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I had someone it to me but dont know what it means (link)
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You mean "Take you for granted"? Granite is a stone.
Someone taking you for granted is that they use you for whatever you want but they don't appreciate it.
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My favorite grandmother passed away last week on my birthday and wheni found out I was upset and cried a lot. but it still doesn't feel to me like she is really gone. Why don't I feel sad or why aren't I crying? could it possibly be that she is at peace now so I feel so too? I don't know but I feel bad because I should be super upset (link)
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People grieve differently. You don't have to react a certain way to situations. You are upset about it, you're just not bawling your eyes out like some people would.
There's nothing wrong with you. I'd say there might be a problem if you were like super happy or something, but obviously you're not.
I've known people who just break down and become depressed. I've known people who shut other people out and I know people who accept it sooner than most.
Don't feel bad. You're normal.
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I'm a thirteen year old girl in 8th grade and this guy asked me out. I don't like him. He is more my friend. When he asked, I was frazzled so I said I have to think about it. I want to be friends with him still without making it awkward. What should I say tomorrow at school?
P.S.-Everyone in the school knew he was gonna ask me out. And people were telling him that I was interested. (link)
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Just be honest with him. Tell him that you see him as a friend. It's not like you have to be mean or anything.
Just go up to him, tell him that you're flattered that he asked you out but that you only see him as a friend.
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I'm 13 and I'm a girl and I really need money to buy... You know stuff girls like!! But I need money! I looked up something's but they won't work for me. I don't have any training to babysit, I don't want to walk dogs, it's to cold for lemonade right now. I don't want anything to complicated. My parents can't afford to pay me and do allowances, so I need something to do! Please help :) (link)
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If you know people that have kids, they'll most likely hire you to babysit rather than someone who doesn't know you. You normally don't need training for people who already know you, unless it's a baby. If it's a kid who's around 5 or older, you won't have too much of a problem. Just need to know how to entertain.
Walking dogs is easy.
Honestly, if you get any opportunity to work, you should take it, especially if it's a simple job like that and you "need" money.
Some other ideas..
-You can watch people's dogs while they are away.
-You can watch people's houses while they are away. Like check up on it, keep it clean, ect.
-Wash dogs
-Wash cars
-Clean houses. Windows, dusting, mopping, sweeping, ect.
-Mow lawns
-Clean gutters
-Clip hedges
-Rake leaves
-Take trash to curb. This one is really easy. You obviously shouldn't ask for a lot of money. Maybe like a dollar or two for taking people's trash to the curb. If you do like 20 houses, it's 20 bucks.
-Help elderly. You can help them with simple chores like cleaning and getting them groceries.
-Yard Sale
-Instead of lemonade you can do tea or cider.
-Have a party and have everyone bring soda or something. Keep the cans and bottles and turn them in. You surprisingly make quite a bit of money from that. You can even go door to door and ask for their cans.
-You can sell crafts. I mean the holidays are coming up.
-Deliver newspaper. The age requirement is different everywhere so you'd need to look into that.
-Sell baked goods.
If you have any special talents, put them to good use. Like baking, sewing (Blankets and pillows aren't too hard to make), blogging, writing, or if you're good in a subject in school, you can tutor kids for a few dollars.
Be creative and you'll get your money.
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First, the backstory. I have been with my boyfriend for 3+ years. I have 4 children from a previous marriage and 1 child with him. She is going to be 2. I am 31. We live together. I am very much in love with everything about my boyfriend but one thing. He's addicted to Roxys and at this point, i think any pill he can sniff up his nose. He's not wanting to stop. No, he wasn't doing it the first almost year we lived together. But, when he did start doing it, he hid it from me. Then stopped. Then hid it again a few months after. Then stopped. Then, he hid it again a few weeks after. He hasn't stopped. Now, he's open about it. His excuse, because he no longer wanted to lie to me. At that point though, the damage is already done so him still doing the very thing he lied to me about doesn't make me or I feel allow me to trust him at all. I know I can leave at any time. But, as stated, I love him. It is very difficult to stand here and go everyday asking if he still has money, if he's done a pill, what he's done while I was working. (I do not give him anymore money after finding out he wouldn't get help. Not even for cigarettes or gas for the car we both use) Now, that I've gone back to work and fix the mess of debt I've put myself in trying to cover all our family's expenses. I just can't even fully focus on what I'm doing at work without wondering if he's on a pill or buying or selling them with our daughter around him. He hangs out with people who do the same type of drugs he does. So of course, I don't trust them either. My goal is to get out of this debt and move our family as far away from his bad influences. But, I think he would honestly take the possible 2 to 3 hour drive just to buy 1 stupid pill. He knows he's getting us in more financial trouble. He knows these pills are making his testosterone practically non existant. He calls himself all kinds of names. Like screw up, low life, horrible person... he says he can't stop. He says it's like he's trapped. He says he doesn't want to go to rehab because it won't work. (He's never been. But some of his friends have) My question is this, how can I get him to stop? I just really want him back like he was when he wasnt on drugs. When he helped me out financially and didn't make me feel like I'm losing him daily to this new life he's chosen to keep. I don't want to leave him. I want him to get help and it work. I want him to stop. (link)
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As everyone else said, you can't make him stop. He has to do it himself.
My mom was an alcoholic. She would hide it everywhere around the house. She'd sneak out in the middle of the night just to buy it. The things she ended up doing was ridiculous. She would go to the end of the earth to get her hands on it. My dad had to make the decision on whether or not it was good for him to stay with her. He cared about her and loved her and didn't want her to end up throwing her life away but he also knew he had to do what's right for him and for his kids.
She would go on saying that she wanted to stop but that she just couldn't. She didn't want to get help. She tried hypnotherapy, which helped but a few weeks later she slipped.
Rehab won't work unless he actually wanted to go in the first place.
She moved to Arizona to get away from some bad people here, which was better but she was still always drunk.
My dad wouldn't give her any money. So she ended up meeting a man who would give it to her. In the end, he ended up almost getting killed and that's when he realized that he can't just wait around for her to change.
My brother got involved with drugs. All kinds of drugs. He's 16. He ended up running away and has been in juvenile hall for 2 years.
We have tried to help both of them. You can't do it unless they want to. Once that man went to prison, my mom finally took initiative to get help. So she went to rehab.
He can't say it won't work until he tries it. He's going to have to try a lot of different things to find out what will and what won't work for him.
The situation is a little different for you. You have very young children. It's not right or safe for them to be around that. Until he changes, you shouldn't stay with him. Not just for you, but for your kids. The most you can do it buy him some self help books, encourage him to seek help and tell him that you can't stay with him unless it's completely over. You need to let him know that it isn't just about you and how you feel about it, it's about your kids.
So seriously, don't stay with someone who does this stuff. You don't want this kind of future for your family.
I made the decision not to date anyone who does drugs simply for the fact that I don't want my kids to have to deal with that. It ruins families and lives, you're experiencing that so you know exactly what I'm talking about.
You want to help him but he needs to help himself.
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I'm a sophmore in highschool and I don't really know what to do or how to react to my family's recent situation. My father just lost his job and is currently being paid a severence for the next 12 weeks. We are immigrant citizens and neither of my parents have college degrees. My mom isn't working and probably will never because she speaks very little English. When my dad told me he was fired I was in shock and i still am. I haven't really talked to him about it nor have I done anything about it. I don't know what to do I looked up online and got people saying how I should get a job to help support my family but Im too young and the jobs fit for my age group are filled I can't even drive by myself yet and my parents wouldn't allow it anyway because I'm a girl and they want me to stay sheltered and let them do the work but I can't do nothing I'm really worried about how my life's going to change and I know how selfish it sounds but this is the first time this is happening to me and it's weird. I see these things on tv and on the news all the time but I didn't ever think it would happen to me. Please, what do I do? I don't know anything. (link)
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You shouldn't stress out about it. My family is going through the same thing. My dad lost his job and then ended up in an accident that landed him in the hospital and my mom doesn't work either. In my town, it's ridiculously hard to find a job so I'm still struggling. We've already filed bankruptcy on the house though and currently on food stamps. Anyways, all this to show that you're not alone and you shouldn't worry. Your family will get through this.
You shouldn't stress out. It's your parents jobs to work and your job is to focus on school. It sucks and I know you really wish you could help out but the best way to help is to be positive. Lots of people are losing their jobs. So just stay positive, don't go spreading around that your dad lost his job, and focus on school.
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I met this guy the other night. He bought me a drink and he told me I'm pretty like 6 times in 30 minutes. We had a decent conversation. Today I saw him on campus with a bunch of other guys. He awkwardly stared at me for 5 seconds then looked away when I waved (I know he saw me wave). Then as I walked past him, he looked at me again, made a weird face, and looked away. WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE? I'm upset. I want to text him something bitchy and make him feel like a loser. Should I? (link)
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If you text him something bitchy then he'll just think you're a loser. Trust me, it won't make him feel like a loser. He'll most likely tag you as the type of girl who gets dramatic over him not talking to you.
So just let it go and don't let people like that get to you.
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This guy keeps texting me and we have a pretty good relationship going. He always calls me beautiful,tells me I'mdifferent from other girls and invites me over but whenever I can follow through he always either cancels or makes excuses. Is it because he's shy? Then he asks me to be his cuddle buddy. I said Ok, but he still doesnt initiate hanging out. I really like him now but am afraid that he doesn't feel the same way. What is your intake on this? Does he like me, is he playing me or just flat out wants sex? Thank you for your answers!
PS Im an 18 yr old girl (link)
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He's interested in you. There could be many reasons why he keeps bailing. He simply could be busy, hiding something, shy, just messing around, or something completely different.
We don't know him so you're just gonna have to go with your instincts.
If you think he's shy, try initiate hanging out. Try to keep it something simple. If you guys seem to hit it off, then keep it going and you know that he's definitely into you.
You'll never know until you try. If he keeps on bailing, then nothing will probably end up happening between you guys.
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over a month. Recently, we haven't been seeing eachother as much because he got moved to different classes at school.
Well, he hasn't been texting me as much and I think he has feelings for another girl. Is there any "signs" to look for? And how can I save our relationship? (link)
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Lack of communication on his end is a sign that he's losing interest in your relationship.
If he doesn't put the effort into seeing you even when he moved to different classes, he's probably not as interested anymore.
I think if you want to put in your last effort to save the relationship. You need to talk to him. If you express that you'd like to talk more and he agrees, then see if it changes. If it doesn't, there's nothing you can really do to save the relationship. It takes two and if only one is trying, it's not going to work.
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My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for 3 and a half years now. When he's away at school he has a extremely busy life and always says he doesn't have time to even think about me, he's so crazed. I give him tons of space at school and try not to cling on as much as possible. However he only texts me a few times a day, never ever calls or says the loving things he does when were together. This has been an ongoing battle for years now where I constantly feel unloved by him when were away. He's said hurtful things that really make me question what I am to him. I know he loves me and cares about me or he wouldn't go through all this but I'm so tired of being last on his list. I've tried everything. Everything. Talking to him about it is no use, believe me. Should I just ignore him for a while? Take a break for a few weeks so that maybe he'll begin to realize what I am to him?Sometimes I feel this is the only way for him to miss me and get his attention. (link)
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No, don't ignore him for a few weeks.
If there is no good communication in the relationship, it won't work. It's that simple. If there's no use in talking to him, because he just doesn't listen or it doesn't get through to him, then you know things just aren't going right.
You've been constantly feeling unloved by him. He has a busy life. He's not making room for you in his life. He doesn't get to see you, he gets to see everything else he has in his life, that's why you're not at the top of his priority list.
It's not a good excuse for him to be that way, but ignoring him won't help any.
My boyfriend wasn't happy with us at one point. He ended up ignoring my text messages and calls. It did not make me miss him more. It made me really upset at angry. I'm pretty sure if you ignore him, he'll just be annoyed and go keep himself even more busy.
So honestly, I just think you should end the relationship. You're not happy, he's too busy, you don't fit in his life and you're not happy with where he placed you so just let him go.
If you've tried everything, and you're sinking down to using the silent treatment, that's when you know the relationship isn't working.
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Why does my husband always gots to be so mean.Why are we so differtent why does he try to keep me Isolated, in a small town.He watches what I eat.He is driving me crazy.I`m 33 @ my husband is 27.Louisiana U.S.He usualy work out of town I would only see him on the weekend know he home and he driving me off the wall in just one day how can I Adjust to him. (link)
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You shouldn't have to adjust to him. No husband should be watching what you eat. It's controlling behavior and controlling behavior is abuse.
You should sit down and tell him that this is not ok. He does not own you.
If he doesn't agree to stop, he's probably not the man you should be with.
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I need advice on a very important subject. When is the right time to have sex? All I hear is "I remember prom night" and all these stories from people's collage years. I'm confused about when it would be the right time. I don't want to make any rash judgements or mistakes which I will regret later on. Thanks for reading.
P.s. I'm fourteen and female and know now is not the right time for that relationship, though I would like to know when. (link)
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The right time for sex isn't exactly about an age.
It's really good that you don't want to make any rash decisions. I'm sure during your high school experience, you'll see many people make mistakes about sex. Just hope that you're not one of them.
The right time to have sex is when you're mature enough to handle the consequences. You don't want to get pregnant or get STI's in high school. (You don't want to get STI's at all, but you know what I mean.)
So it's usually best to have sex when you're in a steady relationship with someone you can completely trust and feel comfortable with. Not someone who says, "If you love me, you'll have sex with me." or begs you to have sex with them even when you've told them no.
You should also be able to handle the emotional consequences. I've known girls who has sex and it took a huge tole on them emotionally. So make sure you know what you're getting yourself into.
You also should be protected when you decide you're ready to have sex. Like be on birth control and using condoms.
So it's always best to wait till you are older. Make sure you educate yourself on safe sex.
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Hey everyone! So Ive got a boyfriend and weve only been togethr since october 18th.. Hes the most amazing guy ever. Hes not the problem but there was another guy i liked before him named Jacob. Jacob was such a nice guy and he never did anything wrong. But ww had grown apart andi thought wewere both moving on. My parents love jacob and hes been to my house many times. I havent told really anyone in my family about my boyfriend ,only my best friend know. (Also jacob hadnt talked to me in a month).. so jacob texted me the night that me and my boyfriend were official & i think he fot the jist of the fact that Im not into him anymore.. my mom keeps asking when I wanna have jacob over though ans I just want them to forget about him. I know im going to have to eventually tell my parents but i think im going to wait for monday for my older sister to find out. What do u think???? Btw im 14 and so is my botfriend and please dont question our age and matrity (link)
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I've been in a similar situation.
I had a boyfriend who my parents absolutely loved. They always asked about him, asked if he wanted to go places, and if he wanted to come over. It was extremely hard for me to tell them that we broke up because he got along so well with them. It felt like it wasn't just me he was breaking up with, but my whole family.
In the end, they loved me more lol. So it's honestly about you and whatever makes you happy. Let your parents know that you and Jacob haven't been talking for a long time and you've moved on.
It doesn't mean that they won't love the next guy in your life.
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Why is it illegal for a 14 y old to go out with a 19 y olad? (link)
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Well simply because the 14 year old is a minor and the 19 year old is an adult.
Some states have a 2 or 3 year gap where it's fine though.
Besides the legality of the issue, there's also the fact that the 14 and the 19 year old are in different stages in life. The 14 year old is barely in high school while the 19 year old has graduated and is moving on with their life. They both will be wanting different things.
It's not the age gap that's the problem, besides the 14 year old being the minor. Because if one was 24 and the other was 29, there would be no problems because they're both in the same stages in life and looking for the same things.
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The other day I realized that I was falling for my best friend. Normally i would prance around in my prettiest clothes and maybe even tell him how i feel, but the problem is that he's been my best friend for years. I only realized I liked him a couple weeks ago, but its been eating away at me ever since. He has a girlfriend also. All I want right now is some closure, but theres no way I can talk to him because it might ruin our friendship forever. What do I do? (link)
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I think the only way to get closure is to talk to him.
If you seriously can't talk to him, then keep your distance and find a way to move on.
There is a chance that it could ruin the friendship but honestly, this will just make you miserable right? Unless you can just move on then you should probably find a way to talk to him. Maybe if you find out he doesn't feel the same, you can move on.
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I am 13 and a female...Okay, so there's a guy at school that I've liked so much since last year! I'm not really sure if he likes me or not, but I'd really like to know! He knows I like him also! When we go down the hallway at school and pass each other sometimes he says "hey Hannah" but he almost ALWAYS smiles and his face turns red. I don't know what this means! He never texts me back and sometimes when I call him he answers and we talk for like 5 minutes or so. But last night when my friend was with me we called him and talked to him all night long. We did a three way call with him and his friend and he kept saying "this is the girl that likes me so much" and he said "Hannah this is my best friend" and I was just like "okay ambers my best friend haha" and then he was like "I thought I was your best friend!" And I said " no I'm in love with you there's a difference." And he told his buddy "see did you here that". SO what does all of this mean!? Please tell me!!! (link)
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Well he doesn't not like you lol.
There is a good chance that he does like you as more than a friend, especially if he turns red when he says hi to you.
When most guys know a girl likes them, they don't like talking to them that much. So the fact that he's talking to you, that's a good sign.
The only thing is that he never answers your text messages. Most guys will answer the girl they like.
So really, it's a 50/50 chance.
I'd suggest talking to him to see how he feels about you and then you will know for sure.
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19/f I went through a deep, long episode of depression. I absolutely loathed myself. It escalated to where I was cutting, and I nearly attempted suicide. I had a drink and a bottle of pills ready one night, the only thing that stopped me was the thought of being a buzz-kill for my father's huge 50th birthday event coming up. Before and after that, suicide was almost all I thought about.
I was pretty dang overweight. I wanted to get out of this dark abyss, and not that losing weight would be what would make me worth something, but I didn't want weight to hold me back anymore. It's been about 3 or 4 months since I decided to really start losing weight. I've been extremely loyal to my diet, and have lost quite a bit of weight. Everyone is noticing and complimenting me. It used to be just people I hadn't seen in a while, but now even people I see every day are saying I look great. I'm far from done, but here's the issue.
Instead of loathing myself, at the beginning of the month I realized I'm kind of tolerating who I am now. I'm starting to feel proud of what I look like. Instead of staring into the mirror glaring at the person looking back, I'm noticing how parts of me are shrinking and getting firmer, and it makes me feel pretty awesome. I couldn't see at first, but now I'm noticing and it's a pretty awesome feeling. My journey is far from over, but I've made some good progress.
What I'm worried about is, I don't want to equate my self-worth with how much I weigh. I'm worried that my hatred is going away because I'm starting to look good. I don't want to depend on my looks for my worth. SO, is it normal to feel this way when losing weight? How can I differentiate loving myself for real/ just loving how I look that day? I want to be careful, because I want to like being me for me, not for the compliments and approval I'm getting. I don't know, does anyone know how I feel? (link)
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It's totally fine to feel good about yourself once you lost weight. I honestly think it's normal. Only because I went through it too. I wasn't overweight or anything, but I didn't like my body very much and eventually started becoming more fit and people were always complimenting me and I ended up becoming more confident.
The thing is, some people get carried away. They think it's all about how much they weigh and it can turn into an eating disorder.
I agree that you shouldn't measure your self worth on how much you weigh. So don't focus on your weight. I mean it's good to take care of yourself and make good lifestyle choices but learn to love yourself in other ways too. Learn new things and you'll notice you're good at other things and I'm sure your personality is awesome.
I'm also going to give a suggestion to visit a counselor. I mean you were contemplating suicide at one point and you don't want to get back to that point in your life right? I'm sure they'll give some good tips on what to do in your situation as well.
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I'm fourteen and female and would like to know when is the right time for dating and relationships to start. I feel like I'm on the back of the bandwagon because my close friends have already begun dating which worries me. I don't want to miss out on crucial learning experiences for relationships in my adult life. Is it okay to start dating late, like in collage or even as a young adult? I want to get some advice before entering high school. Thanks for reading :)
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It's hard to answer this because it's different for everyone. It's honestly whatever works best for you.
A lot of it has to do with maturity though. Most parents don't want their kids dating at an early age because of boys going through hormones and all that, they want sex and the kids your age can't exactly handle that kind of relationship.
A lot of girls grow up thinking they need to get into a relationship while they're in high school because so many people are doing that. It's even harder when it's your close friends who are dating already. If you did start dating in high school, I'd suggest around 16-17, but not get into an exclusive relationship. Just more for learning about what you like in guys, what qualities you like and dislike and then when you get older and you're looking for something more serious, you'll know what you're looking for.
Most girls date young because they like to feel wanted.
So yeah, it's definitely fine to start dating in college or as a young adult. I actually know lots of people who waited to date because of dumb drama in high school and most high school relationships don't last.
So just take your time and just learn.
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I'm 22 year old female. I have been dating this guy since high school and now I'm a year past graduating college. We have been dating on and off since 2007. I broke up with him in 2009 because I felt I wasn't IN love with him anymore. A year later, we agreed to start a casual sex-only/friends relationship, but that turned into an unspoken transition into dating. I was secretly not exactly happy with dating him exclusively again so I broke it off earlier this year. We spent 3 months apart, and I missed him terribly. I asked him to take me back, but he said he wasn't sure if he was ready to take me back. We accidentally ended up having sex again one night and now we are back into the "unspoken transition into dating". We have talked about moving in together next year, but I'm scared that it's not really what I want. I have jerked around this man I love dearly for so long, but I'm afraid I'm staying in this relationship because I don't think anyone will ever love me like him. I'm scared of hurting him. I'm scared that later I'll regret it. I am secretly in love with someone else, but that situation is hopeless. I feel like an awful person day in and day out, but I couldn't stand the thought of hurting him again. What should I do? (link)
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In the long run, you're going to end up hurting him more.
You're still figuring out what you want. Don't move in with him until you know that you want him. I think you need more time to figure things out..without hooking up with him. It's not fair to him that you're staying with him and you're unsure of how you feel and you like someone else on top of that.
Sit down and have an honest conversation with him. Tell him that you don't want to be going back and forth but you're still not sure what you want. Ask him to give you some time. Don't sleep with him, at all.
If you think you're staying in this relationship because you think he's the only one who's ever going to love you, then you shouldn't be with him. It's the wrong reason to be with someone.
Also, while you guys are on a break, get over the other guy. If you're with someone but you have feelings for someone else, the relationship with end terribly or you'll just be unhappy. So you need to move on.
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Why do i always get bullied is karma real ?
its gets really hurtful after a amount of times people have said it i have been getting this for the past 5 years of my life non stop everyday people commenting on the way i look i had really bad ance and scars on my face well there nearly gone now but they also were teasing me because i find it hard keeping up with everyone in class it really hurts iv said told a teacher what happened but they didnt do anything at all they just left it and went on their sidei just feel soo worthless i would say about 30 people would teas me because of the way i looked i wish fukin karma gets them bk twats (link)
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Karma is pretty much a belief. If you believe it, then who can stop you and who can prove you wrong?
So if you wanna believe in karma, go ahead.
Although, I'm gonna give you advice on how to deal with on your own instead of hoping that karma will eventually catch up to them.
It's really upsetting that the teacher didn't do anything. You should go see a counselor in the school or even the principal. Let them know that you're being bullied and you don't know what to do. You told a teacher but nothing ever happened.
People are mean, but you shouldn't have to deal with things like this. So keep trying to get some help. You don't deserve to be bullied.
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