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well im 16 and willing to answer any problem you have. all my friends come to me for advice and i thought why not offer my services to everyone! if my advice is good please rate so i know if im helping and if not i can improve my advice! anytime!
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ok here's the thing,
ok i'm going out with this one girl & she is madly in love with me. see i love her too but.... i also love this other girl that i've went out with. but she broke up with me. so wat do i do?
SOMEONE HELP A POOR DUDE OUT PLZ!
-thanks
You cnt love two people! if you think you do then is not love! u just like them! you've just gotta go with your heart because at the end of the day that all anybody can do. nobody know the answer to what they should do. just trust your instinct. if you think that you are better off staying with oyu girlfriend then stay but if you think you like the other girl more then go for it. just try not to hurt anyone in the process. bu remember it didnt work out between you once before so just becareful!
hope this helps!
Ok me and my boyfriend have been goin out 4 about 5 weeks now. But i recently found out that his best friend likes me and i have liked his bestfriend since last year. I dont wannna hurt anyone by saying i dont wanna going out w/ so and so but idk what to do. Should i dump my boyfriend 4 his bestfriend because i have liked him longer or should i stay w/ my boyfriend and just have a big crush on my bfs best friend? I dont wanna hurt anyone!
well one things for sure, you cant go on likethis. its not fair on anyone. you cant be with your boyfirend is you have feelings for someone, especially his best friend! you really need to think about this one carefully but one this you cant do is lie to yourself no matter how much you dont want to hurt people. your feelings for his best mate are obviously stronger thant the ones you have for your boyfriend so i think you should finish him before things get too serious. whatever you decide to do someone is goin to get hurt. but sorry huni thats just the way it is in love and war, you just have to make sure its not you thats the one that gets hurt. i think you should try it with his best friend. he's obviously the one that you want so go for it! you boyfriend wont be happy because after all yor going to finish him for his best mate, so id leave it a little while before you too make it official that your dating. but make sure you tell him your interested but just explain the situation. he will understand because he wont want to hurt his best friend either.
hope it all works out!
i need help because im not one of those people who fall in love easily but im afraid im starting to but the problems are is one im afraid to get hurt and 2 well i always have to fall for the ones i cant have and that hurts even more so any advice please
well first of all everybodies fafraid of getting hurt. noby likes it. all you cn do is just take the plunge and go for it because you never know you might pass on the one person who is right for you because you were too scared. just go for it. broken hearts heal even if it doesnt feel like it at then time! and as for your second point anyone can have anyone. i know what you mean though, theres always this one person who you really like but you think that they are well out of your legue and so you forget about them. i used to feel the exact same way as you, but fairytale ending do happen. because that one guy asked me out and i took the chance. so you can have anyone you want! believe me! dont sell yourself short, be confident and just go for it!
hope i helped!
i had unprotected sex with my boy friend 3 months ago, ive had mild cramps in my tummy ever since i've taken 4 preg tests 2 possative then negative (early miscarrige)then today i was told to take another because it didnt add up it was negative.. they still think i had the miscarrige but now they think i've got Chlamydia!!!!! im so f**king scared im only 14 and cant take losing the baby and now maybe having this, they took swobs (spelling), i cryed the hole time, but i knew it was for the best i just dont know what to do, what will they do if they find out i have got it?? what are the symtoms anyways?? will i have to tell my mum and dad???
im so s**t scared?? has anyone here had it??
thanks!
chlamydia isnt too bad if its caught early enough. it can make you infetile but thats if it stays im your system for ages. there are no imediated symptoms thats why so many people get it and dont know and pass it on. if you do have it all they will do is give you a course of anti-biotics and that will sort it out.
dont worry you will be fine!
i really really like this guy, so how do i get him to ask me out??
well boys are stupid! lol! they dont take subtle hints so we have to work especially hard to get them to notice us. he need to feel comfortable around you before he is even oging to think about doing anything. so make an effort to go up and talk to him, start simple. smile at him when u pass him and say hi wen you see him and look pleased to see him. be interested in ehat he has to say and dont forget to flirt as much as you can (but not over the top because you dont want to throw yourself at him) REMEMBER smile and give him lots of eye contact!
hope this helped!
This guy rlly liked me and we hung out alot and held hands at a dance i had... then he asked me out but i didnt rlly noe him soo i said no i lik u but i wanna get to noe u more!! so after the dance me and a few friends went to his house and we cuddled on the couch and we kissed!! Then i had to leave..... so when i left he asked my so called friend to sit with him and she did and they held hands and kissed, she did stuff to him too!! What am i suppose to do i still like him?? and idn why?? he keeps saying sorry too?? help please
well i think you should forget about him! he cant be that sorry if he just went and did it, especially if you had only just left. i mean if he really liked you then you should have been the only thing on his mind and how much he wished you could have stayed. and if he would do that to you with your so called friend then he wont think twice about doing it with someone you dont know. your best bet is to leave him well alone. you will soon find someone that's right for you and isnt goin to do that! forget him! hes isnt worth it!
hpoe i helped!
well ive asked before if andrew liked me, he went to my middle schoola nd now hes in my gym class and hes a geek but i dont care.. well i said how he said hi to me in gym and smiled sometimes in school, well i asked this boy online what andrews screenname was and he didnt have it, so he told andrew i asked for it in school. (he told him monday and andrew was suprised) ever since monday hes been saying hi more and stuff ( hes very shy) but today he walked with me to 5th period after gym ( we go down the same hall) and he was like hey jen i dont have a screenname now because i had one before and never went on and i didnt hook my new comp up and i was like ohh okay, then i had to go a diff way so i said talk to ya lata.. i sen him 2 more times but didnt say anything, does he like mee? shold i just hand him a note with my cell # or say something? thanks xoxo
well i think thst he does probably like you. he obviously likes the fact that you wanted to talk to him and is flattered that you wanted to know about him. just talk to him as much as you can to show that your interested. then casually suggest meeting up after school and give him your number. says its so he can contact yuo to arange meetin up. then slip in at the end "or if u want to randomly talk then just txt or ring me" he will know that your definatley interested then and it gives him a chance to talk to you on your own seeing as hes shy. im sure he will take you up on your offer. good luck! hope it all works out for you!
Hey im looking to tone my belly up its alreayd slim but has no shape.. i dont want to be like a musle man [coz im a girl] and i want muserly'er legs than i have becuase my legs look fat at the moment and also my arms.. yeah anyway.. what weight or work out or HOW DO I TONE OUT MY BELLY??!?! Please list.. i could use my brothers weights maybe or is that for your arms.. or that pole with weights on the end..? or maybe a simple run up and down the stairs? i dont know you tell me ! please lol :P
lush me x
visit www.toneteens.com. its a great website and it you can select the specific are of the body you want to work on and then it gives you a list of exercises you can do to tone up that part of the body and instructions of how to do them.
hope that helped!
Good luck!
What do you think are must have items for Spring or Summer? I need more cute clothes for my closet! Thanks!
Ive got one word for you! ACCESSORISE! thats the key to any great outfit. you can look good but as soon as u add those braceletts or sunglasses it makes it perfect! heres some must haves:
1) sunglasses
2)anklets
3)head bandanas
4)bracelets
a good look this summer is the surfer style beads. well i like them nyways!
BUT remember be unque and u will look amazing whatever you wear!
ok me and my bf broke up because he found that i was talking to another boy but that boy really dont mean nothing to me i love my bf so much. anyway he took me back but i no he dont trust me! what can i say to him to get him to belive me? plese help me im so sorry i didnt mean for none of this tohappen
shaiina
your b/f is obviously just insecure with himself because he is jelous that you give other boys attention! he obviouslt thinks your so great that hes scared of loosing you. but this can klead to problems (believe me ive been there!) so sit down with him and tell him that these lads mean nothing to you compared to him but he cant expect you not to talk to boys. say that you love him so much and couldnt imagine being with anyone else! tell him how you really feel! he cant not trust you then! he just needsa bit of reasurance,thats all!
hope i helped!
Does anyone have a good idea as to what I could get my boyfriend for our 6 months? I want to do something semi-creative (as in not trite) and semi-romantic.
For Christmas, I made him a book of pictures and magazine cut outs that said sweet stuff.
I need some ideas. Good ones are appericated.
I'll rate.
well heres just some suggestion!
1) A photo album is always gud with lots of picks of the two of you. even some of you two when you were younger.
2) cook a romantic style pinic and eat it outside in the garden. put fairy lights and candles all around. lay out loadza blankets and lay out looking at the stars! (or if its cold do it inside but be careful not 2 set nything on fire! lol!)
3) put a little box together of all the things that means something to you to do with him. like a cinema ticket of a film you went with him to see, or an bus ticket from your first date. you could make a scrap book.
4) or write in a book everyday. something about him. about how good and nice he is and how much he means to you.
5)give him a box full of wishes! (sound cheesy i know but its actually quite sweet) u could use sequin stars or something. write a not to say that he has made all your wishes come true and so each of these are wishes. all he has 2 do is kiss it and then let it blow away while he is making a wish. put loadz of sweet love quotes in ot or somethin you like about him.
just some ideas!
Good luck!
Ok...
im dating this guy its gonna be 2 years soon...but hes really jelous like he always think im flriting with every guy i talk to..and i had this best friend we'll call him tyler..well since me and my boyfriend are fighting alot about the flirting thing im hanging arould tyler more and i think im starting to like him more than a friend but i still love my boyfriend and im extremly confused..i need some help fast!
thanks if ur advice isnt mean ill rate all 5's
your just feeling ht way because you are having a rocky patch in your relationship. you need to sit down and have a good talk with you boyfriend. you need to tell him how you feel (well all except the tyler thing) say that you dont flirt with other people and they mean nothing to you cos its him that you like. 2 years has to count for something so you have to like him! im sure he is just like this because he cares about you so much and is insecure about himself. he's just scared of loosing you. so dont throw your relationship away because you can work it out!
hope i helped!
There is this girl that I REALLY want to ask to prom. But there is one small problem. She says she doesnt really do the school dance thing. We went out to the movies last week, and she said she had a great time. We've been friends for a while, and I finally admitted I have feelings for her, and she said she likes me too. So I dont know, should I ask her, or should I ask someone I dont know as well? And if I should ask her, how should I ask? I am a singer, but I'm not confident about my talent under THAT sort of pressure! Please help!
I can understand how she feels because i dont really like school dances. but if someone went out of their way to especilly ask me then i would go. especially if it was a guy who was my mate (so i know i would have a good time) and i like on more than a friend level. im sure if you just said that you really wanted to go and it wouldnt be the same without her she would agree to go. but if not then dont push it. some people just aren't comfortable 'dance' situations. so dont go your self. you will have a better time with her where ever you are rather than been at the dance on your own! but if you really want to go then dont ask someone else without telling her that your going, because if she finds oit you have asked someone else then she could get the wrong idea! so make sure you avoid that situation! lol!
Hope it helped!
Theres a girl who is a complete and total slut shes trying to take my boyfriend away from me I dont like her and she knows it i have talked to my boyfriend and he promised he wouldn't go for her...what should I do?
Well if your boyfriend says he would never go for her then you should trust him. the slut will soon see that she is never going to get him and has just made herself look like a total retard as she was throwing herself at your boyfriend and he didnt even notice her because he was too busy looking at you! lol!
Hope i helped!
I used to date this boy(we'll call him john doe) for two months. Everyone at school told me a lot of bad things about him. Stuff about how he cheats on his gurlfriends and stuff. I talked to him to get to know him for about 2 weeks. I was straight up w/ him and told him that I wasnt sure if we should hook up b/c of all the things i had heard about him. He told me that they we're true & he did used to do those things, but he really did changed. He told me that it pisses him off when people say that about him b/c a lot of gurls wont date him b/c of it. He's the guy that all the gurls wanna date and he said that they're just jealous b/c he dont want them. Well I started hearing stuff about him the first day we started goin out, but I didnt believe it b/c I trusted him. He seemed really ginuwine when he told me all that stuff about him. 1 month after we got together I was in the hall w/ one of my friends. She was talking to one of her friends that I didnt know at the time. Me and her b/c kool and around lunch she wrote me a note saying I think you're a really kool gurl and I cant tell you love " John Doe " and I know ou would never cheat on him. but he having sex w/ a gurl at school( we'll call her jane doe). I called him cussing and yelling at him for about two hours. He swore to me it wasn't true. I didnt really believe him and he knew it, I told him I was going to trust that he wouldnt do that to me and I let him know that it does make me look at him differently now. Things got worse after that b/c the gurls knew they had got to me and they had me not believing him now. We'd been together for exactly two months when everyone told me that he was going around telling people we didnt go together. Everyone, well a lot of gurls & my friends, told me that he said that, or had heard someone telling people he said that. The whole school was talking about it, so I just assumed it was true. He tried talking to me, but I just ignored him. He asked one of my friends what was wrong and they told him that I said we didnt go together anymore & I did tell her that b/c of what I had heard. He stopped coming to school and went off to job-core. He started dating someone else that went to my school. He came back to huntsville but didnt come back to school. I called him on his birthday to tell him happy b-day & he was surprised that I called him. We talked for a while and we continued to talk. He still goes w/ that other girl, but he says he wants to go back out & that he's gonna break up w/ her. He said that he never said he didnt go w/ me & he tried talking to me, but I wouldnt listen to him. Do you think what everyone says is true or do you think he's telling the truth?
it sounds like you have serious doubts about this guys credability. if its not your gut instinct to trust him then there is never going to be any trust because as soon as something happens, which it will because no relationship is perfect, then you will doubt him. so you have to ask yourself is he really worth all this heart ache?
Theres this guy that I have been friends with forever and he has always liked me. The other night we were in his room and we kissed but it was just a peck. I didn't even like him and now after that I am starting to like him. Theres only one problem. He's a really mature and great guy and hes my type exactly and I think he'd make a terrific boyfriend except for my mom thinks hes too young for me. I'm 14 and he's 12. I promise you, I think he's more mature than me, hes definatly more experienced he already lost his virginity. I'd have to keep this relationship from my parents. I really want to date him because personality wise, he's great. Looks wise, he needs to have a growth spurt. He will soon. Should I wait a few years till he does? And then my parents might let me, or should I sneak it and date him now and take the risk of humiliation? I really am liking him and I don't want to wait! But I think it might be best...I need opinions!
Well its a tricky one because i understand how people are going to see this but at the end of the day its your life! dont listen to what people are going to say. you like him and thats all that matters! talk to him about it and explain that you like him and ask him how he would feel about you two dating. explqin that your worried about your mom and ask him if he is ok about it! you could even try explainig it to your mom but remember its your decision to make not your mums!but tellin her would be better than sneaking because its only going to catch up with you in the end! so go for it girl!
hope i helped!
15/f-i've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now, and we were best friends for nearly a year prior to ever dating, we're very serious about each other and he means a lot to me. lately however, i've been thinking about other guys, such as two of my best friends, who i had crushes on in the past, i know that i care about my current boyfriend more than them, and that i don't want to give up what i have with him, but that doesn't stop me from wondering about these other guys that i wanted a relationship with at one time. What should i do? thanks!
Its natural to look at other boys! i mean after all your only human! but just remember that 6 months count for a lot. its because you feel so comfortable with your boyfriend that now your alowing yourself to look at others. you just have to remember that it ok to look but not to touch! dont worry about it! everybody does it!
I was great friends with this lad ages ago, but then he moved stage school so I don't get to see him a lot, only when hes in shows and my parents don't let me stay after to wait to see him. I also found his number the other day but you know people they change phones so I don't know if it is his number or not!
Please help!
Becky
xxx
StarSeeker
Just try the number! i mean what have you got to loose? you said that you were good friends so im sure he will be thrilled that you got in touch! yeah sure it could be a little embarassing if itsn not his number but its worth the try! go for it!
hope it helped!
My boyfriend dumped me about a week ago and the other night, he realized that it was a bad idea. So he asked me out and we are back together, but I was wondering, is it a good idea? We love and care for each other, but there seems to be some tension still. So yeah.
Well sit down and talk about it. tell him that you think that there is some tension and that it needs sorting out because you cant have a good, healthy relationship if there is some issues between you. you obviously do care for each other and he has show that he has made a mistake by coming back to you but you need to know how he feels because if he isnt happy there could always be a change he could dump you again. and he need to know how you feel because if not and espect that you are weary of him because you can tell somwthing is wrong. if you talk it will all be out in the open and no hiden tension and with all your cards on the table theres no reason you cant work throught this.
Hope i helped!
OK... I have been with this guy for a while, we have been together for a year, and we are both head over heels in love with each other. Now, he moved here 2 years ago trying to get away from his past...because he wanted to change himself, make himself better and he definitly has. But my parents dont like the fact that he is half black and hate his past. I think they will kick me out of the house if they find out we are talking again. But I love him... What do I do? I dont want to lose the best thing thats ever happened to me... I just turned 18, and I am off to college in a few months, but my parents say they will have someone follow me.
You should do the only thing you can do.......follow your heart. it has to be a difficult situation but i think you need to talk to your parents and explain how you feel. tell them exactly waht you wrote.......... that you love him and he is the best thing thats ever happened to you and that he is a better person now. say that you 18 and its your decsision and if they dont like it then they are only pushing you away.
at the end of the day i think that if you really love the guy then you should trust you heart and be with him. and even if it is a mistake its your mistake to make, not your parents.
Hopit it helped!
good luck!