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I am a sophomore in high school. I have been playing volleyball since I was in 5th grade. I have played on my school team and a travel team for the past 3 years. I've also had asthma since I was 3 years old. Having asthma makes it very hard to do most of the stuff we have to do. This year, we have a new and very hard coach named Beth Ann. She expects us to be Olympic athletes. If we make one bad pass, she makes us do like 3 suicides. I can't handle that. The first day, I puked twice. Plus, the coach underestimates me. The back row passers can't make a decent pass, and I'm a middle hitter, and i make more decent passes. She doesn't tell us how to fix our mistakes, she just makes us run. We run more than play the game. I can't handle it anymore. I've just lost interest in the game.
This is the tricky part. My dad is big on watching me play volleyball. I don't want to quit, but I really think I should. My sister quit her sophomore year also. How can I break it to my dad nicely that I don't want to play anymore? I don't want to piss him off. Asthmatics shouldn't even be playing sports. Ya konw? I don't want to be a quitter, but I want to be able to breathe. Someone help! Sorry about the length! I'll rate every good answer a 5.
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wow, this is tricky, im going through the same thing, its very hard for parents to see you do great in something and then see their child quit.I quit gymnastics for a year, but now im going back. You have asthma. If your dad doesn't understand enough that your hurting, then he has a problem, he should love his child more then the sport. Sit him down, talk to him, tell him you feel sick when you go to practice..he should understand. but, just because your quiting that team, doesn't mean you have to stop playing the game. keep doing what your doing, try finding another team, that plays for fun..thats the best i can do, good luck
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Well you may be able to switch were you play and tell your dad about the coach and say its harsh how harsh how she treats you and that you dont like it. Tell him that you have just lost intrest in the sport.
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If you really feel like you should quit then you should whether or not your dad wants you too. Have you tried talking to your coach about your asthma? ....you could get a doctors note to give to your coach! Hope everything goes well!
Love ~Ash~
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I don't have asthma so I'm not totally sure about the medical side of this, but from my experience asthmatics have an inhaler they can use after exercise. This might be something you want to keep in mind before you quit. Instead of complaining about the running, maybe you should do some running on your own. You'll build up your endurance, so the running she makes you do won't seem so hard. Also, if you'd practice a lot she wouldn't have to make you run. I'm sorry! I know it's kind of harsh but in my opinion, it's the truth. If you don't love the game enough to put in this much work then you're right, maybe you shouldn't. You shouldn't have to do something you don't like if you don't have to. But, Even though she is making you run, this will eventually help you during a game, you'll be quicker. I can't make a decision for you, but I'd stick with it. Atleast until the end of the season/1/2 semester.
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I'm in a very similar situation. First and formost, your health comes before anything - so if playing is killing you then just stop, reguardless of peoples reaction. If you really can't keep up with doing volley ball, then you don't have to. Explain to your dad that your asthma is making it very difficult for you to continue. Tell him about your coach and practices and how you don't enjoy it. Really, why continue something you don't have fun doing? Hmm to break it nicely? First tell him about the practices and coach, then about how asthma doesn't make it any better. Then ask him if with all of that you should continue playing volleyball - ask him like for his own personal opinion. No, it won't make you sound like a quitter, or that you are implying to give up. Surely he would understand and not say: oh I think you should just tough it out and stuff. Even if he says that you should, tell him that you don't think its a good idea. All you have to do is just make sure you are clear and let him know why it is you don't want to continue with volleyball - beacause its hurting you and not fun. Yes your father likes to watch you play, but not doing so won't make him like you less. Hope that helped and good luck.
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hey! i totally understand! i've been playing volleyball since the 4th grade. I'm a freshman now and on the Varsity team at my highschool, we just got a new head coach this year too, so i'm pretty understanding of your situation. I don't have asma, but i've had injuries that have put me into similar situations. my advice to you is that first and foremost you need to decide weather you really want to quit. I think that you should wait to make decision untill at least your first win. I say this because after you win that game you'll have an incredible feeling of accomplishment, and for those few moments you'll understand that all that hard work and pain is what makes those other wonderful feelings possible. I'm sure that your team will have great success if you and your teamates continue to put in the amount of hard work that you are now. you just need to think about what is more important to you; becoming a better volleryball player and haveing many more great irreplaceable moments of victory and accomplishment, or the chance to never have to suffer through another painful and hard practice. its up to you, just make sure that whatever you do you do it for you, and not for anyone eles (like your dad).
:)Annie
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My first suggestion to you is to not give up on it. I suggest that because I know what kind of a coach you are talking about, my swim coach is like that (Winter). I considered quitting, my mom told me to try for another month, and the rewards are phenomenal. I'd suggest just sticking with it until the end of the season, and you may actually improve to one of the best of the best.
My second pertains to what YOU want. If you wish to quit, you should just go up to your dad and ask if you can talk with him for a bit. That always softens the father up. Tell him about volley ball, and how it is just frustrating you with the new coach (Elaborate for a REALLY long time on this coach), and trying to do it with asthma and how you just aren't getting into it like you used to. Ask if you could just try a season off, as it may boost your morale in playing.
This passive type of a talk will always result in one of two things. The first is that you will get what you want. The second is that your dad will give you better advise and confort than any of us can give, and you go into it with renewed confidence.
If you know about teamwork theory, you are in the "Storming" phase. The quicker and the stronger it comes, the much better of a team you are. It's when you lose motivation. But, it should pass as quick as it came, and you'll be norming, getting so much better.
Just try it, for me. Yes, I do care that much about you. Just try. Please?
-Steven
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Is it really the sport you have a problem with? Or is it just the coach? It sounds like you've put alot of heart into the game and I'd hate to see someone throw it away because of nasty coach.
If you've grown tired with the game, or think it's putting your health at risk then by all means quit. Your father will be dissapoint but will probably understand, people grow up and thier interests change.
Don't let this coach run you out though, talk to her, your school, other teammates and even your parents. With enough feedback from parents the school might force her to change her style.
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i play vball also n basketball. Mah frend plays basketball n soccer (2 runnin sports). she also has asthma too! She never quit n u shouldnt either. It seems lyk you lyk 2 play vball. SO wuts d point of quitin if u lyk it so much. Mayb if d coach gits 2 know ya betta.... she'll see the potential in you.
All im tryin 2 say is DONT B A QUITAA!!
much luv
PeAcE
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