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THis guy and I really like each other....well at least I know that i really like him. But he told me he liked me, and we have been talkin to each other for a month and some days. He is really sweet and we talk nearly everyday. but there is one problem: I live like two counties away from him (about 45-50 minutes) and the only common ground we have is when we see each other at church every Saturday. This weekend, he told me that he doesnt know if it will really work out because of our distance. I was crushed. But we saw each other the next day, and he said that he missed me, and he think he made a mistake. Then he added that the distance was not the only thing, that he wasnt being completely honest. Im not sure what it is, and im not sure whether he still likes me (but he did say that he still has feelings for me). And now i dont know what it is. And he is busy with homework alot, so it has been two days and we still havent tlaked about it. If he cant call me, he usually would call me just to say goodnight. Now if he doenst call, he just doent call. And now I dont know what to think. I know that if it was just the distance, then we could definitely work it out. I dont know what to think. SOmebody HELP!!!!
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There's three possible reasons:
I hate to say this, but there might be another girl. I'm sorry, but life's life. It happens, and you just have to get over it. You guys live with this huge distance between you two and if there came another girl for him where he lived, then he would chose her because relationships are easier when you're together. Isn't that the point of relationships? Being together? So you have to understand if he decided to move on. Maybe you have to too.
But there could be another reason. Maybe his parents don't allow him to date, or just doesn't want this guy with you, for some reason. Is your church against those kinds of things? Because if your church is, and if you're getting all cuddly with him there, you should just move on to a guy that you could have a better relationship with without all these things in your way. It'll be a lot comfortable.
And then this guy could just not be sure if he really has feelings for you or not. Just back off a little, and give him some space and time to think about it. He must have thought it was right to say, 'I love you', at the time before, but right after he was just unsure.
If you really want to know, the best thing to do is ASK HIM. Tell him to be honest with you, because you're really bothered by it. If he can't tell you, maybe it's serious and you should just leave it alone. Move onto another guy.
xoxo
-Jenny C
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I think he still likes you. He just tires to be a ralist. It's hard living away from eachother but that's still no excuse. I have this friend whos girlfriend lies in Austria (and he lives i sweden!) And somehow they manage for it to work. You guys only love 40-45 minutes away from eachother. That's the time it takes for me to go to school! I go to school and back everyday, and that's about 90minutes a day! That's no biggie at all! You guys can totally make this work! If there is a will there is a way! The only reason for you guys not to be together is that one of you don't feel that way about the other. But I think he still likes you, give it a try! At least you see eachother at least once a week in chruch! That's awesome! then you can hang out afterwards or something! It is too hard to find a guy that you like and that actually likes you back so hun, when you find him (which you have!), do everything to make it work. It's worth it! There is too little love in the world because of silly things as "too far away" or "too big nose" or something! Let me just ask you somehting: DO you like him? If yes- go for it! otherwise, that's your answer!
Good luck! ;)
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Sounds to me like he doesn't know what he wants. I think you should tell him that you really like him, but you can't wait around forever for him. Tell him to either try out a relationship or stop talking about that stuff all together. You need someone who isn't only thinking about themselves all the time, and you deserve to have a chance with a guy who appreciates you.
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