about

Hi, I am Jennifer
I am Korean- Japanese and proud.
I am a clingy person, so I need people who don't mind cling people.
I try very hard not to be judgemental.
I suck at waking up.
I have a two second attention span.
I laugh at the most corniest jokes and make them myself.
I have a lot of Jennifer moments. You have been warned.
I love being tan, so please get that suntan lotion away from me. :)
I can make a party animal look like a party pooper. :p
So, yeah, I'm just your average kind of girl... with a more than needed bit of craving for chocolate maybe? Yup... ♥

advice

there is these 2 boys in my class and they stare at me and my friend all the time but they look me in the eye they deny that they like me online.but they wont talk to me in person its like theyre scared too.one of the boys talks to the other one about where they live but the other boy already knows where he lives.they also talk about other girls like trying to get me jealous or something he says " i wanna go out with " so and so but i dont know what hes tyring to do ... do you think he likes me ? or my friend what other signs would a boy do if they liked me ? my friend and i pass notes back and fourth and they try to look do they like me ?also one of them did a nod thing i dont know what it means and i asked him on here why he dosent talk to me in school he said i dont know on here and in art class he pulls up his shirt and his friends are at my table and he talks to them alot and stares at me he looks me in the eye but he has a gf theyve been together since june 05
he gets up at lunch time and looks over at my table do you think he likes me ? i dont know what he is trying to do he nods at me ... he told me on here that he nodded to me in school and i turned my head .. if i knew that i wouldnt have also he seems to follow me around school. i dont know whats up with him my bestfriend thinks that he likes me but no1 knows he will only talk to me online not in person it seems like he is scared .



It really seems as if these guys have affections for you, but they deny because they have girlfriends. Which is perfectly understandable. The next time they stare at you, ask them, "What?" See if they react. If they turn away or look down, they do definitely have some interest in you.
First of all, ask them WHY they are doing this nod thing and staring.
And actions depend on your feelings for them:
If you just don't like them or just view them as friends, ignore them whenever they stare and just stay silent if they flirt. You can't make them not like you without being mean, so I just suggest pretending they aren't staring at you. Eventually, their feelings will change because you aren't responding to them.
If you do like them as something more, they'll eventually break apart from their girlfriends if they really do care for you. When that happens, you flirt. You smile warmly at them when they stare or if you're daring enough, wink. Only if they turn single though, because it'll be totally wrong for you to break a couple apart.

Hope I've helped
-Jenny C ♥

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THis guy and I really like each other....well at least I know that i really like him. But he told me he liked me, and we have been talkin to each other for a month and some days. He is really sweet and we talk nearly everyday. but there is one problem: I live like two counties away from him (about 45-50 minutes) and the only common ground we have is when we see each other at church every Saturday. This weekend, he told me that he doesnt know if it will really work out because of our distance. I was crushed. But we saw each other the next day, and he said that he missed me, and he think he made a mistake. Then he added that the distance was not the only thing, that he wasnt being completely honest. Im not sure what it is, and im not sure whether he still likes me (but he did say that he still has feelings for me). And now i dont know what it is. And he is busy with homework alot, so it has been two days and we still havent tlaked about it. If he cant call me, he usually would call me just to say goodnight. Now if he doenst call, he just doent call. And now I dont know what to think. I know that if it was just the distance, then we could definitely work it out. I dont know what to think. SOmebody HELP!!!!


There's three possible reasons:

I hate to say this, but there might be another girl. I'm sorry, but life's life. It happens, and you just have to get over it. You guys live with this huge distance between you two and if there came another girl for him where he lived, then he would chose her because relationships are easier when you're together. Isn't that the point of relationships? Being together? So you have to understand if he decided to move on. Maybe you have to too.

But there could be another reason. Maybe his parents don't allow him to date, or just doesn't want this guy with you, for some reason. Is your church against those kinds of things? Because if your church is, and if you're getting all cuddly with him there, you should just move on to a guy that you could have a better relationship with without all these things in your way. It'll be a lot comfortable.

And then this guy could just not be sure if he really has feelings for you or not. Just back off a little, and give him some space and time to think about it. He must have thought it was right to say, 'I love you', at the time before, but right after he was just unsure.

If you really want to know, the best thing to do is ASK HIM. Tell him to be honest with you, because you're really bothered by it. If he can't tell you, maybe it's serious and you should just leave it alone. Move onto another guy.

xoxo
-Jenny C

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ok theres this boy that i like and that i have liked for a long time and we would flirt and all like we would make bets and stuff hes a flirtnot only to me but others and he told me that he likes me as a friend but his friends and everybody around me tells me different and the thing is that he knows i like him and well sometimes he acts like he likes me more than just a friend and heres whats complicated i feel like im getting closer yet further and he knows my brothers and hes friends not good friends but friends he said that hes not scared of my brothers and he proved so on some occasions like at a party so he does act like he likes me but he never really says it or acts on it and i wonder why why act like more than a friend but not act on it and well another problem is that hes black and my parents and brother its a really really big issue like i would forever be disowened by them and the thing is that im usaually not attracted to black guys but its different with him everytime i think im over him he pops back up its like im so CLOSE BUT YET SO FAR ITS LIKE I CAN REACH OUT AND TOUCH HIM BUT YET HES UNTOUCHABLE PLEASE HELP


I think it's family over guys, especially your parents because they usually know more than you do. But for this though, it's just plain racism.
Personally, I'm not sure if this guy is right for you. He might seem flirtatious and everything, but if he's like that to everyone, then he's obviously just a player that just happened to think you're a little cuter than the rest. Don't get your heart broken over guys like that, just saying for future possibilities.

I really don't think he's worth your time. This guy didn't even ask you out yet, so I'm not sure why you're really worrying. It's not like you're in a situation where this guy asked you out.

If you're really THAT crazy for him, then I suggest you go for this guy, because I don't know how you feel, and it's wrong for me to go, "Seriously, back away from him because I don't like him so you shouldn't either." It's your life. Start flirting with this guy if you like him that much, but if you get hurt because of this guy, remember that you're a better person and he's the one who's missing out on something good, okay? =)

If he asks you out, ask for advice on how to deal with family, okay?

xoxo
-Jenny C

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ok so i use to go out with this boy named jacob he was soo sweet . nice . lovin . caring basicly wat a girl wants inna guyy but the only problem was . was that he was boring we never did anything other than go to each others houses . but thats beside the point . we broke up i think the beginin of December because i just felt like it wasnt goin any wher . now i miss him more than ever i didnt think i would want him bac but the tables turned on me & i really miss him ALOT & i wanna get bac together with him . i mean we didnt even speck after we broke up & yesterday was the 1st day sence . but i found out he has a girl friend . idk wat to do i mean if hes happy i dont wanna mess anything up because im not THAT big of a bitch ya kno . im scared 2 tell him how i feel cause he'll prolly just be like well your the one who broke up with me & i dont feel like hearing it .. WAT DO I DO ??

thanks for yall who answer me


Well, if this guy already is in a relationship, then you shouldn't be messing with him and his girl. I think you should just be a friend, and go from there. Be really affectionate to him, just give him little hints that you still like him, and if he reacts positively to it, then you can go a little further. If this guy asks you about your feelings, admit it, "Yeah, I like you. Is it wrong to want you?" or something like that.
But don't try to break the guy and the girl up. Don't go crazy being flirtatious and everything. Maybe even wait until the two of them break up to start giving the hints.

Hope I've helped
-Jenny C

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18/F
Ok I work with Shauna and we have a lot of fun at work. She used to be one of the people, among a few, at work that I work really well as a team with. On days with her, both our performances were up.
She's very attractive by typicals standards; blonde, blue eyed etc. She is also a lesbian, but that doesn't stop her from flirting with men around work for her benefit.
At our work party, I was pretty plastered and I expressed to another workmate about how disgusting it was that she was sleazing around like that and it was degrading to all lesbians everywhere who have to try so hard to gain acceptance etc. She was within hearing range and I knew she was but it didn't stop me from saying it. Later on, I apologized and we laughed it off.
Another coworker approached me yesterday and told me that she's been telling workers that I'm in love with her and am jealous or something of the guys she flirts with. She's keeps hinting at how good we are working together and making crude jokes (jokes we used to make before except now she's more vulgar and specific). She's also told someone else that she wants to ask me out.
Okay, now I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt her feelings and tell her I'm not a lesbian and what I said at the party didn't mean anything. She has a tendency to take things very personally and not being able to think rationally. She also has a very quick temper. Any advice at all?

Ignore this lady's crude jokes. Or roll your eyes and glance at her in a disgusted way: show in anyway that you don't think the jokes are funny. You need to show her with your actions that you do not have affections for her that way. Tell people that the rumors are not true at all, and maybe it will get to this workmate of yours.
If that doesn't work, talk to her about a made-up man. Describe him and act like you're lovestruck. Tell her, "You're good at flirting. What do I do to him to attract his attention?" or something. You have to show her that you're a straight person without saying it directly.

Hope I've helped
-Jenny C ♥

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ok, i like this boy who is one year younger than me (13). we know each other because we go to the same church and we're pretty good friends. we always text each other and stuff like that. but i dont know if he likes me. the stuff he says in his text messages kinda makes me think that he does, but then im not totally sure. i like him, but im not sure if he likes me...any ideas?


You guys are already friends, right? So it'll be easy to hang out with him without asking him out. Ask this guy if he wants to hang out someplace. Like a movie theater, and then just flirt a little. Give him a head to toe look, make eye contact, giggle at his jokes, give him a cute nickname (like if he talks about his car too much "hot rod") and occasionally touch his hand... but just like, innocently bump his hand with yours... don't hold his hands until you guys have gotten together!
There are ways to tell if he likes you or not:
Blushes around you (duh)
He treats you different than his other friends
If his friends seem to take an interest in you when he's not there (this means he has said something about you).


Hope I've helped
-Jenny C

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Have you ever had a sudden urge to do something? Why do we get them?
Like a couple days ago, I had the sudden urge to kiss my best friend (im f/he's m). Another time I wanted to jump out my window. Talk about random!
Help, I keep getting them...is there something wrong with me?


It's perfectly normal. It's just little increase of your emotions. I've had those urges too. Just as long as you don't actually give into your urges, nothing would go wrong.

Once I had the impulse to dance on top of my desk in front of the teacher..

=)
-Jenny C

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To make this as short as possible...
My best friend has been depressed for almost 2 years now, mostly minor depression. Lately she's been getting more and more depressed. She has been talking to me about it and she has mentioned, more than once mind you, about commiting suicide. I love her and I tell her all the time...I don't want her to kill herself, soo many people would be sad. She seems to think that everybody hates her and all that...she used to cut ALOT but I managed to get her to stop but that took so much effort that I started getting depressed. I'm fine now but she isn't. She needs help but she refuses to get any. How do I attempt to fix this? I love her so much, like how is it that a 16 year old girl wants to commit suicide. She's in soo many clubs and what-not, she does soo much volunteer work, she's the best person ever. I know one of her best friends just died but I don't think that would cause all of this, being that it started like almost 2 years ago. Anyways, she and I could use all your help. =]♥


If she feels under-appreciated, TELL HER YOU LOVE HER! You're her sister, aren't you?
Ask her, "If I didn't care about you, would I have stopped you from cutting? No. But I did try to stop you. Doesn't that prove that I love you? You know how many people are going to be upset if you die? Why don't you see it? I wouldn't bother persuading you to live if I didn't care. So don't kill yourself!" List everyone that cares about her, including you.
Hug her. Be sweet. Start crying if you have to! Be overdramatic about so she'll get it and believe it.

XOXOX tell me everything
-Jenny

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yeah im a very a.d.d. type of person, im loud, im outgoing and so many random things come to my head that i cant keep track of anything. but i have alot of close friends and they some how love me even though im just about the most hyper person in the world. well most of the time when i like someone i have to control myself and not show how energetic i am or else they would be scared off. like i usually have to try so hard to stay calm and not be quite so obnoxious. but ive finally met this guy that i can be my complete self around and he still feels the same way about me that i feel about him. he is one of the greatest people ive ever met. hes cute and funny, and nice, and gets me. soo the only problem is, is that my good friend that knew him before i did likes him too. actually she is like in love with him. and he told me that he likes me and hes told her he doesnt have feelings for her but for some reason she keeps holdng on. andd i dont know what to do cause i dont wanna loose a good friend. but no guy has ever understood me this well. advice would be greatly appreciated.


If this guy likes you for real and not your friend, it's not your fault. It's his feelings, right? And your feelings, right? It's not like you can control it. Plus, if you don't go out with this guy, who knows what kind of relationship you would be wasting? I say go for it.

If this girl was really your friend, she'd be happy for you, trust me. But, truthfully..., she most likely will be upset. You have to understand though, and tell her you do if she gets a temper tantrum. Also tell her that you're going out with this guy anyway, but you still value your friendship. You might lose one or the other, but if you're lucky, you can get both.

Tell your friend, "Sorry, but I like the guy too... and I can't stop that from happening. I'm sorry, but it just so happens that he asked me out. And it just so happens that I like him, and you like him. That's the way life is. The point is: I don't want to lose you as a friend, but I don't want to be missing out on something good either (him). I'm really sorry." Try not to be harsh. Point out to her that you still want to be her friend.

XOXO
-Jenny C

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13/F. There is this boy that is in 2 of my classes. I bearlly noticed him like 2 weeks ago, and he is really cute. I know or I think I know that he likes me, but he hangs out with this girl all the time and I know she likes him, in my opinion shes isn't really all that cute. I want to tell him I like him, cause I if I did then he might ask me out. But before I do are these kinda signs that he like me?: he always comes and tells me i smell good, he always wants me to sit on his lap, he passes me notes during class, and always hugs me and holds hands with me in the hallway. Another thing is that the girl he hangs out with is kind of my friend but lately has been calling me and boyfriend stealer, when they aren't even together. So what do you think? Should I tell him or not?


Awwwwwww, it totally looks like you two would look cute together!
Forget the girl. She's just jealous. They aren't together, so what boyfriend are you exactly stealing, anyway?? Just leave her alone. Ignore her.
I really think this guy likes you. Don't ask him out directly. Hint it. Go, "Umm... if you could go out with any girl in this school, who would it be?"
I think the relationship will go out really well!!

XOXO
-Jenny C ♥

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okay, i am dead in the middle of the classic issue of being in love with your best friend.

lets call him Joe.

joe and i got really close really fast. my friends say "we just click". and i can see it too. when were together we're inseparable and when were apart we talk all the time. he tells me a lot of things he doesnt tell his other friends, even the ones who have been there forever.

but just recently, joe has become more "attractive", much more attractive..and now girls are alll over him..and guys, too. And ive liked him since the first time we hung out..before his grand transformation. and im afraid hes going to end up with someone who only talks to him NOW beacuse of his looks.

i dont know what to do.

i dont want to tell him because im terrified of rejection and i would MUCH rather have him as my best friend than not at all.

but id also like to know, beacuse sometimes it FEELS and LOOKS like he may like me, but other times..it doesnt.

and my feelings get stronger everytime we talk.

any ideas?
thanks a lot :]

15/f


Awww, that's cute.
There are some easy ways to find out if a guy likes you:
1) Blushing
2) Treats you different than any of his friends or other girls
3) His guy friends has some strange interests in you, it means that your crush has talked to them about you.

Flirt with him constantly. Start small though, but make it noticeable. Like, giggle at his every jokes, sweetly smile at him, make full eye contact, little hints that tells you you're interested in him. If he responds a little negatively... it means he doesn't like you. If he doesn't notice, or responds positively, start to go to the next level and start doing stuff like looking him head to toe (make sure he sees you!) and stuff. Be affectuonate!

XOXO
-Jenny C ♥

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My sister has been trying so hard to impress everyone lately. She isn't even herself anymore, and she hasn't been for almost 2 years (she's 14). She spends days on myspace, facebook, and aim. She's become a typical fake teenaged girl who says "like" and "hilarious" every other word.

How do I deal with her?


My sister is JUST like that! She begs her parents to buy her clothes at Abercrombie when my parents don't even have the money. I asked her why she wants to shop there and she goes, "Because everyone else is." Some of Abercrombie's clothes have very shallow words on them and it used to be a racist store (but it's not any more because business started to suck.) It's horrible, isn't it? I want her past self back as well, but it's her personality and mind that you really can't do anything about it, other than convince her that being a fake person is just... stupid and wrong. If that doesn't work, you just have to watch her turn into one of those plastic people that we see so much of on this world.

I couldn't change my sister back to her old self either... I just ignore her and not talk to her. There isn't really anything to do, but that. I have to deal with the same thing. The best thing you can do is not to turn into a wannabe faker yourself!


Hope I've helped
-Jenny C

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Im 13\f i reallyyyy like this guy and i havnt meet anyone like him before. two of my best friends like him to i was okay with it because me and him talk everyday and i didnt think that he would just like forgett about me because he seems like he likes me. then he said one of my friends was pretty and nice and he was going to ask her out. i started crying and i told her that i didnt want her to because it was weird since i like him. and she got all mad at me because i was jelous but i knew him first and stuff but i dont wanna ask him out cuz it would ruin our friendship.
I REALLY NEED HELP!!! i cant take it anymore.
thanks


I think you're being unfair to your friend. She liked this guy as much as you liked him, and her crush asked her out, so you should be happy for her. I know you're upset about it, but how would you feel? If this guy asked you out, and a friend told you not to go out with him because she likes him too, wouldn't that be a disloyal friend? It's wrong for you to do that.

It's awful that you've known him longer and everything but he chose to ask another girl, but I don't think you should get in the way of your friend's relationship with this guy. Slowly get over it. You'll get a chance with another boy. You're only 13. Love isn't a big thing to worry about yet. Take a deep breath, and move on.

Hope I've helped
-Jenny C

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I have been with my boyfriend for a little over 6 months now. He has a best friend that is a girl that is younger than him. She is gorgeous and totally his type. They never dated. They have been friends for over 6 yrs., they met working together. He is super close with her family. He used to eat dinner over there and occasionally visits them. Why didn't they ever date? I think that he may have liked her at one time, but I have never asked him that, because I don't want him to think that I'm jealous or a control freak like his ex girl friend. I just needed someone else's opinion. What do you think about this?


I believe that they just want to stay friends.. either that, or one of them has some feelings but the other doesn't, so nothing is done to get a relationship. I think the girl and the boy thinks of each other as best friends (which is, in my opinion, better than being a girlfriend) and they just want to stay that way, not anything more or less.

If you really want to know, just ask. I don't see how it'll make you seem like a control freak. Just tell him you want to know. Just a curiosity.

Hope I helped
-jenny C ♥

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my period normally lasts 2 or 3 days. now, all of a sudden it's lasted around 7 and is really heavy. also, i'm getting HORRIBLE cramps to the point where i dont even want to stand up. my periods are also really irregular but ive had my period since i was 11 and im 13 now. can anyone tell me if this is a problem that i need to see a doctor for or anything? and anyway to make me feel better?
PLEASEEE help!!!


Oh, I feel your pain. =)
You don't have to see a doctor. It's completely normal. It's an evil thing that we ladies were cursed with.
I think, for the cramps, wearing loose pants (like sweatpants or pajama pants) help. Hugging a pillow to your tummy for a few seconds work too. At least it comforts me. Stay still on your bed, or whatever position comfortable... just don't move until the pain goes away.

Hope I've helped
-Jenny C

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What is your opinion on brown hair?Do you think it is ugly?

Brown hair is sexy. =) Why would you think it's ugly?

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I met this guy a few months ago and straight away we knew we were going to be really close mates. A month or two later he told me he loved me and that he knew he had a girlfriend and he loved her but he couldn't help loving me as well. Things happened anyway and a while later him and his girlfriend hit a rough patch and mutually split up (her idea) Anyway, he asked me out and we had an amazing few weeks, but after a long talk i realised he still loved her and told him i wanted him to be happy even if that meant losing him to her again. He is back with her now and we are still very close mates. .. But he is the only guy for me...I really think i am actually in love with him, but i want him to be happy! thats all i care about!
Please help me!
Lovesick Rock-chick
-xXx-


Awwww, that was so sweet of you to let the guy do that... even if you really liked him.
But it was pretty shallow of the guy to just go without even hesitating.
All I can say is not to break them up again. Just be really affectionate and sweet to this guy. Be good friends with him and one day, he might just go back to you. This guy is the one that's missing out on something good, so show him that!
Meanwhile, slowly try to move onto other guys. Flirt with others that seem interesting to you. You might never get back with this guy again, so try to get to other guys.

Good luck!!
-Jenny C

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I like him and i'm not sure if he likes me.The problem is we work together and i'm not sure if i can take it anymore.He's always nice to me,says hi,listens to what i say and asks me how i am but i feel like we're just friends.not even that.He's all nice to me one minute.He's talkative and gives me good eye contact.i catch him staring at me.The next minute he's all quiet and i don't know what to do anymore.i feel like i am going crazy,i really like him but i don't know if he feels the same.


One way you can find out is by smiling at him if he's passing you in the halls. If this guy likes you, he's eyes will brighten and he'll actually say hi. If he's the shy type, he'll just look down. If the guy just smiles the everyday, polite kind of smile, it means he just likes you as a normal classmate or a friend. If he frowns, well, that's an obvious sign of dislike.
Check his behavior with other people. If he acts the same way around them as he does to you, then he doesn't like you in that way.
If your guy's friends act weird around you while he's not with them, it means he talked about you to them.
And the DEAD give away: blushing. If he blushes to whatever you say, then ta da- he loves you!

Hope I've helped
-Jenny C

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my dog, she keeps shaking! im so worrieddd

Your dog is most likely scared, or cold. Hug her in a warm blanket and whisper calmly in her ear. Give her treats. Pat her.
I've also noticed that every dog loves to be scratched in a certain area. The area is different for every dog: behind its ears, on its chin... as a dog owner, you would've noticed where your dog loves to be scratched.
Do anything that would comfort a dog.

Hope I helped
-Jenny C

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I love him
He hates me now..
We used to talk alllll the time
now he doesnt
and i cant talk to him
I would do anything to talk to him again
He hates me and my friend
and he stares at us... its weird
I think its becuase we had a bit of a sexual past
i can not get over him, as many times as ive tried.
I need some sort of help
thnx!


It depends on WHY this guy hates you.
Is it because you cheated on him? Or dumped him? If it was something similar to those two, then he has every right to be mad at you. This guy probably liked you a lot, but you threw him away or left for another guy. All I could tell you is to say sorry.
Tell him how much your life has changed ever since he slipped out of it. Explain to this guy that you miss him so much. You're hurting. Be dramatic with it, but don't get carried away!
If it was a small, dumb reason that he hates you, like you accidentally ruined his favorite jeans or something, tell this guy that you're really sorry but you don't think it's worth all this crap. Tell this guy that you'd like to hang out again. Tell him you don't have to go out again, but let's at least be friends. You can work your way up to being his girl again from there.

Hope I helped
-Jenny C

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