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I have a boy friend, we've been together for a while, in my eyes he's close to perfect. I love him so much and I know it everytime I look into his eyes or even just hearing his voice when he calls me on the phone. When I'm with him I don't think about anyone else.
But there's this other guy in my college and he's a really cool guy, and I find myself attracted to him and thinking about him, I wouldn't make a move, but I find myself daydreaming about what it would be like if we could be together...
Part of me feels guilty, because I love my boyfriend and I agreed to be in a monogamous relationship with him, and with that promise, i would NEVER cheat on him or anything.
But why do I still feel this way for someone else?
Am I a bad girlfriend for it?
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No, you're not a bad girlfriend... you're just a normal human being. This sort of thing happens to everyone once in a while, even people who are happily married. Because the truth is, being in love with someone doesn't stop you from being attracted to other people. There are tons of nice, funny, good-looking guys out there, and of course you're going to notice them. It doesn't mean you love your boyfriend any less, or that you're doing anything wrong... it's just the way nature works. So you shouldn't feel guilty about it.
The important thing is that you don't act on it. Some people have a hard time with that... they think that being attracted to someone somehow makes it okay, or even necessary, to follow through with their feelings, regardless of the consequences. But of course it's not okay... just like it's not okay to steal something just because you really want it.
Sometimes it can be hard to resist tempatation, though. If you find yourself really obsessing over this guy - but you know that you want to stay faithful to your boyfriend - you may have to make an effort to distance yourself from him for a while. Avoid seeing him or talking to him if you have to, and by all means, don't let him know how you feel about him. Eventually, this crush will pass, and you'll be happy you didn't act on it.
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Almost every person in every relationship ends up daydreaming about other people and most feel as long as you don't act on said impulses you have done nothing wrong. You are always going to probably feel a small attraction to people, but as long as you still feel that feeling you described in the beginning of your question for your boyfriend then I think you have nothing to worry about. You know you love him and you know you want to be with him and as long as you are sure of that then you will probably make it.
Hope I Helped.
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