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love bipolar
ive been hung up on the same guy for about 10-11 months. we dated twice, broke up, and now we're together again. i love him so much.
but lately, we've been spending almost every day together. and sometimes he gets hyper and obnoxious. and during those times, i cant wait to get away from him. but then i feel bad and get depressed. but THEN when im away from him too long, i get even more depressed because i miss him so much. and then i get happy when i see him, and then he gets hyper again,...and its just a big cycle of love bipolar.
what should i do?? i dont want to talk to him about it because i dont want to hurt his feelings, and i think the only problem here is that im either too picky or serious, and i want to just have a normal relationship with him. what can i do to fix myself?
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I know you don't want to hurt his feelings, but you have to communicate. A relationship cannot survive if you don't. And everyone's feelings get hurt in relationship at one point or another. That's just the way it is.
Just sit him down and nicely tell him that maybe you should skip a day or two between seeing each other. And if you get sad or depressed in between times you see him, you can write him a love letter to give to him when you do see him. Or, shop for a present for him. Just one small thing a day to help you not to concentrate on the fact he's not with you. And tell him to do the same if you think he gets sad as well.
You don't have to "fix" yourself. You are too hard on yourself. Just work on a couple things you want to change at a time. We all, everybody, has to do this. You will be fine.
Hope this helps.
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Bipolar disorder is when an individual has delusional thoughts or psychotic psychiatric episodes. They also have mood swings going from severe depression, elation, and back down to crashing.
They also usually hear voices and hallucinate. Once on medication they may feel depressed one moment to elated the next and back down. This is called rapid cycling. If they're just hyper without any delusional, grandiose thinking or ideas it's called hypomania.
If he has this disorder than understand that it's NOT his fault nor can he control it. Learn to roll with the punches so to speak and accept it as part of being around him.
Talking to him won't help unless he can explain how the disorder affects him and yourself. You would be hurting him otherwise. Talk to his mother, his siblings etc. for tips on dealing with him and it.
This leads me to my next point hyper, obnoxious, immature etc. do not a bipolar person make. That's the farthest thing away from what the actual disease is all about. I should know as I have it and have dealt with it for 6 years.
If he's just behaving badly tell him that the behavior bothers you, embarrasses you and makes it so you can't tolerate being with him at times. He'll get the picture as sometimes you have to get tough to show someone how their behavior irritates others. There has to be something you like about him that draws you back. Mention what is to him and work together.
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