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lost all the spice
28/f
me and my husband have been married for 7 years now and have been together for 9. the whole time we were dating we were very sexually active and for the first three years of our marriage we were very spontanious with our love life. for example we'd have sex everywhere from the kitchen counter, our hot tub, the shower. But now we have a six year old son and i'm always taking him to soccer practice or something after school and me and my husband work full time. i feel like we have no time left for ourselves. our sex life is practically scheduled for wednesdays only because thats when my son goes with a carpool to soccer practice, leaving me and my husband alone at home, when normally me or my husband takes him and stays with him there until its over.
i want to know how to spice things up because we do want more children but i'd like to know how to make our situation better before it gets worse. we're still young, it shouldn't be this hard.
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You guys really just need to make time for yourself. Maybe try letting your child have a play date with some of his friends, or maybe get a babysitter, or send them to your mom's for the day? Anything to give you and your husband some alone time, so you can keep your sex life going. Maybe even having a quickie on his lunch hour or something. Be spontaneous with it.
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Do you two ever get a babysitter? A date night out would help a lot, dress up sexy for him and later when you get home and your son is sleeping you can have "alone time." Also, you could set up playdates for your son and surprise your husband with an empty house and you. I recently went through the same thing..my son is two and his father and I haven't been very active. We just made the effort to get more chances alone and now we are more touchy-feely with eachother so it is more exciting when we get into bed alone with eachother after our son goes to sleep. Just try and surprise him with things you normally wouldn't do...could be skimpy launderey (sp?), extra hugs and kisses, whatever you think would put excitement back in the marriage. Hope things improve for you, good luck!
ps-if you have family around or a trusted friend, you could go away for the weekend or just a night together and leave your son with them.
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I understand your concern, you need to make more time for each other. go out more, be spontanious. tell him how you feel.
what about on a night when your in bed?
spice things up with toys etc..
have fun whilst your young
hope it helps :)
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