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Hey I'm Francesca!
I know I havent been through everything, but I have had my share, and I would be glad to help you!
Ever broken any bones? How about rules?

What are the 3 things about you that you wouldn't want me to know?
1) I fall in love too fast 2) I HATE my body 3) I hide everything I feel
What is your favorite food color?
Purple
Do you sleep thru thunders and storms?
No, i'm a very light sleeper.
Are you a dog or a cat person, or rather prefer a comodo dragon?
i love cats, but I have a dog cause i'm allergic to cats.
What is the single feature people compliment about you the most?
My legs
Are you ALSO scared of spiders?
I don't like them.
What is your biggest fear, except for spiders?
Death, afterlife.
Name your most favorite part of day?
Daytime
Ever had an imaginary friend as a child?
Yes, her name was Masa
Ever been in an accident?
I have been in a car accident.
Have you ever stolen anything from a store or from someone?
I stole lotion from my grandma...
What are your turn on's and turn offs?
on's: attractive, loves God
off's: rude, having a "big head"
Are you a morning person?
I'm a morning and a night person.
What are your most favorite and least favorite foods?
Most: sushi
Least: black olives
Name the one piece of clothing you can't live without.
A bra
Do you have tattoos or piercings? If yes, how many and where are they?
I have a tattoo down my spine that says 'you are the light of the world'
My ears are pierced twice and my cartilage is pierced and my belly button is pierced.
What is/was your least favorite subject in school?
Math
Do you take showers in the morning or at night more?
After I exercise
What are the most important 3 things in your life?
1) God 2) my family 3) my friends

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could you tell me what's my job in the future?

Be a nurse. They are always in demand.

I recently got hit with a big challenge to overcome in my life and that's the problem of having a child. I would love to support a child but I feel I dont want a kid to come into this world without me having the right financial and living situations to support it with. My girlfriend is 16 and has been experiencing high syptoms or pregnancy but it is not for certain and I could be wrong but if so would it be possible if I can go through abortion procedures without parental consent on her side of the family? and if so HOW?!?!?!

So you should first of all but a pregnancy test to be sure that she is actually pregnant before you start freaking out! So if you find out that she is indeed pregnant than yes there are ways you can get an abortion without parental consent. You do have lots of options though, so try not to jump to this conclusion if you don't have to. If you find this is the best decision for you, than google planned parenthood and find one around where you live. On their site it has a list of all of the states and what the age is that you need a parent, I think most states 16 is okay. Than go to planned parenthood and they will make sure she is pregnant and you guys can schedule the actual abortion than. It can be between 200-1000 dollars.
I hope y'all work this out!

Can anyone send me links?I need to find the best vampire sites on the web with the greatest pictures,leyends and stories.Thanks!

Try googleing it.

So my boyfriend(more like fiance) is a smoker and has been doing so since he was 19 or so(he's 35) and I wanna get him to quit.
He's not a huge smoker. When he's not sharing he probably goes through a pack every 2-3 days or so but I still want him to stop.
However, he lives with two smokers, and says quitting until he moves out is "not gonna happen".

Is he right to say that? Is that a realistic thing to say or more an excuse?

He says once he moves out he'll work on quitting. I kinda want him to stop now but I wanted your guys honest opinions...

thanks!

hey, I don't really think it is realistic to ask him to quit when he is loving with two smokers, that would be way to tempting for him. If you want him to quit now than I suggest having him move in with you or asking him to move out! Once he is out of that environment that buy him chantix, I know so many smokers that have quit with it, they say it is not too hard. And if you get it for him than he will do it because he won't have to buy it himself so he won't have an excuse. Hope it works out!

Hey . I'm 25 and never got pregnant I don't know why . Everytime I have my period it comes out brown no red. So I don't know when can I get pregnant.

Go to your gynecologist and ask. You might have a fertility problem, but you won't know until you go see a doctor. They can tell you exactly when you should have sex to get pregnant, and maybe give you medicine that will help.

ok friday at school a guy from my class asked me if i liked 3 different girls from my language class (2 of them are twins) he and 2 others asked if i want to shag the twins but i said no but that i thought they were hot.So ok i quite like 1 of the twins but i don't think i showed that to her or at least not yet.So yesterday on chat i asked him why was he so interested who i like and to he replied "i'm not gonna tell you you know here" so by that i think he meant that some girl asked him to ask me nadd he doesn't want to tell me who she is because i know here.Today at school i asked him again but he told me he can't tell me.Is that it?? what did that mean??
P.S i also learnt that he asked my best friend if i liked the twins and he told me that he said yes but when that guy asked me if i liked them i said No.Also this guy doesn't really talk to the twins that much and that other girl he asked about i'v been talking much more to here then the twins but he only mentioned here once and didn't ask me much about here.

It is definitely possible that one of the twins got him to ask you if you liked them, but is is also very possible that he is just doing this to bug you. If two seperate people asked this than it probably means the twins asked them to, but are those guys even friends with them? Because if not than they are definitely just messing with you. As a girl I know they wouldn't just get a random boy to ask you that, it would be a friend. So if they are friends than it is probably them, if not it is just them joking.
But if you really want to know why don't you just ask them?

So me and my girlfriend were having sex, she has been on the Depo Proverba shot for about 4 months and has never been late. During one of our positions I realized that my condom had came off so we stop and I get it out. It was deep in so there was no way I could see what was in it, but I know that I never got off inside of her. Also I had urinated since the last time I got off so I feel like the pre-cum should be clean as well. After I got the condom out we completely stopped having sex, so should I be concerned about her being pregnant?

It is very unlikely that she is pregnant. I would not worry at all if i were you. just be careful next time and make sure the condom doesn't fall off!

The guy I've been talking to told me he was between like and love with me. I'm not really sure what this means. Advice?

This means that he still likes you, but he can tell that he could possibly love you in the future. He doesn't love you yet, but he wants too.

Sorry if this is long. Ok so here is a bit of background information: I have this best guy friend, we are just so close. We've only known each other for a year but we text practically everyday from the time we wake up to the time we go to bed. He started sending these cute "best friend" pictures so then I started to as well but then he started to see more "love" pictures that were saying "I love you" in all these cute different ways so once again I started to as well. I have always kind of liked him but I just valued our friendship so much more and stopped thinking about anything happening between us. He has crushed on two of my friends and because we r good friends he told me and I told him who I would be crushing on at the time but lately he hasn't said anything. Almost every night he says "goodnight I love you" and I say it back and he sends the cutest good morning texts ever and I can't help but smile stupidly. Oh my goodness I just get this knot in my stomach and I feel all warm and fuzzy inside (I know cheesy but I don't know how else to say it).
My first question is: do you think he likes me? Or is this still a "friendship love"? My feelings r getting stronger for him and I'm afraid to get hurt. I just don't know what to think, please just be 100% honest and don't sugar coat it please and thank you.
Also we had a conversation the other day and he said something really sweet. I said "you're starting to make me blush" and he said "I actually don't think I've ever seen you blush before" I said "I know you haven't" he said "challenge accepted" I didn't really fully believe so I just told ok go right ahead but then he said "I will just you wait...I promise I'll make you blush like never before"
My second question is: why do guys want to see girls blush? I know it's cuz they think it's cute or whatever but how?
I'm f/16 and he is the same age

he definitely has some feelings toward you. That doesn't necessarily mean he wants a relationship with you but he definitely values y'alls relationship. And as for the long thing, that doesn't necessarily mean anything unfortunately. He could just be saying that. Don't invest everything in him, I know you say y'all text every day but maybe don't text him for a day and see what happens. Giving him something to work for will make him want you more, knowing your not always there to talk will make you seem more mysterious and that he can't just have you. And i wouldn't look into the whole blushing thing..he is just play flirting. I wouldn't say he 100% friend zoned you, because I think he is flirting with you a little, but he think of you as a friend. It's a bad sign he talks about other girls with you, that y'all are just friends. But If I were you i would try to flirt even more with him and see what happens. When your with him, touch him more often. I think you guys have a good relationship so even if your just friends thats okay :)

My wife has a good female friend at work who claims she is my friend as well. However, nearly everytime she comes around me with other people around, she speaks to everyone around except for me. About once every month or two, she will actually talk to me regularly like we are really good friends, but then it stops again. She is a very outgoing person and I am kind of quiet. I have gone out of my way to start conversations with her and let her know that I really like her as a friend and would like to talk more often. The weird thing is when she starts ignoring me, she asks my wife why I am mad at her and not speaking to her. She went 2 months this summer without speaking and then bought me a $200 watch for my birthday, spoke to me for about a week, and then stopped again. All my wife says is that I need talk to her more so she won't think I'm mad at her. I'm not sure what to do. Any ideas?

Well frankly it sounds like this lady has problems not you. If you are really concerned about this relationship than I suggest straight up talking to her. Ask her what the deal is, why is she doing these things? I don't think your doing anything wrong here but if you want to try and start more conversations with her it might help. And try telling your wife what is happening, what the lady is doing.
I hope it works out.

what state do u live in because im 14 and need a job to suport my family
i rate 5

You usually can't get a job when your 14 but there are exceptions at some places. Just try googling where you can work at 14, or go into stores and ask! I don't think you are going to be able to make enough to support your family, but you can get a little extra cash at least.

im just 11 and a guy name hunter ask me out he said he was going to dump his girl for me but i dont really know can some of you tell me what to do he really says in my face i love you and i say o wow so stupid but he said he would die for me and i said i stell dont no it has pass5 days and thanks

So I know you don't want this answer but you should not be focusing on boyfriends right now, your so young! Boys shouldn't be asking girls out, where would you even go anyway? And if he says he love you thats a lie, you can't possibly know what love is when your that young and you guys haven't even hung out! So he is just trying to suck up to you! Also, if he is saying he will break up with his current girl friend, think about if you say yes, he is just going to go say that same thing to another girl and than dump you! He clearly doesn't respect girls if he would do that to his girlfriend.
Just think about this the next time he does that to you.

My boyfriend and I have had sex more than once but I never orgasm what should I do to orgasm so he will feel like he's good and I will feel better after having sex. 14/f

hey, I have this same problem. The guy always feels bad afterwards cause he cums and we don't it's annoying! Honestly for me i have never orgasmed from sex, I just can't. And I have been with a lot of different guys a lot of times so i know it wasn't just the first! First of all don't make your bf feel bad, tell him it's okay! The only way for me to orgasm is from fingering, so tell him to try fingering you! And while he is doing it tell him what feels good so he knows what to do. It's all about communication, if you don't tell him he won't know! I hope his helps you.

Hi.. I'm 12 years old, female.

So yesterday, I got done eating and I asked my OWN dad for some gum. Then, he said "It's all 'candy candy candy gum gum gum' with you. " That's when I just wanted to cry.

And that's not all. Kids at school call me names too. I told them and all they did was tell them to stop - they didn't!! I told them again and they said "Well they should express their facts and opinions". I told my mom and she didn't care. They can't move me to another school.

I've been counting my calories for over a year now. On the app I had, I set it for 1200 calories I eat.. I may drop it down to just 1000.

My calves are fat, my chin is fat, my butt is fat, my stomach is fat (I seriously have to suck it in), my cheeks are fat.. Pretty much it. I hate my body and I want to go anorexic. Yeah, yeah anorexia is bad for your body but it will be better for me! I'm thinking about starving myself..

No you don't want to be anorexic, and it;s not really a choice anyway, it's a mindset and a disease. Do you want to be alone and feel alone forever? Do you want to think about food for the rest of your life? Do you want to miss out on the most important things in your life? Do you want no friends? Cause this is everything you will get if you 'decide' to be anorexic. I have suffered with this disorder for 5 years. It will NEVER go away, I will NEVER be happy with myself. I am miserable every single day of my life, is that what you want? I know you want to be skinny, everyone does, but doing this is not worth it. Instead of cutting down on food, eat healthy things. Eat more fruits and vegetables and don't eat desserts as much. Everything in moderation. Start exercising, it makes you look good and it's fun! I now this is not the answer you wanted but it's the truth. Think about your future before you start doing anything drastic.

Can a girl get pregnant from precum if both of you are wearing underwear and there is no penetration, and you didnt ejaculate?

No. Like end of story. Don't worry.

How do I get a girl with me I have been rejected like three times and I'm 11

That's because your 11. You have no car and no money..where are you going to go with a girl? At that age girls probably still think you have cooties, we definitely aren't looking for relationships. I know this is not the answer you wanted but seriously it's the truth.

I just recently got out of a 3 month relationship. I was dumbed and I can't get him out of my mind. I keep remembering all the good moments in our relationship. I really don't know why he dumped me he just said it wasn't working. Any suggestions as to how to get my mind off of him and how too get over him?

So we are pretty much in the same exact boat right now. My ex just dumped me two days ago after 4 months saying he just didn't like me. Boys can be so inconsiderate.
But even in the short time period I have found fabulous ways to get over him. First of all, I don't care who you are, listen to Taylor Swift songs, She is a life saver! Second of all, try to make yourself busy all the time. Don't let yourself be alone, constantly be with family or friends because than your mind will be focused on other things besides him. I don't know if your religious but I find praying very helpful too. Just try to focus on other things and do something good for yourself! Go on a run, go tanning, get your nails done or take yourself shopping, I know it's cheesy but it will make you feel special! Sorround yourself with the people you love and the ones that love you back and remember that he clearly is missing out if he dumped someone like you!
Hope you feel better, you can message me if you wanna talk!

Can someone please help me. When I am having sex it is wonderful and I feel great, but the only problem is that i takes me up to two to three hours to cum and then sometimes I don't at all. It doesn't worry me but my girl really loves my cum and wants more. Is there any way I can cum faster?? - Thanks in advance

if you masterbate a lot than I would say stop masterbating because that is adding to the problem. I think the other persons answer is really good, all of those things could be causing this. I don't know any specific things to make you cum faster I'm guessing you don't stop for the entire 2-3 hours? If you do, try not to. If you are really concerned about this than you should go to a doctor. I know that's awkward but I bet they could give you good tips and/or prescribe you something. I don't know if anything is actually 'wrong' with you, but I would go anyways.

12, F

So about a month ago, I got this white gooey stuff in my underwear. I looked up more about it, and they said it was discharge.

I never got this stuff again, but what's your prediction of when i'll get my period?

Is this the first time you have every had it?
I can't remember exactly how I felt before I got my first period but are your boobs really tender and sore and growing? That's definitely a sign that you will start soon. Do you feel a little moodier than normal, like you might cry if you saw a cute puppy?
Are you getting weird stomach and back pains?
If you are nervous about getting your period in public than I suggest you should try wearing a pantyliner so that you will be prepared. Usually you start your period during your sleep though so I wouldn't worry abut that too much!

15/f and i ended an emtionally abusive relationship with my dad, a narc of three years about a month ago. and i didnt even know that it actually was an abusive, mentally, verably, and emotionally relationship until it ended and i looked it up online. i used to be so popular, confident, sometimes overly confident, silly, hilarious, spontaneous, and unfiltered. now its really hard for me say what i think when i want, becasue i used to do that but now i feel like i have to watch what i say all the time. its all because my dad. this is just one example he would say things in front of me, bashing my mom always bad motuhing her, then he would say make sure you dont say that to your mom. and my dad would not email, text, call nothing to my mom make plans with me so i was always in the middle and it was so bad i would have panic attacks due to stress.because my dad is crazy and fucked up and all he wanted to do was create drama he was so needy that my life became about him and i lost so many friends, my grades went down alot, i got benched at the sport i love and now im still struggling. i feel insecure and out of place. i was condidering going on anxiety or depression medication but im not sure. i heard celexa is really good for majority of people like adults or teens. but if i go on it i dont want to have to depend on it and never come off it. i just want to be me so bad and its so hard and feel like it will never end. this tired, gloomy, depressive, insecure, unfolding feeling will never go away. i got the worst out of my life so and i feel so much releived about it and i actually told him how i felt and the truth so why am i still depressed? i just want my normal life back? i know you can say go excerise go do this and that, and i do i want to do all of that but i just give up becasue you know your still going to be depressed. what can i do? ps i go see a therapist every 2 weeks since about 2.5 years ago

hey, that's so great that you finally got your dad out of your life, I think when more time passes you will become just a little bit happier just because of that! I think your therapy should help too, if your completely honest. And I agree with you, I think you should try some anti-deppressive medication. I know you don't want to get hooked but if you are seeing a therapist they will be watching you and making sure that does not happen so you don't need to worry about that! I really think that it would help.
I hope everything works out.

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