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abortion
i know an abortion is wrong, but there is so much going on in life right now that it is impossible for me to bring a baby into this so i need to get an abortion. im scared tho.
if your only 17, do you have to have have a parent with you or parent permission in order for them to do it? about how much do they cost? i dont know if the state you live in matters about prices but i live in georgia.
what exactly do they do in the procces, how long does it normally take for them to do it? and when you go in for the abortion, when their done giving it to you, do you loose the baby right away? what are the after effects of it, like does it make you sick for a couple of days or does it make you bleed or hurt when you pee or anything? sorry its so many questions but i am really scared and need to know everything possible before i go do it!!
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ok i am a mother and i am 17 do not get an abortion that is MURDER give it up for addoption
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a surgical abortion is pretty much suctioning the baby out of you... you can see a video of the process of it on youtube its called a silent scream or something like that. a medical abortion is when you are administered medication which induces a miscarrige.
both of these are painful and if you are anemic i think that just has something to do with the iron in your blood, it may be harder to clot, i'm sure they'll still do it but they will just have to keep an eye on you.
i know in my state that if you're under 18 you need a parent, gaurdian, or spouse with you.
if i were to ever get an abortion i think i'd have to choose the surgical one, its much faster.
they'll cost around $350 so i definitely think you should talk to the father of the baby and try to split the cost.
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Not sure about clinics in georgia. I have a friend who had an abortion and she was medicated so you will need someone to drive you there and back. Also, there is pain and bleeding afterwards and she had more complications, like prolonged bleeding and cramping. something could happen and you may never be able to have kids again. I used to consider myself pro-choice, but now I am not so sure. I got pregnant at a very inconvenient time in my life with a questionable man. I sat in the abortion clinic's parking lot at least 6 times. In the end, i knew that the fetus had a soul and I could not end a life . everything happens for a reason, you got pregnant for a reason. although you may argue that people get abortions for the same reason- it was supposed to be. anyway, bottom line is...my son is the best thing that has ever happened to me in my life and I love him more than life itself. And this is coming from someone who never wanted kids in my entire life. Good luck on whatever decision you make.
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Firstly I would like to tell you that I do agree with you abortion is wrong, except in certain circumstances, I can relate to you, I have had an abortion recently.
I know you are feeling confused right now, but there ARE other options, like adoption.
Have you told your parents that you are pregnant? I think that no matter how afraid you are to tell them they would support you.
Surgical Abortions and Medical Abortions differ very much A medical Abortion can only be performed if the fetus is less than 7 weeks.
A Surgical Abortion is where the doctor breaks up the fetus and takes it out of you through your vagina... this is sore but it is also the only way once you've passed seven weeks.
I looked for Abortion Clinics in Georgia
You need to tell your parents or guardian as this is what one website said
"If a patient is under 18, she must call to set up the appointment with a lawful parent or legal guardian. The lawful parent or legal guardian will also need to accompany the patient on the procedure day to give consent and complete paperwork. The parent or guardian must present proof of custody. Valid proof of custody could be a birth certificate, adoption papers, or custody papers. The parent or guardian must also present government issued photo identification such as a driver's license, non-driver's state identification card, or passport. For women who cannot involve a parent, or choose not to, the law allows for a judicial bypass. This means that a judge may decide that the patient is mature enough to complete the process herself, without parental consent. Atlanta Women's Medical Center phone counselors are trained to help patients through this process, and can explain the necessary steps that will need to be taken if a minor decides that judicial bypass is her best option. There are no additional fees involved for women who choose to obtain a bypass."
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I really, truly understand your fears about being pregnant; however, you really need to realize that this is your fault and that you should have been more educated than you were. You made adult decisions and now it's time to deal with the adult consequences that have trailed behind it.
Now, I definately do not think abortion is right for you. You are young and I really don't want to see you screw up your entire life because you felt a baby was going to cause you issues. The problem should be in finding the right ways to raise your child than trying to find a way to get out of the mess you've put yourself in.
Abortion can really harm your body just as much as giving birth to a child. I understand your body may not be mature enough to handle pregnancy but no woman's body is truly ready to abort a fetus. A baby can deplete your body of nutrients (which is why pregnant women need to take their prenatal vitamins) but an abortion can leave you scarred physically and/or mentally.
Women who have had abortions can experience problems later on. Many women suffer from major depression for years after having an abortion because, in the end, they come to realize that they have completely stopped another human life. The dates of conception, abortion, and the estimated day the child would have been born haunts many women for years. Some woman can't deal with this so much that they end up committing suicide. If that isn't enough, many women experience difficulty conceiving years later after an abortion--yes, it can render you infertile for the rest of your days.
I found a VERY interesting site for teenagers on abortion. These girls had abortions when they were your age and have gained courage to write about their experiences for other teens to read:
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Most of them regret that they had an abortion. Many of them cannot get over that fact and have the dates stuck in their minds. I'm sure that when that date passes each year they are reminded of what they went through to rid themselves of a life they were developing inside of their wombs.
I also want to direct you to a site that shows a live abortion. It's in different parts because the speaker gives you a lot of information on what the fetus and the mother will be going through. The video shows the ultra-sound as the procedure happens. It is important you see this before having an abortion so that you know fully what will be happening--it is best to inform yourself well. Before clicking the link to watch the video, prepare yourself because it is real life:
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...Part 3 really starts to show the actual abortion happening. The speaker does add that the doctor that did the abortion never did another one and that the woman filming it never spoke about abortion again, though she was previously for it.
Yes, that is a real baby, really feeling pain and maybe even fear during such a procedure. You can see that it was fully aware that it was being harmed and was not oblivious to the foreign object as many people would like you to believe.
Just as a note, some states will not perform an abortion past 4 months, most are done before the first 14 week mark. Abortions after 24 weeks are only performed because of health complications just as another note. The further along you are, the more expensive it will be. Here is also some information on how different types of abortions are done and what the baby is like during certain stages of development when these practices are performed.:
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Here are some REALLY, REALLY good videos that explain the different kinds of abortions:
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Abortion is also a very risky procedure for the mother of the fetus as well. The woman does not just pee out some blood and experience pain--the mother bleeds out the lining of her uterus as it contracts strongly to expel the fetus. The baby, placenta, umbilical cord, and the thick lining of the uterus will come out of the vagina. Even if the doctor suctions all of the "matter" out of the uterus, the woman will still bleed and may suffer some scarring in her uterus (preventing her from EVER being able to have children).
Many women have even DIED because of hemorrhaging, infections, and other complications. It's usually a very painful process for the woman and she is usually let in physical pain for days/weeks following. As another note, the woman usually bleeds for WEEKS after the abortion so it honestly isn't just a little blood in the urine.
Here is a super great website that has links to all sorts of abortion-related issues:
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...and they even have a section (and a couple of links) of women who have passed away because of an abortion:
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...as a note, MANY women are dying because of abortions:
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On another note, the reason why it's important to know if the woman having the abortion is anemic is because they are more likely to suffer complications (meaning: death) because they cannot afford to lose so much blood.
Please know that abortion is not your only option. Please give yourself plenty of time to decide what is the best choice. Even if your parents are upset that you are pregnant they will eventually get over it. Some parents can be really hurt in the beginning that their son or daughter disobeyed but, in the end, they still love you. Many parents later realize that the unborn baby IS their grandchild and help their son or daughter to figure out how to raise the baby when it comes.
Please do not put your body through the mess that is abortion. Please do not end a life that you have been helping grow. If both of your parents are not aware, take your chances and open up to your parents about what has happened. Like I said, even if they are upset they WILL get over it. If you're scared, there is help out there for you. You've learned the hard way about sexual consequences but it doesn't mean you can easily throw away the result.
Think about the life the child now. Yes, you were selfish and did not consider this major consequence (pregnancy) but you don't have to be any more selfish than you already have been. Even if you're not able to give him/her the best life, someone out there can. When couples look to adopt, they tend to look for infants anyway. By taking this child's life and ending it before it even gets started, you destroy what chance they had at being something. The baby did not do anything wrong here and should not be punished by death.
Adoption is always an option of yours if you are not physically, mentally, or financially capable of caring for another human life. Please look into it if you feel you can carry the child but not raise it properly. You can contact an adoption agency in your area or you can relinquish your rights of your child and place it in the custody of the state for adoption. I've read something about Volunteers of America for adoptions being really good but I have no personal experience with them myself. Here is a link directing you to their site:
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Just as another note, some agencies actually let the expecting party interact with possible parents to ensure they are giving their child the best chance at life as possible. You may want to look into those agencies to help find your child good, loving parents. It may even be possible for you to work out a way that you can still be in the child's life lightly as they grow so you're aware of their progress.
Please give your child the best life you are able to. It's so stupid and unreasonable for you to end a life because you were too scared about your own. You CAN find a way to let this baby live. Don't let others pressure you to murder an innocent life because they are afraid for you. Many women go through this same battle every day and are able to raise a child successfully.
I hope that you take enough time to decide what choice is the best before rushing into things. If you have any more questions regarding this subject, please feel free to ask me. :)
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Not you make you feel any worst about KILLING a breathing thing , But when you get older & decide you want kids , You will LIVE your like [ always ] thinking about what that baby would be like today . I would think about it , it will be worth it when you actually have it . Dont kill a gift from god .
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