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Wasted
You ever feel like your wasted space? Just waiting for someone to prove you wrong. Like you want to hurt yourself but you don't want to feel the pain. What do you do then?
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i think a therapist would be your best fit.
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I actually think that most people have felt like that from time to time.
However, if you are feeling numb and lost and like the whole of you has already died, it's possible you are suffering with depression. The good news is that you CAN beat it. The bad news is that it's very hard to do.
I used to be exactly the same when I was 15 and 16. For two years, I felt nothing. I never laughed, I never cried, I never felt excited. One of my Grandparents died when I was 15 and I cried for about 30 seconds. After that...nothing. Sounds awful doesn't it? I did love her but the truth is, I just couldn't feel anything when it happened. I was in a very bad place and when I was 16, I tried to cut my wrists. I just wanted it all to stop.
It was somewhere around this time my doctor offered me anti-depressents but you know what? I never took them. I know a lot of people recommend them but I'm firmly against them for myself because I want to know what I'm feeling when I'm feeling it. I don't want pills to do it for me.
My break through was a while after this, when my sister and her friend were having a pillow fight in the living room while I was trying to watch TV and they were trying to get me to join in. I refused at first but then I thought about it. I used to LOVE doing things like that and would have jumped at the chance. Okay, I didn't really want to now but I didn't want to do anything, so what was the harm in trying it? The most amazing thing happened. I actually had FUN! I was laughing so much my sides hurt and I was breathless and felt twinges of happiness I thought I'd never feel again.
After that I made up my mind. If anyone wanted me to do something that I just didn't want to do because I was feeling too miserable or numb to want to but would otherwise have enjoyed, I MADE myself do it. It was REALLY hard but it worked and so far, I'm 21 and have never been happier!
Don't get me wrong, I still have 'down days', where I feel so miserable and like there's this thing inside me, eating away at my happiness. I have no friends, I hate my job, sure my boyfriend can't stand me, etc, etc, etc. But these days, it passes and life goes on and I truly think that it is an example of what CAN happen, if you really make yourself do things. It's very difficult but it's worth it in the end. By all means, if you are suffering severe suicidal thoughts or think medication could help then speak to your doctor. But if you think it might be worth a shot at trying to deal with it yourself then please do try. It's a rough ride but it's so worth it when you have a breakthrough. The point I'm making is that life WILL be worth living again so you can't give up. There are so many opportunities you don't even know you're going to get! Twenty years frm now, you could be happily married with 2.5 children in a job you love, or you could be living abroad somewhere and having the time of your life or any other fantastic possibilities! If you give in now, you will never know and belive me, THAT will be the only waste.
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You try your best to get your mind away from those thoughts. It seems to me that you don't think much about yourself, and that my friend needs to change right now. NO your not wasted space everyone is here for a reason, to learn. learn all that you can about everything that you can i assure you if you get out and you be with friends, get hobbies you will not think that you are wasted space. you keep being the great person that you are and you go out and have fun, don't think for one more second that you are wasted space, and if you need someone to prove you wrong, i am the person to do it. get out there and have fun, don't waste your life away by thinknig that you are wasted. ok? good luck and i wish you the best with your life, full of happy times, thoughts, and memories. :)
(Hello again, if you could tell me how you are diffrent i think i could help you more, and i would be more than happy to help you.) thanks.
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If your always feeling that way I would suggest help.
But everyone has their days, and theres no way out of it. Cheer yourself up!!
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In a way, yes. Everyone has their down days. When you just plain out feel crummy. And that's okay. But you shouldn't hurt yourself. Life is all about getting hurt, getting over it, and moving on. No matter what happens you have to be appreciative of every situation and experience. As cliche as it may sound, you wouldn't be YOU if you didn't undergo everything that you have. You're not wasted space. If you weren't suppose to be here you wouldn't. I don't know if you are religious and have faith in any higher being, but if you do, just kno, that God truly has a plan for us all. But it is our job to live an active and healthy life..both for God and ourselves. Have confidence in yourself. Here's what I want you to do. Everyday, hard as it may be, I want you to write ONE positive comment about yourself on a sticky note a place it on your bathroom mirror or some other area you will walk by throughout the day. For every negative thought or comment you make, or every compliment you don't accept, write TWO more. These little pick-me-ups will act as reassurance. For other people to see that special "glow" you have, you first, have to believe yourself. Write in a journal about what may be bothering. Talk to someone you trust. Listen to positive songs. Get a new hobby. Keep yourself busy. And if all else fails, as cheesy as this may sound, shrug up your shoulders, and say to your self in a really peppy voice..Cheer up, buttercup. Yes, I am serious. :)
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Maybe you should see someone about that just dont hurt yourself
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