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I think he wants to break up...
Me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over a month. Recently, we haven't been seeing eachother as much because he got moved to different classes at school.
Well, he hasn't been texting me as much and I think he has feelings for another girl. Is there any "signs" to look for? And how can I save our relationship?
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Hi! I know what it feels like to think your partner wants to break up with you. It's never easy, especially when you really want to stay with them. There are a few signs to look for:
- He seems to avoid you, and he breaks plans.
- He flirts with other girls in front of you and seems to have feelings for another girl.
- He talks to you less and is less interested in conversations.
- He hangs with girls you don't like.
- When you talk on the phone, he keeps saying he has to leave.
I'm assuming that he's showing some of these signs. What I think you can do is back off for a few days and maybe act like you're less interested. He might realize how much you mean to him. Or you can just act natural. Just make sure you don't bug him about it or beg him to tell you if he wants to break up (but I'm sure you won't do that).
There is a chance that he's just under pressure right now. But if he does break up with you, take a deep breath and say you'll miss him and that he can talk to you if he needs anything.
And if he acts like a jerk, let him know it.
I hope I was able to help. Good luck!
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Lack of communication on his end is a sign that he's losing interest in your relationship.
If he doesn't put the effort into seeing you even when he moved to different classes, he's probably not as interested anymore.
I think if you want to put in your last effort to save the relationship. You need to talk to him. If you express that you'd like to talk more and he agrees, then see if it changes. If it doesn't, there's nothing you can really do to save the relationship. It takes two and if only one is trying, it's not going to work.
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When teens start dating, its all a new experience. Going from one relationship to the next comes with the territory and is normal. Two people are sometimes experiencing the initial attraction but once they start spending time together, one of them or both discover that they dont have enough in common or discover a type of behavior in the other that they will not tolerate. So they break up and move on to the next. You learn one thing that you like or dont like about a person and graduate and move up to the next. On the average in early teen years for example 5 months is the longest that dating relationships have lasted so anything less is normal too. When it comes to relationships, don't ever rely to heavy on texting. The only way you can know where you stand with him is to have a talk face to face. Be nice and non threatening in your attitude. Never assume you did anything wrong or that you don't measure up in some way.
When it comes to chemistry for couples, it's either there or it isn't, there's nothing a person can do to make it happen. If you make him feel at ease to confess whats going on for him, then you may learn some valuable information. Maybe he wants some image of perfection he wont find with any girl, maybe he didn't feel you guys had enough in common.
Try to keep him as a male acquaintance that you remain on good, not awkward terms with( in case he is deciding to leave)because he may be a good source to have on your side as you navigate the dating scene and have other boys that seem to be interested in you or you in them and he can help give advice from the male perspective. It won't be easy. You'll experience the highs of having a new love only to experience the pain of breaking up...but its all part of learning how to discover the best person for you and you have many years to learn that before you're an adult and ready for a long term relationship or marriage. So older getting into one relationship now and sticking with it through high school or maybe even college means you've only had exposure to one person so you limited yourself in potential learning experiences in relationships and would be less equipped to make a good life time decision later in life. I hope this made sense.
Enjoy life!
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