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My boyfriend and i want to live together, but i'm scared.
My boyfriend and i have been talking about living together when we graduate. i thought it was all fine and dandy to talk about but then we started to pick out apartments, save up money, and pick out furniture. Now he is buying the dining set tomorrow, and the flat ware, and he's getting the living room set next week. Plus we are talking about marriage and kids. I'm still a virgin but i'm worried this'll happen sooner than we plan for. Its starting to sink in and I'm getting, idk, afraid, excited, something. I dont know. Is this bad, good, or what. I mean he isnt graduating for a year, and i'm not moving in with him for two years.........Whats going on with me? Should I call it off?
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well if you are going to feel uncomfortable living with him then i think you should follow your heart on thsi one. whatever you feel is right.
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Don't call it off yet...
Think to your self "Am i really ready for this?"
or just sit him down and talk to him abou tit don't be afraid to cuz if your this far in a relationship you can talk to him about anything!
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Well, before you decide to take action, you've got to relax and see how your boyfriend is feeling about this first. Check if hes feeling the same, but tell him how you feel first so that he won't cover any nervous feelings up and say hes fine. Sometimes the thought of us growing up and living somewhere else and actually talking about a child and starting your own family in your life, is terrifying. It can really scare you. But then when we get in our place and get settled in, and have people we love to talk to, it can really make that feeling go away. Your lives together are quite a distance away, so maybe you should rethink this when it gets closer to time. And keep communication open with your boyfriend and your scared feelings so that he will know that you are on the same page. Try talking to your parents too, even though you want to be out of your parents home, let them tell you how they felt when they moved in together at first. You need to know for sure that you aren't alone in this.
-TheTeenGirl
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You might just be getting nervous about everything.. if you think everything's moving too fast, just tell your boyfriend.. I'm sure he'll understand and anyways, you have two years to think of everything before you move in. And about the marriage thing.. you don't HAVE to do anything you don't want to, and the same thing with sex. I don't think that you should call it off though..I'm sure everything will be fine. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
p.s. Are you graduating high school or college?
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Okay, first remember this: This is YOUR relationship too. Your guy shouldn't have all the say.
It's great that he's taking such an interest and you guys are really looking at this stuff, but if you feel like it's happening too fast, you've got to tell him.
Lack of communication can seriously destroy a relationship. My fiance and I almost broke up because of a communication issue. If you're freaked and you feel like he's pushing this, or whatever, you've got to sit him down and tell him.
Either that, or take a blank Word document, or Notepad or whatever, and just write nonstop for like half an hour. Babble about what you're feeling dealing with this whole moving-in-with-him thing, and see where you end up at the end and how you feel. Nobody but you has to see what you write. You can just click "no" when it asks you if you want to save the changes.
Freewriting always helps me sort my feelings out, and I strongly suggest it for you. Then once you know what you're really feeling you can sit him down and tell him.
I'd ask him not to interrupt you until you finished babbling (let him know when you're done, though).
The whole apartment thing is a BIG thing. Unless you already know what you're doing college-wise, keep that in mind, too. You might not end up where you guys find an apartment. Being in an apartment limits you a little schoolwise. Keep that in mind.
Unless you're not planning to go to college right away, which is fine as well.
Think everything through on paper (or on computer, whichever works), decide what you're feeling, and then talk to your boyfriend.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)
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i think the best thing for you to do is talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel about all of this.. explain to him how your like nerves or scared or whatever. dont hold it back because you dont want to make a mistake and plus you and your boyfriend should be able to talk things out. espcially something big like moving in together. but hey i am 14 (i noe young)and madely in love wit my boyfriend and playiin to move in wit him in 4 years. (hopein the realtionship last that long..lol.. well i hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*
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