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When is the right time to have sex?
I need advice on a very important subject. When is the right time to have sex? All I hear is "I remember prom night" and all these stories from people's collage years. I'm confused about when it would be the right time. I don't want to make any rash judgements or mistakes which I will regret later on. Thanks for reading.
P.s. I'm fourteen and female and know now is not the right time for that relationship, though I would like to know when.
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The right time for sex isn't exactly about an age.
It's really good that you don't want to make any rash decisions. I'm sure during your high school experience, you'll see many people make mistakes about sex. Just hope that you're not one of them.
The right time to have sex is when you're mature enough to handle the consequences. You don't want to get pregnant or get STI's in high school. (You don't want to get STI's at all, but you know what I mean.)
So it's usually best to have sex when you're in a steady relationship with someone you can completely trust and feel comfortable with. Not someone who says, "If you love me, you'll have sex with me." or begs you to have sex with them even when you've told them no.
You should also be able to handle the emotional consequences. I've known girls who has sex and it took a huge tole on them emotionally. So make sure you know what you're getting yourself into.
You also should be protected when you decide you're ready to have sex. Like be on birth control and using condoms.
So it's always best to wait till you are older. Make sure you educate yourself on safe sex.
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Very good question.
There's not set time to have sex. Some people do it earlier and some do it later. The important thing to remember is that people (especially teenagers) say a lot of things to draw attention to themselves. Don't listen to them, ignore them, as whatever they say about sex is complete rubbish.
You're very right saying that you still have time for a relationship. Remember there's no rush (it's not a race). You sound like a clever girl so I'm sure that you'll make the right decision but there's one thing that I want to mention to you. Sex is great when with a partner that really cares about you-someone that you know is the 'real deal'. Just remember you're the one in control (you can always say no and the person that you're with if he loves you will wait for you) so don't feel pressured into having sex because others have and you haven't. Plus sex has its consequences (children+diseases) so it needs to be a well thought out decision.
If you do decide to have sex, just remember protection is key.
Hope I helped. Remember you can be a virgin only once. Don't lose it fast. Many girls do and then they regret it (they want it back) but it's no longer possible. Don't be one of them.
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Your right; this is a very important question. Hopefully some of the information I provide will help you know when the time is right.
First, you are not the first young lady to write and ask this question. In answering this question the first time I found a website which answers many of the questions you have far better than I can. I have included the link
below.
I cannot tell when the time will be right. I can tell you that now the time it is not right to have sex. If any boy says to you; "If you love me you will have sex with me." DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM. You can expect to hear this from boys your age up to boys the age of twenty something. Why will boys say this? Simple boys and girls in this age group have a different definition of love. Young men and boys define love more as lust. When a young man or boy in this age group says I love you chances are he means I lust for you.
Sex is not a way to prove your love for someone. Sex is the result of a loving relationship. Something that occurs after a time when you are old enough and mature enough to fully understand the consequences of the act.
I know I sound like a parent, well I am, actually I'm old enough to be a grandparent and wise enough to know you may not want to wait until your wedding night to have sex. This is a decision you have to make. Only you will know when the time is right. If you have any hesitation then the time is wrong. Just remember you do not prove your love for someone by having sex with them.
Right now at your age and for the next several years is the wrong time. You body may look like that of a woman's but your sexual organs are not fully developed yet. Yes; you can get pregnant. That does not mean you are fully a women. When you entered puberty the hormones now in your body sent signals to different muscles to develop them properly for a women. This includes the muscles of your vagina.
It is not the tearing of your Hyman that hurts when you first have sex. If you are to young and the muscles in your vagina are not prepared to be penetrated this is what hurts. The longer you wait the less your first experience will hurt and the better it will be for you.
You have a lifetime to enjoy sex. Do not be in a hurry to have that first sexual experience. Your virginity is a prized possession that the older you and your partner are the more meaningful it will be for both of you.
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Okay so firstly you seem very mature for your age which is great :)
Its good that you want the time to be right. Many people myself included lost their virginity to someone who they which they hadn't.
I think as you start to get older and start to go out drinking and clubbing, its easy to have a one night stand with someone. My first piece of advice to you would be to control yourself on such nights out, so you don't end up doing something you may later regret.
If you know now is not the right time for a relationship, then obviously sex is off the cards, that is-if you want to do it with someone who loves you and cares about you.
There is no 'right time'. Sure the average age for people to lose their virginity is decreasing all the time. And this may make you feel under pressure to lose it. But you need to be confident in yourself. Have persistence and one day the right person will come along.
Legally, sex is not allowed in my country until you're 16. So you are legally under age. Second piece of advice would therefore be to wait until you are legal.
If you do want to have a sexual relationship with someone in the future, let them know from the off your expectations. Asking questions regarding commitment etc will help you to determine your partners intentions.
The right time to have sex in an ideal world is:
-when you're in a relationship where both partners trust and respect one another
-when you feel mature enough to deal with the fact that you are engaging in the act of potential baby making
-when you are confident in yourself, your body and your abilities (often people who have sex too early feel not good enough and have self esteem issues that worsen due to a bad first time)
-When you're legal (probably should've put this first)
-When you have good emotional support around you
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You are too young to have sex right now!and you are also not mature enough to make a relation! Wait 2,3years more then have sex. If you have a good relation with a man then also you can do sex.
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