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it keeps biting me but not around my parents! or anyone else but me. so my parents dont believe me ever. rightnwhen they walk into the room im in the dog stops biting and attacking me...its getting stupid. i have bites and scars and my parents just say that it was my cat...because my cat bites and scratches them but it doesnt bite me!

its getting really really weird. (link)
haha i think thats funny. keep the dog away from you and the cats away from your parents. easy as that

or dogs can be out of control towards people who walk them, but dont walk them enough. exercise the dog feircly that its so tired it will leave you alone.


okay, so i have a boyfriend that ive been dating for almost a year and a half now. well all because of some mistakes ive made in the past he thinks that he can control my EVERY move. such as now, hes at his friends house, and im at mine. he doesnt even know im on the computer because if he did, wed be fighting. he makes mistakes all the time, but thinks its "okay" because in his world "he makes the rules", and i love him and all, but its getting old. if you were in my situation, what would you do?

female, 15 (link)
me? id use threats. like Its my life, so if you are going to control me, than i guess it will be over. this will also see if he really loves you. if he stops controlling EVERY move you make than he does.
or id just break up with him on the spot...with fear he'd hurt me...but i would still break up with him.


i think i have a yeast infectioN! (link)
well thats nice

this is an advice site
if you dont need real advice
whats the point?


my boyfriend isnt a very good one, he flirts with alot of girls, and he doesnt call me, like eva

so what should i do? (link)
the best answer is to break up with him: because he doesnt seem worth it

but if you really like him set boundries and rules. say no flirting with other girls!
and to call you everyday or something like that
but dont make alot of rules
and let him give you rules too...he'll think your a relationship nazi if you dont let him give you any rules to obide by.


hes my Boyfriend and it seems hes been very distracted lately. atleast around me. when we are on a date like a resterunt or something, he always drifts off after we talk about like one thing and he just sits there until our food arrives and at the movies he doesnt even talk to me at all. he might say once that he loves me or something. and during studys he used to always talk to me and now he does his HW...its intense that he doesnt even care anymore.
what should i do?

you might want to know alittle about him
-plays football
-brown hair
-cute and alot of girls like him!!!! ewugh!
-is romantic (but not latley)
-and likes rock music (link)
uhm.
some possibilities are
that he might be failing a class
and needs to do the HW for it...
and is close to being cut from football

so he might be distracted like that.
i dont think hes cheating because cheaters are acually into all there dates.


so um just ask him.
ask him if its you, because
if it is than just tell him
than he can just break up with you
or something.


There's this guy that I have a MAJOR crush on. he is 17 and i am 16. so, i asked a friend to find out if he likes me && he does. i'm not too sure of it though, because although he flirts around with me a lot, he talks about other girls [he doesnt specify any names] to me. i want to tell him that i like him, but im too shy. what should i do?! =/ (link)
Im shy too so im not the BEST BEST BEST advice for this but ill give it a shot.

a few reasons he is talking about other girls
even though he 'likes' you
-he doesnt know you like him
-he could know you like him and could be making you jealous (you never know)
-or just is too shy to say anything.

so id get your freind to tell him you like him but not making it obvious you made her tell him
and make your freind like tell him to go out with you if he does like you back.

it always works in my schoool.


there is this guy and we talk online and stuff and we do know each other in person but we've only talked like once in person and i like him but i dont know if he likes me! even tho we flirt! (link)
Oh well, ask him online some questions to get a feel of what he is looking for on a date or as a girlfreind, and if it seems like you would be good, or if he IS describing you 100% than maybe ask him if he'd ever hang out with you, and then if he says yes, than make plans and such.


Hey, im a teenage girl with a low self-esteem. i think i need to make some changes. I feel like i think about myself too much and im too self conscious. I'm always concerned about how i look. And i also feel like im not good enough to be friends with some people. I think i need to be more fun and less...all that. What do you think i should do? or what should i do to help change myself? (link)
Hm, i Feel somwhat the same way. i call myself ugly and fat and gross all the time. i acually think almost all teenage girls think that way...
but i think you should worry less on what you think because if you are like one of those annoying kids who ask everyone everyday "do i look okay" "do i look fat" "do i look ugly" than your freinds will start to hang out with you less

so what i do is when im with my freinds, im all cool and fun and awesomly cool =D in my opinion.

but when im alone at my house i work on my self esteem like writing down the goods about me and the bads in 2 differant columns and riping it down the middle...and shredding the bads into peices. its one way.
others is to run. running keeps my mind off my cons about myself. it keeps me thinking like "am i going to get hit by a bus, gosh i best not run that close to the road".

so Uhm thats my somewhat long advice. i hope it helps.


I'm a 15 year old girl who is starting High school this year. I am the only one from my old school going to this high school. Basically I know all of 5 people at this new school, 4 from summer school and 1 from 3rd grade. I'm not very good at making friends. What should I do? (link)
Take as many clubs and Sports as you can,
because im starting high school too, and i loose alot of freinds over the summer...every year, but i make new ones. Make freinds that you could stick with and stay freinds for the rest of your high school life, ones that have all the qualities you like.
like, ones i like are Nice, Same Type of music Interest, same types of like, funny, and can help me through thick and thin.

so what im going to do to make more freinds is Join as many clubs and sports (well only 1 sport..) as i can, and make freinds that way.
so you should try it too. it probably will help.
and as long as you only have a few great freinds than thats all that matters.


i hate this kid, and i donno why, im just mean to him even though hes so nice to me, what should i do. im calling him gay, fag, stupid, douchebag, faggot, a pussy, dick head, etc. but i dont get why, hes really nice to me... (link)
aww poor kid. he sounds nice. just try to stop being mean to him...maybe inside you like him? you never know. i can be mean to boys i like...acaully im usuually just kidding around, but you seem just mean when you do it...best advice for you is...to stop...


You ever feel like your wasted space? Just waiting for someone to prove you wrong. Like you want to hurt yourself but you don't want to feel the pain. What do you do then? (link)
i think a therapist would be your best fit.


what is some good cardio that you can do to lose a few pounds, that you can do every day. besides swimming because i dont have a pool and i can't run long distances,i hate it. i ride my bike about a mile some days, but that's getting boring. thanks xo (link)
jogging
walking
if you have a dog, walk it a long way
and
pretty much any sports.


my freind is being a friggan evil bitch. seriously. she is now lying, trying to steal all my freinds that i introduced to HER, and is talking about me behind my back. i try to confront her and shes like "girrl, we ar bffizless im not talkin bout ya" and im like stfu wigger bitch. i know you are.

and she used to be nice, and kind, and not so 'gangsterish'

what should i do? (link)
uhm yeah, i dont think you should be her freind again, because she sounds like a typical using, backstabbing, bitch...so just make new freinds because if you really want to be used, talked about, and lying to you....than yeah be her freind. but if you really dont want that, than just make new ones. she doesnt sound so good to be hanging around anyways.


I got this totally cute shirt at A.E. and i really really like it, but my friend, who was with me the day i bought it got it a few days later, and it seems when i wear it sometimes she does so people are like "OMG ARE YOU TWINS" And we're like no and she hasthe nerves to say 'no, she just bought the same shirt as me' when she fucking knows I got it before her!

wut should i do? (link)
Since it seems you guys are freinds, ask her why did she buy the same shirt as you, and she'll respond probably like "i liked it" or mightplay stupid and say i didnt know you bought it. dont be like OMGSH YEAGHS U KNEW I DID!!! becuase she'll just get defensive...

so just talk to her calmly and dont be a she-bitch. You'll just make both of you defensive and say things you dont really mean.


A girl I know, but I'm not really good friends with, is having a pool party. She invited 3 boys, and I don't know any of them. I wouldn't care if they were there if it was just a regular party, and I have a boyfriend, so I'm not worried about any of that dating stuff. What I'm worried about is, that I hate how I look in my bikini. It's the only bathign suit I have, and I don't really want guys to see me in it. Especially when half the girls at the party, are anorexic bitches. I think it'd be rude if I didn't go, and I don't know what to do. (link)
an easy answer is just to go out and buy a new baithing suit before the party, like a tankini. its like a tanktop...if you didnt know. but its a baithing suit.

but if you cant, then just dont care what the others think. most likley if the partys fun they wont be like "omg shes so gross in her baithing suit" because i mean most people dont do that..


A girl I know, but I'm not really good friends with, is having a pool party. She invited 3 boys, and I don't know any of them. I wouldn't care if they were there if it was just a regular party, and I have a boyfriend, so I'm not worried about any of that dating stuff. What I'm worried about is, that I hate how I look in my bikini. It's the only bathign suit I have, and I don't really want guys to see me in it. Especially when half the girls at the party, are anorexic bitches. I think it'd be rude if I didn't go, and I don't know what to do. (link)
In addition to what Julesianne said, because who cares about what *other* guys think? You boyfriend obviously doesn't think anything wrong about your body.


But if you really don't want to wear the bikini, go in shorts and a tank top. Just say you don't feel like getting in the water. Most people won't actually be in the water most of the time anyways. Wear your swim suit under the shorts and tank just in case you feel like taking your clothes off later (like if you see you have nothing to be worried about :D).


You don't have to answer all them.

1. Whats a frat house? and Sorority house? (spelling?) What do they do? How do you get into them?

2. I'm throwing a party, but i needa know what some good songs are. So give me a good list. Please.

3. My bf keeps telling me what girls hot, and etc. It lowers myself-esteem. How do I look sexxy, so he looks at me, more then them.

4. How can i plan hard to get, for him to want me more.

Thanks (link)
4."to play hard to get basically just talk like this to him "what are you doing tommorow?" he will be like i dont know or w/e and then you be like "your hanging out with me". "

um that not how you play hard to get...
to play hard to get just be tough or w.e like try to make him want you and dont throw yourself at him.

sory i cant answer the other questions but i just wanted to clear that up.
but maybe for number 3 you could ask him? lol im not sure but i hope i helped with number 4 :)


OK i have a friend, she is the most popular girl in class. this is confusing cause i dont think i am popular, just a normal kid. so, umm i dont really LIKE her that much because she kind of comes off as "a man wanter" she just turned 13, but she has had many boyfriends and havent even told her parents, she is not sexually active but anyway, she is not exactly ,my FRIEND but she is very nice to me and talks to me a lot on the internet and wants to hang out with me sometimes and even invited me to her birthday party when no one else from the class was invited. so i will feel bad if i got "hit on" from her ex,. she dumped him but he seems to like me. when my best friend and i were studying for exams, and he comes over and wants to study with us. then we eat lunch and he comes over and eats with us, we dont know why, and this was when he STILL was bf and gf with my "friend" and we ask him,why do you sit with us so much? and he never answers. Some people think he likes my best friend, but he treats us both the same, except one time he put his hand on my should and i tryed to avoid him and then he put it on again. and i was like...ok.....and i really don't know if he likes me, or my friend, cause one time he asked my bff, do you ever thinking about having a bf? so...hmmm...my bff and my "friends" ex have been friends since they were little, but at my bff's b-day party when i was taking a walk on the beach, he kept on giving me these looks then we fooled around with each other and chased each other and it turned into a game. he opens doors for the girls and he is really cute, and pretty funny. but the prob is he isnt exactly "goodytooshoes" with the teachers he gets in fights with the boys. he might like me.. i dont know, but this will effect my relationship with my bff, my friends that r against my "friends" ex, and my "friend" so this is going to be a toughy...please help. (link)
I think you should keep acting like you like him, because I mean it's just junior high or high school or whatever you're in. It's not like youre marrying him, so he doesn't have to be perfect.. but your "friend" shouldn't get mad because she dumped him. You could 1. Ask her 2. Go out with him and see if she cares, then you could do something. But is he popular? Because if he's not.. it might bring down your reputation, and you DON'T want that. You also should talk to the "friend" more! Ask her to come over or do something with her just once then she'll think ya'll are great friends then you can be popular! hope i helped.


My boyfriend and i has been together for two weeks, and we had dry sex with our clothes on. His penis had touched my vagina, but we had pants on, he wore boy shorts and i wore my sleeping shorts, and i wore underwear and he wore boxers under his shorts. So then, the question is am i pregnate? im scared as usual about this. I havent gotten my period yet because it should be coming soon, if it doesnt come yet, I don't know what should i do. Am i pregnate? Please help me ! (link)
I HIGHLY doubt it, with two layouts of clothing..it's a very low chance. Don't worry.


i had a sunburn..and i peeled the skin on my nose..and now its all red >.< ..is this just new skin? when will it turn back to normal color? is there a way to make the red go away!? thanks (link)
Like everyone else said, ALOE VERA works wonders. Apply it like 3 times a day. Or more. :)




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