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okay so...
basically i feel like im losing my friends and lately i have been really depressed. Nobody would really know because well i put up a front and i feel like im losing all the friends i had. I dont wanna hear advice like "try to get together with them" or "sorry" i just wanna know what to do to feel better and be more social.
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Honestly, the only way you'll ever be more social again is to either start talking to one of tose friends about your problems and your depressed feelings, or you can talk to your parents. Maybe you shouldn't get together with all of your friends, try thinking of one you'd like to be with and ask them to hang out, just you and that friend. The group socializing maybe quite a big step, so I suggest one or two to hang out with, and be sure to tell them how you feel, because they are probably confused about you. But, you have to get yourself with people in order to be social, you can't stay in your room and expect to be social soon. You close out when you spend too much time alone. But, I hope you understand that depressed felings are important to talk about or channel them into friends by talking to them about it or your mom. If you just stay alone because of them, they litterally take over your life, so please don't let them.
-TheTeenGirl
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Hun what if your "feeling" is wrong what if you think your losing your friends ask your closest friend about it. If not the way to be more social is to get back out there, join a club or team that will make you really social. Thats also how i felt but the truth was they were just being regular friends. To make the long story short even though they were sometimes being mean to me or questioning me or not even backing me up I found out that they were just being friends. Also since I'm sensitive I thought they were being bullies etc. etc. so just get out there. Hope I Helped!
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I know what you're going through. I went through this about two years ago. I think you should get out there and make new friends. Or don't act shy around people. Feel comfortable with who you are and have other people notice. Then you won't have to depend on "the normal" if you know what I mean. Go down to the local YMCA or something and volenteer.
Hope I helped <33
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All you can really do is keep trying to be their friends & try to talk to them. Try to fit in with them still, or just go find new friends. There is plenty of people out there for you to become friends with. If your friends aren't willing to be your friend anymore, they arent worth it. To be more social, just talk to people you dont normally talk to, go to more parties & dances & events like that & just meet new people. I dont really know what else. Sometimes you just have to let it go, everything happens for a reason. Maybe your meant to have other friends & maybe those werent right for you. To not be depressed anymore go do something that you really would like to do and something you enjoy. That should make you feel better. If you have any friends you are still good friends with then go out with them for the day.
♥ nicole
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I've been in the same situation before very recently. I felt so increadibly depressed and like I was losing my friends because when I tried to talk to them they really didn't talk back and I didn't get to see them all that much (I figure this all started about a week before school let out). I had been struggling with depression anyway but this whole thing really didn't help. My advice is to just try and keep being a friend to them. Also to feel better and to have a source to vent out of, try talking to the friends you still know are your friends for sure and tell them what your feeling, I will gaurantee it will help because that's what I did.
And about being more social, that just depends on who you are. Some people are just naturally outgoing and make friends extremely easy. While others are shy and tend to have more trouble making friends and becoming more "outgoing". To become more social in any case, you need to be more active in talking to people, doing things for other people, and participating in social events and activities.
If you want or need anything else, leave me something in my inbox or IM me at Alpha0mega345 (if using AIM). I hope my advice helps and you make more and better friends and maybe mend the friendships that you think are falling apart!
-Ryan
P.S. Ignore TwistedSister17's comment, it was uncalled for.
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hey hun im sorry about that one in my lifetime i felt like that before all you gotta do is ask them whats wrong and try and fix it if they say its nothing then they arent really true friend and you should find better friends and have a great time with them in your life and make new memories sorry if that didnt help...
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Well you are going through a stage. I felt the exact same way before but now I know they are there for me. Here are some suggestions:
A) Keep talking to them and make sure that they arn't mad.
B) Be try asking other people like an adult for advice.
C) Ask other people if they know if ur friends are mad at you. (but try not to seem paranoid!)
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i*m kinda feeling like that lately too, it mite not be that your losing your friends tho so don*t take it too personally. I don*t really kno wut to tell you bc i*m stuck in the same situation, but i*ve been hangin out with all mi guy friends instead bc they are drama free and that*s always good, maybe you could find some other people that your aquantences with and ask if they wanna go 2 the pool with you or sumthing, plus school*s starting soon so their will be plenty of opertunities to make new friends, sry i didn*t help very much.. chel*c
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Stop crying! You only want attention. To feel better: get Over it already. If you really wanted friends you would go introduce yourself to new people, not cry to us on advicenators.
[edit:] Well that is my opinion..I don't care what all of you think.
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I am kinda seeing this in a friendship between a couple of ppl I know. If you maybe have a bad attitude around your friends, or seem to down things, no one will want to be around you. If you really do think you are depressed. I say get help...professionally. If you want to be more social, school is starting...or if you aren't a teen, get involved in the community somehow, get a job, join a church group, or group of some kind. I hope I helped. Oh yeah, and everyone likes a smile, even if you are having it rough for some reason. Good luck.
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hm...I have a friend and we were the bestest of friends but when highschool started we had no classes to gether except for lunch and we would sit with other people. People grow apart from each other you can find new ones from joinong a club or sport that you like. But lets say you wanna keep your old friends. Throw a party get to know them better see what they like and try it out with them. Just be nice do things like send cards and decorate their locker on their birthdays. Make treats like cupcakes or brownies. I'm not saying bribe them but do what you would want them to do if they were a true friend. Maybe you and your friends aren't really friends. They could be using you. Be smart and choose your friends wisely but remeber...make new firneds but keep the old on is silver the other is gold. GO0D LUCK!
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Confront your friends. Maybe you aren't really losing them. They could be busy, or maybe they think YOU don't like THEM anymore because you never try to hang out with them. Just talk to them!
♥ Melissa
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