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my best friend and i turn 18 exactly two weeks apart, so we're throwing a birthday shindig for both of us combined. we're having it at this big multi-purpose lodge thing, so it'll most likely be a dance. problem is, we want a theme. not anything like "hawaiian" or whatever, just something simple. we wanted to do a neon theme- where everyone wears neon colors and we get glow sticks and all that, but another girl just threw one of those. and we've agreed black & white parties are too overdone. we want something simple & original. any ideas?! (link)
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My friend recently went to an 80s theme party and she got all decked out in leg warmers, side ponytail, all the 80s stuff. It sounded really fun. or you could do the whole hat theme where everyone wears a cool or unusual hat. might be fun. I suppose you could just have no theme or maybe even a formal theme so people have an excuse to get dressed up.
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I'm obsessed with irish things so i wanted to know if anyone knew of some great irish movies. I dont care if the movie was made strait out of Ireland or made in America. All I want is a movie with something to do with Ireland! Please help!:] (link)
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One movie I remember from my childhood about Irish people and leprechauns is "Darby O'Gill and the Little People." I used to watch it every st. patty's day with my family. Its pretty good
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I have had ance now for almost 4 years now and i havent had one time were i have had clear skin. i have gone to a derematolgst(srry for bad spelling)and he gave me two creme meds. and i have been using them every night and i still dont have clear skin. if u hav any tips please!!!!! help me (link)
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Well everyone's skin is different, so i cannot guarantee any results but this is what worked for me. I used to use all the special acne creams and facewash when I had HORRIBLE acne on my forehead. i washed twice a day, everyday, and applied creams after each wash. I still had acne. Then, one day I started washing my face just once a day, with a mild soap (Dr. Bronners hemp soap) and threw away all the creams. During that time I also changed my diet and started drinking more water. Since then, I have had perfectly clear skin for about 6 years now (honestly I have had just a few zits in all those years combined about one every year seriously). the only thing I put on my face is moisturizer. I think washing it less helps because if you wash your face too much it strips it of its natural oils, thus making you produce more acne causing oil. Make-up also causes acne. If you can't do without you could try mineral make-up. Oh yeah and I also got my friend to try washing with doc bronners and her face is 50% clearer. Good luck.
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well here goes.... this guy n i have been flirtin alot l8ly i know he has a gf and have to say was abit upset however he pays me alot off attention he is 5 years older than me but that has never seemed to matter, we have become sex buddies do u think this is a good thing or bad ? i feel sorry 4 his gf but there is no strings attached its just sex. ??? (link)
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Just wanted to add my two cents...women are supposed to stick together. even if you do not know that girl, there should be an unspoken respect between you two because you are both females. you may not think it is wrong because you are not in love with eachother, but i guarantee you would feel bad if it was the other way around. Believe in Karma, or believe whatever...do onto others as you want them to do to you. Do a little soul searching and you will see what I mean. Good luck
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i am a junior college student, and i am not able to cook real foods because the lack of a kitchen. from the time i graduated high school until now, i can DEFINITELY say, that i have gain A LOT of weight. when i was 16, i was 5'2 and 168lbs, i wasn't fat, i just had a stomach, but now i'm 21 and i'm 5'3 or 5'4 and i weight 250 (size 17-18 sometimes a 20). because of my weight, i get A LITTLE and i mean very little depressed because clothes don't fit me right, and that makes me not want to go shopping, i would like to get down to a size 10 or 12 (which for me, is 135). i've tried diets, but i always end up cheating because they're so nasty and when it comes to exercising i dont have the energy for it. i have already stopped drinking pop and i don't eat alot of burgers and chips. another reason i need to lose the weight is because dietbetes run in my family and they are always saying something about my weight, but its not easy to lose if you don't have the energy for excerising. so are there any suggestion. thanks...i would greatly appreciate it!!! (link)
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Cutting out soda alone will make a difference for you if you drink it everyday, good job! Make sure that any bread you eat is 100% whole wheat and same with pasta. If you cannot give up junk food there are healthier options you can find at your local natural foods store. Fruit will take care of that sweet tooth, i promise. if you are not used to eating it and don't have much of a taste for it, I guarantee you will after eating it for over a week. Try frozen grapes, nectarines (really sweet) or spread peanut butter or cheese on your apple. Slowly incorporate healthy foods into your diet and you will eventually choose them over junk naturally beacause that it what your body really wants.
as for exercise, you could try going on short walks everday. Walking doesn't take much energy and it does help weightloss a lot. You can also make it fun, go for a walk in a park, on a trail, or in a nice interesting neighborhood near you and look around. Start slow and eventually you will want to go on long walks or maybe jogs. If you like dogs, maybe you should think of getting one. that way you can have a real reason to get outside and have a companion in the process. I found it helped me to diet and exercise with a close friend, we kept eachother on it! If that's not possible you can find a journal or online body on the internet. I lost 70 pounds after my baby and it was all from small changes that I kept up over the year and into the present. Good luck and think positive!
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I'm pretty sure this song is just about doing drugs, you know "feed your head". But I've heard many theories.
Can anyone help me out?
One pill makes you larger
And one pill makes you small
And the ones that mother gives you
Don't do anything at all
Go ask Alice
When she's ten feet tall
And if you go chasing rabbits
And you know you're going to fall
Tell 'em a hookah smoking caterpillar
Has given you the call
Recall Alice
When she was just small
When men on the chessboard
Get up and tell you where to go
And you've just had some kind of mushroom
And your mind is moving slow
Go ask Alice
I think she'll know
When logic and proportion
Have fallen sloppy dead
And the White Knight is talking backwards
And the Red Queen's "off with her head!"
Remember what the dormouse said;
"FEED YOUR HEAD
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FEED your head"
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i have always perceived this song to be about what you initially thought it was about:feeding your head with drugs. I think Grace and the Jefferson Airplane is singing about psychedelic drugs like acid and mushrooms. or, it also could mean feed your head with knowledge, the song could have deeper meaning
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i know an abortion is wrong, but there is so much going on in life right now that it is impossible for me to bring a baby into this so i need to get an abortion. im scared tho.
if your only 17, do you have to have have a parent with you or parent permission in order for them to do it? about how much do they cost? i dont know if the state you live in matters about prices but i live in georgia.
what exactly do they do in the procces, how long does it normally take for them to do it? and when you go in for the abortion, when their done giving it to you, do you loose the baby right away? what are the after effects of it, like does it make you sick for a couple of days or does it make you bleed or hurt when you pee or anything? sorry its so many questions but i am really scared and need to know everything possible before i go do it!! (link)
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Not sure about clinics in georgia. I have a friend who had an abortion and she was medicated so you will need someone to drive you there and back. Also, there is pain and bleeding afterwards and she had more complications, like prolonged bleeding and cramping. something could happen and you may never be able to have kids again. I used to consider myself pro-choice, but now I am not so sure. I got pregnant at a very inconvenient time in my life with a questionable man. I sat in the abortion clinic's parking lot at least 6 times. In the end, i knew that the fetus had a soul and I could not end a life . everything happens for a reason, you got pregnant for a reason. although you may argue that people get abortions for the same reason- it was supposed to be. anyway, bottom line is...my son is the best thing that has ever happened to me in my life and I love him more than life itself. And this is coming from someone who never wanted kids in my entire life. Good luck on whatever decision you make.
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Well my name and Jenny and me and my boyfriend have been going out for over 2 years now, and we are perfect. We take long walks, we lay on the beach, we laugh together. We're totally young and in love. We're both 15 by the way. Well, me and my boyfriend have been best friends with a boy since 6th grade. Me and my best friend have always been like brother and sister. And since he's my best friend and everything we talk about alot of stuff and help eachother through problems. He admitted to me that he likes me, and that he's tried to stop but he cant control it. He says when he sees me and my boyfriend together he gets sad, he said he feels like my boyfriend is the luckiest boy in the world. I told him that he already knows i'm in love with my boyfriend and i will always see him as my best friend, nothing more. He knows that. My best friend said he was never sure about his feelings for me before, but now he realizes that he likes me...alot. May even love me. He describes me as his perfect girl. This was a shock to me because we have always had a brother and sister relationship and i couldnt believe he felt this way. Now i dont know whether i should stop talking to him, so he'll get over me. Because he has to get over me or else he's just gonna be hurting all the time seeing how in love me and my boyfriend are. Or should i keep talking to him, because we feel that if we stop talking, it'll ruin our friendship. None of us want that to happen. He really is a true friend and is always there for me. I dont know what to do...he cant just shut me out of his life because he said its too hard. And its too hard for me as well. (link)
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I think that if he is truly your best friend, you should not let his feelings stand in the way of your friendship. That is of course if he can be respectful of the fact that you have a boyfriend, and keep his feelings to himself after he already told you, not make a move on you, etc. if he can keep a platonic distance and does not bother your boyfriend it should be alright. My best friend of 10 years is still in love with me, has been since we were 15, and we are still best friends. he has seen me go through relationships and i have seen him. good luck.
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28/f
me and my husband have been married for 7 years now and have been together for 9. the whole time we were dating we were very sexually active and for the first three years of our marriage we were very spontanious with our love life. for example we'd have sex everywhere from the kitchen counter, our hot tub, the shower. But now we have a six year old son and i'm always taking him to soccer practice or something after school and me and my husband work full time. i feel like we have no time left for ourselves. our sex life is practically scheduled for wednesdays only because thats when my son goes with a carpool to soccer practice, leaving me and my husband alone at home, when normally me or my husband takes him and stays with him there until its over.
i want to know how to spice things up because we do want more children but i'd like to know how to make our situation better before it gets worse. we're still young, it shouldn't be this hard. (link)
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Do you two ever get a babysitter? A date night out would help a lot, dress up sexy for him and later when you get home and your son is sleeping you can have "alone time." Also, you could set up playdates for your son and surprise your husband with an empty house and you. I recently went through the same thing..my son is two and his father and I haven't been very active. We just made the effort to get more chances alone and now we are more touchy-feely with eachother so it is more exciting when we get into bed alone with eachother after our son goes to sleep. Just try and surprise him with things you normally wouldn't do...could be skimpy launderey (sp?), extra hugs and kisses, whatever you think would put excitement back in the marriage. Hope things improve for you, good luck!
ps-if you have family around or a trusted friend, you could go away for the weekend or just a night together and leave your son with them.
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have an ademco alarm system, and every door and window in my house has it installed in it. if you open any of them and the alarm is on, it will go off or if it's not on it will just beep. i jus got my basement done and i don't feel like explaining the whole thing but i'm having some friends sleepover and we need to sneak out. the only thing is that there is an alarm on the basement door. there are 3 little windows in the basement with no alarm, but they won't open up far enough for people to fit through. if anyone knows how to make the alarm not work on the door without my parents knowing, could you help me? like maybe cut a wire or something, or maybe if theres even a way i could turn it off on one door. becasue i am home alone a lot and they probably wouldn't notice for a while and then tehy wouldn't know itw as me. please don't answer saying i shouldn't be sneaking out or i shouldn't be trying to break something in my house because i don't care, i'm in highschool and this is what i do. so if anyone knows how to make the alarm not work on just one door, please help me. thanks!
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two possibilities...when your parents are gone practice a few things. First open the door you want to use, and look at the keypad to see what number it is. you can use your alarm code to somehow bypass the basement door. Also, the beeping is "alert mode" and you can turn that off...but your parents would notice so if you did do that first figure out how then do it before you leave, but make sure to turn it back on when you get home. If it is too confusing, maybe your parents have an instruction manual somewhere for the alarm system.
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15/f
i got roses from my boyfriend last week, and they are starting to die. I just now put sugar and salt in the vase with cool water, I read something that said that that works..But I want to plant the roses outside so they will stay alive a long time. Can I plant them since they are from a florist,and outside? If so what should I do to keep them alive outside??
thanks for any help you can give! (link)
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If they don't have roots and already are starting to die you cannot plant them outside. if you like roses, you can buy a rose bush and plant it in your yard. If you just want too keep them as a memory, you can dry them, by hanging them in dry area upside down. That way, they will keep some color and not rot and you can keep them for years.
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I have alot of fat on my stomach and thighs.
I am always gaining weight now..
and it doesnt look good.
What are some tips that i can do, to loose some of this fat and stay healthy and skinnier.?
thanks
xoxo (link)
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the best thing to do is to start eating healthier and being more active. Eat only when you are hungry and drink a lot of water, cut out soda. Juice also is high in calories, so replace that with real fruit. Eat a lot of veggies, and if you eat meat it should be lean meat like chicken and fish. Beans and tofu and leafy greens if you are a vegetarian. white bread is evil. Eat whole wheat bread and pasta. You can find an exercise schedule that fits your needs and likes. It could be walking everyday, or jogging or doing exercise videos. You could also join a gym or go swimming. Toning your muscles helps to burn fat more rapidly and makes your body look leaner, so be sure to incorporate toning exercises to your routine. Basically if you are gaining weight steadily right now, you need to eat less and eat the right foods and get your body moving. Even just simple life changes make a difference if you don't want to go all out. Good luck to you!
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13/f
So I'm taking a babysitters course, and the last lesson is tomorrow. I basically am good at everything, the price, how to babysit, etc. But the problem, is . . . How do I babysit little kids? In my house? Their house? My parents are pretty strict about going to peoples houses, same with our house. It can't be too far either. I really wanna make money because I'm pretty low on cash. Where do I babysit them? and if it helps, I live in BC. (link)
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Most people want you to babysit at their house. It is more convenient for them, and makes the child feel more comfortable. If your parents are worried about you going to someone's house that they don't know, maybe you could introduce both sets of parents so they feel better about it. Good luck on your new babysitting jobs!
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the other afternoon, after school, i stayed back to finish my art project. i've done it before so the teacher just gets me to lock up when i go. anyway, i was standing at the desk and someone hugged me from behind. i naturally figured it was my boyfriend so i let him feel under my skirt. he got me hot and pulled down my undies and bent me over the desk. we had sex right there and although i was kinda scared we'd get busted, it was so good! but then i turned around and it was my good mate, ross. he'd said hi when he first got there but it sounded like my bf. i was major shocked but it, like, made me realise how hot ross is. i now have a major thing for him and we've slept together a couple of times.
i just dont know what to do about my bf. we've been together for four years and he wants to marry me and stuff. but it's just not the same with him anymore. what is the best way to break it off with my bf? i really need advice. (link)
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Well, that was interesting. Anyway...
I personally think you are into a relationship at all anymore and probably should not be in one. That is if you are in an exclusive relationship. But I am guessing that your current boyfriend would not appreciate the fact you were having sex with another guy.
So I think you should probably just tell him that you are no longer interested in being with him exclusively because you are still young and want to experience other things. Tell him you really enjoyed the time you two were together but it is time to move on. Most of the time, its best just to be completely honest. And since the two of you have been together for so long, you know eachother well enough to understand where these feelings are coming from. Good luck
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Is there anything i can do about the cirlcies under my eyes. They arent like super horribly dark, but they are noticably dark. Anything i can do? (link)
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I agree with the previous answer, but if all else fails, there is always concealer.
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Im having serious thoughts about giving up on life, nothing has been going good for me and i always feel like shit. I try to be a really nice guy and whenever i do something good for someone, i get shit shoveled in my face, is this a sign i should just dive head first into an empty pool?
p.s. thats not the way id do it though haha (link)
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I strongly believe in Karma. If you are a truly nice person--happiness will come your way. "good things come to those who wait." Its hard to believe that now, but I think in time, your good deeds will come back to you and you will be happy. my best friend is the nicest person and truly good, and for years she was "shit" on and finally recently things have been looking up and she is finding the happiness she deserves. Just keep being true and kind. Good luck, best wishes to you, do not give up, life can be full of happiness.
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how do you get rid of them...there on my butt! (link)
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most stretch marks fade with time, but the best thing you can do is apply cocoa butter everday, and within a few months you should see a difference.
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i haven't eaten in 3 weeks...what should i eat? (link)
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Well, while I do not agree with the fact that you havent eaten in that long, I will not go there and just answer your question. After that amount of time without solid foods, you need to be gentle with your body and gradually introduce foods back. I would say, start with water, juice. Then some light soups, made mostly of broth. The next day, gradually introduce raw fruits and veggies. Take it slow and listen to your body. good luck
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I want to try some exercise videos but I don't know what to get since theres so many.....I just want one or a few that have cardio in them and work most of the muscles. Any opinions?? (link)
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My personal favorites are Denise Austin and Total Body Sculpt by Gilad. They both have a combination of cardio and strength training
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So im 15/f and weigh almost 100 pounds. im really skinny with a big butt and pretty good sized boobs. anyways my stomach is real fatt. and when i button my pants the fat like hangs over. so i want to get some of that off without loseing my butt or boobs? any suggetions? situps maybe? whatever advice you have can you tell me how many a day and how long it will take before i start seeing resaults?
thanks so much! (link)
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Well, cardio is the only way to lose fat from your stomach. Yes, you may see some weight loss in your other more flattering areas, but you can do exercises to firm your butt, like lunges and squats. add some sit-ups and crunches to your cardio routine, and it will firm the area. But you will not see results unless you burn the fat off your stomach first with cardio. I'd say do the cardio like running, jump roping, aerobics, walking, etc, about 4-5 times a week and do the sit-ups and other strength training every other day. You may be able to see results in about 2 weeks.
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