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sexting: I sent him a photo and now I regret it! Please, can someone help me?
So like7 months ago my ex was nagging at me for weeks to send him a photo of myself in underwear. He started to be really moody and kind of arrogant when I said I wouldn't do it and I felt like I had to for us to stay friends and it kind of made me feel special because he's one of the popular good looking guys and I'm just one of those quiet girls that people forget about, so I regrettably sent him one and I cam honestly say its the worst thing I've ever done, EVER. I was so paranoid afterwards (I'm extremely shy anyway and have never had any intention of flaunting my body because I have really low self confidence) anyway, just today my friend told me someone who I thought was my friend was telling my ex's bestfriend and another girl! My friend said they were whispering but she heard that one of them already knew and she'd seen it. I don't know when or how this girl has seen it or who else has because I honestly thought he had deleted it and I still don't know if he has but I feel awful and I just want to cry because I'm so scared it will effect my education.. my GCSE'S start this week too and its like my whole life is going wrong:(I need some advice,I just need someone to talk to and give me some help please, thanks anyway
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First af all you need to know that you have participated in the distrubution of child porn (assuming you're a minor). You need to contact the police and tell them the story. It is likely that you will not be charged, as it seems you were bullied into it. If you have texts or anything from him asking for the picture you need to show them to authorities and they can force him to delete the photo from his phone and they can find out if he has sent it to anyone else and have them delete it too. It seems as though you have learnt a valuable lesson here. Also, this guy is a loser.
If it were me, i would go online, search for a photo of a really small penis, download it to my phone and tell him that if he doesnt delete it you will show everyone the photo and tell them that it is him. Revenge is sweet my friend.
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Try talking to the guy and asking him to delete it. There's no guarantee he will agree to it, but it's worth a shot. Otherwise, you're going to have to deal with the consequences. If the photo travels around school, the administration will most likely get involved and punish the students who distribute the material, but you might be punished as well. In the future, do not take pictures of yourself that you wouldn't want others to see. At the very least, don't do this kind of thing until you're 18. I'm assuming you're underage, so the image you took is technically child porn. If you decide to do this again as an adult, don't even include your face or anything that can distinguish you personally in the photo.
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Unfortunately there are some decisions we can not take back; some wrongs we can not make right. The truth is your picture is out there and you are at the mercy of this guy. What you can do is learn from this. When someone pressures you to do something that you do not want to do, it is not a priviledge. They are preying on your weakness... insecurity. Acceptance comes from you. Respect begins with you. A guy does not determine your worth. Your beauty goes beyond physical. Learn to set boundaries for yourself and know where you stand. No one should be able to penetrate those boundaries. Again, it sucks that this happened, but looking foward is all you can do from this point on. It may be a tough road, especially with people talking about it, but hold your head high and know that this does not determine who you are.
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