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Boy Trouble
Okay so basically two weeks ago, I met these two Russian guys in the computer lab in the basement of my dorm at college. We just started talking and stuff for an hour or so and eventually they asked me if I wanted to go clubbing with them downtown and I was like "okay" and one of them gave me his name (A) and then told me to add him on Facebook. So I added him on Facebook. I ran into the other guy (V) and he was like we'll keep in touch about activities. Then on Friday A leaves me a message on Facebook and asks me if I am ready to join them tonight and I say that I can't because I was going to see a movie with my friends that day so that was that. Then, I messaged A again and he said he would let me know about his activities. We eventually chatted on Facebook on Friday and agreed to meet at this restaurant/bar near my college. He was bringing his friends, and I said I'd bring my friends. So my friends and I went to the restuarant/bar and apparently they were doing full ID checks so you had to be over 21 that night to get in. I told him that, and he was like, "how could you guys not know that you need IDS to get into the bar?" and that was not the case at all! I know that you need ID to get into a bar, I'm not stupid, but since I had been there before I didn't think it would be a problem--plus, it's a restaurant too! He told me that maybe he could get me in but not my friends so I was like "okay" but then I was upset because I didn't want to ditch my friends. So we were all like whatever and went to a party at the student center that was fun. You'd think I'd be okay by now but I feel so awful. Should I have called him and let him know that I wasn't coming? Did I mess up/overreact? I left him a message on his Facebook apologizing for not showing up and he hasn't responded yet---then again, I sent it yesterday so I guess it's not a big deal that he hasn't responded yet. But is it crazy that I still want to hang with him? I can't tell if he was wrong or if I was wrong and it's driving me crazy! And do you think he likes me or just wanted to hang with me? I really don't know! :(
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Okay it's all good---we ran into each other today and he was totally cool, it was great! :)
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Well, communication is always the answer. It would have been the right thing to do to let him know that you weren't going to be able to go. And it does sound like he was a bit rude or gruff, but you might want to take his culture into consideration. Not to stereotype but some cultures are just more blunt than others. He probably wasn't trying to be rude.
But if he will forgive you for not showing up, it sounds like he likes you. And it sounds like you like him too.
If he doesn't, well, that's life. You can't make him talk to you. Try not to beat yourself up over it.
Hope it works out.
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