it. I think it's more of a comfort issue. He stopped doing all the things he used to do to make me happy and now, it seems like I'm ALWAYS mad at him and arguing with him or I'm crying. And sometimes, it's over things that aren't even a big deal. I just don't know. I have so much anger because I want him to change back to the way he was when he was trying to impress me and I rlly liked him then. I still like him. I feel stronger about him than ever. I just want things to go back to how they used to be. Like, I know he won't be hesitant to kiss me like he used to be cause we're naturally past that in our relationship but even little stuff like writing me random text messages letting me know how important I am to him or kissing me like he used to. Everytime we kiss, he kisses me like one kisses their GRANDMA. It's quick and short. But 8 months ago, I got butterflies in my stomach and I felt like I was in a movie! It was great.
I just need to know what to do. I feel like he knows I won't ever break up with him. Like he HAS me and I'll never leave because everytime I say I'm gonna break up with him, I chicken out. I rlly don't want to. I just wanna teach him a lesson and make him want to change back. He says he's trying but I don't know if he rlly is. Oh, and I have a jealousy problem. Considering he was MY first but I was his 15th. It hurts me when he talks to those girls, and for the most part he doesn't but when he does, I get really upset and start bawling my eyes out. Even if nothing is going on. UGH. Please help me somebody. Thank you so much if you actually read through this whole thing. I appreciate your time and if you make an effort to answer all my questions, I'd be greatly appreciative.
Thanks.
I have been there. I have friends that have been there. I have known guys like your boyfriend.
It could be a couple of things.
It IS possible that since he's had so many girls that he really did only one thing from you. But somewhere along the way he developed some REAL feelings for you, and now he has no idea what to do. He sounds like he may be confused about what he wants and how he's feeling.
Or, you know, sometimes people change after they've slept with someone. I'm not sure what it is. It may be the intimacy, or maybe fear of what he's suppose to do now in the relationship.
My adivice to you:
1) Stop threatening to break up with him. That's only going to make the situation worse. Unless you mean it. If you really want to break up, then say it.
2)You need to communicate. You can't read his mind. Give him something to hold in his hands that he can look at and mess with. Guys communciate better if they have something to do while talking. Then, calmly and plainly (no tears) ask him if things changed in your relationship for him after you had sex. Ask him if he still wants to be with you. Ask him what you want to know. Just do it calmly and try not to cry unless he says he wants to break up and you can't help but cry. Then, calmly, tell him how he has been acting has made you feel over the last few months. Tell him that you both need to work together if you want your relationship to last.
3) Try your best to get over the jealousy thing. I know it's hard, especially since he's the first guy you've slept with. But guys, especially that young, don't like to feel pressured. And a jealous girl will do that. Also, do it for yourself. You will only be miserable if you are jealous of every girl he talks to. Just stand next to him and be confident. Join in the conversation (nicely) if that's possible. But at the same time, don't be blind. If he's flirting or you think he may be cheating, then you have a right to be upset and say something.
4) You are both VERY young. I'm sure you've heard that before, but it's true. And developing such serious relationships at such a young age is going to make things more stressful. If you can both wait and put off the serious stuff (sex) and just enjoy spending time together and getting to know each other, you will make your relationship stronger.
5) Pray about it. I don't know if you have a religion, but pray is very powerful. Pray for joy and a calm heart. Pray for your boyfriend and your relationship. Anything.
I hope this helps.
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how can i deal with my strict mom?
*she wont let me talk on phone in my room (i have to be with her)and usually after I've talked for 10-20 minutes she has me hang up...and she doesn't even use the phone afterward!
*she wont let me buy earrings (she just says "oh well you just got some") yeah like 6 or more months ago (EVEN WITH MY OWN MONEY)
*she wont let me wear my hair how i want to (only in braids) AND she wont even let me do it myself
*when my friends are over she doesn't let us listen to music (on speakers ipod is fine though) even when u can barely hear it
what can i do?
*im female
*i cant say my age online so lets just say i'm a pre-teen
I totally understand how you feel. My parents were the same exact way.
The best thing you can do in this situation is to communicate. Wait till she's in a good mood, relaxed. Like when she's drinking tea quietly or sitting reading the paper, or whatever she does when she's relaxing. Then sit down close by and, respectfully (parents love respect) and calmly tell her how you feel and ask her why she does these things. You may be suprised at her reasons.
Most of the time it's because they are afraid you are going to make bad choices or be influenced to make bad choices. She's probably afraid for you for so many reasons.
If she tells you why, don't get angry if you don't like it. Just calmyly tell her how it's making you feel (frustrated, controlled, whatever). Then nicely ask for a little more freedom.
If she says no to the freedom, you may just have to endure it. Or, maybe have another adult you trust talk to her. Some adults respond better to other adults.
If she refuses to give you reasons why she does these things and tells you to just, "Do what I tell you to do!" which is what my parents did, just try your best to be on your best behavior. If she sees that she can trust you to behave, she may give you more freedom. Or, she just may be waiting till you're a little older.
I hope this helps. Hang in there.
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recently my boyfriend has been lying alot he has cheated on my once by kissing another girl but he was drunk.
he lied to me and went into a girls house with two other girls. and he is making a movie for school with 3 girls but he only told me one.
i figured this out and he says he will never lie to me again. we have been together for two years. were both 16.
do you think i should break up with him or stay with him. i love him and i feel like i cant live without him yet i cant trust him and i know that you cant have a relationship without trust. but i am trying. i broke up with him when he cheated on me but i was misrable.
should i give him one more chance? what would you do.
I know that you care for this boy very much. But you deserve to be told the truth in a relationship. If you stay with him you are just going to be miserable wondering where he is and what he's up to ALL the time. If you break up with him you will be miserabe because you'll miss him and your heart is broken, but that kind of misery goes away. And by that time, a new guy will come along. And I hope it will be one that will love and respect you by being honest and faithful. If not, love yourself enough to cut him off.
Hope it goes well.
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What kind of soda is best for getting rid of a belly ache?
Sprite, definitely. The lemon and lime help to settle an upset stomach.
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