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yeah im a very a.d.d. type of person, im loud, im outgoing and so many random things come to my head that i cant keep track of anything. but i have alot of close friends and they some how love me even though im just about the most hyper person in the world. well most of the time when i like someone i have to control myself and not show how energetic i am or else they would be scared off. like i usually have to try so hard to stay calm and not be quite so obnoxious. but ive finally met this guy that i can be my complete self around and he still feels the same way about me that i feel about him. he is one of the greatest people ive ever met. hes cute and funny, and nice, and gets me. soo the only problem is, is that my good friend that knew him before i did likes him too. actually she is like in love with him. and he told me that he likes me and hes told her he doesnt have feelings for her but for some reason she keeps holdng on. andd i dont know what to do cause i dont wanna loose a good friend. but no guy has ever understood me this well. advice would be greatly appreciated.
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If this guy likes you for real and not your friend, it's not your fault. It's his feelings, right? And your feelings, right? It's not like you can control it. Plus, if you don't go out with this guy, who knows what kind of relationship you would be wasting? I say go for it.
If this girl was really your friend, she'd be happy for you, trust me. But, truthfully..., she most likely will be upset. You have to understand though, and tell her you do if she gets a temper tantrum. Also tell her that you're going out with this guy anyway, but you still value your friendship. You might lose one or the other, but if you're lucky, you can get both.
Tell your friend, "Sorry, but I like the guy too... and I can't stop that from happening. I'm sorry, but it just so happens that he asked me out. And it just so happens that I like him, and you like him. That's the way life is. The point is: I don't want to lose you as a friend, but I don't want to be missing out on something good either (him). I'm really sorry." Try not to be harsh. Point out to her that you still want to be her friend.
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-Jenny C
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These kinds of situations are hard because there's no way to deal with them and make everyone happy.
The best thing you can do is sit down and talk to your friend about it. Explain how much you like this guy, and how he makes you feel special. Tell her you that she likes him a lot too, and that you value her feelings, et cetera, et cetera. Ask her how hurt she would be if you dated him, and if there's anything you could do to make her feel better. If she says it's okay for you and the guy to go out, then...yay. But if she tells you it would be too hard for her, then I think you should sacrifice the boy for your friendship. Call him and tell him that you like him, but that you can't go out with him because of your friend.
You can also just go out with him anyway, and maybe your friend will get over it. It depends how much you care about this guy.
Good luck...I hope I helped :)
P.S. I am also somewhat loud, random, and often obnoxious. You have no idea how many times I've been told to "use my inside voice." Hee.
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ok its not your fault that your friend like him. thats her problem to deal with. if he wanted her hed be with her but his eyes are on you and you feel the same way for him so go with him. its selfish on her part if she trys to get in the way of it.she should be considerate of your feelings as well. if she isnt its not your fault
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