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ok so.. im 14 , girl with light brown hair, light blue eyes, average weight, i wear glasses, people say i have a beautiful smile....i smile alot... i like this guy (14) .we have been friends for 2 years or so now we just see eachother in school. nothing has happened between us. i have started to like him A LOT but the problem is he is a total man whore and loves sluts,he also smokes. i dont really know if he likes me, but i always see him looking at me while we are in class and he is always teasing me in a fun way, my friends say he likes me but i dont know. i dont think he would ever like a girl with glasses..... does he like me too, and if so should i go out with him even though he likes sluts and smokes?

Before I answer your question, I'd like to advise you in adjusting your speech immediately. Eradicate the word "slut" from your vocab. Now. Shaming girls for their sexual choices isn't cool. Who are you to decide who deserves respect and who doesn't based on their sexual experiences? Lose the judgmental tone.

Think about the way he acts when he's teasing you. Is it flirtatious? Or his it how he might joke around with a group of guy friends? If he only acts this way with you, there's a good chance he might like you. You shouldn't care if he likes girls who are more experienced than you or not. As for smoking, that really is your choice. I find that smoking makes no difference to me. However, my dad is a smoker, and it has irritated my mom for years. That's just a personal preference. If you really like him, I suggest you at least give it a shot. If you later decide he's just not the guy for you or you can't date a smoker, that's completely OK.

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What do I do after a guy cums in me? cuz were trying to get pregnant!

Like the user below me said, after he cums inside you, you just have to wait it out. The only note I must make is that you should wait five days after your missed period before taking a pregnancy test.

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I hate this stupid website. I never get anyone to help me anymore. Thanks everyone...

Like Matt, I've been here for eight years too. Think about how much we hate you and your stupid problems before you complain next time, jerk.

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There this guy at work that i like. We dont work for the same company were just in the same building so i think it would be ok if we dated. Ive seen him sometimes looking at me with a blank expression. Sometimes he will nod at me or say hi in a quiet voice. Then there are sometimes when he completely ignores me or when I look at him he looks away. Im confused. Does he like me? What else could I do to show my interest without coming on too strong?

He might find you attractive, but I wouldn't go as far as to say he likes you due to your low level of interaction. The best thing you can do right now is be friendly and confident. Whenever you see him, greet him with a warm smile and say hello. If he's interested, conversations will begin to progress, and he may ask you on a date. Remember to stand up straight and make direct eye contact to show confidence, which all men find attractive.

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i rub my boobs every day like i had my piriod 3 times and im still in 34-a and i hate being teased and im in 7th grade but is it true if u keep getting a bigger size ur boobs will grow into it this are how mine growed

No and no.

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I have been married to my wife for 7 years now. I recently caught her in an Emotional online affair. We have been going through months of counseling and have gotten over it. But, she has approached me to say she wants me to initiate sex with more compliments. However, she doesn't like the romance thing. She finds it disgusting. She does like compliments but she seems to want the dirty compliments. I am a usually preoccupied in the daily goings on rather than having sex on my mind. So when she puts me on the spot to say these things to get her aroused, I am clueless as to what to say. She doesn't like the mushy stuff.

I suppose a "I can't wait to pound your pussy" or a "I'm going to fuck you like the dirty whore you are" goes a long way in the realm of dirty talk.

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Would my doctor notice if im taking birth control pills while examining me.... its urgent plzzzz

No. Even if it was possible your doctor is bound by HIPAA privacy laws to keep all medical information private. Neither your parents nor anymore else could find out.

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So like7 months ago my ex was nagging at me for weeks to send him a photo of myself in underwear. He started to be really moody and kind of arrogant when I said I wouldn't do it and I felt like I had to for us to stay friends and it kind of made me feel special because he's one of the popular good looking guys and I'm just one of those quiet girls that people forget about, so I regrettably sent him one and I cam honestly say its the worst thing I've ever done, EVER. I was so paranoid afterwards (I'm extremely shy anyway and have never had any intention of flaunting my body because I have really low self confidence) anyway, just today my friend told me someone who I thought was my friend was telling my ex's bestfriend and another girl! My friend said they were whispering but she heard that one of them already knew and she'd seen it. I don't know when or how this girl has seen it or who else has because I honestly thought he had deleted it and I still don't know if he has but I feel awful and I just want to cry because I'm so scared it will effect my education.. my GCSE'S start this week too and its like my whole life is going wrong:(I need some advice,I just need someone to talk to and give me some help please, thanks anyway

Try talking to the guy and asking him to delete it. There's no guarantee he will agree to it, but it's worth a shot. Otherwise, you're going to have to deal with the consequences. If the photo travels around school, the administration will most likely get involved and punish the students who distribute the material, but you might be punished as well. In the future, do not take pictures of yourself that you wouldn't want others to see. At the very least, don't do this kind of thing until you're 18. I'm assuming you're underage, so the image you took is technically child porn. If you decide to do this again as an adult, don't even include your face or anything that can distinguish you personally in the photo.

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16/f
I had the chance to go to a private school in Canada. Im the kind of person that if i go to a forein place i cant go alone.But the oppurtunity was very rare for me. i rarely get a/b's on my report card,not really regreting,but very rare, should i have gone?

No one will ever know what could have been. Focus on the positives you have in your life now, rather than the "what-ifs." There will be missed opportunities in life, but other great things will come.

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Is there a pill that can be taken right before sex to prevent pregnancy?

No.

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I try to make myself go to sleep early and everything. But I just lay in my bed tossing & turning trying to make myself go to sleep. I have to wake up at 5 a.m in the morning and I always oversleep. When my alarm clock goes off I just turn it off and go back to bed. It takes like 30 minutes to an hour for me to go to sleep once I lay down. How can I make myself go to sleep early?

There's a yoga trick where you lie down and relax every part of your body starting with your toes and ending with your facial muscles. You will generally fall asleep before you work all the way up your body. If that doesn't work, try your best to clear your mind of all thoughts.

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So I'm a 16 year old girl and I'm a virgin I masturbate with a fat sharpie marker. I can get it all the way in me without hurting. Does that mean I "popped my own cherry?" Also why does it hurt when I move the marker in me like I feel a pain right beneath my belly button like its cramps or something. Is that how it will feel whenever I do finally decide to have sex? Please help me.

The pain might be caused by the marker hitting your cervix. You might feel this sometimes during sex, but it is all dependent upon what position you are in. Your hymen may have been broken from masturbating or riding a bike or horse. Like the others said, avoid using a marker to masturbate in the future.

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how do you give a good hand job?

In the words of someone funnier than I, "A hand job is a man's job. A blow job is yo job."

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I am on my fourth girlfriend and all of the rest broke up with me saying they dident even like me, I am in middle school I found this girl that I really she could be the one but that's what I thought about the others what should I do?

Lighten up, sweetie. You probably aren't going to find the one for years to come. Enjoy your youth, and if another girl leaves you, it's her loss.

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I am virgin.My boyfriend fingered me with dry hands on the 23rd day of my menstrual cycle. He was not that deep . neither was there any kind of bleeding. 1 Week have passed since my period date. it is quite normal for me. please tell me if theres any kind of possibilty i am pregnant. Or its just because of stress my periods is delayed.. ?? please advice.

You are not pregnant.

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Ive been super close with my friend for a long time and we talk ALOT but I don't get why she didn't accept my friend request on instagram. It makes no sense. I know her mom haws me for no reason but I'm her only friend that doesn make her feel worthless and like crap. Anyways we talk alot and hang out and text and she doesn't accept my instagram request???

She probably just hasn't been on instagram lately or forgot you sent the request. Calm down; you're basing the state of your friendship on the internet, and that's never a good idea.

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Hi everyone,

I was just wondering if you all could give me your opinions on this question. Both men and women are welcome to answer. Just seeking some understanding and feeding my curiosity regarding our current society. Oh, and this question is in relation to Western society.

Thank you all for your time.

Yes, we live in a patriarchal society. A pay gap still exists in the United States between men and women, women are still shamed and blamed for their own rapes due to the way they dress and what they drink, a stigma exists around sexually liberated women, while men can sleep with whomever they please, etc.

For scholars who know more about this than I do:
http://scholar.google.com/scholar?q=do+we+live+in+patriarchy&hl=en&btnG=Search&as_sdt=1%2C22&as_sdtp=on

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So one of my coworkers is really witty and funny. I thought he was showing interest in me lately, due to body language, eye contact etc as well as making many lighthearted innuendos towards me. I brushed this off thinking it was just kinda of funny.

But yesterday I found out that he says these things to a lot of other girls at work. my question is, what is the point of it exactly? just keep making sexual jokes and hopefully a girl will actually reciprocate with sex? Or is it a poor flirting tool?

Honestly, this dude just sounds like a creep. Making sexual jokes to girls if off-putting enough, but doing so at the workplace is totally unacceptable. I know you may have appreciated these remarks and seen them as flirting, but it's just a half-assed attempt at trying to seem cool and sexy. Find a guy who can win a girl over with confidence, not with crude humor.

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the new titanic in 3d i was wondering if any one saw it and can tell me how it was withput reviews like actuall saw it..is there much difference? alot in 3d?

I haven't seen it, but I can tell you it's a scheme to earn more money. Download it in 2D and it'll be the same story.

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Is it normal to want a boyfriend with dreadlocks and tattoos that goes surfing and what not?! My sister said she'd be embarrassed if I brought back a boy who looked like that :/ I thought it might be something to do with the fact that all the boys at my school are so flippin mainstream -.-

Nothing wrong there. None of your sister's business either!

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