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Hi my name is Jen - I am 33 and married; a graphic desinger, a big sister, movie lover, horse rider, and board game nerd.

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I just found out that if you have anal sex that if you have anal sex then your not a virgin! is that really true? and..i wanna no if a guy cums while his penis is in a gurl (during anal) can she still get pregnant..and if the girl gets cum on her front side and doesn't whip it off right away can she get pregnant? hurry I need to know!!!

PLEASE I NEED SOME ANSWERS!!!

Hello, anal sex is sex. Why do you think it has the word sex in it. So no you are not a virgin. How do you think gay people have sex? Would you say they are still virgins because they haven't had "boy/girl intercourse"? No.

No you can't get pregnant from anal sex, but you can get bad infections if you don't use a condom.

how do you delete an entire advice column?

It is impossible.

For homecomming I want to be able to actually dance fast. I dance in my room all the time by myself and I think I'm fine...but then I look at other people dancing and I feel dumb! None of my friends can dance either, so do you have any tips or anything??

-Zero
-Thanks!

All of your freinds should get together and take a dancing class. Not only will you learn to dance, but it will be a fun activity to share with eachother.

i cant find any guys that like me so i have a very low self esteem even tho i dont let anybody really see that. how do i find a guy i can cuddle with and talk to and to kiss me and like me for me? any ideas? let me no.
p.s. i am mature for my age so most guys MY age seem imature and idotic. maybe if i could get my self to stop thinking that i could see them better, they still dont see me tho.

Just be pacient. You'll find the guy for you with time. Your not the only one that doesn't have someone.

P.S. Most guys are imature and idotic until they are out of college, and sometimes even longer! So if you really want a meaningful relationship, you may have to wait until you are out of at least highschool.

when you are signed in and you click your questions the list of questions you asked pops up how do u delete that list of questions?

There reason you can't delete a question is that people took the time to answer it. It wouldn't be fair to them if the question dissapeared off their column.

hey... does anyone know how to delete some questions you've asked in the past on "Your Questions" thing. And can you delete an advice you've answered on your advice column??

-thanks

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You can't delete questions you have asked. It wouldn't be fair to the coulmnist that took the time to answer your question for it to disappear. People take pride in their columns.

You can delete answers by going to edit questions and delete all the text. Then click edit question.

ok, my boyfriend really wants me to give him a lap dance. I really want too to. lol but there is one problem......I don't know how to give it to him! I'm even a dancer and i'm pretty good too. But i don't know the right moves or anything. And i dont' wanna look stupid or inexperianced. HELP!!!!

female = 15

Carmen Electra just came out with a lap dance/work out video that actually teaches you how to do lap dances. I am sure you could find it at Amazon.com or something like it.

ok i know this is in the wrong category but.. in about a week im going to the eye doctor... and im 99.9% sure im going to be getting contacts for the first time.. what i want to know is do contact hurt after so long wearing them or.. do they easily fall out somehow.. an stuff like that.. please help! thanx.. ((i rate good))

If you can type out the words, "I know this is in the wrong catagory" you can take the time to put it in the right catagory!
*I guess there is not a perfect catagory for this, but maybe something under health & fitness like nutrtion or fitness would have been better.

Contacts don't hurt your eyes unless you don't take care of them. Make sure they are clean of any speck of dust before inserting in your eye. They do tend to get dry if you wear them too long which can become uncomfortable. And I wouldn't recomend sleeping with them in, they tend to get glued into you're eyes and it hurts trying to remove them. Also don't rub your eyes too much with them in. I have had contacts fold in my eyes, and it is very difficult to find them.

Contacts are way better than glasses!

Well you see, me and my boyfriend will be going out for a month in 2 days. I like him and all but I don't feel anything anymore. He's away on vacation and my family might meet him there. Should I break the relationship off now or go out with him a little longer and see how I feel? *

(I will rate you!)

If you don't feel a connection after two months, you probably never will. A relationship can't be forced. If your in a good relationship it will feel natural. I think it is time to let him go.

ok. i dont smoke. But alot of people in my grade do. im only going into 8th grade and i turn 14 in january! alot of people that i know have at least tried smoking. recently i have been having these dreams that i smoked and i liked it..then i'd wake up. is this bad? should i have already tried it. i think want to. thx for any advice!

Your dreams are just thoughts, they don't tell you what you should be doing, and neither should your friends. Don't start smoking because you feel that it is the thing to do. Smoking is a nasty habbit that can become addictive. It will make you and everything you own stink. And personaly I think it makes people look ignorant. So unless you want to look stupid, and fill your lungs with somke, I would advice against it.

im 13 and a girl and i want to do alot of things like make out with guys and maybe in a year or so have sex with a guy. but 1. im scared im a bad kisser. 2. i dont wanna get pregnant and 3. i havent found the right guy to do any thing with...what should i do?

Don't do anything. Don't set a time table for yourself, these things will happen in time. Wait for the right person to come along before you think about doing these things. The first guy you kiss will likely be inexperianced as well, so you'll learn from eachother. Just take things slow. Don't be so eagar to grow up.

there's a guy... we'll call him bill. :D he's 16, and i'm 14. he is the lead singer of my brother's band... he and i have had an INCREDIBLE friendship. we click REALLY well, and i care about him so much. i would do ANYTHING for this guy... and, i see myself married to him and starting a family with him someday. we are both into the same things, we both are crazy, and we both relate to eachother really well. he means everything to me. (sorry, i think we've already accomplished that... lol) anyways, he thinks that 2 years is too big of a difference, he treats other girls the same way that he treats me, (like a princess), and i just wish that I would be the only one that matters to him. forever. If only the arms that he throws around me could be around me forever. i want to wake up beside him every morning for the rest of my life.

i have it bad. help! –jessi

Wow, you do have it bad. What you are feeling is a crush, a million happy emotions and thoughts but there's nothing you can really do to express them. You just have to keep telling yourself that your feelings are mostly an allusion. You are in love with an idea of the boy. In reality you know you would never marry a man that didn't love you back, and you wouldn't want to be in the arms of someone that doesn't hug back. You can't be in a relationship with someone if they don't want to be with you. Give yourself time, and your feeling will fade, and then you'll find the next boy you are in love with. Remember you are only 14, don't start looking for the man you are going to marry quite yet.

How do I clean my kids' bathroom, when the thought of going in there sickens me?

Depending on their age, have your kids clean it themselves first. Let them spray and scrub stuff down. Then you can go in and really clean it, and the mess won't be quite so bad.

my friends r still mad at me and i asked them why and they will not tell me the school year is coming up and i do not want to be without any friends i want to have friends and i want some of the same friends but they wont talk to me someone help me plz how can i keep them as my friends?

They don't sound like friends to me. Personally I would forget about them, if that was the way they treated me. Actually, this is good timing. The begining of the school year is a great opportunity to make new friends, and potentialy better friends! Just talk to the people in your classes and get to know some new people. Starting from scratch I think helps, because when you come into something without any friends, you are much more likely to find one.

hi k see I just got this really funny nice and sweet boyfriend well I was talking on the phone with him yesturday and I was talking about these new friends and He asked if they were boys and I said yeah and he got made at me and saying that I shouldnt have friends that are boys. What do I do???!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!???????????

Tell him that you can be friends with whomever you want, and he has no right to tell you any different. If he gets mad, then maybe he isn't as sweet as you thought. Don't let anyone control you.

i want to paint my room black, and then splat paint it with bright pink. i thin kit would look awsome!!it would really reflect my wild, punk personality..im sure it would. but my mom says she will never paint my room black. i get soooooo pissed off!!!! nop matter what i do she always says no. i want the theme to be pink and black no matter what. please tell me what to do or how to get my mom to consider it!!!

please help!!

-britski-

The problem with black is it will make your room seem much smaller than it actually is. It also is very difficult to paint over. See if you can come to a compromise with your mother. Maybe tone is down with light grey, or pink, or just use accents of black and pink. But remember, it is her house, and her walls, so she does have final say. You can't get too mad at her for that.

my sisters really... ehhh OVER weight i don't like the word fat it makes me shiver... anyways.. shes sorta umm OVER weight how do i tell her that shes OVER weight?

I am sure she already knows, she dosn't need you to tell her. You will just end up making her feel bad. There is no reason to tell anyone that they are fat.

I've been sexually active for about 6 monthes or so now, and I'm going to the gynocologist sometime this week. Will she be able to tell that I'm not a virgin? I'm only 16. Oh, and if she can find out, are they supposed to tell your parents? PLEASE, PLEASE HELP!

There is a good chance she will know. She is going to ask you anyways, so you might as well tell your doctor the truth. Everything you tell her should remain confidental, so she shouldn't be telling your parents.

so then whats a metrosexual?

I don't see how this is asking for advice. What you need is a dictionary.

Metrosexual- A straight guy that likes girly things like spa treatments. They also have style and spend a lot of money on clothes.

hey. i have REALLY short legs. &its really annoying. i know this sounds weird, but is there anyway to make them longer? i just hate having such short legs because i can't find pants! if you help me i'll rate you!

Black pants, and high heals will give you the illusion of lenght. Try shoping in petites for pants, or have ones that you like altered. It's usually under $10 to have it done.

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