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my 'bestfriend' doesnt let her boyfriend know that she talks
ok im 15 my best friend is 16 we are really close to eachother at school she tells everyone that we are sisiters well to get to the point she has this boyfriend and they have been dating off and on for about a year and a half now im really happy for her and but the thing is that he doesntlet her have any friends whats so ever everytime i call her because im having drama with my boyfriend or something i cant talk to her beacause he doesnt let her talk to anyone its like the only time i have with her is at school and thats only because he doesnt go there i tell her all the time that the way he treats her isnt fair but all she says is "but i love him" and "you know i love you too sis and ill always be here for you" what should i do? what should i tell her?how should i tell her?
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I understand that as a best friend and sister, you are very concerned and should be. Your friend is in a very unhealthy relationship with her boyfriend and I believe you shouldn't let it go on. The only thing that you can do is tell her that shes got the wrong guy right now, or you can inform her parents. At this point, I fully understand that your closeness with your best friend may get a gap if you tell her parents. But, you need to sit diwn with her in school, (ask the teacher for some time because you need to confront her of something) and say, "listen, I am really concerned about you. You can't stay with this boyfriend because he is now in control of your life. And when you give someone that much power over you, you're in danger if you let it go on. I know you have strong feelings for him, but you have to think about yourself, and your self respect. Because honestly, with this guy, your self respect is lacking highly, and you can't even see your friends anymore, you can't stay with him and have me worried about you. If you kep staying, then you get deeper in trouble each day you let it happen again. You really are a sister to me, and I hate watching this happen to my sister. Please, get yourself out and out of danger, or this will effect the rest of your life." You don't have to say that all, but just summarize it and make it quicker, in other words, let her know that she can't stay because of love. When someone hates you and hits you, and knocks you down and you're in love with him, that doesn't mean you can stay. Love is not enough for two people. And remind your friend that shes not always there for you as she says. Shes not there for you. But mainly, you need to convince her to leave this guy. Because this is dangerous. If you'd like more help, I am more than willing to help you further, good luck.
-TheTeenGirl
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