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should i stop talking to him or keep going about like nothin
Well my name and Jenny and me and my boyfriend have been going out for over 2 years now, and we are perfect. We take long walks, we lay on the beach, we laugh together. We're totally young and in love. We're both 15 by the way. Well, me and my boyfriend have been best friends with a boy since 6th grade. Me and my best friend have always been like brother and sister. And since he's my best friend and everything we talk about alot of stuff and help eachother through problems. He admitted to me that he likes me, and that he's tried to stop but he cant control it. He says when he sees me and my boyfriend together he gets sad, he said he feels like my boyfriend is the luckiest boy in the world. I told him that he already knows i'm in love with my boyfriend and i will always see him as my best friend, nothing more. He knows that. My best friend said he was never sure about his feelings for me before, but now he realizes that he likes me...alot. May even love me. He describes me as his perfect girl. This was a shock to me because we have always had a brother and sister relationship and i couldnt believe he felt this way. Now i dont know whether i should stop talking to him, so he'll get over me. Because he has to get over me or else he's just gonna be hurting all the time seeing how in love me and my boyfriend are. Or should i keep talking to him, because we feel that if we stop talking, it'll ruin our friendship. None of us want that to happen. He really is a true friend and is always there for me. I dont know what to do...he cant just shut me out of his life because he said its too hard. And its too hard for me as well.
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well i think that most teenage girld will agree that we've all been in a similar situation. He is probably admitting it to you now because he is seeing you in a different light because of your boyfriend. It may seem easiest to stop talking to him, but that will most likely be counter productive. He will just think about you more if you don't talk to him all the time. The best thing for you to do is clearly tell him that you love your boyfriend and then help him find a girl for himself. Also, be careful how you act around him. My best friend is a guy, and i know that with me and him, we are very close. Many poeple mistake us for a couple because body language and everything, so when you are around him try to back off a little. You don't want him to get any wrong ideas.
Good luck and I hope all goes well for you
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pss. he is probably just now realizing that he likes you, so that is why it is so hard for him. Especially if this is your first really serious boyfriend, he probably didnt know it before but now that he can;t have you... he really wants you! Lets face it, boys are absolutely clue less. and many times they dont see how wonderful us girls are until they cant have you anymore. He most likely tried to keep it from you at first because he cared so much that he didnt want to ruin your relationship... but afetr two years it's probably killing him to not have you. No matter how hard it is for the both of you, he most likely felt like you just had to know.
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i know how you feel. its really hard for me to have a friend whose a boy because he eventually developes feelings for me.
but i just keep talking to them as if nothing has happened. my bf's friend has a crush on me, but he and i are still cool. and we all still hang together and stuff and we still have fun.
just keep going on about your life and never mention it again. try to get him hooked on other girls. tell him to never speak of it again, either, because he knows how much you care about your bf. he should be happy for you, not tearing you down along with his emotions!
take care. :)
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I think that if he is truly your best friend, you should not let his feelings stand in the way of your friendship. That is of course if he can be respectful of the fact that you have a boyfriend, and keep his feelings to himself after he already told you, not make a move on you, etc. if he can keep a platonic distance and does not bother your boyfriend it should be alright. My best friend of 10 years is still in love with me, has been since we were 15, and we are still best friends. he has seen me go through relationships and i have seen him. good luck.
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