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How do I become less shy?
I get really shy around a lot of people. I hate it, because when i'm around a guy I really like I get shy. How do I become less shy. I hate it!!! I really need help. I hardly talk to people cuz i'm sooo shy. Someone please help,
And guys please tell me how I can talk to guys and not sound like an idiot. Lol. Like what should I say? I don't want to come off too strong or like be too shy, please help. Thanks a bunch!!
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Alright, I was really, horribly shy a few years ago...
First off, do you ever get horrible nervous when you have to give presentations in front of class? Then make a point to do it. Force yourself into situations wehre people eyes are on you; answer questions in class, or whatever.
Second, do you have any problems with how you look? Glasses, braces, acne, weight? There are some things you can fix, some you can't. If it's within your ability to do so, then fix it. Don't like your glasses? Get cool ones that suit you. Get acne creams. Work out and eat right. You get my point. A lot of people say, "Be comfortable with who you are." And I agree wholeheartedly, but I know if something is physically wrong with me and that was one of the major things that made me shy.
Third, what are you interested in? Soccer? Theatre? Art? Dance? Religion? Math!?! Figure out what your interests are and pursue them. You'll meet people through clubs or whatever, and it will give you something to talk about when you first meet someone.
Fourth, when you see/know a guy you like...make the first move. Example: at a water park this summer there was this cute guy, and I wanted to talk to him. I kept to myself for a minute as him and his sister played, and in the middle of one of his sentences, she just turned and walked away. This was a good opening: I said, "Wow, that was rude." With a smile. He agreed and suddenly we were trading stories and carring on...my point is it is all about timing and looking for openings. And letting the other person talk. AND DON'T GO TO CAUSUAL CONVERSATION. All that does is make things awkward. Ask questions. Make obsevations. Comment, but be gentle, and most importantly, remember that he's just like you, your friends, whoever. If it would be uncomfortable for you, it would be for him.
Hope this helps!
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I have the same problem and I just barely started to get this way after I had a bad experience. If you did (put it in the feedback) your mind is doing something call over generalizing. Its basicly taking that bad experience and putting it in every situation with groups of people. Talking to guys its pretty simple, Be Yourself. Thats all I want from a girl to herself and most good guys would say the same thing. If the guy doesnt like you for any reason who cares he probably doesn't deserve you.
(0)-_-)--- Pola Bear
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im super shy as well. but i am better now. when im around new people i think that they are probably uncomfortable too. they are lucky to meet you and be hanging out with you. just talk to guys like they are one of your girl friends. the most attractive thing to anyone is confidence. dont care about what people think and be proud of who you are. dont deprive people of your great personality. and if they dont like you..oh well..its their loss
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Just be confident, but not cocky, because that is the biggest turn-on for anybody!!
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I was the exact same way, and it takes time to get rid of the shyness, but I know you can do it. First advice is join clubs, or go places you wouldn't normally go and meet people. Meet your freind's freinds and hang out with them. Just learn to become comfortable with yourself. Shyness stems from a lack of confidence where you feel the need to hide yourself from others. Gain some confidence, and you will see that your shyness will start to go away. Just be your complete and natural self around people.
With guys you like, of course you'll be a little shy, but jsut try to act like it's not a big deal. Guys love girls with confidence, so act like you have it, even if you feel like you don't. After awhile, you will realize talking to people and meeting people isn't so hard and you will lose the shyness.
Good luck!
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well just open up.
be come friends.
shyness is like an illness.
it spreads. if your to shy to
talk to this guy.
he'll think you don't like him.
and it'll be acuard.
ummm. pretend your in a movie or a book.
be the main carachter and be brave.
do what that person would do.
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