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Help!: A guy asked me out and I haven't given him a response
I'm a thirteen year old girl in 8th grade and this guy asked me out. I don't like him. He is more my friend. When he asked, I was frazzled so I said I have to think about it. I want to be friends with him still without making it awkward. What should I say tomorrow at school?
P.S.-Everyone in the school knew he was gonna ask me out. And people were telling him that I was interested.
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Hi! You know, part of being a girl is turning down guys sometimes when they ask you out. It's important to respect the guy's feelings without making it seem like you want to go out with him.
I understand that other kids at school want to see what happens and all that. But I think it is not the best idea to reject him in front of everyone.
When you do tell him, it's important to remain calm and polite. Calmly explain how you feel. Say something like, "I'm flattered that you like me, because you are a nice guy. I just don't like you in that way, though, but I hope we can still be friends." But you can say whatever you think feels right.
After saying what you want to say, watch his reaction.
- If he mentions wanting to still be friends or seems okay with your decision, say you're glad you can still be friends.
- If he begs you to go out with him, be a little more firm.
- If he looks like he's about to cry, tell him you're sorry and say you'll still be there for him as a friend. Then leave for class because he might think you really do like him if you stay.
I hope I helped!
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Tell that boy how you feel. If you don't see him as someone more than a friend then don't feel pressured (by your friends) to say yes. Remember it is your life and the decisions you make now may affect your future.
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Lightoftruth is correct; just tell him the truth. That you like him as a friend but do not see him as a boyfriend or love interest. There is nothing wrong with that and it is something he should get use to hearing as he will hear this many more times as he continues to date. Not everyone you are interested in is going to be interested in you. This is as the saying goes what makes the world go round.
I will also throw in here that at 13 you are a little young to be dating in an exclusive one on one dating scene. Have you spoken to your parents about dating? As a parent and a grandparent I'm sure your parents, especially your dad may have some rules for dating.
I would suggest that if you and your parents have not had the talk about dating yet that you do so, especially if boys are starting to ask you out. I know it is not fair but there is a double standard when it comes to dating for girls that does not exist for boys. But understand boys cannot get pregnant and this is why the double standard exists.
One word of advice about teenagers and parents. Never hide things from your parents. Trust me when I say there is nothing you will do that we have not tried to do and we will always find out what you have been doing, just as our parents found out about us. Being truthful will in the end allow for more freedom as your parents will grow to be more trusting in what you do when you are away from them.
I know this sounds old fashioned but here again trust me when I say this advice really works. The more open you are with your parents the more freedom they will give you and you will not be writing us telling us your parents are overbearing and asking for our help.
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Just be honest with him. Tell him that you see him as a friend. It's not like you have to be mean or anything.
Just go up to him, tell him that you're flattered that he asked you out but that you only see him as a friend.
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