Its perfectly ok to shave there if you need to. Doctors don't say anything about that, this is your body, and theres a problem and you want to fix it, then fix it. You don't have to talk to your mom about it, shaving your legs is important to talk to your mom about because its your way of letting her know that you've started shaving. She doesn't have to give you permission to shave in that area, by now she may think that you've been shaving there already.

-TheTeenGirl

Its hard to understand what exactly you're asking. But, if you want to know what changes you'll experiance is, you'll have a deeper voice, you'll grow hair hair in your areas. And, you'll start to feel more hormonal, I mean this by you'll be more into sex and girls. Those are noticable changes. If you want to know why you aren't going through puberty yet, well, its just your way of growth, your body is going at its own speed and it'll catch up to you. But the changes I've listed are the ones you'll notice the best, especially the change in your voice.


-TheTeenGirl

Well, before you decide to take action, you've got to relax and see how your boyfriend is feeling about this first. Check if hes feeling the same, but tell him how you feel first so that he won't cover any nervous feelings up and say hes fine. Sometimes the thought of us growing up and living somewhere else and actually talking about a child and starting your own family in your life, is terrifying. It can really scare you. But then when we get in our place and get settled in, and have people we love to talk to, it can really make that feeling go away. Your lives together are quite a distance away, so maybe you should rethink this when it gets closer to time. And keep communication open with your boyfriend and your scared feelings so that he will know that you are on the same page. Try talking to your parents too, even though you want to be out of your parents home, let them tell you how they felt when they moved in together at first. You need to know for sure that you aren't alone in this.



-TheTeenGirl

The only way you'll ever be able to hold hands and feel good with this guy without having to think of an excuse the next time you're with him, is to let out the truth. Don't wait until he asks, just say, "hey, [John], I need to tell you something. I really like you, and I want to hold hands with you when you ask me, but I am really insecure with something I have called hyperhydrosis. Its where my hands get really sweaty and I can't put a stop to it. So I get really scared and I try to avoid hand holding with you because of this." And then he'll probably understand. And also, try seeing a doctor to stop this if you already havn't. Explain to your parents how much you need for this to stop because its effecting you severly. This won't be a big deal after telling your boyfriend, it may seem really bad and really embarrassing, but afterwards, you'll feel really relieved and relaxed instead of covered in excuses and nervous. You'll really apprecaite yourself for telling him. I promise.


-TheTeenGirl

Thats not good. He could have said it in a nicer way, but now you don't feel good. Maybe instead of asking her, try asking him what you can do, and where you're going wrong with this. Sometimes explaining to a guy how much you love something he says or does to you, it makes him feel good about himself because guys love hearing that they are doing a good job at making their girlfriends happy. Maybe a love note would help. Try explaining the reasons you love him the most. But, basically, go to him about it. And, don't let this get to you, its alright. Guys get pretty complicated and mean when they don't even know it. So, try not losing sleep over this, make sure you tell him how you felt after hearing him say that.


-TheTeenGirl

The information you have about him should make you go screaming in the other direction. You know for a fact the guy uses girls, and you think hes treating you differently? Nope, hes not. He probably did this to all of those other girls because he knows that he has to be really sweet to you in order to get you with him where he wants you. I think you'd better let go before your feelings get dangerous. I know you wanted an answer that told you to go, and I'm sorry I can't advise you that, but I can tell you that if you wanted to give him a chance, don't have sex with him. You need to be sure that he wouldn't use you, but most likely he will if thats his reputation. Every loving and sweet words hes saying to you means nothing. It means a lot to you because you like him, but to him, hes not honest. Sorry.


-TheTeenGirl

Just reading this or typing it has to make you frustrated with this guy. He shouldn't even be dating girls and hurting them like that. Its just terrible. It is one thing to have really strong feelings and be really in love with a guy, but to have a sexual relationship is a different story. I will help you on this, but you have to do one thing for yourself. No matter how much he begs, pleads or swears to you that he'll never do it again, never go back. It will save you a lot of time and crushed feelings all over again. I need you to promise yourself that everyday. Basically, a good way to ease your pain about him is to do things for yourself. Not really getting selfish, but do something relaxing, because you need it. Take a bath, a walk with a girlfriend, hang out if you feel like it. But at least go out once in a while. Just sitting there alone makes you think of your misery more. But, alone time won't hurt. Also, try talking to someone about this guy until you're blue in the face. It really lets things out when you just keep talking about it until you're out of words. And, if you have nobody to talk to, you can talk to me or any other columnist, I'd be glad to help you. But, try doing things for yourself that help you relax, and don't hesitate to cry sometimes. Its ok to cry, but don't make it a habit. I am very sory this has happened to you.


-TheTeenGirl

I don't know how old you're, but you're probably a young adult. If you are, you need to stop trying to figure out what you are. You need more time to grow and have fun and live your life instead of sitting around thinking about your sexuality. Just because you look and women, and think, "wow, shes pretty, shes so skinny, I'd love to have her body" that does not even make you near bisexual. You are just like any straight human being. You look at people, and have thoughts. I don't mean any offense, but there is no need to think about those things.


-TheTeenGirl

Well, if you feel sure that he really does want a kiss because he likes/loves you, then you go for it. If you want to kiss him, then go for it. This is a matter where you'll just have to see if the kiss was what he was in for by the way he reacts afterward. Theres nothing wrong with a little curiousity when you've never been kissed, but this guy sounds like he'd be ok to kiss. Just don't rush the moment. Good luck.


-TheTeenGirl

He is way too old for you. Sorry, but hes almost an adult, but hes sure not acting like one, hes just an immature cradle robber that you need to stay away from. And it would be wrong to go with a guy that would cheat on his girlfriend anyway. But the point is, that when you're 13, you cannot date people 4 years older than you. It doesn't work that way. You're an innocent minor who needs to stay away from this guy. And you need to tell your parents that this guy had the nerve to kiss you. And of course, I know that you won't because you'll probably rate me a 1 and go on with your life, but this is the answer you need to pay attention too.

-TheTeenGirl

This guy is a jerk. Just a big jerk who you need to just block instead of talking to him at all. If he wants to trade you in for trash, then let him. You are in pain, and hes never felt the pain you're experiancing now, but he will soon for doing what hes doing. I think you need a friend to talk to, if you don't have a close friend, you can always inbox me and give me your screen name and I will talk to you as long as you'll need to get over him. But in the meantime, block this jerk, don't even bother reading his profile anymore.


-TheTeenGirl

Maybe it isn't what you think when you think hes treating his new girlfriend better. The only way you'll ever know if he treats her better is if you see them alone somehow, or when your ex thinks that you're not there. There are plenty of guys that will show off and try to put on an act for a new girl in front of his ex girl. So, basically, you don't really know if the new girl is really being treated better. I think maybe hes doing things on purpose, but if it turns out that she really is being treated better, then try not to worry about it. It probably has nothing to do with you. Just concentrate on you and your new boyfriend and ignore the ex boyfriend.


-TheTeenGirl

I think that its great that you want your first kiss on someone worth it and more memorable, so do it that way. Set your standards for kissing and make a small goal to kiss a guy that is worth kissing. You can't really overeact on a kiss. Lots of girls would have just kissed the guy thirteen years old or not, but you are a pretty thoughtful girl for not doing it because you think its no big deal. Kisses are something that will be a big deal at the time and maybe later. So, definetly wait for the guy you know you can have your first kiss with, especially if you don't want to kiss him. I'm glad you've thought things over about a kiss, thats really going to help you with decision making later.

-TheTeenGirl

Well, it was a smart move to go ahead and tell your friend, but she didn't sound too supportive, she may have been confused on what to do. But, I'm really glad to hear that someone actually wanted to come forward to get help before depression took over. But, the best move you'll ever make is to have a serious talk about it with your parents. They are the ones that can get you the help you need, and make sure that you explain that you think it could be more than girl emotional feelings, and that you'll need their help through it. As for your friend, just tell her the next time you see her that you just feel so down lately and needed someone, and that you didn't mean to make her feel akward or scared. But, I'm really proud to hear that someone cared to come forward with depression ad how they felt, you honestly deserve help, not tat the others don't, but I deeply appreciate hearing your coming forward and wanting to get help. But, I'm telling you that your parents are important to tell, if you'd like more help, just inbox.

-TheTeenGirl

Honestly, the only way you'll ever be more social again is to either start talking to one of tose friends about your problems and your depressed feelings, or you can talk to your parents. Maybe you shouldn't get together with all of your friends, try thinking of one you'd like to be with and ask them to hang out, just you and that friend. The group socializing maybe quite a big step, so I suggest one or two to hang out with, and be sure to tell them how you feel, because they are probably confused about you. But, you have to get yourself with people in order to be social, you can't stay in your room and expect to be social soon. You close out when you spend too much time alone. But, I hope you understand that depressed felings are important to talk about or channel them into friends by talking to them about it or your mom. If you just stay alone because of them, they litterally take over your life, so please don't let them.

-TheTeenGirl

Whether you're broken up or not, which sounds like you are, you need to be broken up. From what I'm understanding, he is seeing someone else. He lives in Texas on top of that, so you can't be around him enough to know whether he is seeing someone else either, which tells you that its just not going to work like this. Its hard to be and stay committed to a guy that lives far away unless you both have an inseperable relationship on the phone and the computer. So, basically, break up with the guy, he sounds like hes not interested anymore if hes saying he doesn't know if you two are still together.

-TheTeenGirl

I think she needs to have more time with you. I mean, get her mind off of herself and go out for a while. Offering to go on a diet with her, may make her feel even more depressed. If shes really not fat, then don't suggest a diet, but if she is, then you need to let her parents know that shes struggling with herself. But, if you guys go to the movies, have a few sleepovers, go out shopping or just for a walk, then she'll have her mind off of things. Give each other make overs, do some girly things with her.



-TheTeenGirl

I think the best that you can do, is get him when hes in an ok mood and nothing seems to be the problem, and tell him that you're concerned. Maybe, the best way of going about this is to come and say, "Listen, I always feel that I can tell you or talk to you about all of my problems, and I know you're here for me. But, I want to help you too, and when you say that your problems aren't important, it kind of hurts me because you look like you're in pain, and I want to hear you talk about whats going on, please tell me whats going on in your life, I'm really worried." You need to basically tell him that you're hurt and concerned with him. If hes still not wanting to come around, I think you need to start doing it back, it may seem cruel, and wrong, but when you've got a problem or something is bothering you, just say, "you know, I could tell you as always, but I never seem to get that in return, which would be nice to have." And then change the subject. If you need anymore help, feel free to inbox.

-TheTeenGirl

I understand that as a best friend and sister, you are very concerned and should be. Your friend is in a very unhealthy relationship with her boyfriend and I believe you shouldn't let it go on. The only thing that you can do is tell her that shes got the wrong guy right now, or you can inform her parents. At this point, I fully understand that your closeness with your best friend may get a gap if you tell her parents. But, you need to sit diwn with her in school, (ask the teacher for some time because you need to confront her of something) and say, "listen, I am really concerned about you. You can't stay with this boyfriend because he is now in control of your life. And when you give someone that much power over you, you're in danger if you let it go on. I know you have strong feelings for him, but you have to think about yourself, and your self respect. Because honestly, with this guy, your self respect is lacking highly, and you can't even see your friends anymore, you can't stay with him and have me worried about you. If you kep staying, then you get deeper in trouble each day you let it happen again. You really are a sister to me, and I hate watching this happen to my sister. Please, get yourself out and out of danger, or this will effect the rest of your life." You don't have to say that all, but just summarize it and make it quicker, in other words, let her know that she can't stay because of love. When someone hates you and hits you, and knocks you down and you're in love with him, that doesn't mean you can stay. Love is not enough for two people. And remind your friend that shes not always there for you as she says. Shes not there for you. But mainly, you need to convince her to leave this guy. Because this is dangerous. If you'd like more help, I am more than willing to help you further, good luck.


-TheTeenGirl

Your dad sounds like he really wants you to stay with him. But the only way to tell him you don't want to stay with him, is to say it. The next time he says something thats suppose to make you feel guilty, just say, calmly, "Dad, I know that you want me to move in with you, but I really don't want to. I don't want to be away from my friends." Thats pretty much it. Just explain why you don't want to.

-TheTeenGirl

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