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Are we more than friends? What do you think?
Sorry if this is long. Ok so here is a bit of background information: I have this best guy friend, we are just so close. We've only known each other for a year but we text practically everyday from the time we wake up to the time we go to bed. He started sending these cute "best friend" pictures so then I started to as well but then he started to see more "love" pictures that were saying "I love you" in all these cute different ways so once again I started to as well. I have always kind of liked him but I just valued our friendship so much more and stopped thinking about anything happening between us. He has crushed on two of my friends and because we r good friends he told me and I told him who I would be crushing on at the time but lately he hasn't said anything. Almost every night he says "goodnight I love you" and I say it back and he sends the cutest good morning texts ever and I can't help but smile stupidly. Oh my goodness I just get this knot in my stomach and I feel all warm and fuzzy inside (I know cheesy but I don't know how else to say it).
My first question is: do you think he likes me? Or is this still a "friendship love"? My feelings r getting stronger for him and I'm afraid to get hurt. I just don't know what to think, please just be 100% honest and don't sugar coat it please and thank you.
Also we had a conversation the other day and he said something really sweet. I said "you're starting to make me blush" and he said "I actually don't think I've ever seen you blush before" I said "I know you haven't" he said "challenge accepted" I didn't really fully believe so I just told ok go right ahead but then he said "I will just you wait...I promise I'll make you blush like never before"
My second question is: why do guys want to see girls blush? I know it's cuz they think it's cute or whatever but how?
I'm f/16 and he is the same age
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Generally speaking (50% of the cases plus one), when a guy puts any effort into being friendly with a girl, especially if he's saying, "I love you," it's because he wants to get with you. Unfortunately, though, women like being chased but a lot of guys, especially in adolescence, have self esteem issues and wait for you to be REALLY obvious about it.
In that way, you're kind of torturing the guy. When you use emotionally loaded phrases, you lead the guy on even if you didn't intend to. Now you may also have self esteem issues of your own or you don't want to be seen as being overly aggressive, so you wait for him to screw his courage up and finally ask to get with you.
The best thing you can do is just go for it and tell him you want to have him as your boyfriend. Or you want to ask him a question like, "can you see me as your girlfriend?" If he says yes to the latter query, then respond by saying, "well, here's you're chance!" Or just grab his hand or kiss him or whatever you'd be comfortable with. Whatever happens, it will bring about some kind of resolution to this issue whereas if you don't do anything this drama is going to continue.
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he definitely has some feelings toward you. That doesn't necessarily mean he wants a relationship with you but he definitely values y'alls relationship. And as for the long thing, that doesn't necessarily mean anything unfortunately. He could just be saying that. Don't invest everything in him, I know you say y'all text every day but maybe don't text him for a day and see what happens. Giving him something to work for will make him want you more, knowing your not always there to talk will make you seem more mysterious and that he can't just have you. And i wouldn't look into the whole blushing thing..he is just play flirting. I wouldn't say he 100% friend zoned you, because I think he is flirting with you a little, but he think of you as a friend. It's a bad sign he talks about other girls with you, that y'all are just friends. But If I were you i would try to flirt even more with him and see what happens. When your with him, touch him more often. I think you guys have a good relationship so even if your just friends thats okay :)
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Many options here:
1) He has liked you the whole time, but he has been putting you in his pocket waiting for the right time, and he has been testing you through it.
2) He really likes you as much as you, it's just that you guys are too shy to tell each other.
3)He might try to get you to be his fuck buddy
4) He likes you and he doesn't know what to do to get you to noticed that.
What I would do is find out the type of actions he likes in a girl, like put out your cutest remarks, such as, if he likes the cuddly type of girls then be cuddly and sweet with anything but not to him to where he thinks you might be flirting, and maybe just give out a little stroke of sweetness to make him impatient. Do this Around him, until he can't take it anymore and tell you for himself his feelings towards you.
Let him suffer a little like this, but hurry! Don't let that wait for too long.
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