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Ok so am I right or is he
Well me and my boyfreind arent talking at them moment well lets start with the basics. Im 14 this is like my 30th boyfreind I swear it just never works out me and him have been dating for 1 year. He wants to go all the way and im not ready for the responslablty of a babie if I get pregant and im jsut not ready so what should I do he said he wanted to dump me but I love him he is the only guy I ever told I loved i mean plenty of guys had said I love you but i didnt say it back.
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You're 14, you shouldn't be ready yet! It's very good that you are mature enough to realize that. It's very bad that your boyfriend is not. If he keeps pressuring you, then he is not worth your time, and that's precisely what you should tell him.
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first of all why would you wanna be with someone who doesn't feel the same way about you? it just makes them unnatractive. wouldn't you rather be with someone who loves you as much as you love him? think about it.
second this guy you're with obviously doesn't respect you so let him get someone else pregnant and have him have a child. don't be the one he knocks up and have to pay for this mistake
third, if he's threatening to break up with you, he's just looking to get some and thats the bottom line. if he loved you, and you said no to having sex, that would be the end of that discussion.
so, either you break up with him and find someone who loves you much more, which i'm sure they will.
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you stay with him, get dumped or get pregnant.
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If this boy is going to pressure you into having sex with him and he uses the I thought you loved me thing, then you deserve so much better. He doesn't really love you if he is going to break-up with you simply because you won't have sex with him. You need to stick with your beliefs and not let anyone take those away from you. You are a 14 year old and if you do not think you are ready for the responsibilities of sex, which I think is a very mature decision, then do not do it. Sex is supposed to be special and losing your virginity is not something to be taken ligthly. You should wait until you are ready for all of the responsiblities that come along with it.
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YOU should stick to what you believe in. DON'T put out.
It's simple - if he loved you, he wouldn't have a problem with waiting until you are 100% ready.
There's absolutely NO rush for sex. What makes this worse is you're not even at a legal age yourself to be doing it.
Look, I know this isn't what you want to hear, but YOU should be giving the ultimatums here - not him.
Tell him, he can either wait, or YOU break up with him. No one should feel pressured into having sex at such a young age.
Luckily, it seems like you have your head screwed on and you're being mature about it.
Sex isn't all about fun and games. It has a very serious side to it.
If he still pressures you about it, you need to do the right thing and let him go. and I promise you, in good time, you'll find someone who respects you. You are only 14 after all. Save it for when you're ready and for someone who deserves it.
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You're right. You should not have sex with him if you're not ready. And I can't help but add, you shouldn't have sex with him even if you DO think you're ready, because honestly, 14 is just too young. But that's beside the point. The truth is, sleeping with a guy just to "keep" him just doesn't work. And especially if he's said he's gonna dump you if you don't do it. If he doesn't love you enough to stick with you without sex, he's not gonna suddenly start loving you just because you're having sex. He may like what you're giving him (for a while at least), but he's not going to like YOU any more than he did before. And eventually he will move on. So stick to your guns and do what you know is right. I know you really like him, but if he doesn't care about you enough to honor your decisions, then he's just not worth it.
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If he can't take that you aren't ready, he's not worth staying with. Just because you love him, doesn't prove he loves you back. Tell him how you feel just incase he doesn't understand, then let him decide if he's going to be a man and face your wishes, or if he's going to cower and have to move on. I know you might not want to move on from him, but he really doesn't deserve you if he can't understand your reasons... you shouldn't have to bend to his will with something like that... if you aren't ready, you aren't ready... it's not something you just change. I hope that this helped.. stand up for yourself... you're worth it.
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Well, relationships can be tricky. However, if you are not ready for that part of a relationship, then he should be willing to wait for you. After all, you do have an entire life ahead of you, and you should not risk the chance of getting pregnant. He is not the one who has to live with a baby growing in his stomach for nine months. Also what happens if you do get pregnant, is he going to stay around, and are for sure that he is not just saying that so he can get you where he wants you. In my opinion, if he truly loves you like he says he does, then he will wait for you as long as it takes. If he is not willing to wait, then let him dump you. Yeah it is going to hurt, but you will be able to get up and move on. You have your whole life ahead of you to have kids, and actually have a guy that will definitely stay around, not one that may leave you or he may not. You just never know with guys that age. My advice to you is to wait until you are ready, and if he does not want to wait, don't force yourself, just take what he has to say, and move on with your life. He is not worth it if he won't wait for you anyways, and you could do so much better than him.
Stand up for yourself, don't let him guilt trip you into having sex with him. You want your first time to be wonderful and memorable not I am doing this because he will dump me if I don't. Plus there is always that chance that he was going to dump you after you had sex with him. So wait girl, don't let him influence you into doing that.
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