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I love to give advice and help people. I never think any question is too stupid or small, even if it's been asked a million times. Honestly, it's better to ask than remain in the dark. Some of my favorite quotes:
"People who ask our advice almost never take it. Yet we should never refuse to give it, upon request, for it often helps us to see our own way more clearly."
-Brendan Francis
"Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't."
-Erica Jong
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There is no dance instructor living in my town, and I really want to leaarn how to dance like they do on cheetah girls (on the previews for the second one). What is that style of dancing called and is there a site, video or book that can help me out? Thx in advance!
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000CNEQZU/ref=pd_bxgy_text_b/002-2451816-1156836?ie=UTF8
that's a video that teaches you how to dance, and it has one of the girls from the Cheetah Girls in it, so I imagine it would have that type of dancing in it.
I get really shy around a lot of people. I hate it, because when i'm around a guy I really like I get shy. How do I become less shy. I hate it!!! I really need help. I hardly talk to people cuz i'm sooo shy. Someone please help,
And guys please tell me how I can talk to guys and not sound like an idiot. Lol. Like what should I say? I don't want to come off too strong or like be too shy, please help. Thanks a bunch!!
I was the exact same way, and it takes time to get rid of the shyness, but I know you can do it. First advice is join clubs, or go places you wouldn't normally go and meet people. Meet your freind's freinds and hang out with them. Just learn to become comfortable with yourself. Shyness stems from a lack of confidence where you feel the need to hide yourself from others. Gain some confidence, and you will see that your shyness will start to go away. Just be your complete and natural self around people.
With guys you like, of course you'll be a little shy, but jsut try to act like it's not a big deal. Guys love girls with confidence, so act like you have it, even if you feel like you don't. After awhile, you will realize talking to people and meeting people isn't so hard and you will lose the shyness.
Good luck!
does anyone know good songs to listen to or dedicate to someone you miss or love .. could youu leave me some .. any answers are appreciated!!
Far Away by Nickelback
Where'd you go by Fort Minor
Miss you by Blink 182
Here without you by Three Doors Down
Those are some of my favorites.
I hat my mom.She wants me to get new friends because she thinks that all of my friends are horrible (ugh i HATE her)so I wanted to go somewhere with A friend and she won't let me go b/c there is gonna be drinking but i see it all the time...even my dad drinks she is so stupid she alwayts thinks that she is making the Best disision.So my question here is how can i get her to let me go places????
Well, she's right about the drinking thing, even if you've seen it all the time, a lot of bad things can happen around people who drink. And don't HATE your mom, she is just looking out for you, one day when you are a parent you will understand.
And yes, even my mother used to not let me see some of my friends, and I understand why now. You have to show your mother you are responsible, so don't go fighting with her every chance you get. Let the situation cool down, and take time to show her you are mature and responsible, and ask to go to reasonable places, obviously any good parent doesn't want their kid around drinking.
My boyfriend and i have been together for two months and he has been with my family on numerous occasions. He went to the airport with us to see off my cousin, he came over the house, and he came on the boat with the family as well. My boyfriend asked me to come over his house and i ignored the question by changing subjects fast (IT WORKED) I know he will ask again so id like to figure out if i have to force myself to go or not. Also he has asked me to come chill with his friends. My question is..since we only recently have seriously dated isnt it better to keep it between me and him rateher then let eachother meet the friends who by the way our very influential? also if im uncomfortable with going to his house isnt it okay for the begining of the relationship for us to avoide it? I met one of his friends today it was one of those quick meetings like hello nice to meet you bye things and i felt akward with it. I love my boyfriend very much thats why ive been commited for two months even though we didnt see eachother for a lil over a month. Am i being smart or immature? Is it okay if we avoid the chilling with friends for a lil bit more or am i being selfish? i havnt allowed my friends to meet him yet because i want to keep it between us so im not hypocritical in that sense. I do see that it may be unfair for me to chill at my hosue and not his but on the othrr hand hes more comfortable with going to my hosue then i am with going to his. HELP BEFORE HE ASKS AGAIN :)
I think you should go to his house and meet his friends. I mean, of course it will be awkward at first, I bet it was for him too, but over time you will feel more comfortable. It makes sense you want to keep it just between you two, but if you want to further mature this relationship then you should meet some of his friends and family. I'm sure it will all work out if you give it a chance! Good luck.
Alright, so I've liked this guy for most of the summer, but when he actually started liking me, and wanted to start "going out," I wasn't really sure if I wanted to do the same. I mean, I'm going into high school and I guess I don't really want to be tied down by some other guy. So, anyways, I did say yes to him about "going out" and now I think I made the wrong choice. I want to tell him that I think we should just be friend's 'cause I don't want anything to be awkward. Because now that we've started going out (about 3 days ago) he hasn't even called, or talked to me. I'm going to try and tell him that I think we would be better off by not going out and just being friend's, but I don't know how to make it so it doesn't sound mean or rude. I still like him, but I don't want to be "going out."
By the way, I'm a 14 year old girl.
Just tell him that you don't want to have a boyfriend right now, and that you just want to stay friends with him. If you say it in a calm tone and explain it to him, he should understand. Sure, he may be upset, but he'll get over it. I don't think he'll get mad if you explain that you just want to be friends.
ok, I need some advice on here. but you please if you not gonna help or say something rude, don't post at all.
So i think Emo hair cuts are cute. so i was wondering if you could show me some. My hair is black and its a litle longer then shoulder. I have found sites, but i can never see the HAIR!!. So if you could show me some pictures that would be fantastic. Thank you!
http://www.madradhair.com/
Don't know if you've checked that out, but it has a lot of pictures of "emo" hair. Also, livejournal and myspace are your other best bets.
i'm 13, i don't plan on losing my virginity ANYTIME SOON, i'm going to keep it until i'm married. Most of my friends aren't virgins [ages; 13-16] and they don't regret it, but i know in the future they will . but can you guys just give me an amazing reason on why being a virgin is a precious thing and that giving up your body to some guy that just wants to get in and out makes you seem like a hoe. i really need good reasons so that when the other 1/4 of my friends are going to have a sex i can give them great reasons on why not to [other than STD's and all stuff i need other advice]
It's everyone's personal choice when to lose their virginity, and usually teenagers do regret how they lost theirs. It's hard to change a friend's mind, i've tried many times. The best thing is to put them in the situation, or show them someone's personal story of regret. Ask them how they would deal with getting pregnant and make sure they know YES THEY CAN GET PREGNANT. Also tell them that it should be special. Changing one's mind is hard, but it's good that you are looking out for your friends.
im 13/f and i haven't hooked-up yet. wen the time comes nd a guy asks if ive hooked up, do i lie nd say yes so he will hook-up wit me? or do i say the truth nd say no? for example..........wut if i'm hanging out at a friend's house wit 10 other ppl nd they talk bout their first hook-ups, or we play truth or dare nd i pick truth nd someone aks me have i hooked-up before or who was your first hook-up with? WUT DO I ANSWER TO THAT? Especially since my guy-friends are 15-17 theyve hook-up before nd 1 of them wanna hook-up wit me but they dont know how experienced i am! what do is say? do i say 'yah just twice so im not rele that expereicned but atelast ive hooked-up more than once!' HELP MEhhh!
You shouldn't lie so people will like you. You're only thirteen, I think they will understand if you've never hooked up before. Just be honest about it. If the guy doesn't want to go out with you just because you're not experienced (which I doubt), then he's really in it for the wrong reasons.
im 13/f
Well, to make a long story short..
There's this boy I've been crushing on for about a month now. I'm going to spend a week with him at his house for vacation with a whole bunch of people and i just want to know how do i let him know i like him? i really wanna go out with him but the thing is i've never really had a REAL boyfriend. and i haven't hooked up yet & i'm pretty sure he has. and if he asks if i've hooked up before do i say yes and lie so he'll hook up with me and think i'm experienced? or do i say the truth and say no and see whatever happens from there? I really need to let him know how i feel but i don't wanna make it obvious, i wanna keep him guessing. he's 15. what are some ways i can play hard to get and flirt with him? PLEASE HELP! xox
& btw, what are some signs that boys give to let them know they like a girl.. i really really realllyyyy like him, so please make this work!
First of all, don't lie to him so he'll hook up with you. Never start of a relationship with a lie, because sooner or later he will find out, and then he'll wonder if he can trust you. Flirting with him is the best thing to do. When you're talking to him, look him straight in the eye, smile a lot (and if he smiles back a lot it probably means he likes you), when you're talking to him lightly touch his arm when you make a point and find other reasons to touch him. Most of all, have confidence and don't put yourself down so he'll say you're pretty, guys like girls that already know they're pretty.
http://www.myjellybean.com/flirt/flirt.html
that's a great guide to flirting tips and signs that he likes you.
I hope it all works out for you, and most of all have fun flirting with him.
14/F
lately i have been so depressed. i dont get along with my mom that much anymore & we were soo close. i just cant stop crying & i like cant stand being around certain people that i used to be so close with. i know your gonna say its growing up but this isnt normal. i have tried talking to my mom about getting me pills or something but she just throws in my face how bad her life is which makes it worse. at this point i hate just about everything about me. i think im fat; ugly; worthless; loney; friendless & i cant do anything right. idk what to do anymore. i used to cut but i dont as much anymore and i dont want to but thats the only thing i can think of doing this point. also im getting quite suicidial. i cant see myself going threw with it but i have been thinking. my best friend is the same as me; same problem & everything. we both have very messed up families. also with me thinking im fat it makes me think of becoming anorexic again. i have been threw that also. im 5'1 - 100 pounds. telling me im not fat makes everything worse. i just dont know what to do anymore with myself. i need happy pills or something but idk what to say to my mom. please help. this is outta hand.
Snap out of it. You're fourteen years old, and a perfect weight. I used to be the same as you at your age, I felt worthless and all my relationships came crumbling down. And as much as you don't want to hear this, you're just feeling sorry for yourself. Stop thinking you NEED pills, because you're only making it worse for yourself. You sound like you think that's the only solution. If you're mother is not going to take you to a therapist, as my mother refused to do, you have to make it through on your own. I was suicidal at one point, but I got through it.
Find a hobby, try to better yourself. And no you are not fat, and I don't know why that would make it worse maybe because you know that's the truth? Stop trying to hurt yourself, and BETTER yourself. Moping around is not going to help. Go make some new friends, find a hobby that's fullfilling, tone up your body if you need to.
Everyone has the moments they feel worthless, but you have to realize YOU ARE NOT WORTHLESS. You and your friend can work on this together, but please don't just mope around about your lives. Another friend bringing you down even more is not what you need.
A last resort should be the pills, but if you can't get them, you need to find other ways to make yourself happy.
there was this guy that saw my picture on myspace and messaged me for my screename. he would say dirty things to me, and tell me i was sooo sexy and he wanted to hang out with me and that he wanted to see me and all this stuff. he also left this message on my phonee saying how hot i was and stuff. he went to my school but i never really talked to him before this - he just saw my myspace pictures and kept messaging me and IMing me every time i got on. after he kept IMing me for a couple days saying i was sexy and crap, he started saying really gross stuff like he wants to have sex with me and that i could touch his penis and stuff. then he told me he smokes marijuana, which i find really pathetic. why do guys act like this? he hasn't even talked to me in real life, just seen my pictures. what should i do?
First question, why would you give him your phone number? Best thing to do, tell him you do not appreciate the way he acts, and block him on AIM and delete him as a friend on myspace or block him on that too and possibly make your myspace private.
not many guys I know act like this, he is just trying to annoy you, so just don't give him the time of day. Cut off all connection with him, because he is just being a rude jerk.
My boyfriend has a friend thats a girl, and theyve been friends for a couple of years. They have pet names for each other and talk all the time. He doesnt talk about her all the time, but, when he does I just get mad. I dont know why, I just do. Hes always concerned or worried about her. I really dont like it when he talks about her but I want to help him because hes always worried about her. Am I just being jelous? What should I do? I'm so confused.
Well try to think of her more of just another one of his guy friends. Think about it, wouldn't he be worried about a friend as well? I understand why you're jealous, but don't get so mad over it. Think about if you had JUST a guy friend and nothing more. If they've been freinds for that long and nothing has developed, I don't think you have anything to worry about.
How can a relationship last if your with a guy that is all about being with his friends and wont give them up for his g/f who he loves even though he has to keep those worlds seperate because his g/f and his friends don't get along?
Talk to him about it, make sure that he is spending the same amount of time with you both. But give him a break sometimes, it is hard for him to maintain his friends and his girlfriend, especially when you all don't get along. Give him his time with his freinds, but make sure he gives you that same amount of time back. If it's balanced, a relationship could work.
My boyfriend and i have been dating for like 2 months and almost 3 months. And he's been acting kinda different from the last month. Last month i was his everything, he was perfect. This month he's different, it's like he's kinda careless now. I'm so sad, and worried, i cried 4 times 2 days ago, and cried one time this morning cause i waited for him to wake up online until 5 in the morning. But then i gave up and i signed off.. and then he signed on.. and i talked to him on the phone later that day and he said he woke up after i signed off and that he did not sign off on me and etc. and he said he was sorry.
but my friends arent really helpful my BESTfriend and i are fading apart since she moved to another city.. and my other bestfriend and i are in a fight and all i have is this site and my other bestfriend. Hopefully things wont get worse.. im scared of losing all of 'em especially my boyfriend.
should i worry or should i not? is he losing feelings for me?
Well all relationships have that inital bang that starts it off, and it usually fades away once you two are more comfortable and settled with eachother, but it doesn't necessarily mean he's lost his feelings. Don't be too clingy and waiting for him all the time, have your own social life as well. Honestly, the best thing you can do is be honest and upfront and talk to him about this, since you are so upset about it. Hope it all works out.
hey! 16/f
so my good friend joe and i were hangin out tonight with his little brother and my cousin. well my cousins parents were gone so we were being all crazy and joe always takes my stuff like my keys and my cell phone so i have to go chase him and like flirt with him in order to get it. joe has a GIRLFRIEND and he claims to really love her but i dont know. joes like a really good friend but I wish we could be something more and im not sure if he gets the hint because one time it was me and his little brother in the same room and hes like OooOh you like joe i know you do and im like uhh no we are just best friends as we call each other and so i dont know if he was just saying that or he could tell that i did. the problem is im a HUGE flirt too. i cant tell him i have feelings for him..im just not that way and it will be awkward and it would ruin our strong friendship but i have REALLY strong feelings for him. he always like talks to me about his girlfriend and like gets advice from me. like tonight hes like allright we have to have a talk so we went in the parents bedroom and he locked the door and it was just me and him talking =) and like when i was standing in front of him turned away i know he was staring at my ass and he like always looks at me! i know he sees me as a friend but then he was like always touching me and flirting and laying right next to me and hes always "punching my stomach lightly" and we did a handshake and we kinda held hands. well like i was trying to get my keys back they were in his pocket and i went to grab them and he like grabbed my hand and we linked hands together like him trying to hold me back it was the cutest thing ever and it felt like we were boyfriend/girlfriend. stuff like that always happens he always grabs me and holds me when i try to get my stuff back from him! i just dont know. please dont tell me to talk to him about it im not going to. but is there anything else i can do? and please dont suggest to wait it out and if they breakup he will go to YOU! the problem is i have a feeling they will be going out for a loong time. i dont want to get over him i like being around him but its hard for me at the same time..
Well you don't have many other options. If he says he loves her, would it be fair to try to break them up? And you say they are going to be probably going out for a long time, so that means they have a strong relationship. In my opinion, he could possibly like you, but it could just be friendly flirting.
So even though you REFUSE to do those things, there is not much else you can do unless HE comes to you and makes a move. So I suggest, while he is with her find another guy, even if you don't want to, go gain some experience. and later down the road when you two are both available maybe things can work out.
but if he has a girlfriend now and is happy with her, there is not much you can do. and please don't wait on a guy, live your own life and make yourself happy. there ARE other guys.
ok me and my boy friend have been thinking about having sex and he has had sex with people befor but i am a vergin, he told me that in the past he has just pulled it out befor the came instead of using a condom... and thats what he wants to do but i dontkno if that is compleatly safe..plz tell me if this is safe i need to kno! thank you! byes
No, It's not always effective. You need to get protection. Use a condom if you two have sex, and make sure you are positive you are rady to have sex, do not let him pressure you into it. Remember, it should be a special thing to lose your virginity, and make sure it's with the right guy.
But please please please use protection. If he refuses to, refuse to have sex. Do you want to get pregnant or get an STD? hopefully you answered no to that, so use protection.
WHY is it ok for black guys to date caucasian chicks but it's not ok for black ladies to date caucasian guys.
Who says it's not ok? I've seen many black women date white men. I guess it depends on where you live, but it's becoming widely more acceptable now.
ok i really want to lose about 35-50pounds.im 5'8 and 170 lbs.am i to big.every one says im not fat because i cary it really well.and i do.also there is this guy i really like could this be a reason he does not like me?pleazz tell me any good diets to stay on.i run 1 mile every morning and eat preety good.i am in basketball and run about 8 laps around our football field every day in athletics.thanxxx
13/f
I don't think you're fat, maybe a tiny bit overweight (http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bmi/), but hardly. It all depends on your body type and if you have muscle. I think what you're doing now is sufficient, maybe you could do something in the afternoon as well since you run in the morning.
Also, if a guy doesn't like you because of your weight, then you don't want him to like you at all. Don't change because of a guy, only change for yourself and to be more healthy. Trust me, there are PLENTY of guys who will like you despite how much you weight.
good luck.
so this guy asked me out today i didnt kiss him goodbye but i hugged him should i feel bad?
and also this one girl is always ALL over him..
help?
Why should you feel bad? He JUST asked you out, so no, you don't have to kiss him yet. Get to know him before you start getting closer pyhsically. And about the other girl being all over him, does he like that? If so, I would probably talk to him about that, because if you are going to be dating him you want to make sure he is not going to cheat on you with other girls while you're in the relationship.
If he doesn't like that she's all over him, tell him to tell her to buzz off.