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C0USiNSz?!
okay so me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 3 years off and on. Just recentley we found out that we were FOURTH COUSINS! it really bothered us both. we broke up cause of it, and im so upset, cause i really wanted our relationship to grow, and i wanted us to be together. he wants us to be together also. but i jus tell him no, cause i dont want my family to know. and it wood just be too secretive, ya know? but i really want to be with him. i honestley do love this boy. is that nasty? whats your opinion on this situation? what would you do?
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Fourth cousins is very distant. Most people don't even know who their 3rd cousins are, let alone their fourth, fifth, etc. But just because you don't know who they are, doesn't mean they aren't out there. If you were to trace the family trees of everyone in your school, you'd probably find that you're related to at least half of them in one way or another.
Think about it... your great-great-great grandparents probably have 100s of descendants living today. That means that anyone you meet on the street *could* be your fourth cousin. But since most people don't wear their family tree pasted on their forehead, you'd never know it. And because of that, a lot of people end up marrying a distant cousin. I read a statistic somewhere that said something like 60% of Americans marry someone who's related to them in some way.
If it still bothers you, here's another thing to think about. Back in the old days, it was very common to for people to marry their FIRST cousin. It was actually encouraged and expected in many families. But then, around the early 1900s, some scientists said that marrying a first cousin could cause birth defects. So it became a big taboo and was even outlawed in some places. Now, however, they've discovered this isn't true at all... first cousins have no greater risk of having children with birth defects than anyone else. So the whole taboo thing was based on false information. But even so, that only pertained to first cousins. Anything more distant is, and always has been, just fine.
So don't worry about it! =]
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If you really like him, it won't matter that
you are realted. Besides, fourth couzin is like
way down the line. If your like great, great,
great, grandparents loved each other, than you
should be able to also. Okay, i know that made no
sense but i think you should date him anway. hope
this helped. :)
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Okay you guys are fourth cousins....count that, FOUR. There is absolutely nothing wrong with dating him! I mean, for God's sake woman, he's your fourth cousin! Royale families used to marry their brothers and sisters and even their Parents! So yeah, If you love him, So be it! Carpe Diem-Seize the moment
-Abra<3
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well in some states, its perfectly accepted to date your first cousin. so your great great great grand parents were the same, so what? at that point, you are probably no more genetically similar to him than you are to me, theres really no problem with it.
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In my opinion, I think fourth cousins is really far down the line. I don't even know who my third cousins are!! If you were second cousins, then I'd start to see a problem with it. Other than that, I think it's okay.
Do your parents even know that you two are related? Or this is something you figured out on your own? If not, you should just be with him if or until they find out lol.
Now, let's say you two were going to get married. It's not against the law. 26 states in the US allow first cousin marriage. If they were to have children, there isn't a high risk of birth defects or genetic mutations. It's about the same as if the parents were not related.
Anyways, if you love him, then be with him!
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