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my new boyfriend:)
Hey everyone! So Ive got a boyfriend and weve only been togethr since october 18th.. Hes the most amazing guy ever. Hes not the problem but there was another guy i liked before him named Jacob. Jacob was such a nice guy and he never did anything wrong. But ww had grown apart andi thought wewere both moving on. My parents love jacob and hes been to my house many times. I havent told really anyone in my family about my boyfriend ,only my best friend know. (Also jacob hadnt talked to me in a month).. so jacob texted me the night that me and my boyfriend were official & i think he fot the jist of the fact that Im not into him anymore.. my mom keeps asking when I wanna have jacob over though ans I just want them to forget about him. I know im going to have to eventually tell my parents but i think im going to wait for monday for my older sister to find out. What do u think???? Btw im 14 and so is my botfriend and please dont question our age and matrity
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I've been in a similar situation.
I had a boyfriend who my parents absolutely loved. They always asked about him, asked if he wanted to go places, and if he wanted to come over. It was extremely hard for me to tell them that we broke up because he got along so well with them. It felt like it wasn't just me he was breaking up with, but my whole family.
In the end, they loved me more lol. So it's honestly about you and whatever makes you happy. Let your parents know that you and Jacob haven't been talking for a long time and you've moved on.
It doesn't mean that they won't love the next guy in your life.
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Don't be afraid of telling your parents. Parents are resilient with the change of boyfriends, and as in my case also a change of husbands. My oldest at 27 has married and divorced 2 men, and is now on to her 3rd serious relationship.
Yes, parents can get attached to your choice of boyfriends and really like them, but it doesnt mean we can't like the next one as well or even more.
What you need to keep in mind...coming from a momma of 3 grown girls, all who are dating....is that the most important thing to a mother is that her daughter is not only happy but is treated very well by her guy.
If he hadn't talked to you in a month, something was seriously wrong, especially if he couldn't tell you he was going through something and wouldn't be talking to you or seeing you for a while. An explanation would've been nice.
I certainly hope people aren't picking on you for having a boyfriend at 14. The way you were doing it with having him over alot to your house so the parents get to know him is a great way to start at your age. There are a lot of abusive bad guys out there even at this age. It would be a good thing if you and parents are close enough that they can let you know if they think they spot something not quite right about a guy...something where you would be mentally or physically mistreated. If its just that their personalities don't click as well, that happens and the parents must allow you to be with whomever makes you happy. Until you're 18, the parents are responsible for your well being. The fact that you have a new boyfriend is not a threatening situation so it would be good for them to know.
You could start the talk with, "YOu may have noticed that Jacob hasnt been around in a month. He and I have been losing interest in each other.
I think he wanted to find someone he was more interested in but couldn't and so now he wants to get back together with me, but I have already met someone else and promised to be his boyfriend."
Then you could go on to telling them about the new guy and asking to invite him over. And answer any other questions they might have about Jacob.
Even if lets say the new guy doesnt turn out...they still need an explanation as to why Jacob is coming around anymore.
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If you don't see a future with Jacob then there is no point to look back.
About your mum. I wouldn't worry about her, she'll understand when you tell her that you've got this new boyfriend. Remember though the faster you tell her the easier it will be.
I think that there's nothing wrong with seeing new people. As long as you're happy then that's what matters and I'm sure you're parents will understand with time.
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