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how do you get over boys? i was with this guy for 7 months, we never officially dated but it was known that we were together. we had a sexual relationship and i fell for him big time. he suddenly started fooling around with his ex girlfriend behind my back and told me that he never really liked me to begin with. we hadnt had sex until about 8 days before we split and so he had no reason to keep me around to use me. he wasnt getting any benefits for staying with me for 7 months because i never really "did" anything for him. i know hes in denial that he never liked me. once i found out about him and his ex girlfriend (he never told me, my frined did) i decided to stop talking to him completely. i havent spoken to or seen him in 2 weeks. i unfortunatly cannto stop thinking about him. any advice...i know this was long sorry ill rate high
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Just give it time and you'll stop thinking about him. What he did to you was wrong. Hope I helped!
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OMG....I cannot believe this jerk did this to you!There is no excuse for his behavior. I know it must be hard for you, but he obviously didn't feel for you the way you felt for him. Someone that loves you deeply would never treat you this badly no matter what he has told you. Good luck!
Love ~Ash~
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Well everyone has a first love... your story reminds me of my 1st love... I was "the girl on the side" and we were very very close... but after we had done some stuff.... he stopped treating me the way he use to, he was just plain mean, and he just started to ignore me completely. So i can some-what understand what you feel... It's going to be hard, but you have to go on with life, whenever you start to think about him think of something else like what your going to do with your friends over the weekend, flirt with other guys, act as if you and him never had a thing... it might take a while... but there is no magic cure... you can't just forget about him over night... you can do it, you seem like a strong girl...
hope i helped! Good luck!
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I hate to tell you this, but it sounds like you were a "challenge". And once he conquered the challenge, he moved on. It's quite possible he was seeing his ex (or other girls) on the side the whole time, and so it wasn't any big deal to wait for you to give in to him.
He's a jerk. Forget about him, you don't want to deal with someone like that.
Here's an idea... The next guy you find that you like... once you've gotten to know him and you think he really likes you, tell him that you have decided not to have any more sex until your wedding night. See if he's willing to wait. Then you'll know if you have one who likes you for you, and not just for what your body parts can do for him. ;-)
P.S. It wouldn't hurt to be tested for STDs... You have no real idea how many girls he was with, and how many guys those girls were with, and so on and so forth.
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well...if he dumped you after 7 months and you just gave him sex for the last week then that probably means he knew you would sooner or later and he was just waiting for it...no man should ever make you sad and the only one who should wont...he isnt worth thinking of look through a yearbook or just remember and find sombody at your school and think about them constantly sooner or later you will be thinking aobut your crush on them instead of you rbreakup with your boyfriend...hope i helped
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If he kept seeing you for seven months and then had sex with you and he said a week later he never liked you, then you should have the right not to talk to him. If you want to find out why he had said he never liked you thats ok but if he kept seeing you for sevens months just to have sex with you he's not worth thinking about! I hope i helped, if i didnt im very sorry and you can ask again
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Don't fall for guys who just use you that way... That guy was a really low jerk, glad you're not talking to him anymore ;)lol. Try going out, meet new people and hang out with friends. You WILL meet someone who will respect you and care for you completely, so no worries.That guys wasn't worth your time. Its your time to move on. Also, if its kind of difficult to get over him, go out and do something fun with your friends, or talk with them about how you feel. They'll help you solve your problem better than you solving it by yourself... Hope everything is well :).
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ohh, i was in the same situation... i think the real time you accualy get over someone is when you find someone who truely cares about you and will respect you for who you are. and once you really realize this youll think back why you ever settled on anyone less than who would treat you like a princess.. and trust me you deserve it, i bet that guys going to come crawling back to you... but you have to do what i didnt and dont go back to him.. it will only break your heart more in the end
hope i helped
xox-erica
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you need to get over him. you'll find many guys that'll treat you better and he obviously isn't one of them. try meeting new people. once you become friends with more guys you'll probably find a few you'll like more than friends. you did the right thing by not talking to him anymore, because he'll probably juss end up hurting you again. try meeting people and getting out. see what other guys have to offer.
-hope that helped!
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Gezz, Just goes to show you how low some guys are!! You really need to get over him! I had a b/f for 3 years and all he did for the last month was cheat and lie. i got over him by hanging out with different guys- ones who you know would treat you better and respect you -they have to respect you no matter what!_ it doesnt work out if there isnt trust either- you can stop listening to those sad songs about people breaking up and think about how rude and nasty he was and how much you desrve better! i hope i helped~ if you wanna chat more about this IM me &hearts Steph
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wow, yeah, boys are basically wicked ass holes. i totally know how you feel. boys want to get as much ass as they can, and since he and his girlfriend have more sexual experience and know each other better, thats why he did what he did. and he's probably in denial because his girlfriend is influencing him to be that way. don't worry, you will get over this kid because my guess is your a better girl for him than his girlfriend and he will be wanting you in the next two weeks. my advise to you is to get over this kid. burn every picture, every note, eveything he gave you and cleanse yourself of him. (believe me it works). and when he calls u one random night him and his grilfriend got in a fight, you can be like "fuck you ass hole" and be on your way...
.. i hope i helped(:
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Just reading this or typing it has to make you frustrated with this guy. He shouldn't even be dating girls and hurting them like that. Its just terrible. It is one thing to have really strong feelings and be really in love with a guy, but to have a sexual relationship is a different story. I will help you on this, but you have to do one thing for yourself. No matter how much he begs, pleads or swears to you that he'll never do it again, never go back. It will save you a lot of time and crushed feelings all over again. I need you to promise yourself that everyday. Basically, a good way to ease your pain about him is to do things for yourself. Not really getting selfish, but do something relaxing, because you need it. Take a bath, a walk with a girlfriend, hang out if you feel like it. But at least go out once in a while. Just sitting there alone makes you think of your misery more. But, alone time won't hurt. Also, try talking to someone about this guy until you're blue in the face. It really lets things out when you just keep talking about it until you're out of words. And, if you have nobody to talk to, you can talk to me or any other columnist, I'd be glad to help you. But, try doing things for yourself that help you relax, and don't hesitate to cry sometimes. Its ok to cry, but don't make it a habit. I am very sory this has happened to you.
-TheTeenGirl
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