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what to talk about
Okay so im 17/f and my boyfriend is 18, we got into like a big fight almost two weeks ago and things have been kind of strained since then. We've been going out for almost 6 months and I really like him, only when he fels like it does he talk now and thats only been once or twice. I don't know what to do or what to talk about, i know that he likes bmx racing and video games but there's only so much i can say about that stuff until he gets annoyed. What should we talk about?
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Some people 'punish' others with the silent treatment or cold shoulder ... two weeks of this treatment is more than enough. You need to flat out ask him "hey, are you still mad about our arguement... and if so, how do we get past this?"
Look at the past 6 months. How has he reacted in the past when you had a fight, and is this reaction something different? Is he waiting for an apology from you ... or do you think the fight is something he simply needs more time to get over?
By the way, if this is the first fight you've had in 6 month, then someone in the relationship has been giving in a lot to keep peace.
This could easily be 'the beginning of the end' if this isn't resolved. When communication breaks down it limits how much you can improve the relationship. His cold shoulder/pouting/annoyed attitude may be a way to punish you or push you away - or it could be he just doesn't have great coping skills and doesn't know how to get past his anger. Maybe the fight made him distrust his feelings for you, or your's for him and he is protecting himself with emotional distance ... maybe, maybe, maybe
But coming up with 'topics of conversation' won't distract him and make things blow over ...not having enough to talk about isn't the problem ... and if it is ... move on.
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Comunication is so important in a relationship. In any relationship. I would suggest you ask him if there's something he can't get over, or if he just needs time to get over your fight. If he's willing to talk, then talk it out. If he refuses to talk, I would suggest you give him some space. Try not to worry, spend time with your friends, do whatever to keep your mind off it. Then let him come to you when he's over.
Hopefully he's not the type to hold a grudge. If so, that's shows immaturity and you may want to consider if you want to be with someone that will do that everytime you fight.
Some guys just don't want to talk when they are upset about something and they need time. (That is SO my husband.)
I know it's hard if you have to wait, but if he's worth it, then do your best.
Hope this helps.
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If you're talking about his interests, and he's getting annoyed... he probably is rather shallow, and you deserve someone better. Someone you have more in common with, and feel more comfortable around.
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