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Well me and my boyfreind arent talking at them moment well lets start with the basics. Im 14 this is like my 30th boyfreind I swear it just never works out me and him have been dating for 1 year. He wants to go all the way and im not ready for the responslablty of a babie if I get pregant and im jsut not ready so what should I do he said he wanted to dump me but I love him he is the only guy I ever told I loved i mean plenty of guys had said I love you but i didnt say it back.

You're right. You should not have sex with him if you're not ready. And I can't help but add, you shouldn't have sex with him even if you DO think you're ready, because honestly, 14 is just too young. But that's beside the point. The truth is, sleeping with a guy just to "keep" him just doesn't work. And especially if he's said he's gonna dump you if you don't do it. If he doesn't love you enough to stick with you without sex, he's not gonna suddenly start loving you just because you're having sex. He may like what you're giving him (for a while at least), but he's not going to like YOU any more than he did before. And eventually he will move on. So stick to your guns and do what you know is right. I know you really like him, but if he doesn't care about you enough to honor your decisions, then he's just not worth it.

I'm auditioning for a drama club, and we have to write monologues and perform them.

I've written my monologue...no problem there.

Does anyone know any tricks to memorizing a two minute monologue?

Record yourself saying it, and then replay it over and over while you're getting ready in the morning, riding in the car, exercising or whatever. Hearing it over and over - and trying to say it along with the recording - will help you memorize it. Good luck! =]

my dad is getting married in july and im moving to a new house. i need some good ideas for my room like what color or theme. i want it to be something i can still appreciate when i get older and not feel childish. be the way im 15. im kinda girly i like polka dots if they are cute. stars are okay or a cute theme. some good colors would be pink, or navy or, black or brown. i dont really know what i want to do yet and i need a lot of help!!! thanks

Will you be getting new furniture (dressers, etc?). If so, you might want to go with something white and very simple. That will look good with almost any color or theme you choose, now and in the future. I have white dressers, and whenever I re-do my room, I get new drawer handles to go with my new theme... and it makes it look like I got a whole new bedroom set. Just one idea!

I met someone at work, and they're really nice but also kinda strange.
So I was talking to them and being nice, and they're just coming on too strong, they asked for my phone number and always ask when I'm working and to phone them to hang out and stuff.
But it's just like too pushy, like she wants me to always have break with her,and phone her and always do stuff. And I hate to sound mean but I kinda don't want to, becuase she weirds me out. I feel as she is like suffocating me but I don't know her, and she does it all being really nice.
Is there anyway to absent out of this friendship, or at least get them to lay off, without saying it to them don't want her hurt feelings.

It sounds like this girl probably doesn't have many friends, and she's just starved for companionship. So when someone is nice to her, like you have been, she gets a little too excited and clings on to hard. And that scares people away. It's kind of sad.

But just because you feel sorry for her doesn't mean you have the responsibilty of being her new best friend. On the other hand, just because she's irritating you doesn't mean you have to be mean or cold to her. Just keep being friendly when you're around her. But if you don't want to do something with her, you don't have to... just politely say sorry, you can't. Eventually she'll figure out that your friendship is going to be the kind that stays on the "acquaintance at work" level.

I have a boy friend, we've been together for a while, in my eyes he's close to perfect. I love him so much and I know it everytime I look into his eyes or even just hearing his voice when he calls me on the phone. When I'm with him I don't think about anyone else.

But there's this other guy in my college and he's a really cool guy, and I find myself attracted to him and thinking about him, I wouldn't make a move, but I find myself daydreaming about what it would be like if we could be together...

Part of me feels guilty, because I love my boyfriend and I agreed to be in a monogamous relationship with him, and with that promise, i would NEVER cheat on him or anything.

But why do I still feel this way for someone else?
Am I a bad girlfriend for it?

No, you're not a bad girlfriend... you're just a normal human being. This sort of thing happens to everyone once in a while, even people who are happily married. Because the truth is, being in love with someone doesn't stop you from being attracted to other people. There are tons of nice, funny, good-looking guys out there, and of course you're going to notice them. It doesn't mean you love your boyfriend any less, or that you're doing anything wrong... it's just the way nature works. So you shouldn't feel guilty about it.

The important thing is that you don't act on it. Some people have a hard time with that... they think that being attracted to someone somehow makes it okay, or even necessary, to follow through with their feelings, regardless of the consequences. But of course it's not okay... just like it's not okay to steal something just because you really want it.

Sometimes it can be hard to resist tempatation, though. If you find yourself really obsessing over this guy - but you know that you want to stay faithful to your boyfriend - you may have to make an effort to distance yourself from him for a while. Avoid seeing him or talking to him if you have to, and by all means, don't let him know how you feel about him. Eventually, this crush will pass, and you'll be happy you didn't act on it.

I have to learn 40 verbs (in dutch) for the end of the week..so Friday...
What would be the best way to learn them?!
Here's an example of how the verbs are like

Mogen-Mogen-Mocht(en)-Gemogen

All 40 verbs are written out like that.
What would be the best way to learn them?

Thank you so much!

Make yourself some flash cards, with the Dutch words on one side, and what they mean in English on the other side. And then go over them about a kazillion times until you know them! Take them with you where ever you go, so you can look them over whenever you have a free moment. Ask someone to quiz you on them whenever you get a chance.

I know it might sound silly, but flash cards really do help a lot. Just making them will give you a big head start, because they'll start to get into your head as you write them down. And they're a lot easier to carry around than a book or a big sheet of paper, so you'll be more likely to practice them more often.

Good luck!

I guess the answer is quite obvious but as always, fool in like always think up of excuses only until the truth is blatantly staring at you in your face.

so, anyhow
there's this guy that I recently met at the wakeboarding group.
Our group meets up once a forthnight to wakeboard.
Previously he asked me if I wanted to go wakeboard with him, but because someone interrupted the conversation, it kinda stopped there.

So when our group met up again 2 days ago, I casually asked him 'so , when do you want to go wakeboarding'. His reply was 'Anytime, just give me a call.' so of course I whipped out my mobile all ready to exchange numbers. But he doesn't take his out and instead give me his number. And NEVER asked me back for mine.

So please hit me in the face and wake me up guys and gals. Does this simply mean that he's just not that into me, or not into me at all?
I kinda thought that getting a person's number is imperative if you like him/her.

confused. boo.

Well, you could be right. Or, maybe he's just a little on the shy side, and is sitting there waiting for you to call him. There's only one way to find out. Text him, and just say "Hey, what's up?". Or if you don't text, give him a call. Think up some stupid excuse if you need to (ie; "do you know what time our next meeting is?"). That's all you need to do. Once he's got your number, you can sit back and see what he does with it. Then you'll have your answer. =]

I have a guy friend who asked me for money for his birthday this year. I know its a bit impersonal, but its what he wants. anyway, anyone have a cool/creative way to like give to him? thanks.

Here are a few ideas:

Tape a bunch of singles together end to end, in a long strip. On one end, tape a blank piece of paper. Put the money in a small box with a slot cut in the top (like a kleenex box), and leave the blank piece of paper sticking out of the slot. Write "Pull me" or some cute saying on the paper... when he pulls the note, the long strip of bills will come out.

Fold up a bunch of dollars accordian-style, and tie them each with a long string. Tie the other ends of the strings to the inside of an umbrella, and close it up. When he opens the umbrella, it will be "raining money."

Get one of those really big chocolate bars; slide off the paper wrapper, carefully open the foil, and put the money inside; then seal it all back up. When he opens it, it will be like finding the "golden ticket".

Put the money inside a balloon (a thick or dark colored one, so he can't see the money inside) and tie the balloon to a small box. When you give it to him, he'll think the balloon is just a decoration for the box. But inside the box, he'll find just a single pin. He'll have to figure out what to do with the pin in order to find his real gift!

If you have a joke shop or toy shop nearby, see if they have one of those silly cans with the coiled up "snake" that pops out (do you know what I'm talking about?). You can wad up a bunch of bills and put them on top of the snake thingy, so that when he opens up the can, the money will go flying out everywhere.

14/f
this guy was gonna ask me out but i said no because of my parents(but i liked him). its not that im not allowed to date its just there pretty strict and then my whole family would end up knowing, and they make it a bigger deal then it actually is. what should i do? because what if this happens again, and i really wanted to say yes. and i cant hide it from my parents

Hmmm... I think you should try talking to your parents about it. And do it now, before there's another actual guy involved. Just sit them down and tell them you'd like to have a nice, friendly discussion about dating. And then be totally honest with them... say, "There have been a few guys who have wanted to ask me out, and even though I really wanted to, I said no because I'm worried that you guys will make a huge deal about it, or do something that will embarrass me." (Remember, your parents were teenagers once, too, so they can certainly understand what it's like to be embarrassed by parents.)

Tell them that you understand there will be certain ways they'd like YOU to behave when it comes to dating... but that there are also certain ways you'd like THEM to behave. Then give them some examples of situations, and ask them how they would react... for instance, "If a guy calls and asks me to a movie, how will you act? And how would you like me to act?" And then talk about it in a nice, calm way, and see if you can all come to an agreement and set some "rules" for each other.

But like I said, it's best to do it now, when you're talking about "if and when". If you wait until a guy you're crazy about has asked you out, both you and your parents will be more emotional about it, and it will be harder to talk about it calmly.

Good luck!

How do you graduate your junior year? I noticed that a few people are doing that in my high school but doesn't every highschool require four years of English, so how do they manage that?

They may have taken some classes in summer school, or online; or somehow tested out of certain required classes. You'd have to ask your counselor exactly how they did it, since the requirements are different from state to state.

alright... so why do we call black people(which is what i call them) "african american". now i understand the whole. i was born in africa. i now have a citizenship. they would be an african...american.... so why is it even if their parents and grand parents and great grandparents were alll born here.. we still call them african americans??.... i mean.. to me it slightly offends me (although it probbaly shouldnt being im white).. it just seems like we have a seperate name for them.. like their not fully american. can someone jsut help me out with this... it just seems like we seperate them out when i dotn see people saying "oh shes an irish american" or anything like that.. so.. anything that would help thank you

Good question! I think Russianspy1234 is right... it's just an attempt to find a politically correct term. But I like your point about someone's great-grandparents being born here. Because what's interesting is...

Most Black Americans have ancestors who were living here long before most White Americans' ancestors did. That's because the U.S. banned the importation of slaves from Africa in 1808; and even though slavery continued until 1865, those later slaves' ancestors were already here before 1808. On the other hand, most white Americans today can trace their ancestry to the vast number of European immigrants who arrived here between 1870-1920, or even later.

So yeah... unless a Black person's family arrived here from Africa (or elsewhere) recently, chances are their family has been here a lot longer than most White peoples'. Interesting!

ii want to bring sumthin ameriican to iinterest the people iin the other country so ii can make friiends . what should ii brriing??? iit cant be biig

Well, you didn't say what country you're going to, but I know when I've had visitors from Germany, Russia and Poland... they've always been really interested in any brand name clothes that they can't easily get over there (Levi's, Abercrombie & Hollister, Nike, Adidas, etc). They also like things that pertain to American entertainment (such as popular TV shows or music). So maybe you could bring some music CDs and some of those DVD sets that have a whole season of episodes of a popular TV show.

i like this girl and i told her that i just want to be friends cuz she liked me and a guy who is her boy friend and now i want her back what do i do girls i need help i really like her

Well, if she currently has a boyfriend, you'll have to wait it out. Telling her how you feel right now, while she's going out with someone, isn't right. For one thing, if you were going out with her, you wouldn't like some other guy telling her he liked her, right? So you shouldn't do that to someone else. Besides that, if she's going out with this guy, then she obviously has some feelings for him. Even if she still likes you, too, you don't want to get involved with someone who is torn between two people. You want to be the only guy on her mind! So let that relationship run its course... it's pretty unlikely that they'll be going out forever. Once she's available, you can tell her how you feel. In the meantime, just keep up your friendship.

If you have oral sex are you still a virgin? or is sex, sex, or is it just something sexual because my friend said it's concidered half but that dosen't make any sense it's either your a virgin or your not.

Hmmmm... In my opinion, you're a virgin until you have intercourse. However, if you've had oral sex, then you've had sex. If that makes sense?

prom is coming up and i need to lose about 10-15 lbs. in about a week and a half [if not sooner]

i know it's possible because i've done it before on a crash diet but my usual crash diet isn't working fast enough.

before anybody answers please note that:
- im pretty willing to try anything, as long as it works and doesnt dent my budget too much
- i understand the risks, i know how far i can push my body, please no lectures.
- i don't really care if the weightloss lasts it's just for one night.

so if anybody has any diet plans or anything that they know works really well please help me out! i was fasting but it wasn't coming off fast enough so i was wondering if i had like a detox drink along with my fast if that would help?

any and all advice is welcome, thank you!

My mom gave me this diet... she said she used to use it when she modeled and needed to lose weight fast for a shoot. I did it once and I did lose about 10 pounds in two weeks (although I also exercised like crazy during that time). But anyway, here it is:

Breakfast: Milkshake with 1/2 cup of skim milk, 1/2 a banana, 1 packet of sweet n low, and one packet of plain knox geletin.

Lunch: 1/2 can white tuna with lemon juice, and a "salad" of 1/2 head of lettuce with just lemon juice

Dinner: 6 oz of turkey or chicken (plain, nothing on it), one can of green beans or aspargus

And drink 8 glasses of water a day.

It's kinda yucky, but hey, it worked for me! Good luck!

Oh, and by the way... my mom also told me that if you cheat in any way, even a little, you'll actually gain weight. That's because your body goes into a "starvation" mode and thinks there's a famine going on... so any extra food you take in, your body will store immediately as fat, since it doesn't know when you might eat again. Don't know if that's true, but it kinda makes sense!

I've got a few questions about blocking someone on myspace.

- How do you block someone?
- How does it work?
- Will it show the person that you're online?
- Will it delete the person from your friends list?
- Will you be deleted on their friends list?
- Will it tell the person that your myspace got deleted?
- After you block them, can you still see their myspace if they're not private?

& on aim..
if you block someone,
it won't show them that you're ever online right?

To block someone on myspace, go to their profile and find the little box that has Add, Message, etc., and click "Block." You'll get a message asking if you're sure you want to block them; click yes, and then they're blocked. They'll be removed from your friends, and you'll be removed from theirs. Once they're blocked, they won't be able to message you or send you a friend request. They'll still be able to see that you're online, but if your profile is private, they won't be able to see it. If your profile is set to public, they'll still be able to see it, but they won't be able to comment you or message you. If their profile is set to public, you'll still be able to see theirs. And yes... if they search for you, they will be able to find you, but they won't be able to contact you.

Now, let's say you've blocked someone, but then change your mind and send them a friend request. If they accept it, they'll be back on your friends again and can visit your profile. However, unless you unblock them, they won't be able to message or comment you.

As for AIM, yes... once you block someone, it won't show them that you're online.

okay so me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 3 years off and on. Just recentley we found out that we were FOURTH COUSINS! it really bothered us both. we broke up cause of it, and im so upset, cause i really wanted our relationship to grow, and i wanted us to be together. he wants us to be together also. but i jus tell him no, cause i dont want my family to know. and it wood just be too secretive, ya know? but i really want to be with him. i honestley do love this boy. is that nasty? whats your opinion on this situation? what would you do?

Fourth cousins is very distant. Most people don't even know who their 3rd cousins are, let alone their fourth, fifth, etc. But just because you don't know who they are, doesn't mean they aren't out there. If you were to trace the family trees of everyone in your school, you'd probably find that you're related to at least half of them in one way or another.

Think about it... your great-great-great grandparents probably have 100s of descendants living today. That means that anyone you meet on the street *could* be your fourth cousin. But since most people don't wear their family tree pasted on their forehead, you'd never know it. And because of that, a lot of people end up marrying a distant cousin. I read a statistic somewhere that said something like 60% of Americans marry someone who's related to them in some way.

If it still bothers you, here's another thing to think about. Back in the old days, it was very common to for people to marry their FIRST cousin. It was actually encouraged and expected in many families. But then, around the early 1900s, some scientists said that marrying a first cousin could cause birth defects. So it became a big taboo and was even outlawed in some places. Now, however, they've discovered this isn't true at all... first cousins have no greater risk of having children with birth defects than anyone else. So the whole taboo thing was based on false information. But even so, that only pertained to first cousins. Anything more distant is, and always has been, just fine.

So don't worry about it! =]

ok, im doing an argumentative [pro vs. con] paper for my AP class, and my topic is plastic surgery and basically the effects/should it be used to cosmetic reasons or just for medical disability? i'm pretty unclear on where i myself stand on the issue and i'd just like some more opinions.. do you think it should be an option for those who just want to "look better", or no, and why ?

For the most part, I'm all for plastic surgery for cosmetic reasons. If there's something about your appearance that really bothers you, and you can change it, why not do it?

Some people are extremely self-conscious about certain "flaws" in their appearance (say, a large crooked nose). And a severe lack of confidence in your appearance can affect your social life and even your ability to succeed at school or work. If a simple procedure can correct the "problem" and make you feel good about yourself, it almost seems silly NOT to do it.

As long as it's done safely by a professional, what's wrong with it? And how is it any different from the other things we do to improve our appearance... such as wearing braces, whitening our teeth, coloring our hair, or even wearing makeup? These are all things that alter the way we naturally look... but nobody says "You shouldn't get braces; you should learn to be happy with the teeth you were born with." Or "Don't wear mascara, accept your eyelashes the way they are." I suppose nobody objects to those things because they're "safe." But as I said, if plastic surgery is done by a qualifed professional, there are very few risks... so there really isn't much difference!

My wife is at least 50 pounds overweight. She has tried numerous diets. Although some of them work, she invariably gains the weight right back. Whenever I mention that she is overweight, we get in a big fight. I would like her to lose weight for her health (she's 42 years old) and also to make her more attractive. Advice please.

Well, if your wife has tried numerous diets, obviously she's aware that she's overweight. So she doesn't need you to point it out to her. As you've already seen, that doesn't work. And as you've also seen, diets don't work either.

What your wife probably needs is some regular exercise. And it will be much easier, and more fun for her, if you do it with her. So think of something you can both do together on a regular basis... whether it's walking, biking, working out in a gym, or whatever you think she'd enjoy.

When you first suggest it, make it sound like YOU want to do it, and you want her along for the company. That way, it won't sound like your only motive is to make her lose weight. If she's not crazy about the idea, be persistent... but keep making it sound like it's something YOU want to do. Once you start doing it, it will hopefully become a habit and something you both look forward to.

But be warned: you'll probably drop some weight, too, and more quickly than your wife does (it's not fair, but guys always get in shape quicker than women do). Whatever you do, don't brag that you're losing more weight than she is! Just keep doing it, and your wife will eventually start to slim down some. Once she does, mention to her how great she looks (even if she's just lost a couple pounds). That will make her feel like she's accomplishing something, and will motivate her to keep going.

Ok,i am a 14/f and i sort of have a moustache. In the winter the hair gets very dark and you can tell i have one very easily, especially in the light. When i go to school, every once and a while i will hear someone say "you have a moustache" and just look at me. I think this is why i havent had a boyfriend in so long and no guy wants to kiss or go out with a girl that has some hair on her upper lip. I cant do anything to it because my family said that it will just get worse if i do. I dont want to say anything about it to anyone because it is very uncomfortable to talk about. If you can help me, thanks alot!

Well, your family is partially right... if you shave it, the hair will come back thicker, darker, and stubbly... and of course that would be worse. However, if you have it waxed, it will NOT get worse... it will actually get better over time. Waxing pulls the hair out by the root; over time, some of the hair folicles become damaged and don't grow back at all. Some hair will grow back, but it will come in soft and fine, not stubbly like it would with shaving. Then you just have it waxed off again, and each time, less and less will grow back.

I know several people who have their upper lip waxed once every couple weeks. It costs about $10, and they do it at most beauty salons.

Talk to your mom about it, and let her know how much it bothers you... that it's really a huge deal to you. If she's hesitant about letting you get it waxed, ask her to go with you to a waxer and just talk to them about it. Hopefully they'll be able to convince her that waxing will not make it worse.

Good luck! =]

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