E-mail: babybluemoocow@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Greenville, NC
Age: 16
AIM: acjjss1
Member Since: August 17, 2005
Answers: 27
Last Update: August 8, 2006
Visitors: 2281
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Anybody got any suggestions on how to quit smoking? I've been doing it since I was 15 and I'm 24 now. I smoke a pack a day and I really want to quit. I'm trying to get pregnant so I know I need to and now's the time. Cold Turkey didnt work for me even though that may be the best way to go. It seems like I'll quit for a day or so then something I consider to be "hectic" happens and I feel like I cant concentrate or fix whatever problem I'm having until I smoke. All idea's would be helpful and I'll definatly take into consideration. Thanks. (link)
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Personally, I don't smoke, but I know plenty of people that do. Just recently my mother stopped at smoking for over 30 years. She used the gum, which really seemed to help. What helped her most was a website (www.quitnet.com) that provided her with an outlet instead of smoking, meeting new people that were going through the same thing she was: WITHDRAW! She loved telling me how many minutes/hours etc. she had added onto her life by not smoking (the website calulates this). It also gave her a great support system. Hope this helps. Good luck with the quit!!!
Love Ash
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So, my boyfriends b-day is coming up. He'll be turning 19. We've been dating for 3 mo. I'm 16. I have 60 bucks and no idea what to get him. I want to do something special...not just some random gift. My boyfriend loves music & plays guitar. He also used to do martial arts. Advice would be very much appreciated. :] (link)
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Though you have 60 bucks, that doesn't mean it all has to be spent on your bf's b-day gift. For example, for my b-day my bf but together a scavenger hunt. He placed clues in different places, such as my house and car etc. One clue was a spoon which represented a night where we shared an ice cream sundae on a freezing night. Another clue was a timer, and it was to remind me of our first kiss. When he leaned in to kiss me the timer in the kitchen went off. So maybe putting together something that represents special memories you had together will mean more than any store bought gift.
Love Ash
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ok so one of my best friends told me the other day that she is not returning to our school in september because she going to a new school. I was devastated and haven't stopped crying. I know we'll still be friends but its just going to be so weird not having her there in school and i'm going to miss her soo much. I thought i was handling it well but i realized im not. I hate her family and blame them for her switch of schools and i can't help but want her to be miserable at her new school. Is that too selfish of me? I just don't know how to handle it. I've been so emotional for the past week or two and i just don't know what to do. please help! (link)
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Well, I would love to say that it is going to be better soon, but the truth is: it's not going to be. Instead of dwelling on all of the negatives of the situation, try to find some positives. You could get together with some of your other friends and plan a going away party. Something nice for both you and your friend would be to make a scrapbook filled with pictures of the two of you. You and your friend can keep in touch by phone, email, a messenger program, and even mail. Hope this helps!
Love Ash
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I'm addicted to soda. I'm average weight, and other then soda, I'm very healthy. My doctor says the soda is addding extra fat on my tummy and thighs, so I should stop drinking it so much. I drink about 2 cans a day, sometimes more. Its alot I know, I've tried stopping so many times. Cold turkey hasn't work, neither has slowly reducing how much I drink. Any other ideas? (link)
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You could always try diet soda instead of regular. It's much better for you, but it still allows you to feel as if you are drinking soda. Just experiment. I'm sure you'll find that diet drinks aren't all bad.
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okay, i use tampons during my period, but im nervous to go swimming with them in. Im afraid the water will soak the string, making the blood travel out trhough the tampon string. Does this happen or am i worrying for nothing? (link)
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Ignore the previous answer. If you tend to have heavier periods then wear a tampon when swimming. Once while I was swimming I bled, even though I was wearing a tampon. Imagine what would have happened had I not been waering one. Just be cautious and check to see that you haven't bled through the yampon, just as if you were wearing one while not swimming.
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I have been having a headache every night for the past week. I listen to music often, but I have always listened to music alot. I get them out of nowhere. I take excederin. Why do I keep getting headaches and how do I get rid of them? (link)
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Sometimes frequent headaches indicates that you need to have your eye sight checked!
Love ~Ash~
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I am bored out of my mind I've been at the computer for hours mostly because i'm waiting for this guy to sign on but he wont and I have nothing else to do besides this and watching tv im SO bored please give me ideas!! (link)
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www.ebaumsworld.com is a great site to go to if you are bored. You could also try www.linkydinky.com
Love ~Ash~
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to lose stomach fat, is walking the same as running? im not very good at running and i really want to lose my stomach fat so can i just walk? will walking help me lose my stomach weight? (link)
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Walking is safer and better on your knees than running, but runnig does get your heartbeat up. If you feel you cannot run, you could try a light jog or sprint. If you have a treadmill that has an incline.... walking with a high incline could be equal to jogging with no incline. Cardio vascular exercises are good for your heart and will help you burn calories....if you get your heartbeat high enough then you will burn fat!
Love ~Ash~
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Okay, I am 5'7"-ish and around 120 pounds. Sometimes I think I could use a bit of toning up. Well. it's mainly my stomach and sides. I know how to tone my stomach but the problem is I can't get my sides to tone. See, I have wide hips in my opinion and they have a bit of fat on them. I could probably fit into a size 3 instead of 5 if I could just tone my sides. Does anyone have any exersises that will give me a smaller waist and hips? Thanks! (link)
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Sit-up's are always great to help tone your stomach!
Love ~Ash~
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Is it weird for an African-American girl to say things like "Dude", "Narley", "Hot", etc.? (link)
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No, I think it is fine for someone of any race to say whatever they wish as long as it doesn't offend someone else.
Love ~Ash~
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how do you get over boys? i was with this guy for 7 months, we never officially dated but it was known that we were together. we had a sexual relationship and i fell for him big time. he suddenly started fooling around with his ex girlfriend behind my back and told me that he never really liked me to begin with. we hadnt had sex until about 8 days before we split and so he had no reason to keep me around to use me. he wasnt getting any benefits for staying with me for 7 months because i never really "did" anything for him. i know hes in denial that he never liked me. once i found out about him and his ex girlfriend (he never told me, my frined did) i decided to stop talking to him completely. i havent spoken to or seen him in 2 weeks. i unfortunatly cannto stop thinking about him. any advice...i know this was long sorry ill rate high (link)
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OMG....I cannot believe this jerk did this to you!There is no excuse for his behavior. I know it must be hard for you, but he obviously didn't feel for you the way you felt for him. Someone that loves you deeply would never treat you this badly no matter what he has told you. Good luck!
Love ~Ash~
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OMG!! My girlfriend shes so awesome but I think I sould tell her that I love her more than anything in the world. please ~ash~ if you can give some advice it would be uber awesome thanks a gosh darn lot
LOVE, ME (link)
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I think you should tell your girlfriend exactly how you feel about her, but if you love her as much as you say you do, I'm sure she already knows. Your girlfriend must be so lucky to have a wonderful boyfriend like you!
Love ~Ash~
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I am a sophomore in high school. I have been playing volleyball since I was in 5th grade. I have played on my school team and a travel team for the past 3 years. I've also had asthma since I was 3 years old. Having asthma makes it very hard to do most of the stuff we have to do. This year, we have a new and very hard coach named Beth Ann. She expects us to be Olympic athletes. If we make one bad pass, she makes us do like 3 suicides. I can't handle that. The first day, I puked twice. Plus, the coach underestimates me. The back row passers can't make a decent pass, and I'm a middle hitter, and i make more decent passes. She doesn't tell us how to fix our mistakes, she just makes us run. We run more than play the game. I can't handle it anymore. I've just lost interest in the game.
This is the tricky part. My dad is big on watching me play volleyball. I don't want to quit, but I really think I should. My sister quit her sophomore year also. How can I break it to my dad nicely that I don't want to play anymore? I don't want to piss him off. Asthmatics shouldn't even be playing sports. Ya konw? I don't want to be a quitter, but I want to be able to breathe. Someone help! Sorry about the length! I'll rate every good answer a 5. (link)
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If you really feel like you should quit then you should whether or not your dad wants you too. Have you tried talking to your coach about your asthma? ....you could get a doctors note to give to your coach! Hope everything goes well!
Love ~Ash~
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Okay, I have this friend, Charles, and he is kinda my exboyfriend I guess. But since the day I met him and to this very second, he has changed a lot. He used to be caring and sweet. Now he's mean and an asshole. I don't know like what to do because he blames it on me saying I'm the asshole. So today I told him we should pretend we don't know each other for awhile and he's all like "well I know what's gonna happen, it'll be awkward to talk and we'll drift apart." Which personally is what I wanted because I want my old life back. And I told him that, and I also told him that I don't want him talking to my friends becuase he would have never known them if it wasn't for me. I know it sounds selfish, but he talks about me to them everyday and says all this stuff, which mostly isn't true, then they all like ask me questions. I'm like arghh!! Like I'm totally sick of it and I need help because now he's all like, "no that ridiculus, I'm not gonna stop talking to them." And tonight all of my friends got into a fight. I just stopped crying. I'm tired of it. I've had like major breakdowns where i just have to sit or else I'll kill someone. It's horrible. What should I do? Please help.
*I rate 5's for good answers*
♥ Broken, Lost,and Confused but not giving up. (link)
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I know it may seem tough, but you can't keep your ex-boyfriend away from your friends. You could always talk to your friends and let them know how you feel about your ex. It sounds like you have already had a talk with your ex and theres not much else you can do. Hope everything turns out alright for you!
Love ~Ash~
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hey, im 4'11 and im 104 pounds. i think im fat, but all my friends say im really skinny. ive got some blubber on my stomach and my thight are huge. can sombody tell what might help with my stomach and my thighs, or is that a good weight for someone my height. thanks sooo much. i rate too (link)
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That is a great weight for someone your height. But your not alone, most girls feel insecure about their weight. If you really wanna do something about it though...you could always try sit-ups to make your stomach look firmer.
Love ~Ash~
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i feel like my friends never want to hang out with me unless i call them. they never call me and always hang out but not with me. i feel like i don't have any friends right now and that nobody likes me. i want to tell them that i'm feeling left out and stuff but i'm not sure how to tell them without them getting pissed off or sumthing. idk... so can anyone help?? thnx. (link)
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Just tell them that you feel left out, and if they are really your friends they will understand when you tell them! Good luck!
Love ~Ash~
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Okay. I have make-out before but for some werid reason I am scared to make-out with my bf, james since i really love him and i think it might be because I'm scare he will think im bad but i shouldn't be worrying about it sicne the guys i made out with befroe said im good and everything like that. but i don't know its like i dont care if all the guys think im bad as long as he thinks im good. what can help make me not be scared? im suppose to today, and i want to. but ahh!!
and also he is in 8th and im in 9th what will keep up able to stay together during school? and be able to work it out? (link)
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Don't worry if your good or not, just do what feels right and everything will be o.k. And as for if you stay together, if you really want it to work out you will find a way to see each other and stay together!
Love ~Ash~
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a couple of days ago i met this reallii hotttt guy named paul (hes 16 im 13) and hes so0o0o sweet and mi parents aprove of him and gthink he is thew nicest most helpful boy in the world and i thin he is my world and he likes me back and everything... butttt he has this long distance relationshipp that he says is nto going too well and he said he is like gonna break it off with herrr because like he dosent evr talk to her and he wants to go out with mee.. and stuff and we made out and stuff.. omg i feel so0o badd pleaseee give me adivce on thiss and i do not mind if its and or good i jus need some reactions and adviceee.. thankss a million and onee (I rate well)
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Don't blame yourself for the ending of this long distance relationship. It seems like he's just using you as a good excuse to end this relationship. I hope everything worksout between the two of you.
Love ~Ash~
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hey ash well im gonna ask you somethin you think ill every find the rite guy its jsut hard to find and i dont know can you please help me
from your best friend :) (link)
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OMG...yes you will! You have a great personality that any guy would love and adore! Iknow...b/c yourmy best friend!!!!! You have always been there for me to count on, and any guy would be crazy notto love ya!
Love ~Ash~
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My life really sucks. The guy i like has this really popular and pretty girlfriend. All the people at school make fun of me. I do not have alot of friends. My family doesn't seem like they care for me too much. I even sometimes think of suicide.
At school all of the people make fun of me. I am no dork but people make fun of me the way i dress and just plain make fun of me. On my school lacrosse team people always make fun of me. Not to brag but i am probably the best person on the team and yet there are still people making fun of me of the things i do. On my soccer team some of the girls make fun of me too. I do not have alot of friends either. My dad always bothers me to have someone come over and he asks me the number of people i called and its only about 3 because i really don't have alot of friends to call. My family is always yelling at me to. I try to be nice but then my sister makes some smart remark and then my parents expect me to be nice to her. And they think she is like the perfect angel child that does everything right. My sister even sometimes makes fun of me by saying i have no friends. Suicide is also something i think about and life is something i want to take away because it really sucks. Please add some advice to this column. It would really help. Even if it is just about one thing. Please help. (link)
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Everyone has their own style and you have yours. Don't let others get you down about the way you like to dress. I know siblings can be a pain but just try to ignore her and her comments...it just shows she's insecure with herself. Oh and another thing never think of suicide .....your life is too precious to waste!!!
Love ~Ash~
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