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I have a friend that i've known for a year or so and she's been my best friend but lastely she's been getting on my nerves. she acts like me and does things like me and it's bothering me. It's been getting annoying and i don't know what to do. please help me! Thanks.
Once in awhile you get a friend that clings to your ankles like a preschooler to his parents on the first day. Try looking at this from her point of view.
Since a fresh new year is starting at school, it's time to make new friends and in some cases, ditch old ones. Perhaps you've been so successful at making new friends that you've left her behind, or she's just having trouble making new friends because it's new territory and she feels more comfortable with someone she's familiar with.
Start by introducing her to some new people you've met, ease her in slowly because if you just shove her in the circle she'll just start acting "like you" on a defense/reflex in a social situation with new people.
It seems like she's just doing it so she becomes closer to you and then got so into it that now it's getting on your nerves. The best thing to do is to talk to her about it. She's probably noticed some tensions and is wondering about it too.
Talk to her when you both are alone, this can be at school, a mutual ground. Let her know that she's your best friend through thick and thin, and you became best friends with her because of who she is, not how well she fits in with you. Tell her that she should try to be herself more, and people will like her for that because that's how you like her. She doesn't have to change her stripes into spots just because you have spots.
Try not to make it sound like an accusation and refrain from using the word "annoying". That will just send the message that this is a personal attack. From personal experience, your OWN personality is what people really want to see :)
is there a difference between going out end being gf/bf?
i have been going out with this guy for a while and people say oh you two are going out right? and i dont know if he considers us bf/gf?
The difference is if you're exclusive or not exclusive. By going out, do you mean dating only each other or can you go on a date with other guys too? This can get kind of confusing since people tend to judge on appearances.
Let me sum it up, usually going out with someone means you are EXCLUSIVE and b/g :)
when i put on deoderant in the morning before i put my shirt on, it gets all over the shirt while i am putting it on. if i try to do it when my shirt is on, it is difficult to lift up my shirt. i do not want to use a spray deoderant, so please don't suggest that. how can i put it on eaisly with out getting it all over my shirt?
Maybe you're putting on a little too much. If its really cakey then yes, you are. My friend Jessica had the same problem and she switched to clear kind. I heard Secret clear gel is heaven, you should try that out.
If that doesn't work out, try touching up later in the day. Since winter's almost here, you'll have no problem with sweaty pits. Concentrate on moisturizing your skin, including the area that's constantly irritated, your arm pits :)
is there any STORE (not online) that sells seven jeans or other designer jeans like them (citizens for humanity, true religion, etc.) for 60 dollars or under? if you know anywhere, that'd be great, thanks!
I LOVVEEE TRUE RELIGION AND CITIZENS!! :) I swear everything from true religion is unbelievably hot and actually, fits!
I heard Nordstroms just had their bi annual sale. Since holidays are coming up, you probably won't be able to get a lot of those jeans on sale so I would wait until the holidays are over and check out stores such as Neiman Marcus, Saks Fifth, etc. When things go on sale, it usually takes off 30 - 50% (sometimes they go up to 60%).
A couple days ago, I got a private shopping invitation from Neimans in the mail where they put exclusive items for young adults(Juicy, true religion, etc) on sale temporarily on December the 4th. You might want to check in with a sales associate on that, they might give you an invitation there.
Finally, you'll get some snug fit jeans without choking your Prada wallet. :)
I don't know, I'm big on dreams, and thinking they have meaning. Well, here's the thing. I dreampt again last night, and want to know if anyone can interpret them...
See, I met this girl online in June, and we are exactly alike. She has become close to being my closest friend. Then I dreampt about her...
My first is that we were in a small town in a rural area (Illinois was the setting, I live in NJ). She wanted to travel down the Mississippi to get to the sea so we could find an island and live on it happily ever after. Well, we started down it in the trains the Mississippi supplies (Yes, it was something made up in my dream.) Well, we went from stop to stop, and it was a small city, then rural area. Well, we got seperated in Chicago, and I was conducting the train. The city of Chicago scared me, so I redirected it back, and we made it back to the original town. We got off, she found me, and was disappointed. Afraid of her getting angry, I loosened my resolve to stay, and agreed to go back on. I was walking on when I WANTED to go to the ocean, and not because I was made to. Then the dream ended.
The second was much shorter. I, for some reason, played football (I don't in real life). Well, she asked me to quit for her, and I unwillingly did. She then left me for some other football player, and I was left in the dust.
FYI, I have no relationship with her other than friends, and I am male. Yet in both, I was going out with her at the time. And I have no desire to in real life...
What do they mean?
From a dream dictionary, I can only interpret part of your dreams. Try posting it on the forum on this website: http://www.dreammoods.com/
I can't seem to find out what the small town in your dream meant. Do you know if it was in ruins? old? brand new? details might help. Her wanting to travel to the sea on a train, and finding an island shows that you want to find tranquility and relaxation and the train symbolizes that you are on the right path. Alternitavely, the sea can also mean you need to reassure yourself. Piecing these together, I think it means you are leaving your comfort zone, and she is basically taking control of your relationship now. Maybe she is always in the back of your mind while you are trying to find other girls? You think that she is the right person for you but you don't want to be disappointed in someone you've never met. The train shows you might be right since you both are so similar and it's a possibility she is your soul mate. You losing her is perhaps you think that you've lost an opportunity to make the relationship work. You being the conductor of the train symbolizing that, hey I can still make this work. The fear of the city, means you fear you lost this chance so you are hurrying back to great her. Her disappointment might mean she wants to meet in real life but either you are her are hesitating. Her being angry might symbolize her frustration in you not being able to make resolves. Or perhaps either one of you has been anger at the other for reasons that you are not willing to let go of your relationship for? Your agreement symbolizes that you or her might be starting to make resolves in order to make it work. Going back toward the ocean shows that your concious feelings are good about this decision, this is the right one.
It's free and confidential. The reason why I refered you to this site is I checked it out, seems pretty clean, they have an open forum where "experts" can help you interpret your dream. Have fun ;)
UPDATE: I copy and pasted it from the site above:
"To dream that your mate, spouse, or significant other is cheating on you, indicates your fears of being abandoned. You may feel a lack of attention in the relationship. Alternatively, you may feel that you are not measuring up to the expectations of others. This notion may stem from issues of trust or self-esteem." Perhaps that since you both don't see each othe ron a regular basis and you want to know what is going on in her life (people she meets, etc). Stemming from the football, perhaps you are feeling the competition heating up. Maybe she's introduced a guy she's thinking about hooking up with or something along those lines. She's asked you to make ammends for her but you're afraid it'd b useless in the end if the relationship is unlikely to work.
ok. im 14/f. still a virgin and ive been thinking about having sex with my boyfriend. like when he hugs me from behind he'll just start humping me. and i know i tell him to stop but i like it. l.o.l. and he always puts his hands up my shirt. and i like it. but im ashamed of my body. i know im not fat...but i just think i am. i think my legs are at least. but... i dont know what to do. and i dont think thats all he wants from me. but i dont know....i masterbate alot and it feels good. and i want the real thing now but i dont know about it tho.
please help me.
If you are questioning whether you are ready or not, then you are not ready.
Insecurity with yourself is normal. God made us all different. He's not going to be thinking, this girl has chubby thighs or big feet or anything. He's thinking, wow this girl is beautiful or damn I'm getting some. The fellas know what I'm talking about ;)
Your age, however, is a concern. I'm sure you've heard this before, but you are too young to have sex. There is no preset age limit, before you ask, but there is a difference between masturbating and having sexual intercourse. You are working with a partner, one that you have to be willing to give yourself entirely to. It's normal to get emotional and if you or your relationship cannot handle this kind of stress, it's ok to back out. There are plenty of other things you and your boyfriend can do. Judging by his wandering hands, he's already found plenty of things to do.
I've seen a lot of potential relationships be ruined by sex. Talk to your boyfriend and see what he thinks. (If he says yes, as he will, ask him what he thinks about it and why. He should be able to give a good reason)
Remember, safety is first. :)
Ok so I have a crush on this girl who ive been flirting with to much. and right now i believe shes tryin to ignor and avoid me. Like I was at a dance today and I was walking up to her to say hi and that she did a good job when she was cheerleading at the west gym {she is not a snot , i put this in here because some peeps might thiunk cheerleaders are snots}, and she ran off to the dark center of the gym. Atleast i think that was her. Anyway, I was wondering how I can get some positive reinforcesments in my situation.
Loosin sleep and desperate
You're putting too much leverage on this one experience. Of course she wasn't trying to be a snot. I wasn't ever the star of my High School squad but I loved it when people had positive feedback on our routine (even if it's just a practice). Since it was a dance, perhaps she was looking for a friend and saw her accross the room and decided to go say hi. Since everyone is inside a tiny little room with loud music, she probably didn't hear your comment. There are many things that could have happened that needed her to tend to other than you. Don't stress over this one small thing. Like you said, she's unlikely to have been trying to purposely be a snot. View everything first from an eagle eye view and then begin to work your way through. Don't think everything going wrong started with you.
UPDATE: Remember, Advicenators can only answer your question based on the information you give. ;)
i dont get this well i never take in more then 2000 callories a day more like 1000-1500 but like im putting on weight!!! the only way i lose any is if i dont eat for a day or i have no breakfast no lunch and like a salad for dinner which i have sometimes! but i dont get it.
i did lose about half a stone last year im 51.6kg and 5'2 btw im almost 15 if that helps x x x
The question is are you getting enough exercise? A friend of mine dealt with an eating disorder known as anorexia. It made her depressed all throughout freshman year, gave her low self confidence, and she was basically dying. She couldn't even run the warm-up in her JV year on cheer leading. By the end of her freshman year she weighed a little over 85 pounds. Now she's found help and dealt with her self esteem issues but is this a process that you're willing to go through? She tried so hard to lose weight that in the end she basically dumped her life in the toilet and flushed it.
Remember that when losing weight is not only about your food consumption but about exercise too. Think of it as a very delicate scale. If you can balance both, that's great! You feel good about yourself and losing weight at the same time. Exercise daily (get at least 45 minutes a day outside/running), and watch what you eat. This means cutting junk food, soda, etc. A salad a day is DEFINITELY not enough. Think about all the proteins and vitamins you're missing. It's more about what you eat per portion rather than how much food you are cutting from your diet. Don't ever abuse either side or you'll find yourself caught in a cycle 3% of women in the US suffer from everyday.
I've been smoking for over two years now and I've never had any problems but lately when I smoke, I get dizzy.
Does anyone know why this is?
Please don't tell me to quit smoking, I'm of legal age, I don't need a lecture. I know it's bad for you.
Hopefully, you've told your doctor that you are a smoker and he's told you the "normal" side effects and the long term ones.
Cigarettes, as you know, contain chemicals that get absorbed in your bloodstream and your brain. The dizziness you are experiencing is PROBABLY coming from your brain in correlation with nicotine. I'm not a smoker nor a doctor, so my advice is to call in with the doctor and schedule an appointment to make sure everything is fine.
As an extra recommendation, try asking Dr Chad on this one. There's a link on my advice column or just click here: http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=Dr_Chad
Has anyone ever used Avast! anti-virus? If so, can you help me out here a little?
This scanner has found a virus on my PC and it told me the recommended action was to 'move it into the virus chest'. I clicked the button that did that...what happens to the virus now? What do I do next?
And can anyone explain what a 'trojan worm' virus will have done to my PC? How is my PC still functioning?
And also why a fully updated version of Norton Anti Virus has failed to pick this up over three years and yet this new virus scanner got it in five minutes?
I have never used Avast! but I can answer some of your questions. A virus chest is like quarrentine for the virus. This way the virus cannot harm your computer. Most virus programs require you to manually get to the virus chest and delete the viruses. Your Norton Anti Virus probably could not pick it up because you didn't take the time to update. My bud works with computers at the gov so he frequently emails me to update when necessary. MSN, for example, has a link where they'll update your computer for you. If you have a hard time remembering to update, try setting it on automatic and it'll usually prompt you to update weekly.
I'm being a mouse for halloween, but I dont want to look like a little kid. I'm wearing a cute grey shirt and black plants with a tail and mouse ears. Is there any way I can make my costume cute and maybe a little sexy without being slutty?
Tight, light grey tank top. Fold it at midriff if you dare. Tight black (cotton) long pants with wider bottoms. Thin grey wool scarf wraped around the middle of your neck, or you can substitute a thin black ribon tied around your neck. Your sexiest black stilettos. Fake eyelashes, with the new Dior crystal lash decorator ($22, trust me looks real hot).http://www.neimanmarcus.com/store/catalog/prod.jhtml?itemId=prod25930021&parentId=cat7330734&cm_ven=Performics&cm_cat=I%2Dsearch%20%28Froogle%29&cm_ite=DDI%20Link
Pick your deadliest combo ;)
UPDATE: Very hot! I'm very into Uggs right now. Since Ugg boots look better when all of it is showing, tuck your pants into your boots. Try to tie your outfit in with a light brown calfskin-style wide belt around your midriff.
For a school project I need to find pictures of people who have done some kind of drugs. I need to be able to show how awful people can end up looking to prove a point. Problem is, I can't find any pictures on the web. Please help me find some asap! Thanks!
http://www.oregonlive.com/news/oregonian/photos/gallery.ssf?cgi-bin/view_gallery.cgi/olive/view_gallery.ata?g_id=2927
That should do it. ;)
how come youve never had to shave ur armpits?
I'm was just born almost hairless in my armpits I guess. I'm also a natural blonde with very fine hair, meaning my hair is barely noticeable.
I like this guy, and when I say that I mean alot. The problem is, I have a horrible feeling I wont get to have him. Hes known to "get all the girls". Hes almost perfect. I think he is. Normally I'm not comfurtable around most people, but even the first day that I met him I was completly comfurtable, and the doesnt happen very often so I didnt get it. Also I dont really flirt with guys cause im not comfurtable but I do with him. He doesnt go to my school so it makes things harder. I dont think im going to get him, at all. So my question is, how do I make this feeling go away? I dont like knowing that the one person whose come around in a long time who I am COMPLETLY comfurtable with (which is extremly rare for me) is all over other girls and my chances with him might be slim. I just need to know how to get over this fast. Thanks. Sorry for ranting on. Ill rate 5's to good answers.
You say get over, but if he's as perfect as you say he is, is this something you'd be willing to let go without kicking and screaming? Since you don't see him on a day to day basis, however, you probably have less of a perspective of his true personality. He might seem almost perfect but the only time you can truly see what kind of person he really is is how he interacts with others. You say that you are comfortable around him, why are you not comfortable with yourself enough to pursue him? Don't worry about other girls' chances when it's about YOU and what YOU do. When playing a sport, say soccer, can you really put numbers and percentages on your chances of winnings? Sure you could but that makes the game completely pointless if we have calculators to play for us. Yes it does play a role but as you know underdogs sometimes pull up top. It depends on determination and confidence in yourself. Try again. ;)
Why can't I register to gunbound? When i click done it says
'Input letter does not match with displayed letter' ????
im typing each letter in the box CORRECTLY.
i dont get it.
Uhh sounds like you're trying to sign up for something. Try refreshing the page several times and try again. Most sign ups are cAsE SeNsItIvE. Meaning you have to type it in exactly as it is seen. If it is a capital A, you must type a capital A. Lower case, type in lower case, etc. Also, make sure your spacing is correct and that you didn't confuse a zero with an O, etc.
well there is this guy in my class, matthew, hes a goth. well he seems to always talk to me, and at lunch my group sits near his group, like 6 meters apart. and he sits with his girlfriend but he seems to look at me alot. in class today he went "I love your eyes" and he strokes my hair..and smells my hair...2 of my friends said he likes me...does he like me?
It's blantantly obvious he likes you. When a guy looks you in the eyes and compliments you, I'll be hit with a bus if that doesn't mean he's likin' it a lot more than you know. Throw stroking your hair and smelling it! But wait before you jump into his lap. Perhaps this is his way of getting to know people better considering that he has a girlfriend.
The only way to find out is make a mental list of any othe signals he might be sending, write 'em down and decipher. This includes physical contact and communication. If he's staring down your shirt, ditch him, he's a scumbag who has a girlfriend. If he starts comparing you to his girlfriend, wrap him up and take him home. Trust me, writing them down helps. ;)
ok this is my dilemma.there is this guy called rick in both my english and history clases.he looks at me a lot.and when i say something in class.he at times smiles at me like his proud of me or something.its wierd cause now am thinking about him A LOT.him and me as a couple and am not really sure if i even like him.DO I LIKE HIM OR DO I JUST LIKE THE ATTENTION HIS GIVING ME OR BOTH./AND DOES HE LIKE ME ANYWAY
i am so confused.help me out here guys.
i rate 5
It seems that he's trying to get your attention by observing you and appearing interested in your daily activities. Sometimes we all feel like screaming for attention, like, hey world I'm still here without seeming down right out of your mind. Just think about if Rick's attention is the kind that you want and need in your life. Of course you like attention, doesn't everyone? Often times the people that need this attention the most are ignored and that feeling is perfectly normal. Because you are fantasizing about you and him as a couple shows that you're subconsciously thinking that this can develop into something more. And guess what? You're absolutely right! You are starting to show interest towards him as well and you want to explore this attraction.
Try this: smile back at him when he smiles at you and look away. Try not to make eye contact with him until the end of class. Then when it's the end of class, walk up to him and say "Hey, whats going on?" and start a conversation with him. Having two classes together gives you more opportunities to talk to Rick, use them to your advantage! ;)
how do you shave under your arms without cutting yourself with an eletric shaver.
needs help
An electric shaver? Yikes! Just stick to the classic, manual ones. You're much less likely to cut yourself. Although I've never had to shave my armpits, if I had to, I would find looking in a mirror easier. If you have shaving gel, now is the best time to use it. If not, conditioner or body wash will work the same. Hold your arm up and pull it back just slightly. Apply your shaving gel and while facing the mirror start shaving. Rinse off excess gel, clean your razor, and apply some lotion. It might feel raw when you first start shaving.
ok well i know this guy likes me. I know it for a fact. But he is stalling to ask me out. Does anyone know who to get him to ask me out before next friday ( The school halloween dance )?
This guy probably has the case of the nerves. Reassure him and let him know that you are still open for the dance and it would be great to have someone to go with. Ease up with a joke, like, I can't really go to the dance as Cinderella without a Prince. Ask him a question such as "What are you going to wear?". Get him into it.
If all else fails ask him yourself. Say "As you know there's a dance this Friday, will you take me?" It's as simple as that. ;)
whats an orgasim
It is when someone reaches a sexual climax or the peak of their pleasure. This stimulates ejaculation, in men semen is released through the penis and in women a secren of body fluids is released.